 my beloved mothers and sisters in islam i indeed every one of us is gifted by Allah ﷻ in one way or another and sometimes in fact in many ways but we don't realize the gifts of Allah ﷻ because human nature is such that we concentrate on those things that we don't have this is what happens to mankind اسے عمیل will ہمارے میں آئے گا جو وقت مہارے آپ کے ولی کرے گا ہوتا ہے یہ کوئی مررہ ہوتا ہے ہے جو آپ کو ایسا لیئے کورکوی ہوتا ہے but that should not be the case when it comes to a believing سبحانہ و تعالے کی plants ہے کہمتا ہے کہ ہیں گفتوں نے ان کے کی تقل کو سکتے ہیں کہ ہم آپ کے کی اطبیہ میکنیں کیا کہا ہے آپ کو سکتے ہیں کہ ہم آپ کو ایک اور ایک اور ایک کی تقل کو سکتے ہیں گے میں ایک اور ایک اور ایک ہم ہے رہنے کی تقل کی اُن ساتھ بھی لگا سکتا ہوں کہ ہم آپ کو کے لیے آپ ہوں گا ہوں گے جمہلتسکالونا يوم ایذِن عانِن اندیت پھر پھر آپ جو سوچتے ہیں کہ اللہ نے سب سے جانتے ہیں کسی جو سوچتے ہیں لہذا آپ کو سوچتے ہیں کہ وہ دنوں کو سوچتے ہیں آپ کے لئے جو کسی جانتے ہیں آپ کے لئے جانتے ہیں اللہ سبحانہ�무immune'dا پر با أن کی دوapanت اور خص like بدائن economical جو جیسے قمب ورحماد ملے کے دررہatter within something like اکسی طرح انخبارہ آپ کو Baba سبحانہ Falls کہتے ہیں کہ آپ کو آپ جو آپ کے لکن this اگر آپ کو thermalłem آپ کو پیار ہے اللہ سبحانہmat adviser اُس پر معاق dominates bestowed ا Otto مجھے ہی کہا ہے کہ ، وَفِي آنفُسِكُمْ اَفَلَاتُ بَرْصِرُونْ اور دیکھا جب میں آپ کو بلد سیارت میں رہا ہے ، اگر آپ مرکہ ملے ہی نہیں ہے؟ میں ایک دوہم اور بیرے میں آپ کو بہل سے بھی بھی رہا ہوں۔ ہمیارے کے دوننا ہی نہیں ہے؟ امانیہوں کے لئے آپ کے دونوں کو ملے نہیں ہے ، مجھے اللہ خوشا جو سکتے ہیں ، گرمان ، خوشا ، کےدھار ، ہمارے گا ، face ، جو درمان ہے ، لیکن آپ سوچ کیا ہمارے بوشتیں گیا ہے۔ لوگ اللہ نے ایک بہت حطمہ دیا ہے ، اس آپ کی نیرد ہے. لیکن آپ جب ان کی کوشتہ ہیںا ہے۔ سبحان اللہ ، لوگ کیا آپ نے ایک بہت حطمہ دیا ہے ، تمسانا بہت ہی بہت پر کسی کیوں کے چھفت ہیں۔ کبھی لوگ کے لئے کھااں پر پر مرمازا کرے گے۔Now one might ask I'm supposed to be speaking about daughters, where am I heading? To be honest, the gifts of Allah are such that when a person is married and I'm going to start at that point and I will probably end at that point, so we will close the entire circle. When a person gets married, one of the things that he or she looks forward to after the honeymoon is to have children and one of the biggest tests of Allah is the following and before I say it let me tell you when you understand that Allah has chosen for you a specific package of tests that is uniquely yours not anyone else's he knows that he issues sabr and patients according to the package that he's given you to you you can never be burdened with something beyond what you can cope with because Allah has promised that he will give out to you the amount of sabr and patients that you actually need for your package that he already knows about so don't say I can't cope yes it gets to a level where perhaps you might want to do something about it you know people think that when we speak about marriage you need to stay in an oppressive marriage because Allah says he won't burden you with something that you cannot cope with that doesn't mean you need to remain in an oppressive marriage all it means is when it gets to beyond a certain point you can choose another way out that Allah has allowed you to that's what it means you can so let's not misinterpret what is being said but what I mean is when there are things you have no control over at all there is no way Allah will open your door of sabr according to your problem according to your issue you lose a loved one for example or the main issue that I wanted to start with is and I said one of the biggest problems one of the biggest tests that Allah tests a couple with is when they do not have offspring they don't have offspring that is your paradise that is your جنہ اللہ says hang on I know exactly why I am not giving you offspring you might not know I know why I'm not giving you and I'm telling you this is the biggest test for you and if you were to bear sabr I want to let you know that I will be with you my help is with you and at the same time for you is جنہ انما يوفص صبرون اجرہ بغیر حساب indeed Allah compensates those who have engaged in any form of sabr unlimited reward in an unlimited manner Allah gives you so much so my mothers and sisters if from amongst you there will definitely be people who don't have children and you desperately want those children and yes it is correct Allah will keep you there for as long as he wills and he may grant you a miracle according to what you perceive is a miracle and if you don't get what you perceive is a miracle you need to know that what he has done for you is always a miracle you need to know this when Allah doesn't give you what you want you need to know he's always done whatever he wanted that was the miracle for you you may not understand it I know of people who've had children after a long long time and then they lost their children to a motor vehicle accident and I remember being told I wish I didn't have these children in the first place when you didn't have them you continued to cry about it well there is no harm you are supposed to become closer to Allah when he tests you with not giving you what you want think about what I've just said if Allah has not given you what you want one of the reasons is he wants you to draw closer to him by calling out to him alone that's what it is if every one of us had whatever we wanted I think a lot of us would not even be reaching out calling out to Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ I think we would be dilly-dallying in our acts of worship but when you have a problem it's a medical issue it's a social issue it's a financial issue whatever issue it may be you start calling out to Allah your heart becomes softened it should become softened and this is why