 10 Things You Need To Stop Doing To Be Happier Dale Carnegie, an American writer and lecturer once said, It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about. Have you ever wondered why some people remain unhappy even if things of life are given to them on a platter of gold? This is from within and cannot be forced if you are doing certain things consciously or not to stop it. Abraham Lincoln, an American statement and lawyer, who served as the 16th President of the United States said, Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be. Our actions determine our happiness. Little Wonder, Daile Lama, the 14th, one of the monks of the Gilloch School, the newest school of Tibetan Buddhism, said and I quote, Happiness is not something ready made, it comes from your actions. A truly happy person feels nothing but pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. While we all want to be truly contented and happy, certain actions can hinder us from being happy. In this video, I'll share with you 10 things you need to stop doing to be happier. This I believe will help you become a successful person. If you're new here, consider subscribing so that you won't miss other interesting videos like this. 1. Living in the Past Everyone's past is filled with both good and bad experiences, which are responsible for shaping our lives into what it is. Yours is not any different. So, whether you've had a terrible past or not, the worst decision you can make is to keep living in all the past moments, wishing and regretting, because no matter how much you dwell on the past, you cannot change any bit of it, and instead, focus on creating a new and pleasant beginning that will form the foundation of your success. The past is just a training field, it doesn't define you. So think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that next time you make things go right by tapping from your wealth of experiences and lessons learned. 2. Comparing Yourself With Everyone Else The truth is, there are no two people who are exactly alike. No matter how identical they may be, we are all unique and we have our differences. So, why try to be like someone else? You know, you'll never find happiness being that way. Ralph Waldo Emerson said and I quote, to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Be yourself and enjoy every bit of what you have. Yes, you should strive to become a better person, but your only competition should be you. Be a better version of yourself, not trying to be like others. 3. Pleasing Everybody Lao Zhu, an Asian-Chinese philosopher and writer said, care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. Everyone has their opinions, preferences and expectations. So, be in charge of what's best for you instead of trying to accept everyone's opinion. For instance, you have three friends. One wants to wear a red cloth to an event, another yellow and the last one purple. Because of love for the three friends and you do not want them to be mad at you, you decide to wear all three colors. That's so loving of you, right? Of course not. The best thing to do in such a situation is to wear what pleases you, not anyone else. You'll be surprised to find out that people never get satisfied. No matter how much you try pleasing them, they'll always want more. So, why bother in the first place? 4. Neglecting Yourself and Your Need No one is in a better position to tell you how to live your life than you. Again, you'll be surprised to find out that people who are dictating to you how best to live your life don't have everything figured out themselves. So, use the time to focus on yours. Find out what you like, what your interests are and what you're passionate about and then enjoy the rest of your life doing these things. 5. Blaming People for Your Mistakes Mistakes are a part of life. We learn and grow when we make mistakes. However, blaming other people or circumstances for your mistakes instead of taking responsibility for your action will never make you happy. Taking responsibility when things go wrong instead of blaming others isn't masochistic. It's empowering because then you focus on doing things better or smarter next time and when you achieve a better result next time, you'll be happy. 6. Trying to Control Life As much as we expect things to go smoothly and as planned all the time, it sometimes never turns out that way. That's just life. So, what do you do when that happens? Control life? The only constant thing in life is change. Others are uncertain. Instead of trying so hard to figure out everything, you can learn to control your reactions to things, especially when life throws an unexpected bombshell at you. Be resilient enough to grow in any situation you find yourself. 7. Complaining and Wining Instead of complaining and whining about nearly everything, why not change your perspective to see the positivity in everything? The truth is, your words have power, especially over you. So whining and complaining over your problems will only make you feel bad, not better. When something goes wrong, don't spend time talking about it. And talk about how you can make things better. That way, you'll feel better and happy. 8. Ignoring Your Health Your health should be one of your priorities in life. Thomas Jefferson, an American state man, diplomat, lawyer and founding father who served as the third president of the United States said, Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation and freedom in all just pursuits. When you are healthy, you'll be capable of doing great things. You'll equally be capable of taking care of your family and loved ones, and this is one of the most fulfilling things on earth. When you ignore your health, on the other hand, you'll become a burden, not just to yourself but to everyone around you as well. The more you see yourself in that position, the more you'll be angry and sad. 9. Trying to Be Perfect There's no such thing as a perfect man, so if you think you'll gain people's approval when you become perfect, you are wrong. Remember what we said earlier about trying to please everyone? It never works. Likewise, trying to be perfect, it will only lead to frustrated efforts. Instead, channel the energy into doing something creative and fun, something you enjoy doing that will make you happy. 10. Not Spending Time With Your Loved Ones We get it. You want to be successful, so you're willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish that. Brilliant enough. However, do not let your ambitions get in the way of your family time or else, after achieving your goals, you'll spend the rest of your life wishing you had done things differently. Besides, happiness is only real when shared. But what happens when you have no one to share it with because you've replaced them with work? Happiness is something we create through our actions. Doing these or any of these 10 things can interfere with your happiness. Stop doing them today and see what happens next. Thank you very much for watching our videos. We'll like to give you another interesting video for you to enjoy next. 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