 The narcissist is constantly thinking about you. That is the topic for this video. They're constantly thinking about you and you will know if this was the type of narcissist that you were dealing with. You will know it because when they were with you when you were around them they were very demanding of your attention and they were very controlling as well. So that should instantly reveal that there was an attachment. They wanted something from you and the more demanding and controlling that they were it should reveal to you just how significant that was to them. But of course the question is why? Why are they constantly thinking about you? Because I'm sure if you clicked on this video it is because it resonates with you. It's because you've noticed that you were dealing with and you would assume that yes they must be constantly thinking about you. And I'm here to tell you that yes your suspicions are not invalid. Now let's get into the reasons why they are thinking about you. You have some innocence about you. Maybe some naivety. You may lack experience in some areas of life and it may also be because of your strength. Your mental and emotional strength. You may have discipline and self-control. You know how to limit or restrict yourself when required but not only your strength it is also because you may have a weakness or vulnerability which many strong people in fact everyone has as well and that is how they get in. You may be trusting and forgiving. It makes them think that they've always got a chance. They can always get back in with you and in some cases it may not even be much of a choice for you. If you are being controlled financially by the narcissist or maybe you are the target of a spear campaign of course these types of things make it very difficult for you to leave but as I said the more demanding and controlling the more restrictive they are on you. All of these things should reveal to you that yes they are constantly thinking about you and I do believe that there is also a spiritual aspect to this as well. I do believe that when you are just all of a sudden thinking about them it may be because in fact yes they are thinking about you. This energy is being sent out there this negative energy and then it's taken away your peace of mind but if you clicked on this video I would say that yes there is a good chance that this narcissist you are dealing with is constantly thinking about you because for you to even assume that you must have noticed certain things in their behaviors you must have noticed that they were very demanding very possessive and controlling because they see you as this object that exists to meet their needs they see you as their possession it's not because they value you as a person or that they even see you as a separate person with your own feelings or needs they just look at it like you're this tool the appliance for them to use so that they can get their emotional needs met the emotional needs that were never met when they were children so they're using you for that but of course it is very difficult for them to keep you around once you catch on and once you figure them out they want to keep you trapped even though they may be the abuser in your life and they're very negative they can't get away from you they want to make you think that they have something to give and by doing that that is how they maintain the trauma bond and as I said before it may be something financially or they may just try to get you dependent on them for validation and they're very sneaky the way that they do this and it typically comes after the devaluation being attacked by a fly just try and walk over here out of the way but yes the trauma bond this typically occurs after the devaluation because I'm still being followed by this fly follow me all the way back to the topic yes the trauma bond turns after the devaluation after the devaluation phase and there is a reason for that and of course the reason is because you may already be self validating you may be very confident in yourself and of course that is a threat to their control because they really need you they need you more than you could have ever thought that you needed them so of course they've got to keep you trapped they've got to keep you stuck and the way that they do that is by impairing your sense of self and your belief and confidence in yourself by making you think and feel like you're something else or that something is wrong with you because of course as empaths the first thing we're going to think when someone sees something wrong with us or as though they want us to be better or for us to change we're automatically going to be thinking okay so what can I do to please you what can I do to make you happy and then that is when you're on this hamster wheel you're trying to please them and it's like no matter what you do it's never good enough even if you achieve something that they want they will always move the goalposts so that you never feel like you're enough and it leaves you constantly dependent on them for validation that's how they keep you trauma bonded first they have to make you doubt yourself and your own intuition and doubt your own abilities and qualities and achievements and then grow memory perception and sanity and you've lost this inner compass this thing that would normally direct you and because of that it leaves you very susceptible to external direction it leaves you to be very suggestible and of course that is when the abuser comes in to suggest and direct you and at that point they can tell you whatever they want whatever they think you want to hear whatever they think is going to affect you whatever they think is going to keep you stuck and under their control and they will use it to maintain reinforcement where they give punishments and rewards irregular irregular intervals and it leaves you to become addicted to them where you may be being punished you may be being abused but then you're still there waiting for this reward and it just leaves you holding on and you're heavily dependent on them for validation for a compliment for something to uplift you them to tell you who you even are because by that point after the devaluation you have already lost yourself you've lost your sense of self and you're looking to them to provide that to you for them to tell you who you are and by that point they can tell you anything they can tell you the sky is green and if you've been beaten down enough a lot of you some of you rather may actually begin to doubt yourself and they might move things around the house and they do all of these crazy things but it leaves us looking at ourselves to think that something is wrong with us when in actuality you've really got to look at them and wonder what compelled them to do that in the first place thinking about you you're constantly on their minds looks like they suddenly started leaf blowing over you so i'm going to get back in the car i'm driving this malaysian car now the proton but i've got the bmw coming back