 That woman Would have gone on and on and she had once stopped to say thank you for your help I know you got a show to run on see that's that Only child Daddy can have a cookie daddy can have a cookie daddy can have a cookie daddy can have a cookie daddy can have a cookie daddy can Have a cookie daddy can she wouldn't have stopped and I need you guys to ask herself. I know what she looks like she's average And I'm not gonna put her up there, but I need you to ask when when she had average men in her life She always thought that she should have had different They weren't on her level Not ready to bring kids in too If you are an average woman and you and there's average guys out there Do you think average guys are gonna want to be subjected to that? Why is all this have import because? Women in the danger zone want above average Women in the danger zone tend to want a lot of average men and I will tell you guys over here the high value. No Not gonna put up with that and I go deal with that not at all Not at all not at all not at all, but no, I will tell you what Lady sends her she said I was rude See you what you get with a lot of these women's you don't have a lot of women who are used to having a guy speak to hear a man speak But if you listen to she's in that woman if you're a big head on that same show I Had a woman call into my show Who called in last week who I checked her on some stuff too and what did she call in last week say Kevin? I just got to tell you last week you told me I'm a feminist Call back into my show the next day. So I'm gonna go ahead and let you back in cuz that woman joined my channel She joined my channel Shut up talking in the chat room get on the chat now. I'm going to tell you shut it you can get on the show I don't want to hear you type in the chat room anymore. You can get on the show Because when you say I'm rude you gonna have to justify that I don't play that mess Too many women just like to throw stuff around Words mean things So make sure you have your husband with you if you're gonna tell me you got a husband Make sure he's make sure he's there camera ready This is why it's so dangerous about the danger zone you you you're out there like you had all the time in the world You haven't really taken any assessments You're not having been any self-reflective and your funny thing is these women who are in the danger zone Tends to be the main ones calling in on topics like they got their stuff together And then I ask them some questions like why aren't you even on the topic? You need to you need to get yourself together. I've called out men in the same regard, too But more often than not it tends to be I mean didn't that happen a couple of weeks ago Woman gonna tell me you're telling average women that they can't get high value men And I know plenty of rich men or high value men and what turns out that she's don't ain't married Don't know nothing ain't got nothing for Funny to me so come on Let's get the likes up man. We are two thousand people in here You know I'm not going Yeah, the truth is always rude to black women. Thank you Can we get the likes of people? The truth is always rude Who can tell you the truth sisters? Who can tell you the truth it's always rude You so used to somebody kissing your tail The somebody who's trying to help why would I? Why would somebody why would somebody who spent 40 minutes of his time on this show? Huh, why would somebody who spent 40 minutes of time on this show? Why would you think that person's trying to what what do you think? Hmm. I'm sitting there being rude. Why need to be rude? Come on Come on, uh Bee chat rooms open. She had a lot to say earlier She had a lot to say earlier. Yeah Mm-hmm Had a lot to say if you type in all caps your message will be blocked sometimes It's A little goes a long way a little kindness goes a long way ladies Open up the chat room ask anything you want on the subject Here's a link right there right above your name. I'm looking for the link to call in it's right there Where's my favorite feminist go ask tiffany a little goes a long way You hear that woman sit on that room on that phone talk about These are good questions. These are good questions I've never had anybody ask me these questions before 33 years old and ain't nobody ever asked her these questions all these women in her life Ain't nobody ever asked her this question in one session. She got more for me for free than she's ever gotten for anybody To cologne our market today. You long You long, um, armani prevail. It's a new t-based fragrance. Hello Your own you you muted yourself I'm gonna unmute you Hello Hi Hi, kevin. Hi, can you see me near me? Yeah, what's your first name? Uh, so fia. Sorry. I would turns out I was using my work account. So essentially it has a different name No, no, but what are you in the chat room? Uh, yeah, so my question Hold on. What are you in the chat room? Oh, why am I in the chat? No, no, no. What what was your name? Okay, go ahead. I was waiting for somebody else to come in Go ahead Okay Sorry, I can't figure out how to change the name. Um, that's all right. It doesn't matter Okay, but yeah, my question is how to avoid Uh, I'm very young and I'm just starting the whole dating scene and I'm wondering how to avoid becoming Uh that Turning into that person that ends up in the in the danger zone I just worry like with all the statistics that you've listed. Okay. Okay. Okay. Hold on. Let me make sure Let me do this real quick. Let me do this real quick. First off, you have me on You need to shut the youtube channel off in the background and then you sound like you have me on bluetooth So there may be a delay Um, britney unmute yourself Hello Hello How are you? Hi, are you b? I'm bebin. Yes. All right. What's up big head? There you go with the big head. Yeah, that's right. I'm gonna call you big head. I didn't insult you You got a nice size cranium on you Well, thank you. I mean that means you're smart, right? Not not necessarily, but I am a smart woman though. Well, then it's a compliment call you big head But tell me why I was rude Well, okay. Well, I'm gonna tell you this one because I don't know because I'm not in your head. I actually like your show I just started viewing your show and I've actually sent out your information and videos to friends and family of mine So yesterday when I was watching the show, I was kind of like shocked. I don't want to say like To be honest with you mr. Samuel's a little disappointed because I felt like you were being kind of Rude to her when you call her what you call her a batch and you're like Other countries they'll be able to smack women for talking about first of all hold on hold on hold on I need you to make sure when you quote me You need to make sure you quote it in context. See a lot of times women just pull stuff out completely out of context What did I say I said in a state of nature when that female tries to dominate a male what would happen? She even said he'd push back She knows what would happen. She knew she was out of place. Did you not hear that? Yes, I heard that she so so if two men were talking to one another, right? Two men talking to one another, right? And you got one guy that's here one guy that's here and then one The smaller guy starts trying to over talk the larger guy What do you think would happen in that situation? That's going to come a point in time where it would escalate to something physical. Yes or no Yes in nature. Yes, but we're we're we're we're hold on man. We're human animals. We see men know this men Self edit and moderate ourselves because there is always between men No matter where we are a low level threat of violence There are lines between all men that you can't cross between a president between a police officer Between a firefighter between two guys on the street. We know that eventually we take this civilian stuff over here but see with women Especially western women. We have civilized the world so much Do you have so many freedoms that you can sit there and over