 Hi, I'm George Kau and today I'm here with one of my clients Sharon Rosen excited for her be sharing some tips about self-care and let me first of all let me say hello. Hi Sharon. Hey George How are you? Thanks for being here. Yeah, it's great to be with you. Yeah, so I'm gonna have Sharon Tell us about her in terms of her business what she's learned in her journey of growing her business and also be sharing some Self-care tips with us. So those this will be great. Let me begin actually by giving some context with Reading her bio to you all so that you can know what she's what you've worked on So Sharon works with smart accomplished spiritually attuned women Who despite all they know and all they've done they still find it hard to allow their inner wisdom to be their most reliable Ally that's true for men too sometimes So if you go to her website, you can get a free audio Called the deep rest guided meditation and you also get inspiring useful information through her inner wisdom newsletter and her website is heart of selfcare.com Heart of self care.com So Sharon, let's begin Given that most watching this are building a business of some kind Let's begin with some of the things you've learned as you've grown your business And you know, you sent me a few notes before this and you mentioned one of the things was about your Intrinsic like getting to know the intrinsic parts of who you are. So tell us a bit about that Yeah, well for the first part of my career the first 25 years. I was a massage therapist Which you would think that I mean obviously people came to me because I was good at what I did with my hands but I also Really understood pretty quickly that people were coming to me also because of me because of How I received them how I spoke with them how I responded to them You know because there are other people who are good with their hands But their energy their way of being isn't necessarily going to resonate. So I Had a really successful practice for 25 years and then I Started to shift my focus I was always bringing other things into my massage work and offering other things then I started Putting massage in the background and leading with more coaching more teaching more spiritual healing and counseling and I I Somehow by Listening to different marketing people Trying to follow some business coaches because I felt like my practice just happened You know, it just magically happened and now I felt like I was needing to build this other thing and plus the online world was Going to be a part of it and I was Telling myself a lot that I didn't know how to do this and It took a really long time and a lot of confusion of you know Going down a bunch of rabbit holes or listening to ideas and Teachings that weren't necessarily right for me, right? Everybody's out there saying, you know You need to do a podcast and you need to be on LinkedIn and Facebook and Instagram And you need to be really good at, you know SEO and you know, my head was spinning and I Just I kind of around when I started listening to you actually and following you on Facebook. I I really just said this is making me crazy. I'm not working enough. I am not helping people and It's not about that. I'm gonna you know looking to be some big six seven figure coach, you know with this high visibility I just want to help people. I want to work again more than I was and So I started to kind of I think of it as resting back into myself my natural knowing Being less nervous about the what am I saying when I go to a networking event or when I show up on Facebook to either write something or do a live and just Let my natural warmth and friendliness and care for other people's well-being come through and It's feels a whole lot better and it's working better It's brilliant. Yeah, thank you for saying that. Yeah, absolutely There is a genius within within each of us That is different, you know, I mean, that's part of the beauty of the world is how different each of us are and When we are just like you said willing to Reconnect with that intrinsic part of who we are and allow that to be expressed in our business We can't help but be unique and we can't help but attract Just the right kind of people to us who are meant for us And so thank you for for mentioning that you're you're just willing this to express your soul, etc. Yeah Um, and so another thing that you have been learning is about kind of keeping things simple Talk about that Yeah, um Yeah, I really did get a little too caught up in a lot of the the rhetoric and the conversation around All of the things that you're supposed to do to have a really successful business and so I was always like jumping off into different areas and not just standing still not standing still but standing firm in one place and Actually giving that one place whatever that was focusing on Facebook focusing on In-person networking finding the right networking groups because some didn't feel like a great fit for me others were and showing up consistently and and kind of staying the course and letting that guide my Marketing as you say right Fly the paper airplanes like try things show up speak like don't sit here in my office We're behind my computer trying to come up with these perfect amazing Marketing words that as soon as people read them. They're gonna want to work with me and and try certain things and Stay the course for a while so that I can get the feedback on whether it's working or not and then switch things up Yeah, that's exactly right lovely lovely. Yeah, it's not it's it's it's simpler But also it's Liberating yourself from the from the judgments And the perfectionism and the paper airplane analogy, of course, I love that and for those who haven't heard that To talk about the paper airplane thing. It's the idea that Marketing and business is about a series of tossing the paper airplane and seeing where it goes and just like the paper airplane a lot of times it kind of goes like this, right? We tweak