 Post-nuptial agreements. Ever wondered how assets are shared between couples in the event of a divorce or separation? Where parties have signed post-nuptial agreements? After being married for five years, Adah is making very good money from her several tech deals. She decides for the safety of her children that a post-nuptial agreement be entered into with her spouse. It's worthy to note that Adah is worth much more than a husband. However, her husband took an offense and stated she was already foreseen and entered the marriage because she had started earning more money than him. Their parents condemned Adah for suggesting such an agreement and this has caused a major rift between the couple. Adah is still adamant on the post-nuptial agreements. The post-nuptial agreement also referred to as a post-marital agreement is a legal document designed for couples who are married or in a civil union. Although similar to a pre-nuptial agreement, post-nuptial agreements are entered into after the marriage has commenced. It establishes how the couple's assets will be divided in the event of a divorce or legal separation and the amount, if any, for a spouse or support that one spouse will pay to the other if the marriage ends. What should Adah do? There's something you are hiding. First of all, we have married the marriage already. We are in it five days inside it. You are now successful in your business. That success was the man not there behind every successful woman is a man. Now, if you want to safeguard your children, your fear is that your children are very, very simple now. But I was just talking about investments. The investments I was liquidating were not in my name now. As many as I give back to each other, I have three. I can't shout or more. Straight up, three investments in your name. Your account is set up. Your life insurance policy in your name is set up. And you are my next of kin. But for you to now come and tell your husband to come and sign paper now. I'll be right now. Because the man that does it will always do this. No, sorry. I think that while that might be the natural sometimes assumption and maybe why the parents are talking, I think that at this point in time, before we look at blanket situations, the questions that I would personally look at and I would take in this situation would be to actually go be, leave the bill as an and I can sense that this conversation is coming from a legal standpoint. I will leave the bill and say to myself what are the red flags or signals or signs or reasons behind the decision to have this agreement? So then my guess I ask ourselves is not and I do not subscribe to behind every successful man or woman is the other person. The first person that is behind is yourself and then the universe and your partner, whatever it is. So what I'm going to say here right here is that there is a reason to check what are the spending of financial habits of the other partner. And whether it was a man that came up with it or a woman that came up with it, any party is allowed. There's a freedom of decision. The fact that we're joined together doesn't mean that I should not be able to make decisions. And we are moving from a society where I mean, I don't know how to put it without going out of place. But sometimes what I'm trying to say here is that. No, what I'm trying to say here is that and that cannot be entirely said to be unclean for wanting to do that. But all I would then say is that in a situation where there's really no discord or there are no other things, maybe there's a possibility that she needs to look and say, okay, what kind of, I mean, what kind of planning or agreement or plans can we make? Because in the definition given of a post-noctal agreement, it's in the event of a separation or a divorce. And so that finality around it kind of puts a problem. True. But if there's another type of planning that can be done, and this is where I would now want to agree with HMI, in terms of, okay, what kind of investments or decisions or budgeting or planning can be done. But even at that, you still need to have the conversation with the other party and the person may not even, not every woman is an A type person and able to just make those decisions as to what to do with their money or how to invest it. And so if for any reason, hands are tied or something, please, Ada, go on, have that agreement. Titi, break the tie. My question and my concern is how legal is this? Is this allowed by law? Very legal, yes, very legal. Yes, yes. It's presented by two parties. If the husband agrees, if the husband agrees and they both decide to go ahead, then it is very legal. Just like to put a natural agreement. So if she believes or she sees reasons that make her decide that, okay, just in case something happens, I want to be sure that this guy is going to give me my money or vice versa. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. What happens when there's one thing? Like the question that she has, what happens if there's one thing? That's the point where she's at. So what would now be the point? Ada, sorry, not you. Picture 10. If I'm the one, I will say no. After we are married, then you now wake up and decide that, oh, now I want to post-nuptial. No, it's not your money. It's your wife's money. I'm part of your life. I'm part of your work. The fact that you can go and make this money is not, you can't now exclude me from this. No, I think that's behind me. But you know what, I think also there's a lot of entitlement that comes up in marriages, both on the side of men and women. No, I'm not saying we're not entitled and that's the honest truth. But I think that there's a lot of entitlement that sometimes comes in. What I think should go on here is proper communication around these things. There needs to be the place of open, honest, hardcore conversations around why are we doing this? What is going on? Some people say, it's only women. It's just another, if I was there when you made your money. First, I'm not disagreeing, but if you were there when I was making my money, I need to ask and itemize what sacrifices particularly did you make in my life. Let me run the house. Let me run the house. Let me run the house. Even if all my money is given off of her money, if it does not plan on leaving off of her money, there's nothing wrong in her saying, you know what, to secure in case this thing doesn't work out at the end. I want to know that my money can work out. That's what I'm worried about. It doesn't sound to me as if something is going on correctly in that relationship. You get midway, then you suddenly now jump the board. And say, wait, apart from that, she's now coming into the money. She's coming into the money. And so she's become a different person. That's why there's this viral meme that says, oh, please check your humility before you become rich. By the time you are rich, we'll now know who you are in person. I don't show the real color now. She wants to secure the bag. But before she broke even, she was carrying Mr. Osmond along. See, let's be fair. When it comes to equity, it must come with clean hands. If Titi was a man and she came onto the show today with this point of view, you can be rest assured that we will shred him. No, I disagree. I wouldn't. Your wife was there. She carried your baby. She sacrificed her life. I wouldn't shred him. Now, you're not telling me if I get into the marriage, you need a prenup. There must be a reason for something. And I'm serious. I'm not saying that. That's why she's why you're still here. Because she doesn't want to know. Why are you still here? No, she doesn't want to do a divorce here. In the case of a divorce or a separation. It's not coming with clean hands. It's not coming with clean hands. Do it come second. It must come with clean hands. But you wouldn't understand that the agreement is whatever we decide. So it's not set. But the one I said is not the agreement. I currently am wondering who you are now. And in the event of a dissolution of the marriage, I'm going to be willing to give you 30% or 40% of what I'm worth. Do you understand? It doesn't mean I'm not. The agreement is not safe or everything goes to me. We're going to sit down and agree that this is the percentage I'm willing to give you as spousal support or whatever it is. I mean, it's an agreement. Cynthia, I like the step where you broke. I thought you broke them for me. This is why you broke me. You've destroyed it. Interesting one. Anyways, any time is next after the break.