talk somebody that you cannot whoop their ass Men cannot do that to men. So women are right or wrong to do that Knowing they cannot deal with the violence that comes if it happened so I think I've heard collars over talking be rude to you. I have Women women women are right or wrong to over talk a man push a man Do things that they know are rude to a man just because a man's hands are tied behind his Hands are tied behind his back legally What's he meant? Is that right or wrong man? Say it's wrong Exactly and that's my point if it was a man and he did it There'd be a problem, but see women can do that. I was watching video the other day Uh The chipotle thing right The two black women the pregnant white woman with the gun. Did you see that thing? No, okay. There's a there's a video going around where there's a A white woman pulls a gun on a black woman and her daughter but Precipitate that was This pregnant white woman standing up front of this sister and this sister is going off on her You out of your mind. You pushed this 15 year old girl and this woman's not saying anything this woman's pregnant Then she got to her sister girl thing and started talking crazy and da da da da The guy her husband comes over and opens the door for his wife and then the woman The black woman turns to the black to the to the white man who just opened the door He said you don't have to be talking to her this kind of way He didn't even engage her and the black woman turned around said you can go ahead and I'll whoop your I'll whoop your ass too. That's what the black woman said to a man Do you think that black woman could have really whooped that white man's ass? Of course not. But why would she talk to him that way? Because she knew that the that there's no threat of violence and that's my point, ma'am When women talk to men in such a way you're trying to punk a man And that's not cool. We see it happen all the time So I wanted so that's why I say we and that's the and the point I'm getting to that over here is That's why I was saying that she knew what she was doing So it wasn't rude that I told her you're being rude and you're lucky we live in a civilized country because if we lived in a Muslim country That wouldn't happen We lived in some other countries. That wouldn't happen and you know that Yeah, and I'm grateful to be here But I I agree with you on the examples you gave I had mr. Sam this I totally agree with you don't have to tell me Mr. You're coming Kevin. It's fine Well, that's the way and anytime in my comments. I was right you because you're older man. Thank you, but But what I'm saying is I've heard women on your show and I've heard them be snippy and rude and they were being rude and snippy And however you responded back it was deserved, but I'm think I don't want that thing and the context is listening to her She just seemed like she talked a lot. She didn't come off to me. It's trying to be Rude to you. I've heard some people where they were like, yes And like I've heard some women and they were strictly really trying to be rude to you And the fact that she still kept asking for your advice still kept asking even though you were saying like look, you know what? Nobody's gonna take you at this time ma'am. You just she still kept coming. So somebody that was trying to be purposely rude to you Wouldn't still keep coming for you for help And so I think that there might have been a miscommunication. Let me let me let me okay Go back to the phone go back to the call when I said Would you talk to a white man like this? I asked her point blank Would you would you speak to it? She's like, no, would you talk? Would you talk to another? Well, and she would you talk to another I forgot exactly what I said And she said well to somebody that I had respect for no, I wouldn't talk to somebody I love and I think she said She only had male supervisors. She didn't only have female supervisor bottom bottom line is this Here's the bottom line. Here's the bottom line I'm very careful with the words I use I did more than my level best to that woman was on my phone for 40 minutes and would not stop I agree with you and and look at 33 years old if she has that little impulse control That that's how she walks around through life No wonder And if no one is and apparently no one ever told her this is a problem Great, that's why she sat there and said these questions good. No one's ever asked me So I find it a bit hard to swallow that you saying I'm being rude when she sat there having her eyes open How should a man talk to her then how should a man be direct to a woman? And and please tell us because I'm I'm curious to hear this one Well, it's again to like the point I said I've heard people be snippy with you intentionally And and what you said back is deserved. I'm saying because like I agree with you She's kind of all over the place and kind of that I can tell that's a personality thing It's like maybe not take this so personally. I know you're very masculine man I love very masculine. It's not a matter of taking you personally ma'am. She's I don't if she were 23. That's one thing She's 33 Yes, she's 33 And this is a this is a show and it's a business I have to mute her four times Mm-hmm There is no mute button in the real world I see what I don't think a lot what I think a lot of times women you give each other the benefit or doubt even when they act wrong What you what you have not said is that woman? Well, what do you think the way she was behaving was appropriate? I think I think she was all over the place. I think that was her personality I'm not saying it's the best personality. Okay. So I ask again Do I do you think the way that her personality do you think the way she was behaving was appropriate? Uh, no, she should have read the social context clue. So it was time to get off the phone All right. So why didn't you write that in the chat room? Why didn't I write that she should have read? Why didn't you why didn't you why didn't you I didn't read any critiques you had of her? Okay I I do critique everybody. You just read the one about you. I said I did not I didn't say I did I didn't say you didn't but I said I did not Okay, so what did you say about her? I didn't say oh, I didn't say anything about her in in today's track of us. There you go, ma'am There you go. So again the business owner the professional Doing his level best to give her give do something for her For free that she normally would have to pay for that she could pay for which owes not to I told her to book a session. She still kept going. I had to cut her off You critique hold on you critique me But you have no critique for her but now even today you can sit back What she could have did is what she could have does this is what a lot of you women do with each other You look for fault with what a man does but you can't say But you only when I have to pull it out of you or you find a fault with her But mr. Samuel, I think you're generalizing things. I'm not I'm being very specific with you I know you're also Cut me off anytime. I'm trying to make a point and you see I'm being quiet when you're talking All right What but what I was just saying that's the way and it could be like you said women give people the benefit of the doubt and all this Think women give women the benefit of the doubt But I also see a lot of comments in the chat and a lot. I can't worry about the chat room, ma'am I'm running the show. I can't worry about the chat room. I got a program Well, you worried about my comment So your comment is highlighted because you're a member of my show I can see that because you actually paid to have your comment highlighted That's why your comment was there So Where's your head? So I called your show like a week ago. I told you I was divorced I actually call it I need to let me make this let me make this up Public service announcement weak content creators Sleep, I can't know all the people thousands of people that call my show remember all that stuff Yes, I know mr. Samuel. So I still want to