 Okay, see me me me sema, but me me skia kama kuna be meru sa zinia ni paka umkumbu shea meze skuma. Nyukuli, please let me know. Tua at 5-4 Facebooka, tua at 2-5-4 channel, or Twitter, hashtag. So why in the morning my name is Valentine, or at Kalamival, and we're rapping this Monday up real nice with a bow. It's man crush time. Na leo topikiye tu ni kukua mjanja. Amato kua mjanja. We need to see how Boy Child is surviving in these hair streets. Na skia skuizi wa sta na neza kua gumu, ana kufa ni leki tu. Abu tela, tua at 5-4 on Facebooka, tua at 2-5-4 channel, Twitter. Or you can use our text sign 2-0-1-5-4 and start at 5-2-5-4. Meanwhile, let's come and say hello to our panelists. Good morning guys. Good morning. I want more energy. Good morning guys. Good morning. Yay, there we go. Let's start over here. What's your good name sir? Okay, me na ma Fredrik Palsai. Kamajana name student. I want you to have it a bit closer and I want you to guru malekaliya. Okay, my name is Fredrik Palsai. There we go. I'm a journalism student at the University of Nairobi. Yeah, pledge. Welcome Fred. Do you have social media handles? Yeah, I do. Please give them to us. Okay, we can follow me on Instagram at Fredrik Palsai. Also on Twitter at Fredrik Palsai, Facebook Fredrik Palsai. Are you afraid of me? Hi, there you go. Here we make eye contact. Sasarela. Dadin me kumis. I know. Karego sana. Asante. Naka poa. Atawa naka poa daddy. Kwanzaat ni katuli yunga. Nani ali wa dress. Maze? Please do introduce yourself. I'm Ray Laupanj. Nalumna of Mount Kenyo University. Teacher, youth governor. Ya, Pissambasada. Hai yote, on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, but Ray Laupanj. Kruz. Ya, thank you. I'm happy to be here once again. With Miss Chu, Karego sana. Miss Chu sana. Awww. And Kwanzaat, what's your good name? That's funny. It's okay. Tell me what your name is. Sharon Deritu. Who? I need you to use it like a spell. I'm Sharon Deritu. I'm a student at Nibs Technical College. A journalism student. So, for future reference, you already have a lapel so we can let the gentlemen. Watumie rungu, wana jokui tumie. Sindhia. Chika, are you ready? Sorry, sorry, sorry, so sorry. So, lila oniku kwaumjanga. What do you understand by kwaumjanga? Niske kuna asja na na sumwa wa no me down. Nukweli? Kwaumjanga, ina manisha, umetuka nyumbani, umeku jana Nairobi, hawishik ni kama umetuka kitanleten. Otherwise, they are telling me there are some behaviors and some of them we have categorized and put them in a couple of slides. Sijiniwa ibe to siri, siri. To moja. We start with one, Sindhia. So, what happens if you just met Ashore two weeks ago? Let's see, say na kamrembo. Okay, you meet her two weeks ago, you've been talking, hei, kidoku doga naza pigi asimum and say, I urgently need a favor, please ni tumie hei pesa. Tumie. No, see where is he. Kwanini sasa. See, she's beautiful. See, at least two weeks mejwa namba kamaji ina na ploti namba nine. Ni ni tumie hei kumtumia do? Okay, see, it's not a matter of ploti, it's not a matter of kujwa na, but, okay, unaisam tumia, kulingan na shida. Akinisai tumi na tumie ju you are dating, ama kuna there is something between the two of you. Bimi na niza kukusahidi, nimi saide wa tuengi, no na. And I feel good. And na niza kukutumia, kama wei ni demuangu, kama wei ni demuangu, no na. But he designed, umekutuna na demuangu, after two days, ni heiti siji ni meishiwa gas, kwa ni wei ni mzazi, kumtumia na kujwa na Nairobi peki hake. Kwele utrapambevo. Ya. Akuna wu jazutu. Akuna msi na sikwizi heiti shi pesa. Oh. Akuna. Kwele. Kupata oni, labda mwenya li tokawa ni ni, machako zyuzi, ni ni kidui zyuzi. Ya, na itisha ni ni maji. Ah, labda na itisha maji akunia. Si pesa. Would you do such a thing? Would you like umekutuna na manu ume juzi? You can see he is clearly hitting on you. He likes what he says. Na una jyambia. Okay, we can make some money out of this. Have you ever just simply wanted to make money out of someone? Okay, no. I've never wanted to make money out of somebody. But ekifika situation ni nini kwa at the end, and I have nobody else to help me. Na umekutuna na tshajuana for two weeks. So, okay, a friend ni mtumshajuana. Lakin na two weeks are as in zidi, so I can depend on him. Anis idea, but see jwea benefits zingine, either go into a relationship or maa. Anis idea ni rudisha yu do, na another favor. Ya. So, we, for example, demunakatiata, adiangi a box badu, but asha anzokwe itisha pesa? Okay, it simply depends on how she prioritizes you. Okay, if she doesn't make your priority, why should you make her priority? How do you want to be made a priority? Ashineto ameku text, ameku ona? You know, being prioritized is very speculative. It doesn't necessarily mean texting or what. At least meeting, showing some concerns. You know, there are some ladies who can even text, they don't reply, or rather they can even take two days to reply. So, how do you expect to prioritize such a woman? A kumbe umbe kredit atumie yote. I love for a couple, please call me umbe inkili. No, I really can do that. I buy a kredi, unless I buy a kredi. He calls me, I confirm that it's over. That's all. You know, these streets are not friendly. It's true. These times I had all. You know, these streets are not friendly. And as they say that, the city is shambalamavit. So, you can't simply be such. You can't allow someone to use you like a stepping stone. No, you can't allow that personally. Ya. What if you want love? There is no love. There is no love. Udayi changaniki wunam se maze. Ya, umbe wunanza tukupumuna, shkwashkwatu na joto kimfkiri atu. What are you jamuna? A meze ma, iti you can... iti akuprioritize. Aposendia medanganyu. Yuhu, isahi watu anakampeni kibra na kumbe ya ataraila na enda wuko. Aja after campaign. Tumayo pese wina takikana. Ataraila na bluti. That's not the case. Wajupi aniim kwebo. Kukuna mimflani na se ma, bona machale wukwangatu na pese. That first week they meet you, during campaign week. Ukshape wakazi. Nihivo. Talk to me, talk to me. You know, at the current generation of the current world, it's a matter of exploitation So if you don't become clever, you'll be exploited by someone. But when her she becomes clever to just extract some monies from you. Why is it being a good digger or some strange name that you want to put on girls? Bona una kubalia kumjanjana ustana wa how is it? You know, there are different motives for spending money. You can't spend money on someone who on someone whom you don't have any chemistry with. Okay, assuming it's a lady you met two weeks ago. And then a week later she starts requesting for money. How many men does she request money from? And now it depends on how she prioritizes it. Okay, it's not a bad thing giving a lady money. You give her, you give her money knowing that you'll get something in return. What is that something that you expect in return? Biology. You know, the first thing is also, it depends on what you want from the lady. Okay, if you want love, it's fine. If you want time, it's fine. Men want very many from ladies. You can even give her money for conjugal benefits. It's very speculative. But what I can say personally, I can't just give money to a lady. Someone we've not bonded with. Someone we've not created some chemistry with. So I can't do that. You know, these streets are not free. But there's that kind of time you want to impress the girls. You want to tell me girls that you don't want to impress and how do you impress a girl? You know, you can impress someone. You are supposed to impress someone but not to oppress yourself. Okay, now you can impress a lady. Maybe you have a budget line. Maybe spending something like 5,000 or 7,000 in a week. It happens. You give that lady the money you are supposed to spend for that week. You love yourself, you oppress yourself. You love to press your budget. So you're supposed to weigh things and see if you're bonding. Okay. I want us to start. But before we do, there's one question I want to ask. He made a point that was not clear to me before. Yani uki peya you expect something in return. That means you're making an investment. You're not giving out. You're not helping your investing. You're putting in and you're expecting it to come out. Na, what happens if she breaks your heart? You don't expect her to prioritize you. She does not prioritize you the way you expect her to. Apu na jamu na kuja na shoka? Ya. Okay. For me, what I can tell men is that you look at that lady and then you give her a time when we give in as fast as possible in Afanya. Waname, waname ya. But who forced you? I did come with a gun to give me all your money. Okay. Waname ya. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. So, I told you that I was going to sell you. You said that you'll sell me? Ya. You said that you'll sell me. I said that you'll sell me. You said that you'll sell me. Raila b. Raila b. I'll sell you. You want that? So basically, it's about ladies. It's their problem. And the same problem comes in with men. Waname, waname, mimi kama sayi if I can give in to the money that was yana wana takakutoka kuanku it's not that I'm dating them on ini in a month in Africa 20k unona it's not that because I'm dating them on ini but because was yana wana taka every time wana wana wei tunibeshitake for 2 days wana taka pesa in case problemi ngini lihape na liyona raila likuja TV raila timani tuni mimi kama sayi na I've