 and you would be surprised my dear brothers and sisters how many times I ask young men on what you know I ask them they're single why don't you get married and usually the most common answer I get the most common excuse I tell them brother you know you should get married you're 20 21 22 23 I think this is the perfect age for marriage why don't you get married the most common answer that I usually get is what money say it I'm not financially capable I'm not well established financially yet and that's why he doesn't get married or sometimes you'll find the girl or her father they will reject the proposal of some brother because they're not fully established now what do they mean by fully established they mean he has to have a house he has to have a nice car he has to have anywhere from 50 to $100,000 in a savings account and the whole nine yards and he has to have a good occupation a good you know job occupation making at least 70 80 90 thousand dollars a year only then yes this person is ready for marriage so it's all about money money money wealth wealth that's all what matters in the marriage now here are two points about this brothers and sisters about this excuse number one you find that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in the Quran he says that do not make money an obstacle money should not be an obstacle like I said the the leading factor of young men not getting married today is what is money it's because I'm not well established yet the Quran brothers and sisters says do not make money an obstacle Allah says any a corner of a car out you're gonna have a lot of fun if they are not doing so well they are in need Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will take care of them and you would be surprised not only this Islam Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala say that don't make money an obstacle but in fact our hadith indicates that amongst the actions that make you richer and wealthier and increase Allah sustenance and risk to you as marriage can you believe that it has the opposite effect you would think if I get married I'll have to now not only support myself support another person so I'll be worse financially Islam says no get married Allah will increase your rizq you see there are many Amal you could do special dua special Salat specials things to do so that Allah increases your rizq your sustenance amongst those actions is marriage I saw up to nine a hadith from the holy prophet and the imams all saying this in one hadith a man comes to Rasulullah he tells him ya Rasulullah I'm in need I'm not doing so well financially what is the Rasulullah tell him go get married this young man is surprised one hadith says he came the next day the third day Rasulullah tell him the same thing he would he thought Rasulullah wasn't getting what he was telling him so he objects to Rasulullah how would he mean get married he tells him get married the hadith says he got married and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala increases rizq Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala increases sustenance and he started to do better off now now this we read in the hadith and we read in the Quran but unfortunately we do not always trust this you know this fact how is it that if I get married and if I'm not well established yet Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will increase my rizq I'll give you an example from today right now studies and statistics prove this point I don't know if if any of you have read about this but there is a term in economics called the marriage wage premium has anyone heard about that Google tonight writes three words marriage wage premium what is the marriage wage premium labor economists they say that a married man begins to make much more money than a single man as soon as he gets married he starts his his income starts to skyrocket how much more they say anywhere from 10% to 50% as soon as he gets married nothing changes same job same work the only thing that change is his status from single to married with that change of status his income increases his wage increases up to 50% and this is called the marriage wage premium and there are many studies performed by economists trying to understand why this phenomenon exists why why the married men make more than single they bring you two identical men they are the same age they have the same degree from the same college the same race the same background the same everything the only difference between them one is single the other is married the single man makes 50% more what does this prove to you and you go no fucker I you know them Allah from Allah and Subhan Allah they say those same man as soon as they get divorced once again their income falls down Subhan Allah as long as you're married there is a guarantee there is a push there's something that's helping you now is it because married men are more motivated than single man is it because they know that they have a spouse they have to provide for and thus they have a sense of responsibility and work harder there's many there's many you know theories about that but the point is then married men make more money than single man and this proves that point that we should not make money an obstacle Allah says it in the Quran we don't trust him but once we see an economist saying on this is when we say it's right we have more trust an economist than we have an Allah unfortunately so so brothers and sisters the holy Quran says do not make money an obstacle Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala will help them now of course we're not saying just go and you know sleep in your house Allah send them money no do what you have to do go to college get a degree go get a job but if you're not doing so well that shouldn't prevent you from getting married you're working you're trying to get there Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala will help He'll give you the push and help you so this is the first point do not make money an obstacle the second point that we have to keep in mind brothers and sisters is why is it that our marriages have to be so extravagant why is it that we have to spend so much on our marriages why is it that we have this perception that I have to be well established and then only then get married who said this is correct sometimes there are certain beliefs that we have that the Quran says ma'a anzara Allahu bihanum sultan Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala never taught us this we have this belief we have this idea that I shouldn't get married until I'm fully established where am I getting this from who said this is correct why can I rent the first few days the first few months why can I live in my parents basement why can I live in one room in my parents house if there is a private bathroom for it what's the problem with it why does it have to be a expensive car and a house and a you know nice job no before I got married I was living in a small room with a shared bathroom and she was living in a small room in a shared why is it that now we want to live together has to be so extravagant why what's the reasoning behind that what's the wisdom behind it yes it's good but if I can't why should that prevent me why can't we start simple living in one room sharing the same kitchen with my parents or her parents what's the problem with that is there anything haram with that is there anything wrong about that why is it that we have this perception that no I have to have my own big house or my own apartment and my own car and job and honey why were we getting this from do we follow a whole bait or we follow other people if I follow a little bit I'm a shea of a big they're telling me this is correct incorrect how many brothers I know when they got married they lived in a room there was a room a small room and a bathroom besides it and they lived in their parents house a few months after that a few years after that they were financially capable of renting or buying that's when they moved that what's the problem with how much marriage would be easier because of that brothers and sisters why can't we make our marriage is simple and then you have the weddings how much do we spend on weddings an average Australian you know how much they spend on a wedding just Google it thirty six thousand dollars do you know how many people they are discouraged of getting married just because they know they don't have thirty six thousand dollars who said I have to have a big lavish wedding why can I have a simple wedding that costs one two thousand dollars or even less why will that make me a better person will that take me closer to Allah if I spend more and more on weddings I remember I heard I'm sure you heard of about this a couple of years ago there was a I don't know if he was a Muslim but an Arab person here in Australia he spent some you know some number I can't even remember millions of dollars on his wedding it was the most lavish wedding of all time what was the number on a couple of hundreds of millions something like that I don't remember a billion one billion one million I spend one million dollars just on a wedding it's panel I go and see that person probably his divorce right now such a marriage that begins with such a you know lavish way of millions of dollars on a wedding do you expect it to last when it's just based on materialism money wealth it's not gonna last obviously I read in in the news a few maybe a year ago there's a couple in Turkey they get married they have saved I don't know twenty thirty thousand dollars for their wedding subhanAllah they make such a noble decision before the wedding do you know what they do they cancel their wedding they take that twenty thirty thousand dollars and they make a food drive for the refugees the Syrian refugees they were able to feed twenty thousand refugees instead of having a lavish wedding you see do you think that is better or having a lavish wedding they cancel the antenna lulbair hattatum faqum maa tahabu twenty thousand refugees were fed rather than having a wedding that you have two hundred three hundred people invited who said I have to have a lavish great wedding and thousands of people and spend thousands of dollars and run the biggest hole where are we getting our ideas from who's teaching us this if we are Muslim and we are followers of a little bait tell us this is wrong and subhanAllah studies as statistics prove the more you spend on your wedding the less your your marriage will last read about it there is a study by emory university in the u.s. it shows that those people that spent less on their weddings their marriages last much longer than those that spent more those that splurged the more you spend the more likely your marriage will not last the more simple your marriage your wedding is the more it will last but when I have a baby I'm a Salam tell us this unfortunately we say oh these are just hadith in the book we read them for Baraka for blessing when it comes to applying them implementing them in our lives we feel and at the end of the day I'm the one that will benefit from these a hadith and from these teachings of our weight they won't benefit why would they care if I followed their teachings or no their teachings are for me to benefit from brothers and sisters