hear You give that woman some some critique Okay, so my critique of her would be She needs to kind of pause when she's when she's speaking and kind of think before she speaks because she is kind of all over the place She kind of rambles She seemed kind of overly excited for your feedback and help and maybe Again pause with that also reading the social social context clues are realizing she did talk take up a lot of time She did keep asking questions Um, and she wasn't getting the hint when you kept saying hey, you're over talking me again That means positive. I think like thought kept popping in her head And so she was so eager to like like hey, I got mr. Samuel's on the phone I need all the time. Are you an only child? No, I'm not the only child. Okay. Do you know many only children? I don't know the percentage. I mean personally, do you have many friends that are only children? Oh, do I know? No, I don't know a lot. Okay only children. I am one and I know lots And that's part of the only child syndrome. That wasn't innocent what she was doing It was manipulation okay I mean again I'm good at what I do and if I say something If you watch me, I find it interesting you say that this one that I'm being rude. Well, guess what? Let's just say I was rude and Okay, I was rude Is that what but But You say she wasn't rude, but you were That the caller wasn't rude. Mr. Samuels was rude. That's what your comment said I have a problem with that I've also made a lot of comments and I've also again, I'ma move on to the next one. If you like my work Then understand some understand something if you like what I do understand something You're lucky you get me Because what a lot of guys would love to tell you women When you act the way you do even this challenging stuff I mean to be honest with you that woman don't If I wanted to say what I really wanted to say she didn't pay me for my session She called the show for free and took up an hour of my time and would have continued to take more She was lucky that I didn't hang up on her So I'll put it to you this that's as nice as I'm going to see it and I will tell you another black There's a reason that so many of our sisters are by themselves. You cannot take criticism The truth is rude. The truth is negative. Who can criticize black women? Black men certainly cannot who can criticize you and not catch hell Are you saying I can't take criticism? No, no black women black women all of you Adoles black women who can criticize black women and not catch hell Is that the question posed to me or you just talking? Yeah, I'm asking you I'm asking you who can criticize black women and not catch hell Because apparently they they know how to do it right who can do it I think everybody criticizes black women in general. Okay. Give me some specific people Uh, let's see uh, you heard it's Somebody I know where somebody famous you can think about just the 50 cent comment the other day. So Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on 50 cent comment and 50 cent can say what he says about black women and he doesn't catch any backlash or hell from black women I said everybody criticizes black women. No, ma'am. I asked a very specific question Who can criticize? I think everybody does I think everybody okay again I'm I've given you multiple times to answer and you can say everybody but you're not telling me who I think anytime somebody's criticized all right. All right. All right. All right. And and how old are you? 35 35. So you're familiar with Shahara Zahra Ali No, sir Go go google her Shahara Zahra Ali wrote a book called the black man's guy to understand the black woman in 1989 She actually was one of the first black women that ever stood up and said, you know what black men have been put through the microscope and been analyzing and critique 20 ways on sunday, but black women are the only group of people in this country who have never had our behavior Analyzed or held to task black women in whole are above critique above accountability I asked you five times Who can criticize black women and not catch hell and you cannot tell me one person Because you know just like I know Anybody has anything to say about black women are going to catch hell This is why you only get praise Black women get praise Okay, I'm gonna get to the next i'm gonna get i'm gonna get to the next i'm not gonna keep doing this I'm not gonna keep doing i'm not playing back and forth idiot. I mean I live in this world just like you do black women A lot of things you say I'm not doing the gaslighting thing I'm not doing the gaslighting thing If you live in the world of sunshine and daffodils and fairytales, cool But I know the world I live in and black women You swirl just like you I have to be so careful about what I say and still in my comment section You're this you're that that anyway Hey, uh higher pronunciation first name sarah Saraya saraya. What's going on? Are you in the danger zone? Hey, I just found you today, so I'm so happy I got through Me and saraya go back like babies with pacifiers. Oh dirt dog. No lie. What's going on? Nothing, okay, so You might think this is a dumb question, but I just want to know no dumb questions Okay, I'm in the danger zone. Okay But when I meet new guys I never tell them my real age. Okay Do you think guys are used to women lying about their age or when they find out is it like a Big surprise. Well, um guys are used to women lying about everything honestly Um, but the bigger question is why do you feel compelled to have to not be truthful about your age? Because I want them to get to know me and not judge me for being single at my age And they believe me when I tell them the age anyways. All right. Well, I understand But you know, so guys step back and say you want to start a potential relationship With deception That's not a good thing. How old are you? 29, okay. I mean, it's not like you're 60 Um, I mean seriously, okay, so let let okay, you gotta ask yourself a question. So no, you don't need to lie about your age That's not a good thing because if you start out with deception you open yourself up to be deceived Are you are you looking to get married? Yeah Any children? No, all right At 29, what's the longest relationship you've ever had? Well, I'm talking to someone now like two years You guys have been together for two years mm-hmm I'd like to him about my age when I met him and then Are you guys in the same city? Yeah, we're in the same city. So when we went on our first trip together I had to give him my birthday. He found out and he just thought it was funny, but all right It's just like, I don't know. I hope he doesn't think I'm lying about everything Well, I didn't get but I gotta ask does he want to get does he want to get married? Yeah But he's older. He's like 50 something. So I so it wasn't that big of a deal My age, I mean, no, no, no, no, no, no What I'm asking does he want to get married? And does he want to marry you? Well, now he's talks about it. We just hit two years like a moral day weekend. So now Baby girl, it don't take that long when you're that old Oh Really? Six months is all it takes I got a fraternity brother met his girlfriend They're gonna be married inside six months. Look, it don't take that long two years So I should so I should meet someone new and not lie about my age. Well first off Let me not let me not make it personal. Let me tell you something All you black women need to stop these two and three and four year relationships when you want to get married Ain't no man gonna decide to marry you if you don't want to marry you up front What you're telling me sounds like he's he I don't want to judge him But if you start off not being honest, I'm gonna assume you weren't telling him up front when you met Hey, I'm looking to get married You just kind of probably let it go where it goes and that's why you got this vague open thing right now If you truly want to get married, you're wasting your time I need to start dealing with more marriage minded kinds of men Does that