 and he made up a full full story to try to harm me and I'm like oh don't really do it this type of stuff that's right everybody all of this drama is affecting Jeffrey's mental health and there's a lot of valuable lessons that we can learn from this but I gotta warn you in this video you're gonna meet tough love Chris and it might lose me some subscribers but if you stick through to the end I'm going to give you some valuable valuable tools to improve your mental health everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health what I try to do is take things going on in the community to teach you lessons that you can learn to improve your mental health so if you're into that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell so in this video we're going to be talking about why Jeffrey star is a magnet for drama all right because I can definitely relate to this and you might be able to relate to this as well and I'm gonna give you some advice and it might sound a little harsh and if you're a huge Jeffrey star fan you might get a little upset with me but you know like what are these things when it comes to improving our mental health is this I say this all the time true friends are the people who tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear all right but there's a great chance that Jeffrey will never see this video so if you can relate to this and what Jeffrey's going through and all this drama just seems to find you maybe you can learn something about it well so anyways Jeffrey for those of you who don't know you can check the info card I have two other videos about kind of what's going on between Jeffrey star and Thomas Halbert there's a bunch of other stuff blowing up right now with like Nikki tutorials and Laura Lee and I don't even know so much stuff but I'm not a drama channel but like there's so many lessons to learn from this because like I used to be so entrenched in drama and a lot of this is just about learning how to improve your relationships so I see a lot of comments I see a lot of tweets and they're like oh my god Jeffrey's just he's just always the victim of this drama he's just always this he's always this you know I'm like well that might be somewhat true there's a there's a lot that Jeffrey can do to avoid this drama as well and it comes down to self-awareness and accountability right like for example from my personal experience I used to think I used to think that everybody woke up in the morning and they were like how am I going to screw Chris over today right and that's that's not the case that's crazy for me to think but why do these things keep happening to me so this is I'm gonna share a little bit of a story with y'all try to make it brief but it helped me realize how I cause a lot of my own problems so when I got sober I got a sponsor and when you first get a sponsor pretty much is just somebody you whine complain and moan too and you know I get that like people do it to me now and but this is what I did with my sponsor so anyways when I first got sober I was living in a sober living house and a sober living house for those of you who don't know like it's a bunch of people trying to stay clean living under one roof and it's nuts like I did a cold turkey detox in there I was a crazy person and there was 18 guys in my house right well anyways I would call up my sponsor I would just be so mad I'd be so so so mad I call him up I'd be like can you believe this stuff I'm like my roommate snores um you know this guy he smells funny this guy's always uh you know hugging the shower I was like somebody's like stealing my food uh I was like there's one TV in this house and all they do is watch like Pawn Stars all day and I'm just going off about all this stuff all these people everything going on in the house and my sponsor would sit there and he would listen to me and he would ask me after staying silent and letting me vent he would ask me he said Chris did you make any decisions based on self which later placed you in a position to be hurt I'm like look at the phone I'm like are you kidding me right now dude because basically what he's asking me is Chris why are you in a sober living house but that's not the answer I wanted I want people to hear me complain about all these these guys in my sober living house and just cuddle me and say oh Chris you poor thing why don't people just treat you right but let's retrace those breadcrumbs why was I in a sober living house well was it because I you know abused drugs and alcohol so much that I became an addict and I lost everything from my money to my apartment to my car I lost my friendships the trust of my family members I lost everybody's trust throughout my addiction that I didn't even have a couch to sleep on that's why I had to be in a sober living because my mom did not trust me to be in her house so why was I in that sober living like granted this doesn't give everybody an excuse to treat me a certain way right it doesn't give them excuse but why am I in that sober living house because of me so I kept calling him and he kept reminding me that and I'm like okay so eventually he got through my head I was like well I'm here and guess what I never want to live in a sober living house again so you know what I do I don't get drunk or high so after I got out of the sober living house I moved into my mom's house now those of you who have met my mom on my channel me and her I have an amazing relationship but in the beginning it was hard for me to handle her and deal with her I made a video about how I how I forgave my alcoholic mom but that took a long time so when I moved in with her