 Let's say You learn all this stuff you do all the things all the routines and You meet a girl and she likes it. She reacts really favorably to it. She thinks you're really attractive because of the stuff you're doing and You know you go through and you run the mid-game and you number close and you get past the LMR and You see with her? Yes, I've succeeded Right. I did all the did all the stuff. I got to step 99 and Boom done. Yes. I win So what do you do the next day the next time you see it? We've already said with her. You've already completed the stuff so you go back to Just behaving how you actually are you go back to being yourself and The girl turns around and goes Who the fuck is this guy? I I I like the guy with the magic tricks and the routines and the who's who's this weird fuck up No, fuck this and she runs away and in our blindness to what's really going on when that happens We turn around And we don't blame all this stuff that we've done. We go. Oh my god who I really am is so unattractive that look as soon as I let someone pass this facade I've created They're so disgusted. They run away. I have to do this even better I have to learn I have to now I have to get the relationship handling manual and Handle a relationship like a alpha guy would that was my mistake. I hope you're laughing because you see Yourself having done this having fallen victim to this trap. I say, you know what? I'm just gonna get rid of all of that I'm just gonna Behave and act in every moment according to who I really am According to what I really believe and according to what my core values are I'm going to express exactly what I'm feeling and thinking in that moment Because when you do that When there's somebody that you're expressing that to that that resonates with That connection that you form is instantaneous and effortless It requires no effort. It requires no more learning. It requires no more Prescripting of anything it requires no more remembering to be non-reactive. It's completely Effortless and the price of admission of being able to do that Is just one thing It's just that you have to accept the fact that when you do that and express yourself Completely according to who you really are in every moment There's gonna be a percentage of people that don't resonate with it There's gonna be a percentage of people that don't like it and They're going to React negatively they're going to judge you They're going to not like you and the thing is is we're so caught up in this that the pot the very possibility that that could happen Makes us so afraid that we go no, no, no, just give me just give me another routine people say all right, so Express myself in this moment. How well how do I do that? and I think we're pretty clear right what the specific thing that you say is Not really the point Right a lot of people say oh, it's not what you say. It's how you say it right? That's what's important. I disagree Fundamentally it's the place that you're coming from you can You can have a Routine a prescriptive thing and it's it's dialed in perfectly and you can have all re-adopt all the exact mannerisms that the person that That you know wrote it does But if you're coming from that place with all those net limiting beliefs if you're coming from a place where you're genuinely focused where you've focused so much on Emotionally investing in how this person reacts to you doesn't matter how well you say it or what you say It's not gonna work. It's not gonna feel genuine to that person