 Hello everyone, I am Narc Survivor, welcome to my YouTube channel. Please hit the thumbs up button down below to show your support. Hit subscribe and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a new video. And if you would like to bug a one-on-one coaching session with me, just go to my website, it is Narc Survivor.co.uk. Narcises have a void that can never be filled. Narcises are desperate for attention and validation. They constantly seek an acknowledgement of their strength and emotions from other people. They need constant support and encouragement because they're self-worth feeds from outside sources. The problem is that they have a void that can never be filled and this is what drives them because they're trying to avoid reflecting on their shame. So they're constantly chasing attention, chasing aberration in an attempt to fill this void. And it will be very obvious that they have a void because they will be constantly seeking something and it will always be from another person because they're hoping that they will be able to fill this void inside of them. And this is why they're so jealous. It's why they're so possessive and controlling because you're spending time with other people and they fear losing that validation which they want all for themselves. So they will try to control you in an attempt to fill that void because they want to be the centre of attention where your gaze is fixed upon them especially during their pivotal moments or performances and you're watching them and waiting to see what will happen or what they will do because they just can't get enough of it. They need you to pay attention to them and it's because they have this void, this feeling of emptiness, this unhappy and frightening feeling that nothing is worthwhile, a lack of meaning and purpose, a lack of connection, a sense of generalised boredom, social alienation and apathy, an inexplicable sadness, a depressed mood in which they don't like to do anything and it's much like a grumbling stomach when we are hungry but they have a hunger for meaning, self-control and completeness because they have an empty space inside so they need something to fill it so that they can feel whole because they feel worthless, they feel insufficient for a purpose as though they're unable to deal with a situation or with life. So they assume that if they do something then they will feel better and it may be quite surprising to hear this because narcissists are often so arrogant and audacious as though they're very useful, valuable and important as though they're worth their weight in gold but it's actually the opposite because they are very insecure, they are far more insecure than the average person, they may look confident and self assured but it's just a mask and that's why they do the things they do because deep down they hate themselves so they create this facade to prove they're not who they actually are underneath the mask because if they can get someone to give them attention and validation it must mean they're worth something so their worth depends on what other people think of them but until they can get the reaction they're looking for they will feel incomplete because they will feel like they're missing something but what they really want is for someone to be obsessed with them to where it's all about them because they assume that it will fill their void but it never does because no matter what anyone does it will never be enough but they don't know what else to do so they continue to seek attention validation and admiration because they're just looking for someone to fill this void but there is no person no drug and no amount of money that will ever make them feel better because they're disconnected from who they are they can't generate their own happiness from within so it's not sustainable they're just seeking short-term gratification which results in them feeling even more depleted until they find something else which just perpetuates the cycle but it's never enough and this is why they're never happy because they're not even grateful for what they have they're always looking for more because it's all about them they're seeking attention and admiration and they're looking for someone to adore them because they can't generate their self-worth from within so instead they're looking for other people to validate their weak sense of self which is why they have to manipulate and control other people to validate the illusion that they have created and if that doesn't work then they will become very critical to where they're expressing disapproving comments or judgments and they're becoming very entitled and demanding because they can't be satisfied which will take a toll on your health to where you feel like you're having a life sucked out of you and as though you're not enough when they just have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled they have a void so it really has nothing to do with you but it may feel like it does because they will blame and accuse you thank you for watching if you found this video helpful please give it a thumbs up share your thoughts in the comment section hit the subscribe button to receive the notifications if you would like to support the channel you can donate at paypal.me slash narcsurvivor you can book a one-on-one with me on my website it's narcsurvivor.co.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon