 How to heal from anything get yourself a sick shark sweater. No, I'm just kidding. But like am I though? We're gonna talk about three steps on how to heal anything in your life. So step number one Awareness something you do or say or maybe a way that you react to something that isn't something that you want to do Okay, I've said it in many other videos, but you can't change something unless you know that you're doing it And then once you have that awareness, you want to ask yourself, why did I say that? Why did I react that way? Why is this instance or this person making me feel this way? And so what I want you to do is ask yourself that immediately and you'll be surprised at the answer that comes up Super quickly like super quickly. Okay, you don't want to sit there and ponder it It's going to come up immediately and the more that you do this and the more you ask yourself questions You'll get that answer. It is the first answer that comes to your mind And in my experience it literally happens as soon as I'm done asking the question But I do want to say if it doesn't come right away That's okay. Don't stress about it. The answer will come and sometimes it comes out of the blue You know a lot of times what happens with our brain is when we ask our brain a question Its job is to come up with an answer think about when you're talking with a friend or a family member or something You're trying to think of something and you just can't think of what it is and then like two days later You're just driving in the car or buying groceries and all of a sudden it just comes out of nowhere That's why it's because your brain was trying to rack itself to find the answer And it was doing that in the background even though you moved on from trying to figure out the answer to your question So just ask yourself a question take note of the thing that comes up immediately And if it doesn't don't worry about it. It will come no, but really like check this sweater out Is it so cool? I never wear this thing and I've had it for years. Okay. Anyway, let's move on to the next step Once you receive your answer and you want to explore that and what do I mean by that? I mean really sit with the answer that comes up, you know Maybe with the answer some type of scenario popped up in your head that had to do with an instance or a Situation or a conversation you may have had with someone it's coming up for a reason And this is truly where the real magic happens, you know a personal example of this would be I was dealing with a bit of a bit of body dysmorphia, and I was working with a coach about a year and a half two years ago on it and I realized a lot of it came back to just overall perfectionism like of myself and in my life and where she's She's asking me these questions. I'm trying to figure out the answers are and all of a sudden gymnastics pops into my head and I'm like, huh, that's interesting and then when I sat with it and I explore that answer I used to be a competitive gymnast when I was young. It was easy. Obviously. I'm a perfectionist from the time I was five years old I was trying to do everything possible to get a perfect 10 and anything that was less than a perfect 10 was Disappointing and so what that taught me in a very young age was that I had to be perfect in everything This answer didn't come to me. This exploration didn't come to me immediately I sat with it for some time and I kept asking myself why why why and it just and then all of a sudden I figured out I figured out the root of the issue sometimes when you ask yourself a question You know the answer doesn't come immediately and it comes later on and the key is is when it comes up If it's not immediate you want to explore it when it comes up because that is when your mind is super focused on it It is more susceptible to giving you deeper more clarifying answers and sometimes these things can come up when we're not even Trying to find an answer to something and so when that happens I want to encourage you to explore it then as well So recently I've gone on a few dates with this guy and a few nights ago We were at his house watching a movie around nine o'clock and while we were watching this movie his friend texted him asking him if he wanted to go get a drink Immediately, I caught myself almost saying you can go ahead if you want in my head It was like I don't want to be a bother I don't want to hold you back even though we had made these plans about a week prior and as I'm sitting there And he's you know texting his friend or whatever. I'm thinking wait what? Why would I say that and I started exploring it? How do I feel? What would make me say something like that and it came down to my tendency to people, please I'm not wanting to Be a bother to someone else, you know and going a little deeper into that It's putting myself last and the thing is is what I realized that has been a pattern in my life within all of my Relationships always putting myself as a lesser priority than the other person now I'm not saying you shouldn't prioritize your partner or the person that you're dating You know because you absolutely should but there is a balance within that and you shouldn't be consistently putting yourself Behind others and so I after how many relationships? I've been in my entire life. It took until this moment at 29 years old to catch myself in the moment before it happened and to explore Why I was going to say that and to offer that okay? And you just want to keep going deeper and deeper until you get to the root Sometimes you only have to ask yourself one time and you get the root answer Sometimes you got to go deeper and deeper and ask why and why? Multiple times until you get to the root and how do you know you're getting to the root? I promise you'll just know like you'll know there's nowhere else to go if you're interested in learning more about healing I suggest checking out this video next if you found value in this video, please don't forget to like and subscribe I'd love you guys so much and don't forget be limitlessly yourself