learnt to say no I don't have and that is how you can survive in Nairobi otherwise uta fungiwa njumba uta inunu atra socks na boxa ita kwa yo mao cha unajwa metihimu hoi tisha doko zasya wana wana wana kuna interest kuangu kasi itu me mitu sayi sezi kwa miha nipeti wk lakini tunibeshitake nipeti wk nipeti wk nipeti wk nipeti wk nipeti wk nipeti tisha doko nipeti wk I still can't match up a single smile that we did so I need to shift our confidence from that relationship What he's likes better What's personal No matter how many people are from New Jaffa How? Yes, I am in & Machakon... another one... a doctor Samu We so Monday to Friday akuna weu ananda kwa kilna nebera ila na trakwen yangami shi Akshia ni yangami shi nomu aja weekend na travel usiku na feka uku asubu saizuna na travel asubu ena feka uku Jionia weu ni kumuwa mei shi ako kumfanya Shope X Igasi ya ki Misha shi jininini weya na kata for that it's not that because she doesn't have money. She is a mess. At night we need money. Na kumu runa we mo takupi pesa. You have to try the means especially come... ah kuna how many gays? How many now are you? She just needed two. iskani na ma dekta adi? As long as ona pata pesa. It's better. Atwezi, I say ma niku hasu i ya ya na kafu hasu won bando See what you on that side has to do with kids. Kuna jiyo? Kwa zi problemu zi? Sasi e. Uwa ni zanempawad uman. Oh, kila pesa na kazi. That's a good question. That's a good question. Do you feel if ladies ask for money, that means they're not empowered? Now, where we're in? Anempawad uman is a woman who can pay her bills, who can pay her own transport. Uliwa na iyo katini ni ka kafotia dhim, ala kuna sema. If I need to pay my bills and pay, niki takama na ume. It will just be for that one. Yes. Zatati zanempawad uman. Kwa iwo. Kwa buna inge binguni na wibu. No. No. No. Kwa iwo se kwa getre. You know, there is always this complex mental representation that ladies are inferior. And these ladies now who need money from men are the one who have taken that mentality. I like what my colleague has said about empowered women. You know, a woman who is empowered, a woman who is empowered simply means at first she is class. She doesn't need men in her life. She doesn't need men to be used as stepping stones. You know, there are these two kinds of ladies. There is this lady. Okay, maybe you have moved in together. When you argue in the house, she will tell you, I am moving to another apartment. I will buy another leather seat. And in that house maybe you own these normal seats. But now there is this other lady. Whenever you argue in the house, give me my money, give me my clothes. No. Those are two different categories of ladies. So what is the difference between those two ladies? The first one, she is empowered. She is classy. Okay, she needs men in her life. But not meant to be used as stepping stones. But now this other, the second one lady, she has that complexity, that for me to move from this step to the other step, I need a man. And that is what you are supposed to get rid of. I am glad you said that. Because our first slide of the day involves not one lady, but several. So I gave you a couple of scenarios. Nkyo wa numemta ni ambiyave nyemta kuawa janja mtoki kwae scenario. So you call her on a date. Are you ready? So you call her on a date. And then anakuja nambogi. Ya kimo nyoski. Radha, what do you do? She comes to the battalion. And you called her on a date. And you're in this restaurant. That's it. Maybe we may save Menda some place fancy. What do you do now? Okay, and that's the situation. You can't take the bull by its own. You just say, in the kuwita, I pick up. If you now come with your friends, give me time with your friends. Haya. Yeah. You can't do that. That is what you're supposed to get rid of. Okay, so you don't get rid of her. No, no, no. Let me finish. You made a phone call. Hey, hey. Let's meet at this place. I did it in the phone call. You didn't specify to be accompanied by friends. But you didn't ask me to come alone. You just said, come to end it. Namini kapata na atu. Kwae nda kakucha? Okay, no. You know, letting a lady, doesn't mean being a milking cow. In this essence, a lady should not get money from you in all possible means. Okay, umemuita death. It doesn't guarantee even in her mind. She knows that. Okay. This guy needs my time. Okay, maybe I'm afraid of him or I'm afraid of the other circumstances. Let me accompany myself with my friend. Okay, that's fine. But now kujana mbogi. Doesn't make sense. Your budget line, it was maybe 2 to 3 people. I kujana up to 7. Oh, thank you. Kujana mboga na ume. Kujana mboga na ume. I know, akiija na mbogi apuni uta pata plan B. Uu na zitafta wa B. Because when