 If He takes away the whole of mirrors, you will not see yourself anymore, and you will not be able to love yourself anymore. So you need the whole of mirrors. You become addicted to the whole of mirrors. Every morning you enter the whole of mirrors, you see yourself here, and here, and here, and here. And you fall in love again, every morning. And He has the power to shut off the whole of mirrors, to take it away. He has total power over you. This is why loving analysis is an utterly immersive and addictive process. It's like some kind of virtual reality, but very high-level virtual reality, what we call immersive virtual reality, where we feel that we're inside the world, inside that virtual world. But none of it would have worked if the victim had self-love to start with. If the victim loved herself to start with, she wouldn't need the mirrors. The mirrors would not work. She would immediately identify that it's self-love and not real love, and she would walk away. Therefore, the victims of narcissists, I mean, when I say victims, I mean someone who fell in love, cannot fall out of love, is addicted, stalking, obsessed, this kind of victims. And the victims who have malignant optimism, the belief that if they only love the narcissist, if they only cure the narcissist, if they only convince him to go to therapy, if they only love him unconditionally, everything will be okay. They will fix the fixers, the ones who fix the narcissist, the total nonsensical delusion. But these type of victims, they never had self-love to start with. A relationship with a narcissist is their first experience at self-love, which is utterly addictive. At a late age, it's very addictive. So because they don't have this experience of self-love, they have an emptiness. Exactly like the narcissist is the emptiness. But they have n emptiness. They have a hole. It is through this hole that the narcissist enters. That's a penetration point. And it's not death hole. It's a metaphorical mental hole. Through this mental hole, the narcissist penetrates, intrudes, invades and colonizes. Colonizes, it's a parasite. Narcissus is a parasite. It's a parasite invades the body and colonizes it. But there must be a hole. A woman without a hole is not amenable to the narcissist. His charm is magic, but not work. She must have a hole. She must have a lack of self-love, lack of self-awareness. And she must allow the narcissist to be the agent of her own self-discovery. In this, ironically, a relationship with the narcissist is a form of therapy. Or even on psychotherapy. It's a form of therapy. Because it is through the narcissist that she becomes much more self-aware and develops self-love. Experiences self-love. The only problem is that she cannot continue with these very positive developments except through the agency of the narcissist. In other words, he becomes her pusher, her supplier. Without him, she cannot obtain the drug of self-love or continue as self-awareness. That's the only problem. Otherwise, I would have said that ironically, having a relationship with the narcissist is actually a positive thing. It forces you to become self-aware, forces you to love yourself and forces you to protect yourself, to defend yourself. Finally, to stand up for yourself just in order to survive. So normally, it's actually a positive therapeutic experience, but it creates addiction for the narcissist. And the narcissist being a parasite colonizes your brain, your mind, and then it's very difficult to be creative. These are the negative aspects of this. So the narcissist is a bed therapist. It's a therapist who abuses the patient. By the way, many narcissists openly would say, I'm going to heal you. I'm going to cure you. I'm like your doctor. I'm like your guru. Listen to me. I will teach you. I will lead you. They play the part of the teacher, the guru, the therapist, in order to penetrate. So this is modern life. What is it for you to dance macabre and how to dance? You usually mention in your videos that it's a dance macabre. How can we get out of this game and spread this cycle? My very good friend, Joanne Lechkar, who was the first psychologist to notice the resonance of pathologies between victim and narcissist. In 1983, she wrote the book The Narcissistic Borderline Couple, which was the first book ever on pathological resonance. She said that narcissists and their intimate partners or victims, their emptinesses resonate, their pathologies resonate. She said the rest of the dimensions of personality don't interact. Just the pathologies, just the pain, just the trauma, just the hurt, just the void, just the emptinesses. And the second edition of the book, it's a brilliant groundbreaking book. So she was the first to notice that. It's a huge problem. It's a very big problem. The rate of recidivism, in other words, the rate of going back to another narcissistic partner is extremely high among victims. Victims have been traumatized beyond words, lost all their money, ended up in jail, drug addiction, ruined lives, lost their children, and so on. Again, go to a narcissistic partner. Unstoppable. In this sense, the rate of recidivism among victims of narcissistic abuse from my anecdotal research. But it's much smaller. My database is huge. The rate of recidivism I can compare only to alcoholism. Even worse than drugs. As in drugs, we have about 60%. Alcohol, we have about 80% in the first year. So alcohol is the worst. To get rid of alcoholism is the worst addiction. Smashes, for example, to get rid of heroin and alcohol. And above alcohol are these toxic relationships. The victims of narcissists keep choosing narcissists. Because the experience of loving a narcissist, in other words, loving yourself, is incomparable. Nothing comes close to it. The world looks dead, black and white and hopeless and dreamless without it. It's interesting to love yourself erotically, sexually and romantically because it's not a typical self-love. It's not the healthy self-love. It's a healthy self-love. Where you have a core, you know yourself, and you parentify yourself. You act as your own parent. Yes, you give unconditional love, support, advice, guidance to yourself. That's a healthy self-love. The self-love that I'm talking about with a narcissist is very sick. It's much closer, I would say, to incest. It's making love to yourself, also sexually, also erotically. So it's an indescribable experience of being in love with yourself, not only in the healthy sense, but also in the totally sexualized, eroticized, fetishized sense. In other words, you become your own fetish. It's a form of fetishism. It is an experience the likes of which I am not aware of in any other human interaction. It's absolutely mind-boggling, mind-blowing experience. And once you have gone through it, it's very difficult to go back to the normal world. Very difficult. The normal world feels dead, simply. Narcissism somehow makes you feel alive. It's what is sex, or what is eroticism, what is it? It's a force of life, of course. It's a force of procreation. It's a force of making new life. You feel very alive when through the narcissist you love yourself in every possible way. So it's a wow experience. Where else can you find this? You try. You try very hard. You take normal guidance. There is this. So far.