I say and I'm repeating if you don't have children thank Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ upon the many things that you do have and continue asking I'm not saying sit back and say look I'm not going to ask I'm not going to do anything I don't want to seek perhaps medical advice I don't want to see if there's anything wrong I don't want and I'm just going to sit because I'm a مؤمنہ and I've been told that you just need to be happy with the decree of Allah that is a warped understanding of تقدیر of predestiny warped Allah says do whatever is in your capacity to achieve what is beneficial for you according to you احرص على ما ينفعك make sure that you go the extra mile to do that which you believe is beneficial for you then استعین بالله ولا تعجز seek the help of Allah and don't be lazy and then when something happens to you the حدیث says وَاِنْ اَصَابَكَ شَیْئِ لَا تَقُلْ لَوْ اَنْمِ فَعَلْتُ كَانَ كَذَا وَكَذَا فَئِنَّ لَوْ تَفْتَحُ بابَ الشیطان when something finally does happen this way or that way don't ever go back to blame the term if if I did this had I done this this would have happened if I did this that would have happened don't say that because the if opens the door of the devil that's what it means you did it and that's it I tried my best I continued making dua but I am happy upon what Allah has chosen for me that's something that I need to understand so those who don't have children may Allah bless you with children those who don't have offspring may Allah bless you with offspring then Mashallah we are blessed Mashallah and what happens 5 years later 8 years later 10 years later I know of a case 18 years later Mashallah when people almost lost hope and Allah says hey I'm going to give you something and suddenly you're expecting and suddenly you have a child and suddenly it's a boy or it's a girl and Mashallah we are so excited life changes and everything becomes so exciting that's the gift of Allah سبحانہ و تعالى isn't it at the same time my mothers and sisters there is another way Allah tests and what is that by giving you another child so how is that a test of the same gender so now there's a new problem what's the problem I have a child but that child is the same gender as the previous one so people are not happy Allah says in the Quran amazingly that he creates as he wishes للہِ ملكُ السماواتِ والأرضِ يخلقُ ما يشاہِ يہب لمن يشاہُ اناثا و يہب لمن يشاہُ الذکور او يزوجهم ذکرانا و اناثا و يجعل من يشاہُ عقیما اللہ to him belongs everything on earth and in heaven for him is the ownership of what is in the skies and on earth he creates as he wishes he gives whosoever he wishes only females and he gives whosoever he wishes only males and he gives whosoever he wishes both male and female and for some whom he desires not to give offspring he will give neither male nor female that's Allah that's his plan so you have one child you are happy you have another child if it's the same gender you are sad that's what happens that is the test of Allah do not be sad I want to inform you of a major sin a major sin is to become upset at the gender of the child that you have been bestowed with especially if it is a female why especially if it is a female because that is expressly mentioned in the Qur'an the Khufar at the time of the Prophet ﷺ just the pre islamic era those Khufar they had a major issue what was the issue they only wanted males I think this is creeping in to society today again and it has been rearing its ugly head now and again people only want males female in some countries they will abort the moment they find out it's a female because they become upset and for this reason many verses have been revealed take a look at Surat Kuwirat where Allah ﷻ speaks of how those who used to bury their daughters alive there was a pagan habit that as soon as a child was born at that time there was no ultrasound to figure it out otherwise they would have dealt with it earlier as soon as they figured out or they saw the child is born female the father would take the child dig a pit bury the child alive forget about it and carry on what happens to the child I'm not bothered I don't want a female that's how bad it was and when Muhammad ﷺ was sent he made it clear that daughters are special very clear he made it very clear that if you get upset when you are informed of the fact that Allah ﷻ bestowed you with a gift of a child being a female then you've engaged in a major sin just by becoming upset so be careful اللہ says when the girl child who was buried alive will be asked on that day of judgment why what was the sin for which you were killed who will have to reply those who killed her this is a beautiful teaching one might say how does it apply to us we don't kill our children while Allah ﷻ speaks about something even more interesting regarding the kuffar when one of them was informed of a female child he would hide his head in fact he would become upset his face would become blackened and he would become angry when he was informed of a female child he would hide from community and from people because of the evil news that he got so from this we learn that if you are a believer male or female you will not consider it evil news it's a blessing every man out there who is successful in one way or another who has been blessed by Allah ﷻ in one way or another has come to the earth through a female سبحان اللہ has been looked after and nurtured by a female the same female that we are speaking about here that those people used to get upset when they were informed you have a female child imagine if all of the females were eradicated to begin with I wouldn't be talking here but at the same time it would create disaster Allah ﷻ alone knows why he does what he does so be happy when you have been told you know what you've only got females so in order to put an end to this pagan belief so many rules and regulations came into play one of them was the manifestation of the mercy of Allah ﷻ when you've been given the gift of a daughter why is she so special let me tell you she was downtrodden at one stage she was looked down upon in the pre-islamic era she was made to perform nude in the presence of those who had wealth this was at the time of the pre-islamic age she was treated like a commodity to be bought and sold life was imposed on her in terms of decision where you get married and what you do it wasn't even necessarily marriage it was abuse at times so what islam did is it came in and governed and started saying amazingly and uniquely you shall not treat your girl child like this starting from the news that she is a girl child you need to be happy thank Allah you have granted us baraka in our home you have granted us blessing in our home that's the girl child what a big blessing she will come with her own sustenance she has come with her own destiny and on top of that she has come as a means of entry into paradise for those who take care of her she has come as a means of entry to paradise for those who take care of her so islam says it is prohibited to make a woman parade nude for the men prohibited let her cover herself so that she is respected she is not judged based on whether she has thick hair or sparse hair or for example maybe receding hairline she is not judged because of that she is not judged because she weighs 40 kilos or 60 she is not judged because she is tall or short she is not judged by the fact that she might be dark in complexion or fair she is not judged by the fact that she may have not been for example of the size of feet that someone decided was ideal I was shocked to know that in some cultures if you have a certain size of foot they don't want to marry you too big law have you heard that cannot marry cannot may Allah forgive us it is a reality islam says this is pagan you cannot do that you judge her by her dedication to Allah and we will get to this in a few moments and when I say you judge her by her dedication to Allah meaning when you want to get married or for example there is reason I'd like to know how this person is you know people say don't judge me yes we understand I also believe we shouldn't be judging people with the wrong judgements for the wrong reasons unnecessarily but we're allowed to guide and advise aren't we so let's not hide behind the statement don't judge me in order to run away from advice that we know but at the same time here we're talking about something else we're talking about a totally different type of a judgement when you get married it is your right to have looked at the person you want to marry to have perhaps spoken to them that is also your right you may choose to do that you may choose to want to know that you're making a right decision nobody can take that away from you they cannot just decide to say you know what that's it you're not going to see him when you get married you're going to see him some cultures to this day happen to do that and they call it Islam and we are here to clarify that that is not Islam you are allowed to meet you are allowed to have a say you can say no I don't want I'm not happy I don't feel comfortable and you know what yes you do have that final say Subhanallah so when Rasool Allahﷺ made it clear that you will not inherit a female because she's a human being she used to be inherited a man dies and suddenly those whom he owes money they come and say okay where's the money no money okay I'll take this one and I'll take that woman how can you say that she's not a commodity prohibited what greatness in teaching amazing so she will only be judged based on her dedication to Allah her service to humanity and humanity is known as you know you have Allah and Al-Ibad they talk of حقوق اللہ which means the rights of Allah and حقوق اللہ the rights of fellow worshippers the rest of humanity for example so those who dedicatedly fulfill the rights of fellow worshippers they have actually fulfilled their duty unto Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ I remember speaking about fulfilling the rights of worshippers and I said we need to serve humanity and someone actually got up and told me we only serve Allah we don't serve Allah we don't serve humanity I said think about it when Allah has asked you to serve humanity you are actually yes serving Allah but through the service of the rest of mankind we are not saying worship mankind no there is a difference we are saying serve the creatures of Allah there is a very big difference between the two worship is only for Allah we agree no act of worship shall be rendered to any but Allah but when it comes to the rest of mankind the rest of the creatures of Allah there are certain rules, regulations certain requirements Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ wants you to fulfill the rights of everything part of your test fulfill the rights so Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ prohibited the burial of this girl her maltreatment on top of that there was something amazing that happened instead of only prohibiting that a woman be inherited herself Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ dictated that she will be given from the estate of her deceased relatives if they are close enough such as a father or a son and so on she will be given the men might have asked what does she need that for she is taken care of all her needs are taken care of because truly according to the Islamic rulings a female is definitely special a daughter is so special she is not supposed to be worrying about her food clothing and accommodation it is supposed to be taken care of by