you want to kujana nwarembu kumbilik, you have to be in the middle. Bil mara mboga. Now considering this, this is your girlfriend. You booked a space in a very pressures hotel, these pressures hotel in town. Okay, obviously that space will be reserved for 2 people. Now, consider the situation. Okay. You said you're living here alone. Maybe you'll do it too. Kwa kwa? Surapa solo. What will you do with that? Push push push push push push push push push push push push push push. It's too interesting to have her in your room. So whether it's personal or not I'm happy that you're with me. As a man, ru loma trained, in Treasure era, uta f Aunata k Hugo Chaka, a p Kahudiyumu nandaka edits bu kwa be bff,��asiesti중 a Корita You can find comfort here... Ptuh! Uts wiggle suha yu nけて nisha Kwa ya ni wei chaka Uts wiggle suha yu nete Kwa you na kutahatila Uts wiggle suha Pa duwa laia Uts wiggle suha Ya k중a Uts wiggle suha Ya kumata Nisha Nisha Kuputahata Kuputata Sore Na kuputata Na kuputata Na kuputata Na kuputapa Na kuputata Na kuputata Nisha kutu na moyan na mambe baby at you come with HOME PEOP7 nisa wacha wakai uko, situ kaya, anything you want, form. That's quite tricky, but she loves you. Okay, she loves me. Very much. Okay. You know, at this current situation, at this current generation, okay, sponya kuna pesa sindew. Okay, it's fine. Go and have fun with him. Later pesa to gav. Aye. Let me tell you. You have misled. Okay. You have misled. In case, wu pate demwakwa na cheat, ama your wife, automatically you'll know that that lady doesn't love you. A woman will never cheat in a relationship for a person he loves. No. A woman will never. Are you sure? Manumka atafanya single no yes. Kamaa ma penzi shafed kutu kakua ke. A man atafanya sex na manumka yote. No, because anapenda awasiyana. But because anata katu ninja tu kitu kidogo ama, ama manumela zima anunue karanga. Onona yatenbo. Siti apendi mkwa ke, but because man it's natural. Onona. But for a woman, wu kipara anachift on you, automatically haku peni. How do you know? A woman will never sleep with you. How do you know? How do you know? You know, you too, that's about men to kwa kuskiza, because we are not men. Because this is an experience. Manumka. A woman will never cheat for love. Uski anahasu. No. Honestly I have heard people comment on our Facebook page at White Fair 4 by the way. Na na samaya. Mini kwa hasponyo and my boyfriend knows. Infact akini baya vitu. Saz nina tana itisha vitu na joa chaliangu atapenda. Doni mpele ke. That's not love. Okay that is not love. Ui manumaya kupendi. Yoni business. So you don't know what the lady feels. One woman will pay. Just imagine. Nimi, mikute demwangu. Do you know it took me time. Kumengina box. No na. You took me time. I left it in my bag. That is the last date. I don't know what she's got. I don't know what benefits kwa ima kwa sani nyuwata wa wili. So I am asking you. Okay, where is it? Let me tell you. Everybody has a story. Kilam tu kunamali alianziya. No na. You don't expect kula pesea sponsor na wipi utafika you place. Muwazi naumziya na kutembe apa, alafum trafika pale, namzuyu umaskini. After all, ukikubali vo at the end of the day atapata estiai na takuletia wewe. Sambili na nakuletia pesea na una kula jipo Wai wai when you na kula juni natural where is the letter? No. Can you be asking these questions madame? No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. No. OK, yunna wena they antopika wohangia ya. If you're financially constrained, you have a lady, she has a sponyu somewhere, when this lady hangs up the sponyu, as a man, you feel bad, but now you're supposed to go for another option. But keep this lady as a business. Let that be a man-londing business. So only 8 a.m. A man-londing, ya. Okay, for a man and a sponyu, she was given maybe something like 50,000. Let's share it, 25,000, 25,000. Then that 25,000 you spend with the other lady. Now it becomes a man-londing business. The money comes and it's done to this guy, it goes to another lady. Let her be supposed to be. Lord your boy children, I don't know. I don't know what's happening, Lord. I mean, this plus they're making for their girlfriend, Lord. Lord, Lord hear them. All right, another one. She keeps insinuating she may be pregnant. Like kilasa, kilasa. Beb, beb. I think nikona bol nani ya ako. Do you think you're being trapped? Okay, in such a thing you can't narrate down and say it's a trap. You'll first take some measures. Nye, we see kevwa mabrayo. I like that. I like that first response. Good job. Continue. See what you're looking at? Okay, let me just finish what I'm saying. Now that's scenario. You can't just narrate down and believe whatever she's saying. You know there are