later today also got nala in here as well it's right down there also there is actually a problem with the microphone in here as you may have remembered from yesterday so it's very hard to find a quiet space in malaysia as you probably noticed in my videos i have driven in the last few weeks maybe 4 000 kilometers around the country and wherever i go there's always these modified cars or motorbikes it's almost impossible to get away from it as you probably noticed yesterday even when i went to this peak in the middle of the jungle there was even a lot of people there as well but i want to stay on here because this is a very important topic for a lot of you i know so i want to give more time to this even though it is quite difficult to concentrate a lot of times because as you can see there are always a lot of distractions but despite that i must with this message because i know that it is my purpose and yeah nothing brings me more joy i'm just to know that i am making a difference a positive change to people's lives i do have a lot to give but yes they are constantly thinking about you and that is the reason why they do everything that they do it's why they love bomb you they manipulate you it's because they're thinking about you and they want you to think about them they want some of that energy and it's also why they devalue you as well because they're doing that to control you to trauma bond you and at times it's even why they discard you and why they ghost you because that's meant to serve as a punishment and that's meant to leave you thinking about them because of course they understand that we can form healthy attachments to people but of course that does nothing for them they have to try to harm you to get you to attach to them in an unhealthy way that's what then gives them that control but everything they do it's really the never giving anything to you to replenish yourself it's always something negative it's always to take something away from you even if it is just your sense of self and well-being or your confidence in yourself your ability to validate yourself and you will notice that as well i'm sure it's like even when they compliment you it just feels so cringy it feels dirty creepy like you know even though that it's like they're pretending to give something to you when in fact their agenda is to take something away and that's all they're really ever trying to do is take away because yes they do have a void they do have this it's like a cup that can never be filled no matter how much you pour into it because there's a leak there's a crack so it just pours out and that is why you will find that they are constantly thinking about you they're very demanding and controlling they demand all of your energy and time because it's just constantly playing on their minds they can't get you out of their heads and it's usually because of envy hatred even jealousy as well and because they can't control the inside they can't discipline themselves they've probably never been disciplined in their entire lives they were always allowed to just roam free and do whatever they want they always had enablers even their parents enabled them so because they can't control themselves and their actions everything they do is just intended to control you to bring you under their grasp to where you can't escape because just your sense of freedom your ability to make your own choices and decisions that is a serious threat to their control it intimidates them and it makes them feel inferior to you because they look at it like if there was a 100 meter sprint and you begin at the same place you're heading to the same finish line they look at it like if it was a fair competition a level playing field they already know that there is no way that they are going to win so all they can do is weigh you down even just tie you to a tree so that you can't even move and they're like the type of people who will do that and then they'll run off to the finish line and then they'll come back to flaunt their trophy in front of you because it's all just this sense of control they have to feel like they're winning at all costs but of course the reason why is because they feel like losers whenever they're around you they feel completely insignificant in comparison so it's like they always have to be there and a lot of times they're just looking for a reaction because they're constantly thinking about you and reacting to you so they want you to react to them they just want you to give your attention even if it is just negative attention that's good enough for them a lot of times because they know they're not worthy of anything positive anyway they know that what they do does not warrant positive attention and they already know that you're not going to see them in that way so instead what they do it's designed to elicit negative attention from you it's designed to make you overthink and to think that you've done something wrong it's always just to get something from you which is why when they're coming around you you're just going to feel depleted you're going to feel like you're holding on to yourself a dear life and it's like even when they present the illusion you still feel like you're being robbed like something is being taken away from you even if it is just your energy or peace of mind and they also feel very uncomfortable around you as well because they already know that you are greater than them they know that you're a much better person they already know that the situation was reversed and you were in that position you would never do the things that they do so that already makes them feel a lot of shame and that is why they have to try to turn everything against you and to give this false narrative about you being bad or you being wrong which again it's just to get you to put in more effort and to try to fix something but i can guarantee no matter what you do if you're dealing with a real narcissist it does not matter how hard you try as an empath no matter what you do to try to please them because of course you recognize that yes they are miserable they do have a void they're seeking something from you but no matter what you do it will never be enough they will never be satisfied they will never be a day where you can feel like yes i made them happy yes we're good you will never get that from the narcissist they will never let you experience that and of course we all know the reason why and the reason why is because if everything is fine with you and you're okay then you're going to be looking at them for some form of reciprocation you're going to be looking at them to give something back to you and of course as we know narcissists have nothing to give other than the illusion they can only present a a false impression something that you have misinterpreted as being something else and that is really all that they can do which of course it's the reason why they never wanted to get to that point the point where you've got one over on them where they acknowledge and accept that yes