 So how do you tell people that you're not drinking who are encouraging you to just have one go on just have one You've decided not to drink alcohol you go into a party and then people are noticing that you're drinking water or soda water And they're saying to you go on just have one or what's going on? Are you not drinking at the moment? I'm James Swannick from the alcohol freedom formula There's some free resources down below click on those to get started on your alcohol freedom journey It's the classic social peer pressure scenario, isn't it where you've made this healthy decision to be alcohol-free and now everyone's questioning you about it It's normal society is so indoctrinated with this idea that alcohol is normal and fun and pleasurable which is a nonsense And they're on you the whole time in fact alcohol is like this the only drug out there where if you Aren't drinking they think that you have a problem You have a problem must have a problem with alcohol it's like heroin everyone's like all the problems heroin cocaine all the problems cocaine But it's like drinking if you're not drinking it's like oh, you're the problem. It's like oh, he's got a drinking problem It's kind of crazy the way that society has set this up. So how do you respond? What are some things that you can do? Well in my experience it doesn't so much matter What you say in response to someone encouraging you to have a drink As it is is the way that you respond to them. Okay, so if you say oh, no, I'm not drinking at the moment No, I can't know people are gonna go. Oh, you're not drinking at the moment. Oh gee Hmm must have a problem or go on you'll be okay. You haven't drunk in like two weeks. Just have one come on But it's my birthday. It's my celebration. It's the anniversary. Come on. Let's go Some variation of that right now if you're like going oh, no, I can't I shouldn't drink. I have to quit. I'm like Then you are telling yourself that you're depriving yourself of something fun and pleasurable by not drinking And you're also telling your social group your friends your peers whoever's at the party That you're also depriving yourself of fun and excitement and joy And so now they think that you're a buzzkill, right? But if you decline the drink and you do it in a way that shows that you are powerful and confident and happy and Joyful while drinking your soda water ice and a piece of lime or your water or whatever it is. It's non-alcoholic Then they can't pressure you into anything. They have a good time. You have a good time And we go along our merry way. So for example, if they say to you Well, why aren't you drinking at the moment instead of you saying oh gee so Need to take a break. You just say oh, yeah, I'm just uh alcohol-free at the moment Actually, I'm just doing running a little experiment Seeing how I feel so far. It's been good. I'm just uh drinking water tonight Go on just have one. It's my birthday. It's like no, no, I'm good But watch me dance from the tables tonight. I'm gonna swing from the rafters I'm gonna like drink you under the table. I tell you what you drink your beer and I'll drink my soda water And we'll see who's still standing Ha ha ha ha ha. So you see how the way that you're doing it is light and fun and playful You're doing it with a smile on your face. You're not doing it like oh, no, I can't drink at the moment It's like oh, no, I'm not drinking at the moment. You might say oh, no, I'm not drinking at the moment But you go right ahead. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Give me a water ice and a piece of lime. I'm good When they say go on just have one. I say just have one. No, I want 10 Soda waters and a piece of lime And you make a little joke about it. You're like, I want to have one. I'm too strong in mind. I'm too strong in mind See how you're a little you're a little bit cheeky about it. You're a bit playful about it Now they see you feeling confident about the fact that you are not drinking And they let it go and if they don't let it go, it's not this heavy dark kind of thing You're not being the buzzkill. You're not being the killjoy. You're just being you fun and happy And confidently drinking your water ice and a piece of lime And you know what if the truth is is that you did drink too much and you did make some stupid mistakes Then make fun of yourself. You say, oh, I pushed it too hard. Oh, I've made this dumb mistake I did this stupid thing. I'm actually just on the waters and I'm actually realizing I quite like it It's actually good. I'm feeling hydrated. I'm good and I got energy I'm gonna dance you under the table my friend tonight Well, you're passing out on the corner. I'm gonna be rocking and rolling And so you just make fun of it make fun of yourself Make light of the situation and Don't hide the fact that you're not drinking In fact, you want people to know that you're not drinking As long as you are letting them know in a way where you are confidence and powerful and fun And you're not coming from an energy of I'm depriving myself of something or that I'm the only one who can't have fun at the party So when someone is like saying to you go on just have one say make it a hundred waters Or Yeah, I'll have one. I'll have a soda water ice and a piece of lime. Thanks. Yeah. No, I'm not tricking at the moment Actually, I'm taking a break. Yeah, I've been going like three months now. I actually feel pretty good Key distinction here though. Don't make someone else feel bad for Drinking so don't get on your high horse or preachy and start like judging people because They're drinking and you're not all right Just own yourself own your own situation. Be light be fun Be easy be confident smile No one will be able to make you feel bad Go ahead post a comment down below Like this video share it And let me know what you think what other tips have you got for having a good time Socializing with friends who are encouraging you to have a drink What are some key phrases that you have said so people trying to get you to drink? I want to hear from you post a comment down below