make sense get out of the chat room chick Get out of the chat room before I hang you up on you. I'm serious. Don't do that chat room stuff Yeah, I'm just reading the Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm running the show and I'm not in the comment section turn that off I'm trying to talk to you your picture's not up there, but you're 27 you spent two years You look back over there one more game. I'm gonna hang this up No, I'm focused. All right, but seriously though, you're an attractive woman. Why why are you wasting time? Well, I didn't know That I needed to do it within six months. I mean, you know Now it's like, okay, maybe if if that's the time to why I should be looking at then it's like Well, I'm saying all it here's what I'm saying is when a man wants to get married You going over there? Close the ipad put knock the computer down. I can tell when your eyes go over there I'm serious. I'm no understand something you look back over there. I'ma go to the next person Are we clear? I'm serious. I won't all right Or you can always book a session and pay for it and you can look wherever you want to seriously though You're 29 You got two years into this and you're hoping he decides to marry you No No Because if he wanted to marry you at 50, whatever, he knows what k jeweler's is gordon's He would have produced a ring and locked you up inside six months He's going to continue letting this go as long as you let this go Uh, if you know, you want to get married peace Why is that so why is that so hard to hear? I just need to give them all to me. I mean, I don't know. No, no, no, no, no, no, no No, no, no, no, no, no Make clear you don't give any ultimatums You make a decision That you want to be married and say We are and end it see if you give him an ultimatum and he doesn't want to marry you. What do you think he's going to do? Let's play this out and if and then And you're still where you are Give him an ultimatum. He's going to leave or if you give him an ultimatum and he does decide to say, okay Go buy a ring marry me. Is that the kind of marriage you only want? No, I wasn't going to say it like that Well, that's where you're at And i'm trying to talk to you and talk to a lot of other women when you Men know from the get go whether or not we want to marry you Okay Okay Do you believe that or don't you believe that? I do believe that. What's what city are you in? Miami Okay, all right Yeah, you got a lot of player stuff happening in Miami. Uh, but then you Yeah, how tall are you? I'm five five You know what's coming next dress size. I wear a size six to eight Yeah, everybody keeps asking me to put you i'm not gonna put you on and i'm not gonna put you on there Oh, I have no makeup. I have all my my serums on I have no makeup. I'm not going to I'm not going to but she's a tractor guys You can you can find another man Yeah, I'm not worried. It's just it's just by Join my group to mix join my facebook group to mix Because look, I don't know this man. So i'm damn sure not gonna throw anything at this guy But what you're telling me is you started updating him in your 27. He's 50 you didn't tell him your age and you guys just been kind of How long have you guys been one-on-one monogamous? I would say a good six months. Okay. So for a year and a half y'all this yeah join my group I gotta get to the net call you need I need to bring you on the show have a one-on-one Join my facebook group come back on for a one-on-one. We'll hide your face though. Okay Fine. All right. Thank you. All right. She's cute She good But I'm not gonna do that to her and I'm gonna tell you I want more I want more women to stop doing this if you know you want to get married You're not gonna get a man to marry you just because you think you're gonna put an ultimatum on it I'm gonna let you ladies in the chat room and whoever whoever whoever audio connects first connects uh so lay Hi Okay, what did I get wrong? You didn't get anything wrong I was just calling because I had I'm not hit. I have not hit the wall yet. Um, actually 23 however, uh I just wanted to know like well to me. I want to get married in two years Okay, and I don't know where I go wrong when it comes to meeting or Voting men. I don't know if it's my looks. I know my mom Would say that I dress very conservatively So I don't wear the So what's the ultimate question? Why you can't get a proposal? Yes. All right. Uh, were you raised by mom and dad? Yes Mom and dad married Yes Is your dad still alive and in your life? Yes. All right, and what's the longest relationship you've had? Yeah About four years And you're 23? Yes. All right. Uh, why didn't you guys? Uh formalize it so He just turned 50. So he met me when I was 19 years old And He felt that I wasn't ready for a relationship Okay, let me let me let me back up. Let me back up You met a guy When you were 19 and he was 50 Yeah, he just turned 50. He was about like 40. He was 46. Did he meet your father? He recently met my father. He met my father Last year and we met him again this year. He met who? He He met my father again this year. Okay When did your father find out about this man? This year So you had a Okay So you were dating a man 27 years older than you and you kept it secret from your father Yes What's the problem with that? Well, I always thought it was an issue Um, I wanted to expose the relationship. But no listen what I'm trying to say You were too young. Okay Uh, why were you dating a man at 46 years old? Uh, was he wanting to get married? He didn't state that he wanted to get married. Right. Okay. Yeah Okay, so there are a lot of moving parts here first of all That large of an age gap um You really should have been dating that man and and did you know you wanted to get married? At the time, no. Okay. Okay. All right. So All right, that makes sense You were just kicking it Yeah So and you didn't want to tell your father because you knew it would be your problem Yes All right, but you ladies need to stop kicking it for so long. You don't kick it for four years. You kick it for six months because Now you're saying how you how come you can't keep a relationship If you've been with that person that long for four years man, how long you All you know is that one guy if you guys monogamous or were you dating other people? Dating other people But due to the All right, um You got a lot of things going on man. I can't in a bullet point number one, you can't not you can't not involve Your father or men because i'ma just tell you it doesn't sound like you make the best decision when it comes to men Dating a 46 year old man just to kick it Uh, no, and then if you got a lot of other guys going on Guys of marriage minded men are going to run your cat facts And they're gonna and they're gonna look at your relationships and they're gonna say why in the hell are you dating a 46 year old guy over here 25 year old guy over here just over here and your daddy don't know too much problem I'm gonna get over here And they got nothing to do with the way you dress it has everything to do with the way you approach the market and your character So first things first, uh, I always say Everybody needs some therapy I don't know what your home life was But keeping something like that so big from your father for one two three you hit this man for two plus years three years Yes, I just now Let my father And it went and and are you guys still together or are you broken up? Broken up See you went in for three years you tell your dad so your dad knows He knows you hit it from him and you got nothing out of it I can't fix that right now. Um Yeah, uh, I don't know why you didn't trust your father. Um to help guide you through this process But that would be something I would look at number one number two Um That sounds like some underlying issues there, man. This really does and then number three, uh, when you say you want to be married inside two years It goes back to the question of why do you want to be married? Do you want to be a housewife and all these other