 How do you decide who the victim is? Every day, Nigerians complain about the bias structure and sighting of infrastructure in cities across Nigeria. We're obviously peeved by these biases, and humanly so, we respond or react in different ways as an expression of a dissatisfaction and blatant abuse by powers we have decided to call unknown, in Baba Fela's words, unknown soldiers. We've been the victim for so long that we've slipped into the comfortable posture of constantly playing the victim, even when we're not. But the question is, who really is the victim? How do we choose who a victim is and what are the rights of a victim? The nurses are harsh on their patients because they, the nurses, are victims. Poor emoluments, inadequate tools, or comfortable environment, etc. The lease goes on and the patients complain. These same patients that complain might be a teacher or a lecturer. He or she equally passes the frustration onto the pupils, students, or even the parents. In effect, produces a unqualified bunch of unprofessional professionals for our dear nation, Nigeria. In October 2020, the nation witnessed one of the most coordinated uprising against oppression in recent times, and sass. Police brutality must stop. Again, we are the victims. But then I ask, who really is the victim? The policeman who is being pilfered by the teacher who is playing victim. Or, is it the policeman who has become accustomed to drinking the local herbs, Agbo? Claiming he's a lover of tradition. When in reality, it is because he cannot afford to go to the hospital. Is it the policeman that has bought fake drugs and has lost a child? Is it the policeman that is poorly trained, lowly renumerated, dehumanized and is giving all he knows to the job? No matter how inadequate this is to the society. Rather than praise our military, we bastardize them and constantly talk about how poorly they are performing. When the truth is that they might be operating on the blind side. I mean, we've heard a lot of stories about them. Our failure to celebrate all the gallant soldiers who lost their lives at the battlefront yesterday would definitely produce self-minded soldiers who will not give their best to protect the nation tomorrow. Yet another victim. In the 90s, Ibles were targeted with 419. Rather than tackle the menace, we tribalized it. Now, Nigeria is seen as a country that celebrates 419 kind of smartness. Nigeria played the victim and threw a tribe under the bus to say face. We're currently plagued by different kind of terrorism. Again, we're playing victim. We've tribalized it. Fulani Headsmen. And accept the terror. We expect the terror to go away. Rain, rain, go away. Come and rain another day. The victim's cycle never ends. And that is a problem as Nigerians. Every Nigerian needs to know that he or she is not a victim. Is not, rather, more a victim than the other. It's high time we started seeing ourselves collectively as victims because that is the only way we can get a solution to our problems. Let's analyze it properly. A teacher fails to give his or her best in class. He organizes extra classes to make more money. Her tool is the pen. He or she is a victim. A doctor fails to turn up at the public hospital and redirects you to the private hospital just so that he or she can make more money. In the process, the private hospital or the public hospital, rather, becomes a slaughterhouse. He or she is a victim, so they have to react. The bus conductor hikes the transport fare at will, depending on his mood. He can decide to blame bad roads or any other thing. All these people use their tools to make an extra living. Why? Because they are victims. What are the tools of the policemen? What are the tools of the soldier? What are the tools of the civil servants? After all, we're all victims. I am not a victim in Jesus' name. I find every spirit of victimism. I really loved listening to you. It was really impressive. It came from a Nigerian angle, which is kind of rare to see these days. I agree that all tribes in Nigeria, which are more than 200, ethnicities in Nigeria, which are more than 250, every one of them is marginalized. That is what we do not understand in this country. Being is always to pick on who we think, not understand his culture. We feel this is negative, this is right. For the purpose of this conversation, I would like to bring something up. I was opportunity to see something years ago. If Nigeria dealt with this years ago, we would not be in this problem. There was a strife in Sub-Saharan Africa. It was reported to Nigeria that the executive in Abuja should take action, because our borders were porous, and these were people who carried guns, and also they noticed a deforestation of Zaborno, Zamfara, Katina, Yubi, which are all today's flashpoints. This report was more than 10 years ago. Nothing was done about it. Our borders have been left porous, and most of us, because of political affiliations, have invited people from outside the country who are not Nigerians to come into the country and perpetuate havoc. This goes down to even... There's no body not guilty of this. This goes down to even within the Efe Madakeke crisis, which people were hired from outside Nigeria to fight this wars across each other. The Jukun, Thief, they did the same thing. We are all guilty of this manner of approach. The average Nigerian doesn't like strife. We love Oambed too much now. If you want to see a country that has problems, I'll give you an example. When India and Pakistan were together, they made movies about it. There was no intermarriage. Nigeria was still intermarried. The only things we don't agree with are when it comes to politics, and the truth is actually resources that we do not lay our hands on. Nigeria is too rich to be a poor country, and we have refused to handle that. And because of that, we have sold out our nationhood. Most of us do not think Nigeria is an identity. We all look at ourselves as Yoruba, Ibu, Hausa, Thief, Ibibiu, and whatever, which is wrong in real context. A country is a territorial boundary. A nation has a unified direction and ideology to which it seems. I'm one of the proponents saying, we should try something. I'm not saying exactly this, but we could make our national lingua pigeon English. It might unify us more than we already are. That's my take on things. I do agree that pigeon English should be not Queen's English. Yes, I agree. And I also agree that if we take out just from what Kunle is saying, take out that state of origin. And become state of residence. And state of residence, that's fine. That unifies us. So we all are in a geographical location. We are all from here because we live here. Being victims means we should be more empathetic toward each other. Show some more compassion and respect for each other. Because we are all victims of one thing or the other. Whether planned or unplanned. The thing is, many times when we think of ourselves as victims, we think someone somewhere is sitting and trying to victimize us. It's not always so. It's just that it's indirect. In fact, more times than not. Someone is just trying to protect themselves like the doctor who wants private practice for more money. It's not trying to create a slaughterhouse. He or she is just trying to protect their family. So it's a