 Welcome to today's episode of the mindset mentor podcast. I am your host Rob dial if you have not yet done So hit that subscribe button that you never miss another podcast episode And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a favor Give us a rating and review the more positive rating views that we get the more that they actually show this the platforms show This podcast people have never listened to it before So if you want to help us grow and you want to help us impact more lives Just give us a rating and review. I would greatly appreciate it today I'm gonna be talking about where you're going. I'm gonna be talking about How to turn your life around no matter where you are? I don't care where you're like in fact if I'm being like fully transparent I don't really care where your life is right now whether it is amazing or whether it's complete shit. It doesn't really matter What I'm more worried about and what I care more about is where you're going like what? Direction your life is heading in because you could have like a Terrible past you could have not the best circumstances right now But if you are heading in the right direction You will eventually get where you're trying to go and we're gonna talk about that day We're gonna talk about where you're going But most importantly how to actually get there and I'm gonna talk about this first the first thing I want to say is that we live in a world I think it's getting harder and harder and harder to be patient It's really hard to be patient nowadays and the reason why is because we expect everything to happen right away Like if I have any question in the entire world, I can just literally Google it Hey, how fast is the speed of light and immediately I know exactly how fast the speed of light is When I was a kid that wasn't an option like we would have to go to the library I'd have to ride my bicycle to the library and hope that when I got there the right encyclopedia was there And if it wasn't I would never know how fast the speed of light is now It's like I have a question. I have an answer. I have a question I have an answer if I want something I go in on Amazon There's a lot of times I can get it delivered today if I want so I want to get to some place And I don't want to drive I can literally hire a taxi basically and have an uber or a lift arrive at my house within the next Like five minutes if I'm hungry. I don't even have to get my ass off the couch I can literally just order some food and get food delivered to my house and not have to go anywhere If I don't want to go into the grocery store because I never ever want to go in any grocery stores I just have my groceries delivered to me and that's just set up that way like every morning I just wake up and the food delivery is already there It's wild and so we're we're actually starting to train ourselves to want things immediately I think this is why so many people are sad that they don't have the success They want because they think they're gonna work for four days and they're gonna have the success They want like how ridiculous is that to think you know what I'm gonna work for four days And then I'm gonna have a million-dollar business like it doesn't work that way There are some things that that the convenience of Google the convenience of Amazon uber Are just not going to be able to help us with like I'm I can't just go on Amazon and just get in Overnight shipping a million-dollar business. It doesn't happen that way Great things take time to build the body that you want You can't just walk into the gym and think that you're gonna leave the gym with a six pack Doesn't work that way like there are things that just take time It's like going. Oh, she's pregnant. Could we hurry this up? Can we get it done in the next three months? No, you can't you've got to wait for great things take time Creating a baby takes time creating a six pack takes time creating a million-dollar business takes time But we're starting to be trained more and more and more to expect things immediately And that's just not the way that the world really actually works That's the way that the internet has provided us the convenience for a lot of things But don't don't Misconstru convenience for the way that the entire world works. You know if you think about like a 100 years ago if you wanted some strawberries a hundred years ago, you would have to go buy the seeds Hopefully whatever grocery store you went to or whatever place it was had the seeds. Let's say not even 100 years ago Let's say 300 years ago. You wanted strawberries just because we're probably grocery stores a hundred years ago Let's say 300 years ago. You wanted strawberries You'd have to go and see if you could find strawberry seeds You would have to wait for the right time of year to plant your strawberry seeds You would have to plant your strawberry seeds. You would have to water them You'd have to take care of them for a few months You'd have to make sure they get the right amount of sun and Hopefully in these few months that you're trying to grow these strawberries I mean you've been waiting like six months for the right time of year. You've planted them It's been a couple months for them to start growing Hopefully another animal doesn't come and eat them before you do like right before they start to ripen Now I can literally sit on my couch have a craving for strawberries Go on my iPhone or to them and some dude named Travis who's a student at the local university Will deliver him to my front door and my big ass doesn't even have to get off the couch, right? I guess it's pretty crazy if you think about it. So it used to take a long time like Going and getting strawberry seeds Getting the strawberries to grow waiting for the right time of year all of which took months and months and months Now it's just like I get them delivered to the door and I'm like mmm that was that took to oh my gosh These aren't as ripe as I wanted them to be like and we could complain about the fact that we literally like magic just happened I just got strawberries delivered to my door and that's what I wanted It didn't used to be that way But we've been indoctrinated to believe that everything happens this way and we've been indoctrinated To have instant gratification We can't have instant gratification for everything because that's not the way that way that that most things work birthing a child Like I said imagine a husband going up and be like hey honey like I would like to go Can we like speed this process up if we could just like I know the baby's supposed to take nine months to be ready But like do you think maybe you could try to speed it up when you're done in three So we could take a vacation by the end of the year you'd be like this guy must be insane Why isn't any different with a business why isn't any different with the fitness that you want? Why isn't any different with the relationship all of these things? Take time and today. I'm going to talk to you about why the direction that you're heading in is Way more important than the