 Does the narcissist miss you? Do they feel regret or sadness at no longer being able to enjoy your presence? Do they notice your absence? This has more to do with them and their feelings than it does to do with you. They do not miss your personality or who you are as a person. They do not miss your characteristic traits or qualities. They miss how you made them feel. During the love-bombing phase, they displayed a false character to you. You gave them your attention and your admiration. This made them feel desirable or attractive. It made them feel as though they were worth something. As though their false self actually existed. You validated their false self and the illusion that they portrayed. This made them feel good about themselves. It had nothing to do with you as a person. It had nothing to do with how they felt about you. It was all about them and how they felt about themselves. They were just using you to regulate their emotions. To regulate their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. You were nothing more than an object which they used to serve their own agenda, their own needs. They didn't see you as anything more than that. During the devaluation phase, they abused you emotionally, mentally, psychologically and sometimes even physically or sexually. They targeted your self-esteem. They made you feel as though you could never be good enough for them or anyone else. They made you feel as though you couldn't do anything right. They projected their insecurities onto you while they were abusing you and denying that they were doing anything wrong or shifting the blame onto you. Gaslighting you. Making you question your own memory, perception and sanity. They had control and influence over you. Their behaviour had a strong effect on your thoughts and feelings. This made them feel as though their false self existed. It made them feel as though they were something significant to you. It made them feel powerful. It was all about how you made them feel. They used you like an object and pushed your buttons to make them feel however they wanted to feel. They didn't appreciate or respect your personality or who you were as a person. They didn't appreciate or respect your characteristic traits or qualities. So how could they ever miss anything about you? It was about their feelings. They cannot mention or refer to your feelings. They don't even care about how you feel. It was all about them. It was all about how they felt. They miss how you made them feel. They miss what you did for them. They miss what you gave to them. When they needed you, you were always there. You genuinely cared about them. And wanted to help them. This is a very potent source of supply for the narcissist. If they needed something done. If they needed someone to take care of them. You were always there. You provided them with amusement or enjoyment. You gave them your time and energy. You paid for meals. You bought them gifts. You gave them money. You were affectionate with them. This is what they remember. This is what they miss. They feel regret or sadness. At no longer being able to have these privileges. These special rights or advantages. That they no longer have. It has nothing to do with you as a person. They miss how you made them appear in front of other people. The impression that you presented to the public. How you improve their image. They have to display this false deceptive appearance. Of being impressive or imposing in appearance or style. It makes people notice them and admire them. It makes people look at them as something impressive or attractive. It regulates their emotions and boosts their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. But it had nothing to do with them appreciating or respecting you as a person. You were nothing more than an object. Which they used to fulfill their need for narcissistic supply. They don't miss you. They don't miss your personality. Or who you are as a person. They don't miss your characteristic traits or qualities. They miss how you made them feel. They miss what you did for them. They miss what you gave to them. And they miss how you made them appear in front of other people. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications of my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coach the inquiries you can email me at natsofacochin.com Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.