cycle of us hurting each other indirectly and sometimes directly. So compassion and solution drive. What do we do? Like you said, compassion. A lot of us have lost what you said. We've lost that love of nation or even love of self, I dare say. Love of people. I dare say more than 70% of Nigerians if we were to give them an opportunity today to choose another country, they would gladly, gladly... I was on radio in Ghana many also because they don't know better about the other country. Yes, and that's what we're talking about. So they've seen themselves that we are the receiving end. We don't know blah, blah, blah. I was on radio in Ghana when the NSAS came on and I'm an advocate for Nigeria wherever I am. And the guy's the presenter made a mistake and asked me questions. So how does it feel to hear people talking about your country in this manner? And it was one of the leading radio stations in Ghana. I was very excited when he asked the question because it was an opportunity for me to lash at them. So yeah, I made that base. That was very nice. So that was not the people's fault. Because at the end of the day so many great things have happened in Nigeria this year. We haven't reported it this way you're reporting this NSAS thing. You don't even know the fact. Exactly. So whatever I give to the people is a song you'll sing. Any music you play to them. And the guy kept quiet. But while I was busy defending Nigeria of course I said it was a bad thing to happen, blah, blah, blah. We shouldn't have happened and all that. While I was really saving the face of Nigeria a guy called not just one, a lot of them but one that stood out for me insulted me on air and told me that I'm one of the problems on Nigeria and with the government and that he was even until the NSAS thing happened was about changing his nationality to a Somalian. Okay. They would prefer to be a Somalian than to be a Nigerian. Good luck to him. And the presenter was looking at me like this you say your country, blah, blah, blah and he said that was the challenge we have that we see he was a victim. He was a victim. And he's pouring it out on everybody. And we see Nigeria as a place where I have an option I could check out I could go anywhere else. I don't owe anything to this country. Listen, things happen in Ghana in Togo in Burkina, I can talk about countries in West Africa that are equally terrible under just during this COVID there was a government in a West African country that told the people who were spending about $250,000 daily feeding people. And they said the people said okay bring us the proof and they showed people in like two or three parks scampering for food and like so these people can you feed these people with $250,000 in a day people still but you know what while you're busy insulting them or they're busy fighting their government you a foreigner attempts to insult their precedents and you will be reminded that you are a Ghanaian that you are Nigerian. You're not allowed to do that it's our joke. I joke exactly. We don't see that. To take ownership to us especially us here as parents it starts with us at home I hear parents say things like hey don't teach your neighbor what you know because they will take what you know and add it to what they know and then they become better than you. That is institutionalizing division and victim mentality so if we will start by teaching our children to say everyone is your sister is your brother allow somebody else to step in before you doesn't take anything away from you teach that person what they don't know it doesn't take anything away from you in fact it reinforces your knowledge I found it weird when I asked the teacher to allow my son to teach his classmates more in primary 4 and some other parents were like why are you doing that you want them to not be better than your son and I go no no no no no we win better when we are all winning I'll give you a life example people normally assume that with my experience and of course political parties and running for office that I actually know politics a lot lot well because I get to be part of the training and teaching of students within the electoral college I can tell you that my growth within the last one year in politics is exponential because when you teach I become better I become far better than I actually was and I don't know why we don't understand that and there's one key thing we need to understand in Nigeria I think one of the things that two things that bother us are tribe and religion I will put something in fact you know what let me just make this point here when in church and I say this with all sense of responsibility the leader says tell your neighbor I don't care what you came for I came to be blessed that in itself is already constantly divided you were about to say religion and so if in the religious house I am saying to you Coyote I don't care what you came for I am saying to you Kule don't touch me I came here for my own blessing we are already saying we don't care for each other in the same place where we are supposed to be saying look I came here for your blessing and mine so how do we walk out of that place which is adding to what you were saying please go ahead so I feel unlike for me I consider myself to be privileged in Nigeria my dad Muslim my mom Catholic so I raised both religions and unlike other people I finished both holy books and I had a choice till today most people cannot tell my religion that's the thing it's a little no basis but I noticed that even on social media just because somebody sees the name and sometimes you know I get to interact and somebody sees the name Lawao my son name they will tilt towards me not because of the points they think I am making but I can almost tell from the name where averagely from the name where you tilt on 80 bits based on you would rather associate with this or associate with that I keep saying this our institutions need to become actual institutions our institutions need to become actual institutions well our institutions need to change everything needs to move on we need to stop being victims we need a constitutional referendum we need so many things but as we all know time is never on our side is never a friend on this program as well however the advocacy continues on our social media platforms on facebook join us on plus tv africa hashtag the advocate ng or on twitter and instagram at plus tv africa hashtag the advocate ng to catch up with previous broadcasts go to plus tv africa.com for slash the advocate ng and don't forget to subscribe to our youtube channel plus tv africa till next week same time on this station remember that the important conversations are among the necessary tools for a saner society bye for now we are almost becoming hardwired to try and cheat i would suggest that we begin to hold our leaders accountable i was inciting this country when things actually work i don't think that any organization should be above the law and i think one of the challenges we have in this country is about governance across the board what i'm saying is that it doesn't really affect us in Nigeria it doesn't i don't know what we can do if the system is already corrupted we've been warned as a continent of the influx of the chinese if you don't repay your debt it will just colonize you