 Welcome to another Narc Survivor live video. I'm here at the Ket in Thailand just out by the beach here with the new BMW that I've rented for the month. It's very warm weather out here just down by the beach. It's a very peaceful night so yeah just out here living life and that actually fits in with this topic very well because if you are out there and you're living your life you're not focusing on the narcissist you are going to notice many signs that you have defeated them some of which I'm going to go into right now started off one that often confuses a lot of people is that whenever the narcissist tries to make you feel envious or jealous that's because you've defeated them you've caused a narcissistic injury pay attention to their behaviors their behaviors result from their emotions emotions that are in response to some real or imagined threat something that you may have said or done where it could be completely imagined in their heads which they are then attributing to you so pay attention to their behaviors if they're trying to make you envious jealous of someone or something that's because you've defeated them they feel threatened by you and that is then triggering them to act when you see the narcissistic rage any kind of anger any intense negative emotions these are signs that you have defeated the narcissist even where they give you the silent treatment that's another sign the silent treatment is still rage but it's more passive aggression maybe it's something where they feel like they can't justifiably act out or rage at you so they just go silent whenever a narcissist is trying to cause any discomfort to you whenever they're trying to hurt you that's a sign that you have defeated them whenever they try to cut you out of something whenever they treat you with contempt as though you're worthless beneath their consideration many of us take this to heart because we're empathic people and they know that we're empathic people and we take it personally we think it has something to do with us but no they're treating you that way because you've defeated them you may not have meant to have done anything intentionally sometimes just you being you is enough it's enough to cause that knock injury so these are some of the signs that you have defeated the narcissist if you've caused a knock injury you have defeated them I hope that this has been helpful now let's get into the discussion part of the video share with me your experiences a time when you defeated the narcissist when you caused a narcissistic injury share your experiences with me below in the live chat and I will read it out share my thoughts with you so please type it below now Gary says they have been trying to hurt me since the start that's right they will but as empathic people we take it so personally we think it has something personally to do with us well they never even took the time to really get to know us they can't really get to know you anyway all they see is extensions of themselves and you're either a positive extension or a negative extension of them but whichever one you are it doesn't mean that it has anything to do with you as a person the owner says I broke up with him before he could break up with me that's great you don't have to break up with them first to defeat them as long as you leave at some point and you go no contact that's enough to defeat a narcissist and they will feel like they have lost but if you do break up with them before they can break up with you yes that is the ultimate defeat that is one thing that they cannot stand when you do that you've ruined their plans they like to be in control of that they like to have another source lined up before they get rid of you so if you break up with them first you ruin that for them narcissist to be a survivor says the ex-wife constantly tries to make me feel jealous of a new supply I left her because of a new supply and she didn't think I had the courage to do so yeah they will try to make you feel envious or jealous but when they do that it's because they're envious or jealous of you however they feel when they're around you that's how they want to make you feel they want to bring you down to their level I'm glad to hear that you had the courage to leave your ex-wife especially when she was trying to make you jealous of the new supply shouldn't tolerate that Mandy says after a year of his manipulation had him corrected me on everything I finally said you think you're always right superior really injured his fragile state yeah well they hate it when you just speak on it when you just openly talk about what they're actually doing they don't like it because they want to do these things without you acknowledging it they want to keep it under the radar but when you pull it up to the surface it will cause a narcissistic injury they'll probably deny it they might try to shift the blame on to you but again when they do those things it's because you've defeated them so then all they can do is deflect it on to you anyway I hope this video has been helpful to you I appreciate all of the likes comments together we are really making this community grow and I am very proud of this community that we have created we did it together but of course we're not done yet we're never done we need to keep spreading the awareness so please share these videos get the message out there put it on social media share it on your YouTube accounts share with family friends anyone who you think it may help let's get the message out there this is our community so we all have a part in this and you can also make donations as well I invest a lot of money every year into this channel so know that your donations are going to a good course you can donate using the super chats we can go to my paypal it's paypal.me slash Narc Survivor and I'm also on Instagram and TikTok I just put a new video on TikTok a few minutes ago so check out those social media accounts as well come find me at Narc Survivor YouTube I'm away in Phuket Thailand just on the beach here it's really warm but there's a nice cool breeze and got the BMW here I know I normally do videos in the car but the weather's just so great out here and I love the scenery although it is a bit noisy I will try to find a quiet place next time but I hope you're enjoying this beach as much as I am got palm trees golden yellow sand clear blue sea although it is quite dark you can't really see right now when you defeat the narcissist this is what you get when you leave that toxicity behind the excessive control where you can't even live your own life then you can finally come out here drive luxury cars you can walk on beautiful beaches and you can just live the life that you want to live because you deserve to do that after everything you've been through everything the narcissist put you through you deserve to live the life that you want to live you deserve to be happy don't let the narcissist or anyone else tell you otherwise anyway I'm going to stop this video here thank you all for joining me at this live video I appreciate you all and you all have a good day or night depending on where you are