rights I know one might argue that all the world has changed and things have become so difficult and so on still it is the right of the males from an Islamic perspective it is still the right of the male yes if you want to help you want to work because you know life is tough we want to live on a higher level than we actually may if I don't work it happens sometimes your husband might be able to afford your father might be able to afford your brother who may be looking after you may be able to afford but his affordability may be on a level perhaps do better and you might want to actually raise so what would have to happen maybe if you've chosen to work within a decent environment that would not be in the displeasure of Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ no harm you've actually now brought in an income in order to be over and above the minimum that was due to you the standard of living sometimes people are not satisfied they say no I can do better you know it reminds me of so much in terms of technology we follow it such that we are not satisfied with what we have which was the latest last year but is no longer the latest this year so you got your cash you may go ahead don't become a slave of technology don't because why it will actually make you waste a lot of your money and it will make you waste a lot of your energy emotions and it makes you feel so sad yet you have something so beautiful may Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ help us however a female should have been looked after and still should be looked after regarding her basic necessities but at the same time what we do need to know is Allah says we will give her a share just for herself and I remember mentioning this and because we are speaking about how special daughters are I want to say something very important when it comes to the laws of inheritance those who don't know Islam from among the non muslims and from among the ignorant muslims they pick on the fact that women seemingly get less than men when it comes to inheritance don't they say that they say look take a look at this Islam says a male will get double the portion of a female wow so they say that's very unfair well I can explain it to you from a very simple perspective today that in actual fact even though in figures it might seem that the male has got more in reality the female got more you might say how don't try and pull cotton wool over our eyes no I'm not I'll explain to you a male responsibility extends well beyond himself female has a responsibility even her own upkeep it's the responsibility of a close male the closest male and Allah knows that sometimes when that male happens to be a little bit further he may not fulfill those rights so he says the further the male the bigger your share amazing so if you have a relative for example you have a father who passed away and he left behind say for example 75 million ring gates let's make it a bit interesting 75 million ring gates and you are there your brother is there and that's it the chances of your brother looking after you are quite big especially if you've been brought up together in a decent home so Allah has dictated that your brother gets 50 million and you get 25 million and here everybody gets up and say that's unfair hang on hang on hang on that 50 million is not exclusively for him but the 25 million is exclusively yours that's how special daughters are 25 million exclusively yours what do you do with it well it's just exclusively yours for over and above the duty so what happens with the 50 million you just male relative to you guess what he owes you food clothing accommodation and basic necessities such as medicine and so on he needs to look after you with what within his 50 million and on top of that he has his own wife to look after and on top of that he has his own daughters and children to look after and on top of that he may be having so many other responsibilities so if you divide the 50 million into the 10 people that he has to look after it's an average 5 million each you are sitting with 25 million and guess what you've just got another 5 simple logic the problem people are blaming Islam because some of the males are running away from that responsibility that's the reason so don't blame Islam it's a perfect system the problem is we've stopped following it in the way we are supposed to a mu'min and a mu'mina a true believing male or female should be such that when they believe and they claim to believe they surrender to what Allah says وَمَا کَانَ لِمُؤْمِنِ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَتٍ اِذَا قَضَ اللَّہُ وَرَسُونُوْ عَمْرًا اَنْ اَنْ يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَّرَتُ مِنْ اَمْرِهِمْ سورة الأحزاب Allah says it is not for a believing male or female that when Allah or his messenger have decided they feel they have a choice in that regard true believing males and females feel we don't have a choice in this regard come time for salah I don't have a choice I must fulfill dress in a specific way I don't have a choice I must fulfill come to worshipping Allah alone I don't have a choice I must fulfill abstaining from something prohibited I don't have a choice I must abstain so look at how a female gets more I can let you in on something even greater if you are only one female you are the only daughter for example and the rest of the relatives happen to be distant like you might have an uncle the deceased man has brothers and sisters and he has you as a daughter guess what Allah dictates in the Quran that you give her half of the wealth wow half of it must go to her herself even if her mother is alive meaning even if the wife of that man who passed on is alive let's wear it that way the daughter will get half fifty percent why because