 و أقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزال و أقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي و لا أتأواله الحمد لله الجليل وصفه الجميل لطفه الجزيل ثوابه الشديد عقابه الحي القيوم الذي أوجد الكون من عدم ودبره و خلق الإنسان من نطفة فقدره ثم السبيل يسره ثم أماته فأقبره ثم إذا شاء أنشره فسبحان من إله ما أعزه وأقدره و أشد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له شهادة معترف بوحدانيته مقر بأولوهيته و ربوبيته و أشد أن محمدا عبده و رسوله أفضل بريته اللهم صل وسلم على محمد و على آله وأصحابه صفوة الله من خلقه و خيرته ام ما بعده اخواني في الله إني أحبكم في الله الله تبارك وتعالى He has made in it calamities and hardship إن الدنيا جبلة على المصاعد الله has made this world full with calamities and trials and tribulations طوبعة على المتاعب hardship tiredness fatigue This is what the dunya is This dunya is balaa ونكد ابتيلة وكبد الله has said in the Qur'an لقد خلقنا الإنسان في كبد This world this is how it is الله تبارك وتعالى wants to make the dunya different to the Akhira for the believers They can't both be the same The dunya can't be Jannah And then Akhira also Jannah The dunya has to be something hard and tough It has to be a trial and tribulation In order for the believer When he comes the day of judgement And Allah places the believer in Jannah He sees the difference Where he once was And where he now is May Allah make us from the people of Jannah May Allah distance us from the Hellfire Everyday we live in this world It's a fear and it's a concern We're concerned for our Deen We're concerned for our worldly affairs And from the greatest calamities In which is sent down And from the greatest مدلهمت Is what? From the greatest Is فقد الأحبه It is to lose your loved ones من الأباء والأمهات To lose your father To lose your mother To lose your brothers and your sisters الإخوة والأخوات والأخوالي والخالات Losing your maternal aunties And your paternal aunties والأعمامي والعمات And losing your uncle And your paternal auntie والأحباب and your loved ones والأصحاب your friends and your companions الله تبارك وتعالى He told us in the Quran فأصابتكم مصيبة الموت الله تبارك وتعالى He referred to death as a مصيبة أكلامتي فيأ الله ما أصعبها من لحظات والأحوات والله He is from the greatest things It is from the greatest pain To lose a person you love And that moment you find out That that person is no longer Going to be with you in this world And that they are not going to Stay with you, it's hard It's painful وأعصرها من دقائق وساعات And it's very hard And it is very heavy That minutes and those seconds That you know that The day that you realize That this person is in another world And you're in another world The day when you realize The wrong things that you said to them And the hard statements That you used against them And they're not there anymore To say forgive me I'm sorry I shouldn't have said that And you start to feel فتتجرع مرارة الفراقي والوداع You feel bitterness Of that deep heart And that separation That goes between the both of you Allah says in the Quran منها خلقناكم From this earth we created you وفيها نعيدكم And this earth we will take you back ومنها نخرجكم تارة أخرى And from it will be taken out الله tells us in سبحانه وتعالى It was this earth we were created from originally It's this same earth brothers and sisters That when the dust goes on your clothes You try to clean it off It is this dunya Or it's this earth That you walk on today When your face goes down on the earth You don't like it You wouldn't lie down on the streets And you would not lie down on the ground منها خلقناكم It is from this earth that you were created from وفيها نعيدكم And this earth you're going to return back to It's what's going to swallow you It's what's going to eat you This body that you're taking care of And you're creaming This body that you're feeding And you're giving it food This body that you place Over a nice comfortable bed It's going to be eaten by the earth ومنها نخرجكم تارة أخرى And from this earth You will once again come out from So how is a person going to be able How can someone And how can a person find strength يدفين أمه That he buries his mother ويضعها في قبرها And he places her in her grave And he walks away from her How can a person do that How is a person able to باري his father The father that strived And exerted all of his efforts وتعيب في الحياة الدنيا And he strived in his dunya To make sure that he gives you فو to eat A roof over your head And he tried his best To save you And protect you from any harm He gave you food He gave you a roof over your head And he gave you security and safety With the permission of Allah How is a person able to باري their own child When they see their child They find warmth And happiness in their hearts How can a person bury their loved one A man buries his wife The person who he spent his life with The person who he cares about He now has to place her in her grave And now raise the children by himself How can a woman Known that her husband is buried in the earth He's no longer going to be around To help her at the time when she feels low And she's unable to do it And she can't make it happen The person who used to talk to her And help her and guide her