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She's got a bench, and we're gonna interview her before a bench because she's competing at USAPL Nationals. I don't know when this video's gonna come out. Probably in time. If you're there, say what's up. We're gonna be there, kicking it. And we'll just, we'll get some cues in between her bench set. Get asked, why my name's Tyler Mike? I was telling you off camera, it's because, like, I had gym intimidation in a way, it's where, how are the things like cool now? And a lot of people do it. Guys, girls, big, small, left, right? But back in the day, it was just big motherfuckers. So I came in and talked to nobody. For like six months, I didn't say a word. And that's where a nickname came from. So I was already at the gym, this gym, back in the day, like, probably like six months. And one time I have a little social anxiety too, but parts of the intimidation, I think I was the first one here one day and like all the gates were closed and shit. And I was just like in my head, like almost begging for a reason not to go. And so I already drove half an hour to get here. I come and the gates are all closed. And in my head, I'm like, okay, I'll just go home. Yeah, I guess I can't work out today. Yeah, cause we didn't have keys or nothing. And yeah, it was kind of like a, yeah, kind of like a darn gonna go back to my commercial gym where I'm the strongest, baddest motherfucker that's ever walked through. And I ended up staying, I did like a circle around the block and I'm like, all right, dude. Yeah, I was like, I want to get better. I want to become a better coach. I kind of have to be here to do this thing. Don't stop being a little scaredy cat. But so many people, especially ladies, for some reason, I mean not for some reason, for a very valid reason. Over the years, they are funneled to the cardio section. Right, like why are light dumbbells pink? I don't want to get on my social justice high hat right now, but why are light dumbbells pink? They're not blue. I mean, and that's a whole another discussion why things are pink and blue. We don't want to go that deep into sociology, but that's already telling you like, yeah, you're not made for this one. Like this barbell isn't for you. Go grab some dumbbells. Yeah, every lady's in the cardio section. They're scared even a commercial gym, not scared but intimidated or fear the judgment or fear. First off, do you have any ideas of maybe why that is or what things that you maybe felt? Like why is the freeway so uncomfortable? I mean, I know some guys are just douchebags and we're douchebags inside and outside of the gym. But then what helps you maybe go to the freeway section and then from the freeway section start to power lift and then not only start to power lift but be in like a legitimate power lifting, strength and conditioning gym. Well, for me, when I started going to the gym, I went to 24 hour and I worked out with a friend of mine and he's a guy. So I just did whatever he did. So I actually, he introduced me to the barbell movement and I just did anything he did. So it was more comfortable, I guess, because I wasn't in there alone. Did you play sports or anything? I played volleyball. So this was after like my senior year of high school volleyball season ended. I was like, I need to do something. And so I go to the gym with him and from there, I liked seeing how much stronger I could get. So I wasn't too intimidated by the other people there. I don't know, I just think about it. But I think right now what helps me or if I think back to it, why I would be intimidated around other, like if there was a bench available, it's like, oh, no, you go ahead and take it. Like, I'll wait. Like I don't need it as much as you do type of thing. But now it's different, obviously. Because you're the strongest one in the gym? Is that what you're trying to tell them? That you're the strongest person at Third Street? Which is true, but yeah. I think it's the confidence and the knowledge. So maybe what I see is like with my clients and their personal trainer, my clients are afraid to do it on their own because they're not sure about their form. They're not very knowledgeable yet on what they're doing. So that's why I go through exercises with them and have them do it on their own, make sure they come in by themselves to do those same exercises that we've done together. Cause like, she's not here, but I know how to do this, we did it together. So like with that, you kind of build this mindset of like, I know what I'm doing, I know I need to grab these weights and I know exactly how to do a lot of arrays. Like I could be in this area, you know? I think that's really smart. Cause I think intimidation like here, there is like this muchacho, muchissimo vibe. Which when you, if you go to a real powerlifting meet, it's not really like that. Like a lot of people more like Zenny. Everyone is a little excited. Yeah, yeah. Cause everyone's a little intimidated. There's always going to be someone stronger. There's literally always someone stronger in you. And once you start to compete, you realize that it almost like humbles you in a positive manner rather than intimidating manner. But I think you're right, having a plan. And I've heard a lot of people tell me that too. Ladies like, well, I just don't know what to do. Hey guys, I don't know what to do. Like where do I go? What do I, but that's the case with anything. Like I'm not, I'm not a software engineer. So if you're like, Hey Mike, you got to go to Intel and sitting this software meeting. I'm going to be intimidated as fuck. Cause I like, I don't know what to do. Yeah. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to explain things. I don't know what's going on. So like education's good. That's why I've always been a fan. And obviously it's hard. Some people don't have the money, but a personal trainer is great. But there's YouTube. Going in with the program, even if you wrote your own, you make a list so that you, when you're walking to the weights area, you know what you're going to do with the dumbbells. Instead of like kind of wandering like, uh, how about this machine? How do you use it? It's like, well, I know what's next. Like, okay, squats first. And then after that, we'll get in split squats. That's over there. I need to grab these weights. So like, it's less guesswork. And you're more confident just walking to each section, grabbing each weight, like, you know, cause you wrote it down already, like before you even went to. So you can do, you can write it yourself, you know? You don't have to like- They can be push-ups and crunches. You don't have to be crazy. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But knowledge and like, builds the confidence, I think. I think so too. Yeah. Cause if you, if you get into a routine and it's kind of like anything, like, the more you do it, the more confident you're going to be. Cause you understand what you're doing. You're more comfortable in it. And despite what everyone tells you, you don't have to do different exercises every single time, right? You know, there's no muscle confusion. There's not all this weird stuff. So like just doing a squat three times a week is awesome. You can do that for the rest of your life and get stronger and get fitter and get more confident. What are your best lifts? Cause we got to give you some street cred for the kids. What are the, what are the PRs? I just hit one actually. I squatted 315 for the first time. Well actually, and then I squatted 320 after that. 320 squat. Some room left in the tank. What's your best bench? 192. Best deadlift? 402. What'd you hit last week? I hit it in January, then I hit it again on Saturday. Now you want to talk about goals for the meat or not? Is that secret? No, goals for the meat. I actually already hit it during training. Yeah. So what, those are going to be, you think those will be like second attempts then? I think, okay, I already surpassed my bench PR or meat PR or goal. And then I surpassed my squat. So deadlifts, I want to hit 420 or 419. 420. I'm going to bench 69 in squat, 420. Oh, that's the one I haven't hit yet, actually. But two weeks, dab on them. No, you're going to smash. And the squat is going to be there. Hopefully we get to film. I don't know if we're allowed to. Do you know those rules? I have no idea. Just do it until I tell you not to. Ask for forgiveness, not, what's that saying? Don't ask permission, ask forgiveness. You never heard that? That's like what the little rebels say. Yeah, that's what bad kids say. Yeah, I always ask permission. Yeah, the YouTube, I always ask permission first. Yeah, right. So I'm kind of a scaredy cat as well.