 Narcissists are fake people. They are not genuine. They are an imitation of something real. Everything they do is intended to deceive you. To deliberately cause you to believe something that is not true. For their own personal gain, they give you a mistaken impression, which causes you to hold beliefs and opinions that are incorrect, based on a vague idea in which some confidence is placed. They may look like real humans, but that is just on the surface. It's an artificial intelligence. It's a machine. A piece of equipment that only works when it is given power. And their power comes from you or other people. They can't generate it from within. But as empaths, we have the tendency to project human traits onto them, to where we believe that we are dealing with a real person. When we're actually just projecting our own positive traits, which a lot of times is what causes us to be fooled. Narcissists lack effective empathy, so they don't experience any sensations or feelings of response to other people's emotions. Which is why, unlike ourselves, they don't feel stressed when they detect another person's fear or anxiety. Instead it feeds them. It makes them feel alive. Because although they don't have effective empathy, they do have cognitive empathy. So they're able to intellectually understand why someone feels a certain way, even though they may not be emotionally moved. Which means that they actually have an easier time understanding the lack of effective empathy in other people. Their cognitive empathy allows them to be highly observing and skilled at recognizing patterns of behavior. They can observe subtle signs that reveal someone else's narcissistic tendencies right away, while we may be unable to see it. Because although as in-pass we have high effective empathy, we may lack cognitive empathy. Which means that we may often be unable to recognize when we are dealing with a narcissist. But narcissists see each other very clearly. And they often work together to target people who may be unsuspecting. Because that's the only way that they can survive. They have a hard time keeping and forming relationships. Because they need to manipulate control and exploit the other person. But your self-love is your greatest defense against narcissists. And once you become self-love abundant, you will begin to see narcissists everywhere. And you won't want to be around them. Just witnessing their narcissistic tendencies will make you feel sick. And you will feel it in the pit of your stomach. You will feel fear, anxiety, uneasiness and nervousness. Because that is your body telling you that something harmful or unpleasant is about to happen. But narcissists don't experience those same sensations. And in fact they are drawn to other narcissists. They like other narcissists because they lack self-love and they share similar traits. They have a need for attention and praise. As well as a lack of empathy and a sense of entitlement. So they tend to bond over their target's destruction. It's what keeps them together. And it prevents them from turning against each other. Which can appear very convincing. And it's often what they will use to persuade you that you are the problem. And it may even cause you to doubt whether or not you are actually dealing with a narcissist. Because narcissists are maladaptive. Get the narcissist you are dealing with maybe adapting just fine. Just not with you. And they may even tell you this. They may tell you that they are able to get on with other people very well. To make you feel like you are the problem. And then as an empath you will naturally self-love and blame yourself. Which is exactly what they will want you to do. So that they can feel like they have something real. Because it's all an illusion. A facade. And it's intended to deceive you. So that you hand your power over to them. And then your energy will be used to feel the illusion. So that they can feel alive in that moment. Because although it isn't real. You may believe that it is real. Because your eyes and ears are able to perceive all of it. So you make the assumption that you are seeing an adult person who is able to communicate. And possesses some level of mental power. Even though your brain may already know that it's not true. Which is very similar to when we watch movies or television. In order for us to watch it and to be entertained by it. In that moment we have to believe that what we are seeing is real. But watching a movie is usually harmless. While interacting with analysis causes severe stress on most people. Because what we're seeing and hearing does not line up or connect with what our brain already knows. So it will irritate and confuse you. And you may wonder why you keep experiencing the same situations with them. When you know that you should be wiser. But you assume that they're going to understand or care. Even after you've already seen that it's not even possible. Because educating yourself on narcissism is not enough. The brain has to make certain assumptions. It has to reject certain things so that you're able to interact with them. But this does not happen for the narcissist. And even if you're aware of it that doesn't change anything. Your brain will function how it's designed to. It will perceive the narcissist as a real human being. And it will naturally make assumptions about things you may already know to be incorrect. As if you're dealing with an actual human being. Because the knowledge is not enough to override your sense. Or of how your brain works. And that does not mean there's something wrong with your brain. It means that your brain is working correctly. Because the brain is meant to make assumptions about who it's dealing with. But this also means that you can be fooled. Regardless of the information or education that you may have. Which means that you will read understanding and empathy. In situations where it is not possible. You will fill in the gaps for the other side of the conversation and the relationship. Because projection and assumption is necessary for communication. So your projected emotions, perceptions and words. That don't even fit the other person or the experience that they're having. Which makes it very confusing. Because your brain assumes that it's there even when it's not. You assume that the narcissist is lonely and that they're yearning for human companionship. But for that to be possible they would have to be able to see you as a separate person. Rather than them seeing you as an extension of them. Which isn't something that they're able to achieve or retain. Instead they will try to embrace the very things that make you a person. They will treat you as an object that exists to meet their needs. They won't try to understand anything that makes you who you are. They won't even care because they have no interest in people. They just want to keep people as their possessions. They don't care about what you want or what you need. That doesn't matter to them. You will eventually see through their actions and the things they say. Because they want a person who exists just for them. A person with no wants or needs. A person with no self of their own. A zombie. A dead person who has been brought back to life without human qualities. Who is only able to move because of witchcraft. Because they're under a spell. As though they've administered a drug to induce insensibility. To wear your inner hallucinatory dream like states. A state of consciousness in which you lose the power of voluntary action. Where you're highly responsive to suggestion or direction. Which they may use to recover suppressed memories. Or to allow modification of your behavior. Because they already know that if you were in the right state of mind you wouldn't want anything to do with them. And you would be running in the opposite direction. So they have to hypnotize you. They have to put you in a state of not being completely conscious or in control of yourself. To wear your attracted and holding interest as if by a spell. And you're in a heightened state of concentration and focused attention. Because that's their core desire. They just want an inanimate lifeless person that is under their control. Because they have no meaningful understanding of kindness or compassion. Which goes against how the brain naturally operates. Because the brain assumes that these faculties are present. And it does whatever it can to provide evidence to support this conclusion. Because regardless of what we think. The brain cannot perceive of this not being true. So we assume that they're just lonely or that they need companionship. Because the brain makes the automatic projections and assumptions that it needs to make. So that it can engage communication with another human being. So the brain does not realize that you're interacting with a machine. Because just like artificial intelligence. The narcissist mimics the way that normal empathetic people interact with each other. They learn what to say or do through experience. Which creates a powerful reaction. Because of the projections and assumptions that the brain is making. But time reveals all. And eventually the narcissist does reveal their inability and limitations. Or you notice flaws in their skills of imitation after critical observation. Whether it was done to entertain or riddle you. Because you may stop overlooking it or seeing it as an important. But either way you cannot prevent these automatic assumptions from happening. At least not until they reveal their inability to have empathy and compassion. And when that happens it is very painful. You feel exploited and betrayed. As though they broke your trust. Because initially all of their focus was on you. They said nothing about themselves. They had no needs once or preferences. It was all about what you thought how you felt and what you wanted. Which may have made you enthusiastic. It may have made you excited, happy and slightly out of control. But it may have also left you in a state of insensibility. Where you had a lack of awareness or concern. Because they stroke your ego. They made you feel special. They made you feel good about yourself. They made you feel seen and heard in a way that you had not felt before. As though they actually cared about you. So you may not have even noticed that you were tricked and duped until later. When you tried to find out more about them. And then you realized that it offered no hope of progress or advancement. But in the beginning you overlooked it. Because you felt a connection when there wasn't one. You were talking to yourself. Because anything you say only applies to you. It cannot be applied to them. Even though they may appear interested. Because they have a script. They have a list of things to say or do. In response to certain words or phrases you use. Because