through it The person who installed happiness in her heart Is no longer around How is she able to Let that happen All of these are مصائب My beloved brothers and sisters That the dunya was created for It all becomes A reality for us one day But what is it that Can make a person go through all of that الإيمان بالله If he believes in Allah سبحانه وتعالى و اليوم الآخر If he believes in the day of judgment قال تعالى الله سيزن القرآن و لنبلو أنكم بشيء من الخوف والجوع ونقص من الأموال والأنفوس والثمارات الله says we're going to test you و لنبلو أنكم بشيء الله says we're going to test you with what الخوف فيها و الجوع حنغا و نقص من الأموال والأنفوس والثمارات الله is going to reduce your wealth الله تبارك وتعالى is going to reduce The people who are around you Their lives they're going to die Your loved ones are going to go Allah is going to reduce from you سبحانه وتعالى يعني the wealth he's given You're going to lose all of that and the crops and the vegetations You're going to lose all of that Allah is going to take people's lives سبحانه وتعالى الله then says و بشير الصابيرين Give glad tidings to the people who are patient Who are the ones who are going to be patient يعني who can endure and make it through all of those calamities Who are the ones who are able to do that الله says الذين إذا أصابتم مصيبة The one that when the calamity befalls them and they go through it and they are afflicted with it قالوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ They say قالوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ from Allah we came وإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ and to Allah we're going to return الله says أولائك عليهم صلوات من ربهم ورحمة وأولائك ومُلمُه تَدُوُو الله سبحانه وتعالى He says أولائك those who are just mentioned Who? The ones who say إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ The ones who are patient الله says أولائك عليهم All those people is what صلوات من ربهم ورحمة صلوات ورحمة ورحمة from Allah will be upon them وَأُولَائكَهُ مُلمُه تَدُوُونَ And they're the guided ones They're the ones who are guided الله guided them سبحانه وتعالى at that moment of loss They lost their loved ones They lost their father their mother They lost their children They lost their wives They remember Allah straight away because he's deeply rooted in their hearts قالوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ They say from Allah we came and to him we're going to return أولائك those ones أولائك عليهم صلوات ومضربهم ورحمة Those are the ones who Allah will praise them amongst the angels Those are the ones who Allah is going to send on them peace, happiness and joy And those are the ones who Allah guided سبحانه وتعالى الإمام البخاري رحمه الله نريتر نصح الحن الإمام المسلم من حريث آنس بن ماليك آنس رضي الله عنه he mentioned مر النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بمرأة تبكي عند قبر The messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he came by a woman who was crying next to a grave فقال The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said to the woman اتقلها be conscious of Allah فيها الله تبارك وتعالى وصبري and be patient be conscious of Allah in what you're doing be aware of what you're doing have Allah in your mind فيها الله تبارك وتعالى وصبري and be patient قال to the woman she didn't know it was the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم so she said إليك عني leave me alone go away leave me alone فإنك لم تصب بمصيبتي you are not going through the calamity I'm going through you are not being tested with that which I'm being tested with ولم تعرف who the narration says but she didn't know who he was she didn't know the person that she was saying this to is نبي الله محمد محمد بن عبد الله صلى الله عليه وسلم she didn't know فقيلة لها The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم she can see that she's mourning she's crying he can see her situation he then left her the narration mentioned that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he left he walked away then the people came to her they said to her do you know who you just spoke to فقيلة لها إنه النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم the person you spoke that to the person you said that to is محمد بن عبد الله صلى الله عليه وسلم the Prophet of Allah so the woman became shocked of what she just did so she ran she went to the Prophet's house فأتت باب النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم when she came to the Prophet's door فلم تجد عنده بوابين but she couldn't find a security guard and the Prophet asked him there was no security guard blocking his door and there was not صلى الله عليه وسلم a receptionist that she had to go to none of that عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم and the scholars they mentioned that this was after the آية came down يا أيها الرسول انزل إليك من ربك وإن لم تفعل فما بلغت رسالته والله يعصبوك من الناس الله is going to protect you from the people after that verse came down the Prophet no longer had security guard before that he did صحابه they used to take turns in looking after him عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم but after that آية came down the Prophet was informed والله