speed that you're going at because everybody wants speed Immediately right we see these people that are like 27 years old like this random Completely out of the ordinary kid builds an app and becomes a billionaire in like six months. That's not normal Right, that's just not normal. Is it happened? Sure could happen us maybe but I don't have an idea That's that good so so many people get an idea for a business They start the business. Maybe they do a little bit of research They put in some work in three months later They're pissed off that they're not doing a million dollars a month yet And they're just like this must not have been the right business or maybe I'm just not that good of a business person I'll just go back to my nine to five No, that's just not how business works, you know It usually just doesn't blow up like that do some companies like the unicorn companies Sure, but it takes time like if I look at my business, right? If I would have given up in three three months, I would have never grown my business It took me three and a half years for my business to first hit its first million dollars, right? What if I would have given up in the beginning? Because I was like it must not be right. Yeah, I must not I must not be good enough I'm not smart enough. It's like it. I constantly the the older that I get The more the Tony Robbins phrase people underestimate what they could do in a year They they overestimate what they can do in a year, but they underestimate what they can do in a decade So let me say that again people over estimate what they can do in a year But they underestimate they could do in a decade They think that things are going to happen quicker than they're supposed to But when you look at the next 10 years, it's usually a lot bigger than you actually thought it could be Like now my business were seven and a half years into it and I like I really get that phrase I really get that phrase now Did I want to run a million-dollar business when I first started it? Sure, but just like the strawberries it takes time to grow There's mistakes that need to be had there's things that have to happen in this world There's knowledge that I have to get into my brain There's things that I have to fuck up really bad in order to not do that again Like there's things I have to learn and everybody wants like I keep using the business example Everybody wants a successful business But if you look at like a lot of people look at like the first person pops in my head is Andy forcella, right? Andy forcella runs a hundred million dollar a year company right now But if you listen to a story he barely broke even for the first two years and him and his brother slept in their Warehouse because they couldn't afford rent Right. Everybody sees a hundred million dollar your business are like I want that I want that Very few people are willing to work Barely break even and also sleep inside of the warehouse for two years But they have to put in the work They have to put in all of the ground work and all of the hard work in order for it to become like you've got to have For him in his case in the way that his company matured He had to have those two years of sleeping in the warehouse in order to build a hundred million dollar your business So it really comes down to like how bad do you want it if people overestimate they could do in a year? But they underestimate they could do in a decade. Are you willing to go this business? I'm starting today. I'm gonna put 10 years into it Are you that's the mindset that you have to have like we were talking today my team and I were the executives on the team We were talking about something we were working on I said, I'm not Focusing on this year. I'm focusing on what we're gonna be doing in 10 years And that's the actual vision that I'm trying to work off of I'm not gonna make little tiny decisions of like Oh, we can make money here and we can do this. It's like no Where are we going? What where do I want to be in 10 years? What's the direction that we're heading and I want to take actions that are in line with that And so it comes back to how bad do you really want it like you have to realize it's going to take time Slow and steady wins the race. So many people are the hair nowadays. I Just want to be the tortoise like I'm just gonna slow and steady when the race I so love tortoise the hair when I was a kid So I think it's just ingrained into me of like slow and steady wins the race slow and steady Like I will just I made up my mind years ago. I will just outlast everybody That's just what I'm okay with doing. All right, could I go and try to speed things up? Maybe Is he gonna work out the way I want to maybe maybe not but I'm cool with slow and steady wins the race I'm just focusing on the direction that I'm heading and if I'm heading in the right direction No matter how fast I'm going eventually I'm going to get there and if you just don't stop you can't fail Like what's crazy is that so many people are afraid of failing Like they start a business and then they become afraid of failing at that business So they close the business down and I'm like wait So you are afraid of failing so you failed faster like that doesn't make any sense in my head You are afraid of failing. So what you did was you took all of the wrong actions so that or and shut it down So that you would then fail faster. So this thing that you're afraid of you created quicker Now if you just don't give up That's impossible to fail at something if you just continue to build the business You will eventually have a successful business. Could the business suck for two three four years? It could could it take off your seven It could it take off month seven. It could I don't know how long the universe has decided that it's going to take for you To get XYZ whatever it is, but as long as you're heading in the right direction, you will eventually get there so we talk about Time and how long things how long things can take That's why I don't really care about the speed that you're going right So let's talk about where you are going because that's the most important part of everything because if you're heading the right direction And you don't stop Eventually you're going to get there like I just it just makes sense like if if I live in Miami and I decide that I'm gonna just start walking north on I-95 Eventually, I'm gonna end up in Jacksonville. It's just the way it goes Could I get there faster? Sure. Can I take a bike? Could I take a car? Can I take a plane? Yeah, but sometimes bike car and plane don't exist when you're building a business when you're building a great relationship When you're raising great children, sometimes these things just take time to mature And it's kind of like God and the universe has its own time that things will happen I've just got to make sure that myself I'm taking the right action and I'm heading in the right direction because if you think about it Like I said if you if you just are heading in the right direction, you just don't stop eventually you're gonna get