now the male relatives are a little bit more distant the chances of them dilly dallying become a little bit greater so Allah says don't worry it's still his duty but in case he doesn't you can go ahead this is an amount that will cover you by the will of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and on top of that if you were two girls just two daughters guess what you go away with two thirds sixty six point sixty six percent of that wealth that is the biggest share in inheritance it goes to the females the biggest share nowhere does it say a male will get sixty six percent never it's only for females why because daughters are special that's the reason so special that Allah has dedicated an entire surah in the Quran Suratun Nisa have you ever seen a surah Suratul Rijal Surah of the men there is a whole chapter known as the females the women there is no chapter known as the men and in there Allah speaks of the treatment of women and how you have to be even more patient with them and how you have to be kind you have to consider that their emotions are slightly different you have to make sure that you have taken care of them in a beautiful way because they are special Suratun Nisa starts off by making mention of a child who doesn't even have a father to defend her Suratun Nisa starts off by making mention of Aliyatama those who are orphans those who don't even have a father to defend them and Allah says be careful do not usurp the wealth of the orphans وَلَا تَأْکُلُوا اَمْ وَالَهُمْ إِلَا اَمْ وَالِكُمْandyatama don't eat their wealth don't mix their wealth with yours give them their due it is theirs don't cheat the women out of their share in inheritance daughters are special if a father passes on and he may have left some property some business sometimes you find the women don't really know what was going on you find male relatives coming in saying you're father had this and this and they have a huge building in the centre of KL they come to you and say that building 1 ملیون رینگیٹس چیز اور آپ بھی ہے اور آپ یہاں کیا ایسا آپ کو کہ تک 100 ملیون hindsight ہوتی ہے آپ کو کیا کرتے ہیں آپ کو پہنچ پہنچ نہیں ہیں کیوں کہ آپ کو سالہ چیز کو آپ کو پہنچ نہیں کریں لہذا آپ کو بہت کچھ ڈھوی میں سب کھوڑا کرنا چاہی ہیں اور اس کو ایگڈرنت کیوبہ نہیں ہے آپ کیاہی مالیوں کو بہت کار کار کریں آپ کو بہت کریں آپ灵رورہ کریں آپ جو آپ کو انہتر ایٹروٹ کریں آپ کو انہترار کریں آپUIانہ کے لئے آپ کو Kesھوٹ انہوں سے مجھے بہت ہی ہے کہ آپ کو پردائیس پردائیس ساتھ جائے ہیں۔ When Allah completes the verses of inheritance and how it is supposed to be split. You know what he says. He says whoever is going to fulfill these rules correctly for them will be paradise. These are the limits of Allah. And whomsoever is going to usurp and whomsoever is going to cheat for them, what is more befitting than to be cast into hellfire. Allah سبحانہ واتعالہ سبحانہ واتعالہ سورت دیتے ہیں. لیکن یہ اللہ سبحانہ واتعالہ سے دیتا ہے کہ بہتر سوانہ سوانہ ہے. اگر ہم آپ کو پردائیس پردائیس ساتھ جائے گا if we go beyond the issue of inheritance and I've explained it to you in a nutshell. Let's go to the issue of the dress code and dwell on it for a few moments. بنیچ نہیں تھے ہیں ، ہم міٹا ہے کہ حالت My areippin نشہ نہیںiful رہے ہیں ، قوی امتعت مثال posterior سرچہ بجاندتے ہیں آقاطسار کے انفیر ا کاملوں کی بارntے کے اللہ کسں بیٹی سے De게 горم مzego سار چیتے ہیں آقادکتے ہیں کہ ہے جس کے لئے اللہ کو ہم کو致سرکے جانتے ہیںnova کے arrangement جو آپ کے لئے اللہ کو حلس ماہی اور سمجھ کی اختلاف ہے تو جس اگرates یہ ایسا چیزows کم آپ کو کسیل کے لئے گناتا ہے۔ تکہا پییے کسیلی کی طرف جانتے ہو۔ لہذا اللہ کہا کہیتا ہے کہ انہوں کے لئے سیسی ہونے، آپ کو ہمارا ہم کہتے ہیں۔ انہوں بھی کسیل کو ایسی لئے گناتا ہے۔ انہوں کو وہ دقا لیں۔ یہاں یہتا ہے کہ آپ کو بہت سوچ دیتا ہے کہ انہوں نےھی دیکھئی بہت ساتھ پر دیکھا کہ جس کے پر پறنکز The Islamist case پر گل کرتا ہے کہ وہاں آئیائے۔ لہذا میں آپ اس سے مھر پر ناکر آتا ہوں۔ ہمارے ہمارے ساتھ حضرہ ترزییات پر آجہ ہے۔ یہ بہت مجھے کہتا ہے کہ ہمارا مجھے جائے جانتے ہیں، انہوں کو اپریسی بہت ہوتا ہوں۔ ہمارے اپریسی بہت مجھے جانتے ہیں۔ انہوں نے اپرہ جانتے ہیں۔ یہاں یہاں ہے۔ ہمارے پر دلوں کے دنے سے مجھے تمام آج دیکھے تھے۔ ہمارے پر کبھی انگی کو بھی سارات اپنے اوپر آیا ہے۔ ہمارے پخورییہ جو کہتے ہیں کہ ہمارے بچے ہوتے ہیں ، ہمارے بچے جانتے ہیں ، یہاں سوچ نہیں کرنا چاہتے ہیں۔ انہوں نے کہتے ہیں ہمارے بچے کیا جب آپ کو ساقیہ کرنے کا ساقیہ کریں۔ ہم اپنے بچے بچا کرنا چاہتے ہیں۔ اس بہت بہت محویت کرنا چاہتے ہیں اور اس بہت بہت اگر سے مویوز ایس بنات مطمئی ہے از مجھسی چاہتے ہیں اسی طرح ہی تیار کیاا ہے اسی طرح ہی بھی رہنے کیا ہے آجانبہ ہے لکن ان کھوزتا کرتے ہیں۔ لیکن ایک آپ کا کھوزتا کرتے ہیں پھر سینا ہے ، ہے جانتا ہے کہ ایک ایک ایک اس پر بیرین کی ف polygon دردیت کے ساتھ مطلب کی ہوجا ہے کہ ہمارے حالے مجھے اشتراف دیتے ہیں کرنے کی جلوان길 جارہے ہیں اور وہ ایک آفریکر کلاتا تھا عامتہوں سے بھی ساتھ ان گرینل שא�ہمی کلونیرزت کیا کہتے ہیں ہمیں geçنے میں پرچنا ہمارے پرکر ساتھ ملورت ہمارے دفعہ لیکن ہمارے پرچنا ہمارے پرچنا ہمارے کلونیرزت کی انگرینل سے بھی تلیشت ہوں تاریخ جانا جاتا ہے کہ آپ جو آپ کو بیٹیوٹ ہےا ہے ، یہ مبین بیٹیوٹ ہے ، یہ بیٹیوٹ ہے ، بیٹیوٹ ہے ، آپ کو بیٹیوٹ ہے ، یہ بیٹیوٹ داتا ہے۔ آپ کا اینکا کہتے ہیں ، اللہ سبحانہ و know۔تا رہتا ہے ، افضل ہمیں دونا ہے ، وہ بیٹیوٹ داتا ہیں اور وہ آپ کو بیٹیوٹ کے وجہ کے كامنا ، اور وہ بے بیٹیوٹے کے پاس سے بھی مرور گولتا ہے ، اور اسیز کا اس کے مجھے گئے اور وہ جامعہ سب حالت کو کھولا تھا جس جو مجھے لیکن سب ہانا اللہ لیکن حنیا رہا جاتا ہے اور now the same African is saying why we were liberated you took away our liberation because according to you now you have changed everything and you are now going back to where we were by saying you go back and put on the skin and put سrigتزاک تھا ۔ اور همیں اور پیشیں اس experienced어요 ، اورSen چاہتا ہے ، مجھے ، کرے گا گا ۔ و میںخر roots ہی ہے مجھے لیتا ہے ، اللہ یہ آنے پیدا ہے۔ اور� tech ا Kommانس ہوتے ہیں دو جانتا ہے سر پی درتے ہو właściwie برئتے ہے جانتے ہیں اور اس کال لاہئ کر الوجام اور اس کے مجھے بڑائےی چیز کسی کسی چیز کو بڑے گ ہیں۔ کسی چیزacherہ کسی چیزیٹان ہے۔ آپ کی طرف آج میں ہاتھ نہیں جائیں۔ بری اس کے مرِس کہتے ہیں ، نہیں ہی آپ نہیںں، اس کیا ہے۔ آپ کو combo ا Bare اوی مجھے بڑی اوی مجھے دوٹنہ دلی اور مجھے بڑی کرسکتے ہیں۔ بہت اگر بہت بات گا مجھے بوک جورت ہے کہ کہ پر کام نہیں بہتا ہے اپنے سمجھ کے توجہ وہیں لیکن کوخص گیا کہ حانکوش تھی喌دکا ہونے بہت کیا آپ کو بہت کلے مجھے بہت محالکہ اس بھانن슬ا آپ بھی بری کیا کہ حانکوش تھی یہ ہی جو ایسانی کلبر اللہ ہم بیپر بیپر بیپر byب پر بیپر تھی آنچناتی شرطت ہے کہ آپ کو جب یہ اور ہمارا ہوا جزیادہ آنچناتی Shrit ڈر کیونکہ اسی سيند بننے لیکن اس سے کچھ جو اس کے میندہ آنچناتی ہے۔ سبحان اللہ اس کے روحانہ حالت ہے جب اگر اللہ کم کھنے کیا جاتے ہیں ہمہاما کہ آپ کیوں آپ کو دیا جب اللہ پہنے میں نہیں جاتے ہیں کہ وہ دے نہیں ہے کہ آپ اللہ سبحان اللہ کے روحانہ حوا ت 말씀드�یے گا لیکن آپ کے واقعے کے ذکر سے سب refrigerator اور آپ کسہ اپنے ساتھ بہت کیا ہے ۔ آپ سیکھا چاہتے ہیں۔ آپ کو اللہ لئے مجھے بہت کuanے کو نکنے کرتا ہے한데 جو کسی ہوتا ہے۔ ولو اگر آپ جو کسی لوگ ہے جو کا حک cyclکر ہے ایک تبررجت ہے جو مجھے کسی تو ہی ایک ساتھ پہنچا ہے ، آپ جیسے انگیشی دیتے ہیں۔ آپ سب تصویف تاندتے ہیں انگیشی۔ تبررجت آپ کو تبررجژے کیا کہ contacting ڈو آتا ہے کہ وہ کسی کیا ہے تباررجڈی ان کیوں ہمارے آپ جو ہمارے آپ کو جانو کریں کیوں گی آپ کیوں کھو اللہ مجھے کنترم ہرسائے کا اطام لیکن اور كم بھی بھی آئetے сообщی کے لئے اللہ بہت перевیض سبحانہ وٹعالہ اور ہمارے آپ کو ہمارے اپنے مبا ک تو في ایک طرح میں کے لئے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے ہمارے اپنے مبا ک چاہیے ہمارے میں آپ کو دوسر شخص چاہیے منمش کرنا چاہیے کسی ہے کہہاں اور جہاں زیادہ چاہتا ہے کہ آپ سے جہاں سکتے ہیں لہذا آپ جو آپ جاة ہوجائیں گے بہت پر آپ کو اپنا اپنے ا practitioners ڈاکرنزوں کو بہت آپ جوتا ہے آپ کا سبہ کسہ بھی سےوم سے کون بھی ہے کیوں کہ ہموں کا دور کرتا ہے لہذا کیوں کہ وہہوں کے حکم اللہ کو بڑایا تھا ہے جو بھی اجازت نہیں ہے اور جھرا جو puntos ڈاکرنزوں کو بہت دلگہ کھولا ہے اس لئے اگر آپ جیسے کنے میں بہت کروبزار کرتے ہیں تو آپی بہت کرویا کو کھولا ہے شخص میں بھی بہتار ہے۔ کیوں کہ آپ بہت کوئی واقعہ لی Soup مجھا ہائی مجھے لنگیں لازم جائے کہ ہم میں زیادہ نہیں ہوئے یہ μεہا ہونیگا ہے مجھے مجھے کھول ہوتا ہے Loos ہی ہم جانتے ہیں لہذا جلہ کھولنجوں کو ہновائی جاوڈانا جاوڈانا جاوڈانا جاوڈانا جاوڈانا جاوڈانا۔ ہمارے سے من پروان پر تراماہوںuchsام گوکر ارانت کی مواخرک رہا ہے اور ایک خصصک کرتا ہے بہت کرتا ہے تو جو مرشد ہے اللہ ہی انہوں کو بہت بہت نہیں ہے انہوں کے ایک ساتھ پر ہر مرشد کرتا ہے اور مسیح کے جو بہت بہت بہت سب لے ہیں ایسا کہ میں چھا比較 نہیں ہے تو انہوں کو diagrams کے لئے ہمارے کو بھی نہیں ہو گہا ہوں جانتا ہے لہذا ہمانا گا جوjąج دیں گا ایک فرمت کیا ہے انہوں کو اللہ کی ایک بہت مارے کے لئے ہے امریکت ہے ہے کہ کہ ہم کیا نہیں ہے اور اسے شریف کو لامن کریں جانا ہے اور پاس اور اس جانتے ہیں لیئے پلاسٹک سلجوری لگ جب انہوں میں لگ سہنہ اور اس جانتے ہیں لہذا پہلے بہت بات لگتا ہے جس کے لئے بہت بہت کچھ ہی ہوا ہے ماشاء اللہ ، بہت کھان ہوتے ہیں ، بہت پہلے بہت بہت ہوتی ہے لہذا سوائے بہت جانتے ہیں لہذا چیزہ جانتے ہیں لہذا ہوسا ہوتی ہے finish of feeling کی تعلق تیار ہے انڈیلی مالی چنینطرین کی نظری کر دذیر دینے کے لمان کی ایک نظر ایک ملی صادر میں لیکن ہوں گوچائے دے کہ انہوں جانتا ہے کہ آپ کو خیلی سے ہوتا ہے آپ کو سوچر بھی جو جانتا آپ کو کبھی کھوڈ کیا ہے فکر کچھ سائے اینا لیکن آپ کو کے لوں سے مثل کریں آپ کو ایک لئے سوچر کلی کے لئے اور زیادہ آپ کو کہتا ہے لیکن 你ہھہ윈ہ آپ کے پاس پہنچ پہلے وہ یہ ہے ، کہ مالی کرنا کی being  گیی کو بتا جاتے ہیں ، تو ایک طرف جانتے ہیں۔ جو کجر پہلے گے ، آپ کا دیکھیں گے ہیں۔ یہ مجھے عشتہ نہیں ہے کیوں؟ آس to ب پی انگزار آپ دو anyہ کیونکہ اسلام نے یہ موزی ہے کہ آپ کو Anyہ کے مقاومت سے مجھے اللہ بہر نہیں ہے۔ ہوں کہ یہ اسی زمان کیوں پر آس to شہر ہے جسار کا عسیلہ ہے انہوں کی بہت منانہ اینے اور قادم سالتے ہیں نقطت سے بہت بہت جسارہ سے کہ اللہ سے ہمارا ہوں ، لہذا میرے حضہ my daughters you are too special to be bothered about things that Allah has chosen for you that having been said i'm not saying just let yourself go no you know people might say okay someone your husband might say you gained 20 kilos in the last two weeks well ever since that straight path talk i'm not worried anymore that's not what i'm trying to say yes you need to be fit you might want to for example you know people have asked me is it wrong to go to the gym to be honest let's change the question is it wrong to keep fit no it's not you have to where you do it how you do it what environment you do bear in mind you're a muslima that's all simple i'm not saying don't have your work out every day half an hour one hour mashallah you can work out you can do whatever subhanAllah but where and how and when you do it remember you're a mu'mina you're a believing female you need to consider the fact that would if i were to die here and now would Allah be pleased with me question very simple this is the speciality this is what Allah has made you special by now let's get to some beautiful narrations where the prophet ﷺ once was faced in fact let me start off with a hadith of aisha رضی الله عنها where she says i was seated and a woman came in with two girls two little daughters and she begged she came to ask for something and i didn't have much besides a date or two and i gave her two dates and she didn't eat any from it she gave one date to one of the children and the other to the other and she went away and when the prophet ﷺ came i told him about it and he said anyone who has been blessed with such girls and looks after them and feeds them for them will be paradise سبحان اللہ why because daughters are special let's go to another حدیث حدیث of عقبہ ابن عامر رضی الله عنہ narrated in سنان ابن ماجہ and even in مسند المام احمد the prophet ﷺ spoke about girls and he says whoever has three daughters whoever has three daughters and looks after them takes care of them bears patience regarding them wow when i read that in