the nose we tweak the wings a little bit and we try it again You know every time we learn something. Oh, it's just saying it's going a little bit to the left Oh, it's going to look to the right. Let me let me tweak the wing a little bit this way rather than You thinking oh my god. I have one. I have one toss and that's it Oh, right toss as many times as you want get another paper, but that's true of us We have this unlimited resource within us of our ideas energy creativity If we only kept up with our self-care, you know, it's it's really Yeah, and also for me that that paper airplane thing it helped me take It helped me hold it all more lightly when things didn't fly Right, I didn't I go my god. I really screwed up. I don't know how to do this. I better find another program coach, you know You know buy another, you know online course It was just like, okay, I tried that thing now. I have information to you know to move forward with Yes, yes For me it's not like, huh Like that's the that's the reaction. Huh when I have that happen Oh I thought that was really going to be great. Okay. I'm not getting a response. So I guess I'm ahead of my time It's true actually you're ahead of your time. Yeah So, uh, another lesson you you were been learning is about The fees that you're charging and what that means for the value of your work and talk about your perspective on that Yeah, oh boy, that that's been uh, you know, it's always an interesting thing like When with massage You know, there's kind of a going rate and the fact that I'd been doing it for 25 years and somebody else just came out of school You know, there wasn't a lot of room for you know, this mastery level So, you know, but I was making comfortable living. So that was fine Then you know, you get into the coaching world and the teaching world And it's a whole other thing and because there is so much of that rhetoric and not that I Ever had a great aspiration to be a six figure seven figure Coach sure it sounds good. I'd love to make a hundred thousand plus a year. Wouldn't that be nice? We could travel more. My husband could relax. Yeah I'm also one of the things I realized about myself quite honestly is I am not that ambitious And I don't mean that in a bad way It's like I just want to do what I do and help people and make a comfortable living I say make enough and then some, you know I want to be able to take some vacations. Sure. I want to be able to do some things and you know not feel like it's going to blow me out of the water financially, but I this whole thing about charging what you're worth and that the more money you Ask for and get says anything about who I am as a person and what my value in the world is I you know, I've taught meditation classes where one person showed up and they paid me five dollars And we had a great session And I've taught classes where they brought me in there were a few people and they paid me a hundred and fifty dollars for the hour Beautiful. That's all you know, it's all good. I wouldn't be able to do everything for five dollars an hour That's not sustainable, but it I like that. I actually like the fluctuations because it feels more realistic to me Then if you can't pay me this much I can't help you or there's something wrong with you. You need to work with your money mindset It's like my money mindset's fine It took me a while to actually believe that because so many people are talking about Like if you're not charging these great fees Then you have to look at your inner. It's like, oh my god. I'm fine with money Yeah, yeah It's this insidious idea Um, I mean it sounds good at surface. Of course we want people to value us more or more of devalue yourselves more Maybe um, it sounds good But then as we start to look into it and dig into it We realize the foundation of that idea is that somehow money equals human worth Yeah Or the worth of or the value of work, which is really dangerous because that means Well, that means I guess the one percenters in our society are somehow better people And they're doing more valuable work versus The single mother Right who is working? I mean or any of us who who do who care with our hearts for other people If he's not charging enough then somehow that that work is not valuable Yeah, and so thank you. It's it's it you're seeing the beauty and the fulfillment And the experiences that you're yet you're having Yeah, and and and yes, of course, we also have to look at what is financially sustainable Well, I have to right. I have to live in the world Yeah, but if I really want to work with somebody if if I feel A resonance and a connection and I can help them and they feel that I can help them And money's an issue Let's talk Let's not let money be the issue that keeps you from getting the support that would help you move to a different way of being in yourself That's what's more important. That's beautiful. Thank you. Yeah Um, well, let's shift gears a bit and talk about well your area of expertise self-care and everything's related to that Um, is there something that you would love to share some some tip or some exercise that You find that clients find helpful your audience finds helpful that maybe you can share in this In this video as well. Sure From what I have experienced and what I've learned the most important thing You know, we live so much in our heads these days, right? We're in our heads We're in our eyes everything's like going out But we're not really connecting with the outside world in a in a wholesome holistic way, so One of the best things to do like when you're feeling really like you're spinning out first just stop like literally stop If you have to close your laptop if you have to I tend to my thing these days is I put the phone Screen down. I don't want to see if a notification comes up Right. I put that aside and orient to your physical being so literally like feel Where you're being supported by the chair Feel the contact of your body Feel the floor