there So where are you going in your life? Do you know? Do you know where you want your life to be like a lot of times I'll sit down with people and I'll say so What do you want in life? They're like, oh well You know, I don't want I don't want this and I don't want this and I do this and I'm like whoa Whoa, I didn't ask what you don't want I want to know what you want and they're like, okay What do I want? Well, I do want this and I do want this and And I don't want this and I don't want this and I don't want this and I'm like, hold on How do we get back on to what you don't want? I don't give a damn about what you don't want I want to know what you want So many people are just not clear on exactly what it is that they want in life and then they get pissed off They don't get it. It's like It's in the Bible, I think right asking you shall receive Are you just asking for what you want? Like are you very clear on what it is that you want and asking for it and working towards and heading in the Right direction every single day. So like what are your goals for the next year? What are your goals for the next five years for the next ten years? Like have you sat down with a pen and paper and actually written down what it is that you want? What do I want? What do I want to be? Who do I want to be? What what do I want the people in my life to look like? How do I want to serve what the what do want the people in my life to be? Who do I want to be surrounded by? How much money do I want to make? What do I want to live? Who do I want to marry? Do I want kids? How many kids? What do I want my kids to be like? Do I want to treat my family and you start getting really clear on what it is that you're trying to create and you get really clear And after you get really clear on where you're going Then what you need to do is you need to make a plan of how to actually get there like with pen and paper Not in your own freakin head the amount of people to try to plan out their lives and figure out They want in their heads is is crazy. It doesn't make any sense. Only 3% of people write down their goals 97% of people either don't set goals or they don't write them down How are you gonna plan out your entire life and what you want without writing it down? Do you have a plan? Where you want to go? The exam I was love to give to give this example, right? So the immediate thing that pops in my head is this, you know, let's say we're in Miami again and We have decided to charter a boat and this boat is going to take us over to the Bahamas, right? And you can go from Miami to the Bahamas. It's not too long of a ride. It's like a couple hours Let's say we you know sun's coming up. It's a beautiful day. We're walking out to all of the boats And we asked the captain. Hey, where are we going? And he's like, oh, we're going in That that direction over there and you're like what what direction? He's like, oh that that direction over and he's kind of moving his finger around. We're moving in that direction. Okay How long is it gonna take? Oh, it should take between like It should take like a couple hours a few out maybe two to three hours. You're like, okay What are the seas like? He's like, oh, actually, I don't I don't I don't know I haven't checked the seas today. So you don't know what the weather's like. No, I'm not really sure what the seas are like I don't know what the weather's like And you're like, okay, would you feel confident? Hopping into a boat with a captain going from Florida Miami over to the Bahamas if he doesn't know where he's going He doesn't know like how long about it might take He doesn't know what the seas are looking like the weather's looking like any of that stuff Would you actually have that guy take you across? Hell, no You wouldn't because you probably cap size and end up on the the bottom side of that boat when it's flipped over and hope that The Coast Guard comes and gets you right? It's wild and so would you feel more confident if you sat down you said with the captain? Hey, where are you going? He's like, oh, we're gonna be heading that direction east and a couple degrees off to the side So we're basically going this direction cool Helen's gonna take about an hour and 15 minutes if we're heading at 30 knots. Okay, cool What's the weather look like? Oh, man, it's perfect weather. It's gonna be perfect weather You might as well just crack open a beer seas are real small. There's no rain. Nothing like that. It's gonna be a great ride over What's on you want to listen to I'd be like, yeah, that's the captain I'd rather go with right like that's it's funny because you can see that But how many of you living your life listening to my voice around or living your life like the very first example of the captain It's like we're just gonna go Somewhere that direction. How's it gonna take? I don't know. What's the seas look like? I don't know like no direction Just going with whatever life throws at you just going with the winds and going with the tides Right like you have to know where you want to go You have to know where you're going you have to know what it's gonna take to get there And then after this after you figure out where you want to go and you've created a plan you make check-ins with yourself You make a daily check-in and you make a weekly check-in and all I care about is that today you're making the right I don't give a damn about tomorrow tomorrow does not matter at all to me and it shouldn't matter to you What I care about today is did I take one step in the right direction? Right tomorrow all I care about is did I take the next step in the right direction if I'm walking from Miami to Jacksonville and I go one step at a time as long as I'm taking the right steps And I'm taking the steps in the first place, but I'm taking the right steps in the right direction Eventually I'm gonna get there And you have to realize you will mess up you're gonna screw up all the time as I like to tell everybody that joins My programs like we teach coaches how to grow coaching businesses, right? What I say is the first month just fuck it up and figure it out. Just be okay with fucking everything up, right? It's not about being perfect. It's about getting more tally marks in the win category than the loss category You know, are you gonna wake up every single morning on time? No, are you gonna hit the snooze button sometimes? Yes, but are you waking up earlier more than you're not waking up? That's the matters are you heading in the right direction because your direction is so much more important than your speed And if you can remind yourself of that and to remind yourself to keep heading in the right direction Eventually you'll get to where you're trying to go So that's what I got for you for today's episode if you love this episode Please share it on the Instagram stories and tag me at Rob dial junior R. O B D I a L J R And I'm gonna leave the same way leave you every single episode make it your mission to make someone else's day better I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day