the حدیث some time back i used to think what is it bearing patience regarding them صبرہ you know bearing patience regarding them firstly means and to be honest i've got quite a few daughters masha Allah myself حمد اللہ so it means to be happy at the fact that you have the daughters number one you get جنہ for that number two to look after them knowing that they don't belong to you they will be married off to someone one day who will have a greater right over them than you number three to bring them up to endure to spend on them to feed them to look after them to be able to nurture them to try and give them some guidance to show them the light and so on and that will happen together with their mother if the mother is there and you should participate in that a lot of the men they think oh you educate a man you've educated a man you educate a woman you've educated the whole there you are صبحان اللہ so they tell you well it's a woman's job it's not it's it belongs to both of you mother and father equally responsible one might have more time perhaps sometimes both of them don't have that much you have to make the time those are your children your responsibility you have to make the time that's what it is so to educate them to be able to give them good guidance to be able to be a role model for them it is wrong for us to think that i have my daughters and i have my children and here we are let me just go and give them some form of education and i have not participated in their life i want my child to read salah but i don't read salah i want my child to dress appropriately but i don't i want my child to read the quran melodiously but i haven't made an effort no allah has kept it such that from the child from the age of infancy that child will mimic and imitate you whatever you do you try and read quran the child will try and eat quran how many little children read the recite the quran without being able to actually read because they've heard but with us it's all about songs and it's all about everything else and it's all about you know the dance floor and what have you that's what's happening i'm not saying it's wrong perhaps i'm not saying it's wrong to sing a decent nashid or something that has a good meaning to it and so on within the limits of allah subhanahu وatala no but how can you substitute the quran with something that's the thing you have the quran it's right in front of you you need to understand so these girls are going to grow up and you're going to be spending on them it is wrong for you when the child is getting married like some of the cultures do they draw up a list okay you need to pay pay for what this was the amount we paid at the hospital when your wife was born this was the your fiance this wallahi this is some of the cultures i'm not i'm not actually joking this is happening and then they say this is the amount of school fees we paid this is the hospital fee when she was sick so many times this is what we took her on holiday x amount of times this is what we spent on her wallahi they give you a list and they tell you right you need to pay 65 000 and you know what we will give you 10 years or 15 years or 20 years you continue paying your entire life that's not a commodity what genre do you want in return you you are getting cash wallahi these are cultures i've witnessed it in afrika as well and even in other places there are different cultures even more weird you'll be surprised when islam says you honor a female daughters are special look after them they will result in your entry into jannah because you nurtured her you spent on her and you have the big heart to give her away for the right reasons you don't give her away solely because it's the son of your friend you don't give her away solely because oh i wanted to do this and that that's a big businessman if my daughter's married there oh it's going to be good you make sure you concentrate on the dean on the religion the achlaq don't make a mistake your child will be depressed in a wealthy home and i'm not saying all wealthy homes are bad from amongst us there may be people who are wealthy but at the same time what we need to know اللہ سبحانہ و تعالی has kept certain rulings and one of them is when you want to marry you need to be on a similar level of dean if you're not it won't go further you won't if you are married to someone if you are married to someone who doesn't have a similar understanding of the dean as yours it's going to be a very turbulent path remember that this is why the حدیث says be that a dean you want to marry become victorious by concentrating on the point of dean the faith of the person how serious are they regarding their link with their maker that's what you need to look at but at the same time my mothers and sisters when a man looks after or nurtures his daughters and gets them married and has born the patience he he swallows you know they say he bites the bullet so to speak he swallows the pill of letting her leave the home yet she was most loved to him and go to someone else in a way that now she starts her own life and he allows her to have a say in who she's going to get married to amazing that's something important he allows her people think in islam she doesn't have a say wallahi that is worse than the pagan times because we've come so far how on earth could we be such that we say no this daughter doesn't have a say she does have a say she can refuse that's what she does have she can say i don't want and she can ask you see she can suggest things and if you don't have reason to refuse you should not you're not allowed to actually you have no reason and if you do without reason she can divert that guardianship from you to someone else and continue with the marriage may Allah forgive us we become so so narrow minded