they lack intuitiveness, empathy and good judgment. So they use scripted responses. Often in situations where they are irrelevant or inappropriate. And if that isn't successful. Just like artificial intelligence they will often appear to malfunction. Because they lack mental capacity. So they cannot provide their appropriate response. Especially when their response is challenged. Which is why they typically won't give you an opportunity to challenge them. Or they will resort to coercion and intimidation. To distract you and to get you to focus on something else. Because they cannot see their own limitations. And they may be unaware that they even have any. They may assume that they have all of the information that exists. So if you challenge their response it won't make any sense to them. They will persist that you are wrong. Or that you're just being rebellious or oppositional. Or that you're trying to manipulate them. And they may even gas like you. They may try to get you to doubt your own memory, perception and sanity. Because they can't understand deeper meanings of the things that people say. They lack intuition, morals and compassion. So they have an inability to shake your feelings or experience. Which will result in them trying to rewire your brain. Or even trying to push you to commit suicide. Because their mental disorder is maladaptive. They cannot adjust adequately or appropriately to the environmental situation. Which results in undesirable and socially unacceptable behavior. That interferes with the acquisition of desired skills or knowledge. And with the performance of everyday activities. Where they are unable to fit in with other people's wishes or needs. Or to reconcile or bring into harmony. Because vulnerability and opening up means losing control. And they have a black ointmentality. So they believe that you're bad and wrong. Which makes them think that they can't change or they don't need to. They're incapable of evaluating information that they are not programmed to recognize or evaluate. So they are unable to incorporate parts into a whole. Because they lack intellectual, mental and emotional capacity. It's a machine. It doesn't take your feelings and needs into consideration. So the longer that you interact with them. The more unsuccessful you will be in protecting yourself from them. Even after you have identified what you're dealing with. The only way that you can protect yourself is to have as little contact with them as possible. Because when you interact with a narcissist it will trigger mind and body trauma. Which includes low self-esteem. Feelings of confusion, cognitive dissonance, panic attacks and even mental illnesses. And this is not something that you can control or change. So you will always be exposed to the possibility of being harmed by them. The only reason they even made it this far in life. Is because they learned how to imitate how other people behave. They don't adapt to adjust. They just pretend to so that they can blend in and fly under the radar. Which is why even people who work with narcissists or study them for a living. Still get fooled by narcissists all the time. Because narcissists are master manipulators. It's essential to their survival. Which is why the only way you can protect yourself. Is through education and by limiting your contact with them. And then making an exit plan at the earliest opportunity. Because up until that point you're going to continue making normal human assumptions about a fake person. Which is what the brain is supposed to do. Because you're not supposed to do that around a person with a mental illness. Because they're mentally impaired. So all they're going to do is damage you. As a result of their loss of mental capacity. And for most of them it is instinctual. It's virtually the same as a heroin junkie mainlining. And the narcissists drug of choice is narcissists that supply. When they're around an empathist like a feeding frenzy. They're emotionally starved. So it's like an aggressive and competitive attack. An episode of frantic competition or rivalry for your mind. To where they become very excited. And they're in a state of wild activity. Without any concern for your emotional health or well being. Because they're not a complete human. They're missing the key components that make us who we are. They lack empathy. And that is why they have a void. It's why they're always miserable. It's why they can never be satisfied. Because they never cared about anyone but themselves. And that is what makes them so dangerous. Because now they have to imitate emotions and connection. In order to get what they want from their victims. Which is their narcissistic supply. They're the cause of their own misery. They're the fuel to their own fire. And to their own demise. It's like a suicide bomber. At some point they are going to malfunction and self-destruct. As they nurse themselves into a chronic habit of justification. So the best thing you can do is to stay far away from them. Thank you for watching. If you found this video helpful, please give it a thumbs up. Share your thoughts in the comments section. Hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications. If you would like to support the channel, you can donate at payable.me.narcsurviver. You can book a one on one with me on my website. It's narcsurviver.uk. Thank you for watching and they'll talk to you soon.