things? Oftentimes young ladies like yourself would touch a chaotic kind of dating history. You really don't know what you want You just want what sounds good And that's why it's hard to find anything because It's make believe Got it Got it. Thank you sweet Come on back Unmute yourself Money world. Hello Hello I cannot hear you you're gonna have to Take me off blues tooth Put a speakerphone in or something like that and then come back see Hello Going once You just muted yourself again. I'm going to ask you to unmute yourself one more time And if you unmute yourself you can go ahead and speak So, yeah Let's talk about this a lot What I noticed a lot of times with these dangerous zone kind of women. They have these long Long relationships that go nowhere If you know you want to be married, why are you dating somebody two years three years five years? Knock it off, man. You're not gonna Okay, sweet. So you're not doing what you're supposed to do. So I'm gonna go ahead and put you back Um, you ladies aren't gonna you're not gonna get some guy to decide to be with you Y'all keep on asking about the other other girl. Yeah, I liked her man She had long hair pretty nice hazel eyes nice smile. Yeah. Yep. Yeah, I'd love to Yep Yep Uh wasting your time. No sis 27 The way the way in which just your avatar Miami's a really competitive city, but you got no real problems Uh, as long as you clear that mess out Yeah, hey guys leave that. I'ma leave that one alone. Um, I try not to I try not to get too deep in that that was a big gap Too big a gap for me to be comfortable with especially Especially when you uh Especially when you I don't want to hear from you guys man Guys, I'm not asking for guys to call in. I'm not asking for guys to call in so no See Take something from here's what I want you guys to take from a one That danger zone thing is real You get to 27 and you know, you want to be a wife stop playing games. You need to wear I want to be a wife on your forehead sugar pea you in here sugar pea get on She let yourself be played like that. Well, she got played like that because she didn't tell her daddy She didn't she wanted to get played That's just not cool. I mean no way in hell. I'd be dating a woman at age. No, no not 19 Uh That's that's just She's legal, but it's not for me nothing. It's legal not for me. Um You ladies need Men in your life that can tell you the frank honest truth And yes, you need men in your life that can risk being rude Let me say that again. You need men in your life that can risk being rude Uh sugar pea up adriana strickling your necks and then sweet. So you still uh, what's going on sugar pea? You need men in your life that can risk being rude as to unmute yourself Sugar pea, how are you? How are you? Yeah, I can good. How are you good? You're in a marriage market. Yes Yes, do you know? Oh So when you when you meet up when you Interact with a guy How soon do you let it be known that you're looking to be married? I let them know like when I meet them like I discuss what are their goals like, you know, and the guys I've been meeting they also let me know that they're not Look wait looking away Sorry But she says she lets in up front when you're discussing goals and what you want to this uh, this is a first date Session, this is a this is a predate conversation as far as I'm concerned I don't even I would suggest to women. You don't even go out with a man without letting it with As soon as possible But thank you. That's why I want you to call in and how's that and has that how many men are that scared Has that scared any guys off? I mean There are some guys that might stick around. I think if and I have like let's say they stick around when they Play games. I feel like I probably vet by just seeing by their actions and not being played by words That they're serious and but they're I mean the men that I since I moved to hueson I'm on a break now with this coronavirus, right? But they're Dating that um, you know, they agree they stick around. They're very consistent And I mean, that's their goal too. So I'd rather it's someone that is aligned with my goals Then waste my time with someone who's not Thank you for calling in and letting ladies hear that from your mouth sugar pee y'all with our fine self gone in sugar Look here so, uh This is what I need you guys to understand Ladies don't let nobody play you don't play yourself Don't play yourself Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no That did the wrong message Okay Hold on This computer is acting slow Okay Yeah, you need to let guys know up front and let them let people know as soon as possible You don't want to You don't want to you don't want to play yourself and especially if you're young But younger you are the more people you need involved around you In my opinion Uh Adriana you're up next What's going on? How are you? Another day that hey, uh, you need to go ahead and unmute yourself I can't hear you. You got on blue. There you go There we go. You're you're go. What's going on? Hi How are you? What did I get wrong? How are you? Um, nothing. I just can you hear me? Yeah, I can hear you Okay, so, um, yeah Okay, hi Hi turn off the youtube if you got on youtube you need to turn off you in the background Because you're gonna get double you're gonna get feedback. Can you hear me? I can't hear you fine Hi, so, um I am 28 Um, I I don't know where to start. I'm just trying to figure out why I'm single. So I'm gonna figure out why you single Let me ask you some questions Okay, okay. Uh, will you raise a mom and dad? Yes, both parents. Uh, were they married? Yes Any siblings? Yes, too Uh, and your dad was in the house until you graduated from high school Yes, okay. Um, and what was the last what's the last relationship you had? Um, my last relationship was last year last year and how long was that Not long like maybe a year six months a year. It was after grad school. Okay. Uh, oh What's the longest relationship you ever had? Um A year and a half he was french. I was when I was living in france. All right. What'd you go to grad school for? Um speech pathology. All right. What's your undergrad in? Um, french and speech pathology. All right So and you spent time in in france for how long? Two years All right, and what city are you in now? I'm in los angeles Los angeles All right. Well one the competition is high in los angeles Yeah, I've been getting I just joined this app called the league and it takes they say six months to like get on but I got on like I applied yesterday and I got on today. All right, well the competition is stiff in los angeles It is. Yeah a lot of beautiful women in los angeles. And do you want to be a housewife? Um, yeah, I do I think yeah, and how many children do you want to have? Two mac two. Yeah Mm-hmm and do you ever want to have to work to pay significant bills? Um, no I don't not really okay. So you want I want to create okay. No. Okay. So I don't in LA How much does it how much do you think a man would need to make? To be able to take I know I know I've looked this up. Okay. I want my friends um, well to be comfortable in LA you need at least 100 and um 30 but that's not that's but to take care of two children. I would say Probably like whoof like 400 Yeah, all right. So I gotta I got a hard question for you ready for it Buckle in yeah buckle in Are you a $400,000 a year woman? I've been dating men in that range Um, but the problem is they haven't proposed they haven't dropped the ring No, they have not they have not because I haven't I wasn't sure what I okay I wasn't sure what I wanted So I just started working because I just graduated. So I just started like working last you skip the question I asked Yeah Are you a $400,000 a year woman? I think so. Yeah, I think so What would you rank yourself on the scale from one to ten and you cannot use a seven on the scale of physical facial beauty I would say um an eight nine nine. Yeah nine. Yeah an LA nine or uh An LA nine Because LA is different It is it is Um, I model. So I don't know I