 The narcissist does not want you to remember this. This is definitely something they do not want you to remember. But it is also something that is very important for you when you choose to heal and move on. And this actually starts from before you met the narcissist, before they were a part of your lives. I want you to think back right now and remember what things were like. Remember what you were looking for before you got involved with them. And maybe just to remind you, just to refresh your memory. Maybe you were looking for a relationship. Maybe you were looking for love. You know that feeling you get when you hold someone's hand and it feels like it's meant to be. You know that feeling when somebody holds you and it feels like everything is perfect in the world. It's like for a moment, you forget about all of your problems. You forget about everything that's going wrong because you're with this magnificent person who's there for you. Who supports you, who makes you feel good. Yeah, maybe that's what you were looking for. Before you got involved with the narcissist and of course they don't want you to remember that. That's the last thing they want you to remember. But deep down they know. They know they tricked you. They future faked. I bet many of you, you didn't even want to be involved with them. But what did they do? They manipulated you. They lured you in. I'm sure many of you had thoughts about leaving. Even in the beginning, but they gave you every reason not to leave. And you ended up with someone who was the exact opposite of everything you wanted. Everything you dreamed about, they didn't give you a relationship. They didn't give you love. No, they gave you hate. They made you feel like you're nothing. Like not only did you not matter to them, they made you feel like you're not good enough for anyone. But before you met them, you had some belief in yourself. You believed that you could find a good relationship. That you could find someone who would love you. And if you did not believe that, why were you looking for that? You're not going to look for something if you really don't believe that you can't find it. And that's why I know that many of you believed that you were going to find a good, healthy relationship. You believed that you were going to find love, but unfortunately you found someone who was just very good at tricking you. Making you believe that they were about something, but they weren't about shit. They weren't about nothing. They lied to you. And many of them cheated on you. They stole from you, but of course they don't want you to remember this. They don't want you to remember what you were looking for. What you desired. You were looking for love. You were looking for someone who was going to value you and you were going to value them. And you were going to work together and build something. Something to value. Something with meaning. There was a time when you wanted more, more than what you got from them. You wanted love. You wanted that feeling you get when you hold someone's hand and everything just feels right. And they made you believe that they were going to give that to you, but you never got it. You never got that from the narcissist because they haven't got that to give. They haven't got any love to give to you or anyone else. You have to love yourself, at least to some extent, to have love to give to someone else. But narcissists hate themselves, and that is why all they could do is hate you. And by the end of it, we start to feel like something is wrong with us. Because that's how they make us feel. They make us feel that we are not deserving of the very things that we were looking for before we got involved with them. That they led us to believe that they were going to give to us, but they weren't even about that anyway. How crazy does that sound? But that's exactly what they did. They were never about any of that. And that's why in the end, they walked out on you. They left you in the dark like you're nothing, but it's not you. It's not that you're nothing. It's that to them, these things that you were looking for, love, a relationship, that feeling, that means nothing to them. And that is why it was so easy for them to discard you. But then when it's all over, they move on with someone else, and they try to act like they've got it now with someone else. Everything that you wanted. I mean, think about it. Why do they do that? Why do they discard you and move on to someone else? And then they've got to rub it in your face of how they're so happy now. They're in love. They found their soulmate. What's that about? It's because they know that's exactly what you wanted from them. They knew it all along, but they couldn't give that to you. They hated you. All of your qualities and virtues, they couldn't stand it because it left them feeling like something was wrong with them. And that's why when they move on, they want to prove to you and to themselves that no, they can have a healthy relationship. But it's all lies. It's just as fake as what it was with you. It's just they knew what you wanted. They knew you wanted that feeling. That feeling you get from being with someone who loves you unconditionally. So they portray the illusion that they have that with someone else. But it's only a matter of time until that falls apart as well. Never last long unless the new person that they've moved on to is a fool. I mean, you've only got to look back at what they've done not only to you, but to the people before you to know what's going to happen to the next person. I mean, if the narcissist has had three X's that you're aware of and you've seen it, that they lied to them. They cheated on them. They took their money. All of these things. It should be pretty obvious that they're going to do it again. Why would they stop? Especially if it's worked for them. If they've got what they wanted. But yeah, when they leave you alone, they're hoping that you're going to be beating yourself up. Thinking that you weren't good enough for them and you won't be good enough for anyone else. Yeah, they'd love for you to think that. But you just need to look back and remember the person that you used to be. Remember what you used to want and desire. Let that motivate you to move on. Look back at your relationship with the narcissist and realize that it wasn't love. Love is not abuse. It's not manipulation. Future faking. That has nothing to do with love. Love is about acceptance. If someone loves you, they're going to put up a fight. They're not going to leave at the first chance they get. But narcissists will. They're not going to fight for anything. They're not going to stand up for what's right. These people have no backbone. They're not going to do that. They're not going to fight for you. They made you believe that they were that kind of person. The kind of person that was going to encourage and support you no matter what. Time is your teacher. Just look up what time has taught you. Now you see who they really are. But that does not mean that you can't move on and find someone who will fight for you. Who will stick in even when things get tough. You can find someone who is about that for real by just going back and remembering what you were looking for. Because if you're like me, you were looking for a relationship. You were looking for someone who would love you unconditionally. You were looking for someone who would just be there for you and care about you just as you would love and care for them. And although you may not have gotten out from the narcissist even though they made you believe that that's how it was going to be does not mean that you