يعصبوك من الناس so she came to his house فلم تجد عنده بوابين she couldn't find any security guard anyone there فقالت she said to the Prophet عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم لم أعرفك I didn't know it was you فقالت the Prophet said to her إنما الصبر عند الصدمة الأولى the Prophet he said to her that the patience is when the calamity first hits you إنما الصبر patience is when عند الصدمة الأولى وما عند صدمة الأولى فقالتها صلى الله عليه وسلم إنما الصبر patience عند الصدمة الأولى it's when the calamity first hits you that's when you need to be patient صلى الله عليه وسلم so my beloved brothers and sisters now that we are seeing in the world the way it is the calamities that are taking place the people that are dying COVID-19 the deaths that we're hearing of what is it upon us that we should say when we lose our loved one that which is necessary for us to say عند المصيبة when the calamity befalls us is ماثبت عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم the things that have been transmitted to us from the Prophet عليه صلى الله عليه وسلم they used to say and from the things was as our mother أمو سلمة رضي الله تعالى عنها زوج النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم she's the Prophet's wife ألمان مسلم لريته دي سنة صحيح she mentioned she said سمعت أيهاد رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول أيهاد the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ما من عبد تصيبه موصيبة there is not a person who is afflicted with a calamity فيقول he says when the calamity hits him and he goes through it he says إِنَّا لِلَّاهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيهِ رَجُعُونَ as we mentioned before in the ayah those who Allah said about them أولاقة عليهم صلوات من ربهم ورحمة أولاقة هم المحتدون they say what they say إِنَّا لِلَّاهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيهِ رَجِعُونَ so the Prophet said whenever a calamity will befall him whenever he will go through a hardship whatever affliction he would say إِنَّا لِلَّاهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيهِ رَجِعُونَ from Allah we came unto him we are going to return the Prophet says that اللهم and then after that the person says اللهم the word Allah means يا الله اللهم the word Allah and they say this meme in اللهم that meme in that it's حرفوني that it's basically it's taking the place of ya it's saying يا الله you're calling الله تبارك تعالى you say اللهم what do you say اللهم اللهم جرنين في مصيبتي or Allah reward me in my calamity that I'm going through give me good out of it reward me with good وخلوف لي خيرا منها and give me something better than it that's what the person says الله reward me in my calamity reward me with good and also this thing that's happened to me bring about for me that which is better don't make my situation worse the Prophet said anyone who says that because the hadith says ما من عبد تصيب مصيبة فيقول that there is not an individual who when the calamity be be fooled or he goes through this calamity and says this إلا أجاره الله في مصيبتي except that Allah will reward you in your calamity أجر and guess what واخلف له خيرا منها الله will give you better than it أومد أم السلام رضي الله تعالى عنها she lost her husband someone she truly loved someone she loved she lived her took her time with a righteous husband a righteous slave of Allah a noble companion so when she died the Prophet ﷺ had told her to say this so the Prophet ﷺ she took his advice she took the Prophet's advice but look what she said قالت she said فلم توفي أبو سلامة وان أبو سلامة died قلت I said to myself كيف she said كما she said sorry when her أبو سلامة died she said and he passed away she said what the Prophet told her to say كما أمرانية رسول الله سلامة the thing that the Prophet told me to say I said it فأخلف الله ولي خيرا منه الله gave her someone better than أبو سلامة and who was that brothers and sisters نبي الله محمد مارد نبي الله محمد مارد brothers and sisters if you've lost a loved one and you cry there's no problem as long as you're crying is بضوابط الشراء it's within the boundaries of the sharia أنا سبن مالك رضي الله و تعالى عنه he narrated and he mentioned the Hadith of Imam Al-Bukhari narrated in his Sahih and also an Imam Muslim رحمه الله he said دخلنا we entered upon رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم when we entered upon the Prophet فأخذ رسول الله the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he took إبراهيم فقبله he took his own son إبراهيم and the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم he kissed him و شمه ثم دخلنا عليه بعد ذلك he smelt him he kissed his own son و إبراهيم يجود بنفسي إبراهيم is losing his his dying passing away فجعلت عيناه the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم his eyes started to تدري فاني they were just watering crying صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال له عبد الرحمان ابن عوفن عبد الرحمان ابن عوفن he came and he said و أنت يا رسول الله oh messenger of Allah even you are you really gonna cry يعني he thought it wasn't allowed for someone to cry he said يا رسول الله are you gonna cry even you فقال the Prophet he said يبن عوفن إنما he said عبد الرحمان يعني the Prophet