you've done enough they're satisfied with what you've done because otherwise and you're going to be expecting them to do something for you in return for everything that you've done to them done for them and you know a lot of them don't even have the means they really don't have anything to give to you and even if they did they probably wouldn't do that anyway and of course the reason why is because a relationship is like a game of tennis so one person hits the ball the other person hits it back and it just goes back and forth you're constantly giving to each other to build this relationship together and it's always like they drop the ball they can't continue with the game and that's not to say that it should be a game i'm just using it as an analogy and the reason why they drop the ball every time is because they don't have enough to give to you they already know that if they laid all of their cards out on the table you're not going to be satisfied with that you're not going to see it as though it was a fair exchange and you're probably just going to end up leaving them which of course is the last thing they want you to do because they're constantly thinking about you so by default they have to withhold even though they may not have much to give anyway they do tend to be takers which is why they are very negative because i have they have a void within so even though and it can pose as part of the illusion as well the way they're constantly thinking about you i mean when someone's coming around you in that sort of way you might automatically assume that they do have something to give because you would think why else are they coming around in such an arrogant and entitled way if they don't have anything of their own to give to you but again yes that is just a part of the illusion it leads you to think that there's something there when in reality there actually isn't but it can fool you it can mislead you just looking at the live chat let's see what people are saying queen of the gram says my knock got mad when he came home and saw me watching your channel yeah they will typically get really bad about that they want you to continue believing in and validating the false narrative because of course that is again what they use in an excuse to control you to make you think that something is wrong with you and despite the fact that what they've done to you is probably a million times worse the last thing they want is for the shoe to be on the other foot to where you can judge them because these knocks they have to be the judge the jury the executioner the ones who get to blame you because that's how they maintain their control so yes do be careful when the knock is coming around you don't want them to see you watching these types of videos because of course yes it will just make them mad they're not going to like it because it makes them look bad they don't want to look bad they want to look good they want to look like there's nothing wrong with them at all as though what they do is right everything they do is good so anything that opposes their false image the illusion they're going to want to keep that down they don't want you to expose them let's see what else we got here EA says for me it's the ruminating what ifs should have's could have's regrets crippling regrets you know that's actually another reason why they targeted you and why they're constantly thinking about you is because they know that yes as empaths we do self reflect we look within but naturally we're over thinkers we're always over analyzing situations we're always looking for because we've been trained from when we were children to look for things wrong in situations so that we can make it better or so that we can fix it and typically we always self-love and blame ourselves we look at ourselves and think we could have been better we could have done more so they do play on that as well they play on the fact that you are an empath a kind giving generous person who just wants to help they play on your tendency to feel regret and it's really sad i know that there are actually predators like this out there who do this to people like us but just having that awareness of it hopefully that will help you to detach speedy rider 47 says they get back what they put out there yes i am a spiritual person and i do believe that yes the energy that you give out that is what you will get back and it may not come back immediately but in time it will come back tenfold so all of this negative energy that they're putting out there where they're constantly trying to take away a note or plan issue or reciprocate anything back to you in return i genuinely believe that yes that energy will come back to them eventually just looking for this live chat sir Gio Ramirez says she made the mistake of her life by discarding me yes that's really it they do it is a huge mistake that they make by discarding empaths people like ourselves people who were trained from a very young age to just make things right to make things better i mean that is exactly the type of person that you should have in your life someone who wants to help someone who genuinely cares about you but these narcissists you give them an inch they take a mile you give them a little bit and they will exploit it they will use and abuse you and then try to destroy you because there's something about this innocent nature that we have and we're strong although we may have some weaknesses as well that's what draws them to us and also the fact as well that yes we do overthink over analyze we do ruminate but the sleeve blowing is going to get a bit crazy today now i drove all this way to this park because i saw in the reviews everyone says it's very peaceful but since i've got you all i heard was people yelling and screaming and the kids in the park and obviously this leaf blower as well but there's not much i can do about it seems to follow me everywhere i go seems that someone does not want me to share this message and i genuinely believe that a lot of people want to destroy the forces of goods they don't want to see us getting on here and spreading this information uplifting people but of course yes this is our purpose to spread the vibes and that is what it will continue to do but yes i think that is enough for this message today anyway the narcissist is constantly thinking about you and you will know that you will recognize it from their behaviors from how demanding and controlling they were when they were around you that should tell you everything you need to know but yes if this video was helpful you can give it a thumbs up down below let me know your thoughts in the comment section share and subscribe if you'd like to book a one-on-one with me you can do that on my website it is naksabiver.co.uk and also check on my instagram as well i have new pictures and videos of my travels every day on there it is naksabiver youtube and instagram okay thank you all for joining me you all have a great day and as always i will talk to you in another video very soon