like model here And I like it y'all Do you still have you still have on youtube you still have on youtube because you can I'm still hearing background noise Let me see. No, let me log out of this Okay, back. All right. Well, I mean All right. Do you date are you only into black men? Um, no I date other entities. No. All right. And what dress size do you wear? Um, eight two what to say you like you're kind of thin you're like a two a zero two so The the amount of american men that make wrong the amount of american men that make like Well, $400,000 or more. What percentage of men do you think make that in this country? Oh, I don't know maybe like Like three or four percent, maybe perhaps No, it's like one percent One one percent. Okay. So you're looking for one percent of men And one percent of men I gotta be honest They typically marry their own race unless She is beautiful or gorgeous Right and I went to an image consultant for like my acting And of course I had straight hair and stuff like when I go with an image consultant I went to an image consultant for acting as well And he was white and he just he told me he was like you're the He was like, I'm the woman that women love to hate and um, he told me that I look like I'm gonna be upscale and I'm gonna do like attractive careers And he also told me that I would be like the second wife, whatever that means Okay, yeah Okay And the long relationship you had was like a year and a half To yeah year and a half too. Why didn't he propose to you? Oh, well, it really wasn't what did a year? Let me see. I was 21 And I moved back to america Okay, so that's what happened. I moved back to america. That was my longest. We were supposed young He was like 23. I was 21. He was getting his master's in engineering. Why didn't he ask you to marry him? Um He didn't really have anything. He was like a student. We were both young and I moved back to america I don't I don't think it was that long because let's see. I went to okay, baby girl, baby girl. You're all over the place You're all over the place um and I was with him from when I moved I was in france for six months and then he came back so Six months to a let me go ahead and let me go ahead and ramp it on down 400 000 was a big ask Okay, how do you 28? How do you 28? I am it's too big of it's too big of an ask for a woman. Uh There's 28 years old I mean You're I would say You know If I had to rate you Mm-hmm. I I would give you Do you want my ranking? Yeah, do it do it. All right. I will give you a six Okay, I will give you cute You know, okay, uh my scale Are you familiar with who a pampgri is? No, okay. Don't do now. Don't do now. Okay. Pam Greer Here's some women to check Pam Greer Uh dorthy dandridge Diane carol Uh Jane kennedy Yeah, these are all women back from the 70s. I don't use recent women because there's there's something because politics comes into it You know, right, but all these women are classically beautiful right, um There you know, they all they all could they all were on the cover of somebody's vogue magazine They could model. They were not fashion models. So you're very slight So you can model a lot, but you're really thin and uh, that's why I would I would say you probably wear two The more anything else a two or zero Um And then how tall are you? 58 Okay, so you have a model's physique um, I don't I mean you can get guys who will be attracted to you with Speaking french How many languages you speak Two one bilingual. Yeah, so I would say your best bet honestly in LA would be to work with a matchmaker Yeah, I um was going to do that a one woman contact That's gonna be that's gonna be just trying to meet somebody off the rip Because you're your particular set of market Benefits aren't for the rank and file American you you're very different. You spent time in France Matchmaker um, okay And that will allow at least allow you to be put in proximity With men who have the kind of means you're talking about who who would need a wife Who could be bilingual and those kind of things those are selling points Um, okay, but as far as if you just got to just straight up compete on just physical beauty The stakes are too high in LA. I mean because you're you're not there. You're not in LA nine You know, we're kind of right there in the middle. Okay Okay, that would be my suggestion Okay Join my Facebook match maker. I'm on it. I'm on it. I gotta get to the next thing. It's almost one o'clock. Thank you Okay, thanks. Bye. Bye Yeah guys, see she's uh, when you when you built like a model, you know They're in LA man. You gotta understand LA is a different place. LA is like new york city um and Being bilingual Yeah Is a selling point for a lot of guys. Hello tamara Hello one two Hello Yeah, don't be rude in the chat room guys. Be nice tamara. What's going on? Oh, hi. Um, I'm just calling this first time that I'm calling and I've been watching for a while And I'm in the danger zone. All right. Well, what did I get wrong? I don't think you got anything wrong. I was in the the chat and um, it's unfortunate, but uh, I was raised with predominantly my filipino family And a lot of them they Warned me from marriage and they scared me from it. So I'm 34 now And I realized probably within 31. I was like, why did I wait so long? Why didn't I get into Finding somebody? Um, and I just focused on my career working your career. You're 34. Yes. What do you do for a living? I'm a consultant for a hospital. Okay um And in your background, did you say latino was it? Uh, filipino. I'm half filipino and half black Are you one of the people that stabbing it? Filipino women are crazy Passionate women, but god dawg you do not All right. So, uh, all right. So, uh, any children? No children Uh, and how tall are you? 53 Uh, what's your size? Uh, 14 Lost some weight recently. So 14 Okay, uh, how much how much did you weigh your last weigh in? Uh, 190 Okay Obviously, uh, that's that's on the upper side and if you had to rank yourself on the scale from one to ten On your face and you cannot use a seven. What would you put it? I would say a six and I know because I'm older. So I would say a six. All right. Well, um, Have you won the last time you were a normal healthy weight? Uh, I was 229 And how much did you weigh then? 160 and I'm I was an athletic build that did power lifting and things like that. All right. Uh, So you're five foot three? Yes So a normal healthy weight for five foot three is right about 120. When were you when last time you were there? that size I I can't even tell you not not even high school. I've always been athletic Okay, but you didn't come out of the womb and just go athletic. No, no, I but I don't think when I was younger I was weighing myself. So I started weighing myself probably in high school. That's why I try to use dress size and everything Yeah, but but uh, obviously Um, do you want to be a state? Do you want to have children? Yes, how many? At least one At least one. Okay. Uh, and then do you want to work? I do Okay, so you don't want to be a stay-at-home mother? No. All right. Uh It goes to say that And I and what northeast southwest what region of the country? Oh, I live in california. All right Northern california or southern? all right I wish more women would take care of their physical weight in dress size because this has more to do with your ability To find a man than anything else um When you say when you tell women where they prepare to be wives And and I asked myself that question as you asked them and I wasn't right. I was prepared to take care of myself Um to make my own money. I wasn't marriage minded Okay, and as a consultant up in for hospitals, uh, because the bay area northern california is rather expensive You have your own place. Do you have a roommate? I do? No, I live by myself on my own house. Okay. Um Because I weigh 200 and I'm like a foot. I'm a foot and inch taller than you That's a big that's a big issue What are you doing to get that weight down significantly? This year I've started doing keto Um, or in the last