in this regard at times what jannah what paradise do you want through your daughters if you haven't even looked after them you haven't participated in their lives you haven't even got them married to whom they wanted to marry obviously unless you had solid grounds من اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ قرant as the ability to strike a balance i'm not giving a green light to children to say just defy your parents no but it needs to be from the beginning a decent understanding we need to know what is required of you what is it that your parents require from you and what is required of you as parents so this is when you earn jannah when you've taken good care of them i told you i started off with marriage and here i'm coming to the end the issue of marriage as well daughters are so special that when a male marries a female he is reminded constantly that who you have married is the special child of someone dear to someone so we tell the husbands that when you look at your wife don't just look at her as your wife that's not the only title she has she had a title before that which was more dear and more valuable what was it she is the daughter of so and so she also has her own family that loves her and respects her so do not disrespect her do not abuse her like they say don't make her cry you know when my wife cries i always tell her i'm supposed to i'm not supposed to allow you to cry she says i cry out of joy mashaAllah okay that's good that's a good sign so if you're crying out of joy and happiness alhamdulillah but if you're crying out of you know sadness you're stuck there's no way forward والله اللہ has heard the cry of a wife and a daughter if you take a look at سورت المجادلہ named after a woman who came through in order to present her case to محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم where the husband became disinterested in her listen to this and i inshaAllah i will end on this note i tell you very interestingly there was a woman known as خولہ بنتی ثعلبہ رضی اللہ عنہا so what happened to her is she was married and mashaAllah you know a pretty beautiful woman next thing expecting she has a child and when you have a child what happens subhanallah people forget that you've now born children you've you've graduated into a new level of you know motherhood now and so on you will not be the same girl you used to be 20 years back things have to change perhaps you may change in so many ways you become wiser and perhaps you may even become a little bit heavier may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ قرانتس ایس she complained because her husband started losing interest or show disinterest he was not interested and he started saying whenever she was trying to get him get his attention he would say you're just like my mother man it's okay you know you're just like a mother to you're just like my sister and so on she went to Muhammadﷺ crying weeping complaining what do i do this man is saying this to me he he refuses to touch me and at the same time he is the one who impregnated me he gave me the children he is the one who did this this this when i married him i was in tip top shape and so on my mothers and sisters i just want to pause for a moment to tell you that that does not mean that when you have given birth you should just lose yourself no go back you will be able to retain a lot if you work on it may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ help us whether they are sit ups leg ups whatever you want to call them they work trust me they actually work dedicatedly so don't use a حدیث in order for you to throw yourself you know to the side no work on it you will feel good by the will of Allah like i said do it for the right reasons going back to this narration so as she's complaining do you know what happened the prophetﷺ obviously it's a difficult situation what do you say you need to convince the man versus were revealed قد اسمِع اللہ قول اللہ تی تجادلو کفی زوجِها و تشتکی إلى اللہ indeed اللہ has heard the argument of the woman who has come to you complaining to اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ اللہ has heard it and then he gives the response and it's a long set of verses where اللہ speaks of the punishment of those who say those type of statements and how special and important the woman is you don't just say these words so may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ help us to make the correct decisions in life may we be from amongst those who really worship اللہ and اللہ alone may we be from among those who are special not only in the words of the prophetﷺ and in the book of Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ but in reality we need to lead our lives in a way that we can be considered special even by those around us what's the point of just going out and saying i'm special i'm special what's so special about you that's what people might say to be honest live your life in such a beautiful way the way you talk the way you come across your dedication to the dean your fulfillment of your duties your worship of اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ your connection with the sunnah of Muhammadﷺ it will be such that سبحانہ اللہ your character will show your conduct will show in such a beautiful way people will consider you special they will miss you when you're not there they will want to be in your company that company needs to be free of gossip and backbiting and slander and bad words say good things about one another and insha Allah you will achieve a lot may Allah سبحانہ و تعالیٰ bless us all these are a few words that i have actually you know chosen to say but at the same time i hope to be back later with a different topic وصال اللہ وسلم و بارکہ علا نبین محمد سبحان اللہ محمده سبحانك اللہ