توكنت عبد الرحمان ابن عوف he said يبن عوفن إنها رحمة what you're seeing right now me crying it is that I can't come in out of my eyes that's mercy ثم أتبعها بأخرى فقال then the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he followed it up by saying إن العينة تدمع the eyes they water والقلب يحزن and the heart feels sadness ولا نقول we don't say إلا ما يرضي ربنا we say that which is pleasing to our Lord وإنا بفراقك يا إبراهيم ولا ما حزونون إبراهيم we are sad for losing you ألمام بنو حجر رحمه الله when he commented this on his كتافة حلباري he said هذا الحديث this حديث يفسر البكاء المباح this حديث this حديث it explains to us the type of crying which is allowed and this حديث teaches us والحزنة الجائز it explains to us the permitted and allowed crying وهو and that is ما كان بدمع العين it is the crying where the eyes water ورقة القلب and the heart is soft من غير سخط لأمر الله without the person coming with that which is angering الله without going against الله commandment also when a person loses is a loved one they are allowed to complain to الله نبي الله he is a he is a good example in this when he lost his child he complained to who Allah complained to Allah he doesn't go against being patient الله says in the Quran قال إنما أشكوب في وحزن إلى الله وعلم من الله ما لا تعلمون he said إنما أشكو I complained to who my pain my suffering my hardship I complained to who الله وعلم I know من الله from Allah ما لا تعلمون I know of him سبحانه وتعالى that which you don't know ولي ذلك it was mentioned شكا إلى الله ولم يشك من الله he complained to Allah but he didn't complain about Allah ومن شكا إلى الله وصل anyone who complains to Allah will reach ومن شكا من الله فصل and anyone who complains about Allah he will be disconnected he will never reach ولما شكا إلى الله وجد الخلف من الله and when he complained to Allah الله gave him better الله تبارك بالتعالى he gave him what he wanted ومن القيم he mentions in this كتاب عدة الصابرين والدخيرة الشاكرين he said إذا شكى العبد ربه إلى مخلوق مثله فقد شكى من يرحمه فقد شكى من يرحمه إلى من لا يرحمه anyone who complains about Allah to a creation like him then he has complained about the most merciful to a person who is not going to show you mercy الله is the most merciful how can you complain about him to the creation who has no mercy for you and so many people when they lose their loved ones they disobey Allah تبارك بالتعالى by doing things that go against the religion my beloved brother and sisters let's not be those who go against Allah after we've lost a loved one a person we love rather as soon as we lose our loved one there are actions that we can come with that might benefit that person that could benefit this person let's focus on making sure that we make this happen there are few things إن شاء الله I'm going to mention أبو داود narrated in his Sunan رحمه الله authenticated in صحيح الجامعة on the authority of عثمان عفاني رضي الله تعالى عنه that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا كان كان النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم إذا فارغا من دفن الميتي the prophet was one that if he left the burial of a person وقف عليه فقال that the prophet will stand over the body and he will stand over the grave and he would say استغفروا لأخيكم وسلوا الله له التثبيت فإنه الآلة يسأل he will say to the people the prophet استغفروا لأخيكم ask forgiveness for your brother or ask forgiveness for your sister وسلوا الله له التثبيت and ask Allah to make this person firm on the ground فإنه الآلة يسأل for verily this person is being questioned and interrogated now so the first thing that you can do for the person is a dua والاستغفار asking Allah forgiveness for them making dua for them أبو غير رضي الله تعالى عنه he mentioned that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said إنه الرجل أيمان or a woman لا ترفع ودرجةه في الجنة a person will be risen in jannah he will be given a high place in jannah فيقول the person will then say why am I risen why am I being given this position how did I earn this place for you قال to the person it will be said to them باستغفار والادي كلك the reason why you've attained this place and the reason why you've been given this position is because you're child who you left behind asks Allah forgiveness for you ابنما generated أن شغل البانية رحمة الله authenticating الكتاب صحيح الجامعة also a benefit to person is a Sadaqah giving Sadaqah عشر رضي الله تعالى عنها she mentioned أن رجل قال للنبي أمان said to the prophet إن أم إفتوليتت نفسها وأظنها لو تكلمت تصدقت انتصدقت انتصدقت عنها أمان came to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he lost his mother so he said to the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said my mother if she was alive right now and she could speak and she could say words she would want to give a Sadaqah I know my mother if she was alive right now she would want Sadaqah to give Sadaqah she can't speak right now she can't say what she wants but I know what my mother would want can I pay can I give Sadaqah on her behalf the prophet said yes you can أليمام البقاريون ريتي دسين الصحيح أنا أصول أليمام المسلم رحمه الله ولذلك صاحب عون المعبود he mentions he says ومن أفضل الصدقة سقي المائي one of the most