couple months and and I I work out almost every day Um, do you have a personal trainer? I did I did until COVID started and um, you know, I have several clients who are personal trainers. That doesn't stop you Yeah, that's true. Do you have a nutritionist? I don't have an image consultant I don't I think hearing you was the first time I've heard of that happening. All right. Have you ever sat down with a therapist? Yes, okay How long ago was that? I started last year And it's but it's interesting because again not being marriage minded. I focused on a lot of work stress Um, and so I I I definitely want to steer my conversations into relational stress Well, I mean So obviously if you waited late in life and you never prioritized it you're gonna have to make much more realistic marriages is Doesn't sound like it, but I just want to go ahead and say this. There is no disney romance There's no soulmate. There's nothing that in your future. Yeah in your future It's going to be much more of a partnership that doesn't mean a love that does not mean a a passionless sexless contractual agreement but But men are visually stimulated Yeah So you may so everything that you worked on means nothing to a man And that's a hard pill for a lot of women to swallow because you're proud of a lot of women like yourself are proud of what you've accomplished You own a home. You have a career, but that does nothing for a man I know and I've been told the opposite What you what you've been told That if you have if you're independent woman, right, you know that feminist messaging But who told you have your own house who told you that? Uh, my family Me and my family Women and married women told me that too. They they praised me for right focusing on school because they didn't Right and see I want to do a show on how often uh Older women jack up younger women Yeah, lying to you and here's the thing I guarantee you None of them would have given up their their their husbands and their children for what you have I would agree If you really want to have your best shot, I'ma tell you need to get down to address your five foot three You need to get down to dress size six and it's possible Yeah, uh, you did not come out of the womb As a stocky power lifter right, so Focus on getting your weight down like the way you focused on getting your career Because you are be amazed at how often how much your romance prospects will Improve as your dress size decreases Yeah Kevin can I ask you one more question? Go ahead. Okay. Go ahead. Yeah, uh, so, um Um, I'm also celibate and so I find that recently as I've been Celebit, yeah, I'm waiting till marriage not a virgin wait, but waiting till marriage. Okay. Um, why how do you? Uh, I've always felt that I should be doing that for my religious beliefs But I didn't um, and I wanted to really just really ever you christian. Yes, sir Who's the last time you had sex? Six years It's gonna be a hard pill. It's gonna be hard to sell tamra. Yeah, I know I mean, you're damn near impossible to sell at this point. Yeah I mean, I I'm as a christian. I'm gonna tell you right now Unless you're a virgin it's hard to sell that Because here's what men here you're celibate, but then they sit and look at your career path And then how you and then your body and things like that and they're like, well Being celibate is not hard if you're not really means sought after by a lot of men That's what that's how a man might as that's how a lot of men's minds process See, it's harder to be celibate when you're a little victoria secret model Or a hot little piece, okay Um I'm not saying it's impossible, but Finding a man who's a virgin in his late 30s Oh, no, it doesn't have to be a virgin But that's what it's gonna. No, because I'm not a virgin But but again, that's what it's gonna kind of retake Most men are sexually active Yeah, and they're not going and I'll be honest most men are not going to marry you without knowing how you are in bed At this advanced age Yeah, it is unrealistic Yeah So I don't know how important it is for you, but basically what you're doing is you're you're making it to where you're going to die alone Let me go ahead and put I'm take out. I'm gonna put a fine point on it. You're making it to where you're going to die alone Yeah Because in in a in a in a in a just like that you'll be 40 years old 40 years old 200 pounds Yeah Who can sell that? Yeah, not even yeah Well, I thank you Kevin. I know there's a lot of women that give you flack, but I appreciate Again, I didn't you didn't ask me, but I wasn't raised with my father. So you're just you're very honest You're to the point Um, and I think too many times we're told the disney story and we need to hear Honest feedback and it's not harsh. It's just honest and it may feel bad But it's honest, but you have choices that you can make and if you make choices and do something about the choices Then you can greatly improve your outcomes. See, yeah I also the question is How can you live a happy life? Because you may have things, but I don't hear happiness Yeah, and happiness is in human interaction and connection Not I mean we all want human beings want an emotionally profound Relationship, but we also need us a network of things as well And too many of too many people in this country have been taught to go out and get a career And get your house in it and we're all sitting in our houses like this with coronavirus happening like this ain't it Okay, thank you tamer. Thank you. Thank you. All right. Bye. All right guys I'm gonna try to get through these And I'm gonna get out of here. Oh Three more people calling. All right. Let's try to get this done Who's just getting late? Hot topic though, I guess All right sweet Hello Hello Sweet soul going once Sweet soul going twice Sweet soul Out of here All right So here we go Sounds nice. Yeah, she sounds pretty nice. Uh Hello need to unmute yourself Money world Last two people in the trying to get in look man there's The more things we put on our situation the more people we put on our uh The more things this is what rebecca lampo was talking about, you know Unrealistic standards, we don't have to have these things Uh Let me go ahead unmute yourself full law All right, you unmute yourself Hello Hello, can you hear me now? I can Excellent. Um, yes. Thanks for taking my call I'm super nervous. Uh-huh. You're super nervous. Yes. Don't have to be Yeah, I'm to be well, um I've been listening to your show for a week before we get started. Can I get your first name, please? Sorry, folla. Fola. How are you folla? I'm well. Thanks. How are you? I'm good. All right. What can I do for you? Okay, so I am um over the wall. I suppose I'm 40. All right Um never been married. So really just looking for some advice not had Uh, secure family, which is I think is kind of part Definitely part of the reason and that's just even more pertinent listening to you um been in therapy And uh looking to see how I can move things forward Okay, so you said you've never been married You said something about a secure. What would you mention about your family? Um, not a secure family come from a very disrupted family. Oh, okay. And uh, how's therapy progressing? It's good. It's it's it's been on and off for the past like year and a half Okay, um, but I've really learned a lot about myself, which is why I think I'm ready to actually have a relationship All right, and and you see your therapist how consistently? um It's not being so consistent at the moment, but I was going like I've been seeing somebody weekly. Okay. Um Just need to make sure the finances are in order so I can keep on All right, and where are you and are you in the are you in the states? No, I'm in london. So I actually stayed up to speak to you. I've been I actually emailed you as well Oh, cool. Shout out to people in civil law. London actually was on my possible to move to cities I will I'm trying to I would have loved to be there on civil row. So you're 40. Okay. Yes. Um, So let's get some preliminary. Uh, so did you go