 So what do you do when life falls apart? Okay guys, so this is a this is a video. It's for everybody really. It's kind of like about what life is like post-depression Okay, and actually this video is for a friend, someone who contacted me online this is for Lee and you know, Lee's I'm not going to get into the specifics of Lee's story here, but Needless to say it's a story about a life, a vision, a person had for themselves and it all falls apart Okay, it all falls apart in terms of a family relationships But I'm not going to get specific about it because to be honest with you guys You probably know at this point if you watched a good few of my videos Even in the psychotherapy videos or in the counseling sessions I do with people everything I do is based on this this book, which is A Course in Miracles and Lee is actually using A Course in Miracles now to You know determine well what does all this mean? How do I? Dissern how to move forward in my life But when I read Lee's story The thing that came to me, and this is for you Lee really for watching this It's kind of like you know when things fall apart in life We're left kind of picking up the pieces and it can sometimes feel like you know a Hopeless situation, okay, but the good news is Life after something like this and I'm saying life after depression So I'm saying really like a depression often comes with a huge huge Challenge in life right we can slide into a depression a sense of hopelessness that overtakes us So after this huge depression life is very very different on the other side, okay? So really what I'm saying here today is There's a huge opportunity. This is this title of this video could be something like You know the good side of depression Right, you might be thinking I can't really think of a good side of depression because it feels bloody horrible When a minute and yeah, that's very true But what happens is the exciting thing about depression your life is never the same again not a lot of people talk about this after depression You never see the world the same way again Because what is really taking place when the story you had for yourself or the life you thought you had falls apart What you realize is I Feel horrible. I feel like there's no point in going on in life So you have to re-evaluate What you placed value in Okay, in other words, what were the attachments I had? Because if you're attached to something that can end Or attached to something that will end Ultimately everything ends in the world I mean inevitably you're on a you know, you're in a collision course with pain, okay? And depression teaches you it's sort of like a crash course in Re-evaluating what's important and what's important really in life is What lasts? Not what's temporary okay, and You know, it's one thing saying this it's a very different thing Knowing what this means Like feeling what this means feeling what that reality is, you know, and that's what depression is That's when you learn it first hand so in Lee's story it was when I read it it was like a series of horrible events failed a breakdown in relationships and it's like It reminded me of our course the course miracles course miracles says about well, it doesn't explicitly say it actually It's it spells it out in sections. It talks about the script. We have in our life It really talks about the fact that everything here is sort of predetermined for us Even all the negative things all the challenges, right? And it all happens for a reason it plays out exactly as it's supposed to So the first thing you can take from that is nothing has gone wrong When things seem to break down or completely fall apart in life, right? It's almost like a cruel joke, but of course a miracle that says you're in on it. Okay, you actually You kind of played a part you agreed to this to go through this in order for you to get to the other side And on the other side of this experience Lee is emotional freedom Okay, I'll let him go of attachments. Does it mean that you become indifferent or Cold in relationships quite the opposite of that far more loving afterwards, but you begin to realize nothing here in the world I Can't rely on it You cannot rely on anything and if you do put stock and things in the world the core says It won't work and you figure that out sooner or later. It says Sooner or later everybody gets to the point where they say there must be another way and Lee I'm excited for you because it sounds like that's where you are right now You're at the point where you're realizing there must be another way to live So something else that I mentioned to Lee was okay after this awareness takes place You begin to say well, how am I gonna live in life? Course in miracles. Okay, it gives you a way of Discerning life how to make decisions. That's one of my favorite things about it. It tells you how to make decisions in life So how do you make decisions in life? Okay? We get into all this trouble We go through the depression because of our pre-depression Mindset, which is egotistical. It's it's where we run off to ego programming that we we have Inevitably that brings us to pain But so what we're doing is we kind of have we think we know it all okay We think we we know what's going to make us happy if I can just make this relationship work I'll be happy. Okay, and inevitably then Doesn't work breaks down and what comes in then is a bit of humility and humility is a very very good thing It makes helps us realize that the pre-depression stage that I was in I Was figuring out things by myself. I thought I had all the answers turns out. I don't have any of the answers I Was fooling myself about that and now post-depression What I'm beginning to realize is I need consultation Before I make decisions Okay, and who is the best consulate consultant you can get it's yourself. It's your higher self It's the person the thing part of your own mind that you can contact just by asking And it will help you make decisions going forward in life The interesting thing about it is The the consultant to your higher self your higher mind always tells you the same thing when you consult it Okay, and that is you're safe here. You can't go wrong There's not to worry about okay, and you might say to yourself well, well, that's great Now I know what it says. Why would I bother consultant it? You know if it's going to tell me the same thing all the time What's the big deal? issue is Because of our ego of mind we forget all the time so we go into new situations in life and we think I have a big decision to make here. Okay And if I get the wrong, you know, if I take the wrong choice here that could be terrible consequences Okay Your higher self just comes in and gently reminds you if you ask for the consultation There's not to worry about here Okay, no matter what you choose here, you're safe You cannot go wrong that opens you up the old sorts of new possibilities, but it's the reminder It's the reminder you get that's for big decisions in life and seemingly trivial or small decisions in life So I don't know I could talk a bit more about that, but I just wanted to make a video specifically as opposed for you Lee because by the way You gave a donation which was really nice you to do I wasn't even expecting that but I appreciate it. It was really nice to you But I just wanted to make a quick video about that because you know hopefully it'll help you But also hopefully it'll help other people because all problems are the same the answers all problems are the same Okay, that sounds sometimes we're eager to hear that it's difficult, but yeah, it's true Okay, every problem is the same and the answer is the same to them all so anyway It's food for thought and I hope it helps and I'll talk to you again soon. Take care