beneficial things that a person can do is doing well لأنه لأنه why أعام نفع في الأمور الدينية والدنيوية خصوصا في تلك البلاد الحارة في الأمور where it's hot and people really need water okay when it comes to their worldly affairs and they're here after affairs water benefits in the religious affairs وصول and everything they need water and their الدنيا affairs water does a lot for people so make hope يعني doing a well it's عام نفع the benefit more people can share it ولذلك ساعد من عبادة رضي الله تعالى عنه he said قلت يا رسول الله he said oh messenger of Allah إن أمي ماتت أفأت صدقوا عنها my mother passed away كن I give صدقة نها بها قال نعم the prophet said yes فأي صدقة أفضل which صدقة is the best oh messenger of Allah the prophet said سقي الماء in his كتاب صحيح ترغيب والترغيب حسنون لغيره حسنون لغيره also from the things that you can do for your loved one is قضاء الدين if there was debt on them that they had to pay to someone to pay for them سلامة بن أكوع رضي الله تعالى عنه he mentioned أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قوتي بجنازة the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم جنازة was brought to him ليصلي عليه so he can pray فقال the prophet he said هل عليه من دين is there debt on this person قالوا نعم they said yes oh messenger of Allah the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said if that's the case and that this person is debt on him لا أصلي عليه I'm not going to pray on him then one of the صحابes he came to the prophet أبو قتاد he said يا رسول الله I will pay his debt please pray on him pray please pray on him then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he went and he prayed on him when أبو قتاد said عليه دين يا رسول الله and this debt is on me I'm the one who's going to pay the prophet then stood up and he prayed on him also what you can do brothers and sisters is الحج والعمرة يبلا عباسي رضي الله بتعالى عنه ما he mentioned أن امراءة من جهينة جاءة إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال a woman from the people of she said my mother made a nader that she's going to do Hajj فلم تحج حتى ماتت and there was Hajj on her and she died and she didn't do it أفا حج عنها can I do it for her قال نعم the prophet said yes حج عنها go and do Hajj on her behalf أرأيت لو كان على أم كدين أم دين would you have paid off your mother's debt if there was debt on her أكونتوا قاضية the answer of course is yes then the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said أقضوا الله ففل الله his debt فالله أحق بالوفاء الله is deserving سبحانه وتعالى for a person to give my beloved brothers and sisters في الختامة I want to say إخواني في الله my beloved brothers and sisters know that every single person every individual is going to go into their graves and everybody's going to be placed in that place and when you go into that place you're going to regret the moments that went by in your life that you did not increase in righteous actions you're going to remember those moments where you sat somewhere and you never did the auto-speech you didn't say سبحان الله و الحمد لله و لا إله إلا الله و الله أكبر you're going to remember those days when you didn't pray a sunnah you're going to remember many things that you left out so now that you have this opportunity perfect your situation and come with righteous action و لذلك بعض السلف they used to say كل يوم يعيشوا فيه المؤمن every day that the believer is alive is a what غنيمة it's a day of benefit it's a day of يعني reaping good deeds و لذلك they also used to say من أصلح في مابقية غوفر له مامضة anyone who perfects that which is left from his life and he worships Allah for whatever is left of his life الله will forgive him for his past و من أساء في مابقية and anyone who corrupts that which is left of his life و خدا فيه مابقية و مامضة he will be punished for what he has done in the past and he will be also punished and he will be held account for what he does in the future my nasiha to you my brothers and sisters and myself is do not forget your parents who passed away do not forget your father and your mother who passed away do not forget your brothers and sisters who passed away by doing dua for them by giving sadqa on their behalf والله they are in great need of it جعلنا الله و إياكم may Allah make us from those people من من قال الله فيهم يوزو الله سلبعضم والذين صبروا بتغاء و اجهي ربهم و أقاموا الصلاة و أنفقوا من ما رزقناهم سرا و علانية و يدرأون بالحسنة السيئة أولئك لهم عقوب الدار جنات عدني يدخلونها و من صالح من آبائهم وأزواجهم و ذرياتهم والملائكة يدخلون عليهم من كل باب سلام عليكم بما صبرتم فنعم عقوب الدار سبحانك الله وبحمده أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله أستغفرك وأتوب إليه السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته كيف يمكنك أن تفعله اشهر الثلاثة الآن سوف نعطيكم اشهر الثلاث من كل ما نفعله على this YouTube Channel بسرعة مثل هذا الفيديو و اشتراك لماذا؟ سوف يجعل YouTube يجب أن تساعدون أشهرنا الفيديو إلى أخرين و اظنوا أشهر كبير كبير يمكنك أن تتوقف لكم على اليوم إذا فعلت ذلك مع سبعة تساعدة سوف تساعد من كل شخص who benefits from one of our videos as a result of your like or subscribe that's an easy two second action that you definitely 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