if your feet aren't on the floor Get your feet on the floor Feel yourself being supported that way. So really get into your body Start to feel literally the the physical sensation of breathing Different than thinking about breathing or doing a breathing exercise Just notice how breath is happening in your body in this moment and literally feel it's also where I find really nice I don't think people can see but if you put one hand on your chest and one hand on your abdomen There's a lot of people's breathing is very tight and shallow and we don't Expand and express and inhale and exhale so to really feel that and then another good thing to do is look around and Like get out of your head and connect with I mean Like so many people I have you know, I have stones and I have little statues and I have things around me I have a window a beautiful, you know Green woods outside of my window Stop and literally like take in what's around you really You know sometimes when things are in your environment, you don't even see them anymore And then also, you know, what are you smelling? You know, is there still a hint of coffee in your mug or your tea or whatever? Um, you know something from the last meal that you cooked or for me. I put on an essential oil before we spoke so so really Anything where you just kind of stop and tune into your senses Is a really great kind of instant come back to yourself self-care tool now It's beautiful and so simple it's Simple things really work if you do though, right? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Oh, yeah um So You have um, you have several offerings in your business and I'd love to start talking about that Um, you work one to one with clients. Yes And then you also have a group program. Um, let's start with your one to one What kind of what kind of work do you do one to one with clients? Well one to one is Right now. I'm calling it I was looking for a very simple short elegant, um title, but uh, somebody that Is an ideal client for me resonated with the you know, make your inner wisdom your most reliable ally And it's interesting because you know, there's a Saying that you know, there's a resonance like, you know, what you've worked on in yourself is usually what you Can most help people with and I was like ding ding ding ding ding that was really Also, that's been, you know, one of my biggest areas of growth and focus and learning relearning um And so that's a 12 week program and that could take you know from three to four months depending on if we meet every week or You know, sometimes as you're working with people It's nice to spread things out a little bit more as people are starting to really chew on What they've been learning and experiencing Um, so that is my one on one work. Um, I'm not doing any groups myself at the moment But I am doing a group with my friend and colleague. Sue Carney called reclaim resilience and um, that's set to launch Next week and um, that's really going to be a great group experience of Again learning how to trust our own In our knowing our own inner resilience and how to build that more so that we can more easily access it when You know, we all have times when if we just you can't even connect to What you know you need or what you know is true And so it helps to have tools and techniques and pathways And those are the things that we'll be doing in that program Yeah, it's wonderful. And so if uh, those of you watching this if you're if you're curious about either Option of working with Sharon. Please do contact her. She's very approachable. And I'll be sure to put Your website of course Sharon in the notes of the video. It's www.heartofselfcare.com And you're also on facebook I am Yeah, i'm on facebook I do a lot on facebook and uh, yeah, it's you know, my email is Sharon at heart of selfcare.com and I really You know, no pressure. I love just connecting with people and helping them if I'm not the person But there's a resource that I am aware of that would be Of support to you right now then I would be happy to share that so I really do love connecting with people That's whoever whoever thought that my my five year old just like la la la going around, you know being so friendly with with everybody I encounter would be You know one of my strengths as an adult, but it's it's true I have that just this natural way of I make friends everywhere I go And it's a it's a blessing and so, you know, I like to bring that into To how I encounter, you know anybody who might even be a potential client. Yes, absolutely Yeah, wow. Thank you Sharon so much. Um, is there anything you want to say as we end? Is there another another self-care idea or tip you want to share as we complete this uh this interview? Um I think you know For me along with that stopping pausing Connecting to all your senses also, I mean it's again as simple as it sounds When you're having a really hard time and you're struggling and you're saying not nice things to yourself When you catch yourself Really to just put your hands on your heart and go, oh Oh, you're really having a rough day Like it's okay. It's okay, sweetheart. You're having a rough day and to just acknowledge that because we're not often Gentle and kind with ourselves and when things aren't going right or we forget something, you know We just kind of say nasty things to ourselves. So I think anytime you can catch yourself And offer yourself the same kindness and compassion that you would to your friend if she said, oh, I'm so stupid I can't believe like wait Don't say that about yourself like, okay. Don't say that about yourself Shift, you know shift your self-talk a little bit Yeah, that's great. That's what a great reminder. Thank you Yeah, thanks George Yeah, thanks for doing this and those watching if you've resonated with Sharon's energy and wisdom reach out to her, you know and Consider working with her in her one-on-one or in her upcoming group program. So Thanks, Sharon. Yeah Thanks, George