to did you go to university? I did Uh, and what did you go to school for? I went to school for law Um, but then I actually moved into fashion. So I was then working in fashion pr Okay, all right. All right, but but that love thing boy. I know I know what you're gonna say Are you in fashion? Uh, how tall are you? Five six. I'm a uk uk dress size 10 to 12 which is a us six to eight Okay, and this is the biggest I've been I've actually put on Um, I've put on about half a dress size in the last Eight to ten months. All right. Uh How social are you when when there is no cobit? Not as social as I need to be as I say I think I was going through so much else with regards to my personal life that my social life Just was on the back burner, which is part of the reason that I know that I'm single But I think the other part of the reason that I'm single is because I just wasn't I know I wasn't kind of socially equipped to to maintain. What was the longest? When was the longest relationship you ever had? When I was in my early 20s. I had a relationship for two years and then Okay, after that, it's just been Okay, not much dating so so and that ends when you were what 24 25 21 24 24 Yeah, so for 16 years you've been out of it Basically, yeah. All right. So first thing I would say is Uh, you're gonna your your social skills or interpersonal communication skills Are rusty an image the b and the c part you may have the a part uh The behavior and the communication that's where really uh And this happens far too often with people who really tend to go turn inward I focus on career and things like that. What are your what are your plans to actually start getting out and being coming more social? as We start as the pandemic starts to wind down Well, this is the trouble that I was having because obviously I don't want to go to clubs because that's not necessarily going to be the best thing So I was looking at you know, I go out to dinner with friends and you know, I I socialize with people that I feel are That would introduce me to or hang around with the kind of people and men that I want to meet But I'm just really mindful of not just trying to go from one bar to another Well, so here's the thing. Do you have would you have a group of friends that are unmarried? Most of us Most of us are yes, so so so Have you considered working with a matchmaker? That's what I'm looking at after speaking after listening to your show is getting an image consultant Well, I mean because if you work in fashion Our businesses should really put us in Improximity with people, but that's a harsh part. You don't know what you're going to get It just don't I mean you can have creatives and you can have crazies And then at 40, you know Your particular the particular things that you may need or want You're more set in your ways matchmakers are Are going to have more of a list of people like-minded people Then you could just go into a bar that's you don't have time to do exactly And that will be what I would say You're already in fashion Get your own image consult from don't do your own work Get get a second opinion. I did it myself if you go back on my channel I actually had two people I work with and I Don't do your don't do your own stuff number one number two personal trainer and matchmaker Because you want to look good in your little black dress regardless So you got to keep yourself in shape fit to give yourself the best chances up period And see matchmakers also Tend to have suggestions of things to do to help you become More socially adroit in a non-pandemic situation So that would be my suggestion, right London London provides a place For it's a lot of singles in London It's like a new year. It's like a difference. It's like I think of another new york city But It's not uncommon to find people You know in their late 20s 30s 40s who are single over there And it's like it's not like being over here to be in Fayetteville, arkansas That's a death sentence here over there. Not so much Just different But keep me posted Yeah, I feel that I feel that there's a culture of of not Of not getting married in london. That's what they're like not not everyone not everybody but It's not so I maybe it's I've been in the states for a while as well Um, but they seem to be more of a cohesion to want to get married Whereas here it's that's why you go to the people. That's why you take out That's why you take out that part of it and you go towards the matchmaker that kind of stuff the people who raise their hand because The culture the culture is a hook-up culture right now the culture is Marriage is on the decline, but there are people who still get married Uh, and those people are having to do things differently than than our parents our grandparents and our great-grandparents Absolutely, so I'm gonna wrap the show up though. I appreciate it. It's getting almost one o'clock. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Bye. Bye Oh joy. Oh joy. I'll give you three minutes Joy is the last person Joy joy joy Oh joy Joy Hello Hello Hello Hello, can you hear me? I can what's your first name? Joy Joy What can I do for you joy? Kevin forgive me. I can't stay that long just because of the time difference but I wanted to call in because Just like the other guy that was saying that she's 23 as a uni student I wanted to thank you for the advice that you do give because even though it's a bit uncomfortable It's nonetheless wise and it's grounded in balance And I really wanted to thank you because it's helped me to change my perspective and yeah So I just wanted to say that and I let you go because I know there are others that want to ask questions But thank you. Thank you very much. You have a good evening. Bye. Bye so Many many boo boo To everybody who got some shit to say to me about what I do You got women calling from the uk Around the world and even here I do what I the best I can ain't nobody perfect. I'm damn sure far from it But It always helps women to hear what the men The kind of men they say they want are thinking My clients are the very guys that a lot of you ladies would like And that's what it really comes down to We're in the blue blazes is going on with this. Um That's pretty cool. That's pretty cool Oh, that's what it is. All right guys. It's late. It's getting late. This was a good show But remember you need to ask yourself a question if you are If you know, you're you know, you're in the danger zone stop acting like you're not Jumping in that cold water and shake yourself off therapy personal training image consultant matchmaker Women who are really going after the things they say they want in a serious way Change their prospects Let's say what I'm saying is complete crap Let's say you never find the guy or you never get found by the guy What's the downside of having your head on right having your heart in a clear space Being able to look good in that little black dress and having a broad network of friends and living a happy life I'm not I'm not making any promises to the change this world. It is what it is. We got what we got But here's the thing Just like I was talking about my facebook group the mix it's been going for less than 45 days less than 40 days and one couple has already met one couple met inside of two weeks People are meeting If they want to meet and I want guys to be living the best version of the best version of themselves and living a happy life and ladies men want women and part of living happy life is living a life of Of of significance if and when you choose to get with somebody You do yourself no good by acting like it does not exist. So It has been a good show. It's been fun. It's been good But we got to get up out of here. Wait till tomorrow night show. I cannot wait till tomorrow night show I don't want to tip my hand But if I tell you now You be like I got to get in here. So tomorrow make sure we check out tomorrow night show But until then peace We are Gone Yes The playlist is coming out this week. 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