several measures that they are physical. Other measures are physical. Okay, the first thing, obviously when a lady is pregnant, you're not through some mood swings, emotional changes. So that is the first approach. In case you detect such things, okay, if you came early, you're highly suspicious that this lady is pregnant. But now the pregnancy is not, my hand, you're not 50-50. So okay, in case it happens that this lady is pregnant, you confirm that the baby is yours, now things will become dramatic there. But now if you come pro-easy work or no. No. That is now where you're supposed to bring a man who then say, apapa, and at re-easy hands are meti kama nia, one zero. Let's start it, zero zero. Where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where, where? Nama na muku na nini. At re-easy hands are, we can't start a match. You know, normal, your match cannot start when the home team is. It is true. Is, when one of the teams is trailing. Okay, if it happens this lady, she has a baby, when the baby is not yours. No. Let's close the business there. Meti, yes, the hands are one zero. It's supposed to start zero zero. Yeah, that's what I can say. I don't think I agree with that trend. But I would talk to me. Do you agree with that? But do you know ladies are different? Kwanzao kisimati, kwanzao mga jeo wanae signs kama kunao ball. Kuna, okay, I've never experienced, but it may take time. Kuna signs to the day, at ya kunao ball. So, okay, say kwa again is to girl. Dakinia I'll drive you, go to the hospital first. No. Tess kawde mga kunao. Mimba, kwa zunajia. Aneza, aneza cities are for two months nikunao ball. Uwani signs are lafana. Shindatua kikutisha dobe buntatua lewa nataka omena. Keshom truaga. Uwa, sabu janbe. Refi. Uwena, chita, omena. Sufu hana. Sozi, sozi, sozi, sozi. All right, so I have, my gosh, we gotta leave, we gotta go, guys. But I want to ask this last question, and I think it's very special. So, if she withholds intimacy in the relationship and only is affectionate when she wants something, what to do. Like item yote, I am not coming after anyone, but umonaizoma mimza, it's the answer to her. I like, yeah, heavy, heavy. Yeah, so she's like that most of the relationship, but akiyona nataka tokaki tundio. Maze, kwanza yusiko, anaku jinji akarini, kakuuku. Anything you want, baby. How do you deal with that one? Okay, actually, it will give you nikija. He's doing a mima. Okay, ambi wa hivu. Obvious, you know, you need to pay, when it comes to me, when I'm in a club, when I'm in a... For one thing, then... For one thing, then... Ah, ah, goja. First, he said, make sure it's correct information that indeed, actually she said that, that akona both. Because someone does not sit and have pregnant thoughts. We sit, they want you to come there. I'm not biologizing yet. So, Kenza kusema atini, minipasa kuhana itisha na maybe, actually, ni bolia ukweli. Nani ako, siya ti, nikwana practice na mimi. Up to honestly, yango. Yes. Okay, fukuna. Okay, okay, okay. Inakuma, kawu na jo, the impact after that. Itakuma honestly. Pash tabiduzoe. Itabiduzoe. You know, nizima kama ruen. Kusima kama ruen, kwa sumbu, kusini. Ah, toriya, kuhidru intimacy, ina depend. Iu automatikali, you know that, upendui, wana, siya somebody else she sing. So, manome ukiyambiwa, ukiyaw na, like, bivei miyaza kuchen, yuna wambia kujasili powana, wambia nanda kuna, enti yango, ali jifungua. Obiasili, you know that. Na ushatu mafea. Ya, ushatu mafea. Na umeo siya numbat. Na umeo gav once the whole weekend. Neli kwa tujuanakam. Lemitiliw, this is a real story. Demkali toka kiyu, nini Pakland, kiyu, kufi kajuja, kali pandagari kakarudi na fea angu. And that is the last time nidiongi anai. So easy for it to happen. So when they happen, maze kwa ground. Yung wikiya kinuzia. Yung wikiya kinuzia. And I thank God. Thank you. Thank you. Mikiya nini kwa da ni. So easy for it to happen. So easy for it to happen. Unatuma fea, lufuna hambiwa. Sifiki kwa numbat. Na how? Kwa ni mami kujaho many times. E kwa ni nini kwa na exam. Kwa na iwa student. A kwa na juwa. A kwa na juwa nini kwa na exama kiki. A kwa na mi nini kwa na iya exam. Kwa za kwa na zasili. Hai ya. Hai ya. We get to the summer too. Niki ni 20s wemo. Kwa niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. Niki ni 20s wemo. I'm so sorry. Apana, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Oh my God. We've been talking about kwa mdanda. I hope you get to catch this episode of My Gosh Madeira Zandapo at 254 Channel on YouTube. But we gotta leave. We gotta go. I hope you had a great time as we have. Shokuna kesho. Niki ni 20s wemo. You don't wanna miss it. In the meantime have an amazing week and amazing day. So we wave now.