can't find that for real. But I mean many of you it's like you had this intuition. You knew something was off. You knew it wasn't right and you tried to leave but they held on to you for dear life. They wouldn't let you go. They did everything they could to seduce you to make you believe that it was about love. But then once they got everything they could from you what did they do? Then they were gone. They were out there. Like you never mattered. You never meant anything like you never even existed and it's hard I know. There's nothing worse when someone makes you believe that it's safe. Someone makes you believe that you can trust them. I mean yeah you may have been hurt before so many times you may have been betrayed rejected thrown away like garbage but no this time is going to be different. This time they're there for you. They love you. They care about you. They're not going to leave and they tell you that. They tell you it's safe. They tell you can trust them that this time it's finally going to be different and you want nothing more than to hear that. Than to hear that this time is finally going to be different. After all of the times and what do they do? They fuck you over worse than anyone else before. They throw you under the fucking bus they leave you to rot after everything. After all of those months and years all of that time, energy and money and you invested into them and that's how they repay you and you just think how can someone be so heartless? How can they not feel anything? Are they robots? But that's just it isn't it? They have no feeling. It doesn't mean anything to them how you feel. That only meant something to you and we look at ourselves and we think I'm not perfect but I'm a relatively good person. I want the best for them so I'm sure they want the best for me. I have feelings for them so I'm sure they feel something for me. They tell me they do. They make me believe that they do. We just wanted to see the best in them. We wanted to believe that they were good people. People who cared about us. People who had our best interest in mind. Yeah we wanted to believe that and that's how it was so easy for them. It was like taking candy from a baby because you know what? You know all of those times you held their hand you hugged them you kissed them you wanted to go for a walk on the beach a romantic dinner at night yeah you know all of those times they were just thinking to themselves how stupid you are and they knew that they were going to get something out of you. Smart enough to realize what they were about to do to you they manipulated you they groomed you with love they dangled love in front of you like a carrot on a stick and you were chasing after it like you'd never felt real love in your life because you wanted it so bad and they gave you the illusion of love they made you believe that it was real they lured you into this fantasy world using love but soon enough you realized that you were alone in this world they lured you into it and then they abandoned you there they detached from the very fantasy that they lured you into in the first place and then they ran off and they were laughing at you still stuck there on your own thinking how stupid you are what a fool and I honestly believe that that's how they see it from the very beginning they see someone who's lonely who just wants some company someone who wants to be loved someone who wants to give love and they just see it as an opportunity to exploit you to take advantage of you this year love is a weakness and when you think about it it's really sick but this is what they do and this is really what separates it from a normal breakup because in a normal relationship it's two people who are open and honest about how they feel two people who love each other wasn't like that in your relationship though was it they just dangled you along they led you on making you believe that they were about it making you believe that they wanted a future with you and maybe they didn't say that in words but they were there they were pretending they were helping you they were acting as though they're building a future for the both of you but it was just a dream that's all it was and then one day you woke up and realised it wasn't even real you thought you had something and then that's why we feel that feeling of loss and it's not just a time or energy or money we feel like we've lost our soul mate someone who was meant to be there for us no matter what someone who would never betray us because that's what they do they know that we maybe heard from past relationships past experiences and that we have difficulty trusting people they sense that they do everything they can to get you to trust them and then they betray your trust makes you just want to give up on everything because there's one thing that you invested everything into and they made you believe that it's finally different this is it you may not have trusted anyone or anything in your entire life but this time it's different you have to you have to give it your all they make you believe that and you do it and then they go and betray you and you really believed before that point that if anyone was going to be different it was going to be them they were the one person who was going to be loyal because of everything they told you they made you think that it's so easy to trust them like they're harmless they wouldn't hurt a fly and I know it's hard but you have to learn to trust again it's true you have to you can't give up you can't let one person dictate the rest of your life that gives them power over you and you have to consider that if you're trying to move on and you're hurt you're distrustful people can sense that from a mile away they know something's not right with you and while that may attract narcissists it's going to repel normal healthy people people who could be good for you maybe someone who may actually be your soul mate for real so the last thing you want to do is push that away you have to heal you have to wear your heart and your sleeve you can be cautious there's so much noise I would say sirens and fireworks been going on all night I can't see any fireworks I don't know the last thing they want to see is you move it on and being happy they really don't want to see that but I think that's why they break us down so much they want us to think that we're never going to find what we want they want us to think that we'll never be good enough for anyone but you just need to look back and remember what you were looking for you were looking for love romance passion that feeling you get when someone puts their arms around you and holds you and in that moment you feel like everything in the world is perfect and you may not have gotten that from them but that does not mean you can't get that from someone else belief is very powerful believe that it can happen for you and that will dramatically increase the chances of you experiencing that so yeah that's it that's what the narcissist doesn't want you to remember and I hope that this video has helped you as always please let me know in the comments if it has let me know your thoughts on this video let me know what you were looking for before you got involved with the narcissist because of course I'm taking a guess at what most of you were looking for based on myself and what I was looking for before I met the narcissist so yeah please let me know down in the comments below were you looking for love a relationship romance please let me know I'd love to hear from you and as always please give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it alright that's all for this video have a great day