I still had a lot of anger and resentments and I would call up my sponsor I'm like can you believe this woman she was a drunk for 20 years of my life and now she's trying to boss me around and tell me what to do she's trying to act like you know a mom now I'm a 27 year old I was 27 at the time I'm a 27 year old grown man and she's telling me that oh did you brush your teeth did you can you clean this can you clean that can you walk the dog can you do this I'm like can you believe this and my sponsor would sit there and he would listen to me he let me vent and then he would say Chris did you make any decisions based on self in the past that puts you in the situation that you're currently in and I was like because that's right like why was I living in my mom's house why was I a 27 year old grown man living in my mom's house the same thing as why I was in a sober living I was the reason I was the reason so what might what he was help training my brain to do was to start realizing how I cause a lot of my own problems and that's what I had to realize when it comes to drama just happening to find me no like if any of you watched my video about uh Jake Paul and Alyssa and FaZe Banks I talked about you know people going out and partying like when you go out and party it is more likely that a bunch of drama and dumb stuff is going to happen so like I had to realize that the people I was hanging out with I was not hanging out with the best people because I was hanging out with shady people shady stuff always happened now I can't like I look at it this way if I go to the zoo and I jump into the lions pit and the lions and the lion eats me is it the lions fault well I guess kind of but why was I jumping in the lions pit so that's what I I would want you to think about so when it comes to Jeffrey like why like why does this always happen like I'm sure you know there are people who are maliciously out to get him and things like that but I would I would caution to say that maybe Jeffrey isn't the best judge of character you know what I mean like um I've brought this up with the Shane Dawson series he's very empathetic he sympathizes with everybody he comes in contact with and once he finds that balance here I think his mental health will improve quite a bit but there's a reason that these things keep happening to certain people so I want you to kind of evaluate your life and say am I doing the same thing and keep getting hurt right so here's another example back when I was single before I was dating my amazing beautiful girlfriend I used to have a type I love to date crazy women I love to date crazy women I like women who had like a little bit of a screw loose right and I talked about this in my like why you date who you date video but anyways I didn't like dating boring women right they were just boring they had their stuff together like I want a woman who might stab me in the middle of the night or punch me in the face you know like just like I'm feisty but then I had a type and then crazy stuff would happen I would date a crazy woman and then crazy stuff would happen like they would wreck my car wreck my room break my stuff go through my phone and then I would sit there and be like why why can't I just find a good girlfriend well then I would remember Chris did I like did I make a decision in the past that put me in a position to be hurt your damn right I did because my type was dating crazy women crazy stuff kept happening then I found my beautiful girlfriend Tristan and she's only like a little crazy she has a quirks I love her but but I hope you guys are starting to understand like this is how I keep my head on straight and for any of you who have anxiety this is a huge huge huge skill for all of you it's called developing an internal locus of control it's realizing that you have a lot a lot of control over the outcomes in your life but the problem is a lot of us don't think we do we think that this these just things just happen all the time like I'm letting you know right now since I stopped going out and partying a lot less stuff happened since I developed became a better judge of character I have a lot fewer friends who are back stabbing me you see what I mean so I'm never going to be able to change other people like one of the most valuable lessons I've ever learned is this it's a lot easier for me to change me than it is for me to try to change everybody else you know what I mean so the last thing I want to talk about is Jeffrey star when he talks about you know him and Nathan it's affecting his mental health it's affecting their mental health every time he wakes up in the morning there's more drama right it's like I'm good but it does affect my mental health it does affect Nate's mental health it does affect my family when people are constantly lying it's like can you imagine just waking up and there's another fabricated fake ass story it's like can we just breathe and live our lives without people constantly trying to come for us like well here's the thing like I was actually just live streaming on youtube I'm actually gonna go edit it on youtube I'm gonna try to do it like a few times a week but anyways somebody asked like how do you how do you not care and I've done videos on this but like so I'm starting to grow as a as a as a youtube channel and I don't even think I realize it most of the time um because I have a problem comparing myself to others I'm like oh I'm only at 18,000 it's not like I'm at a million right but I'm starting to build and build and build but like I was saying in my live stream I was like I'm letting you know like if people start starting rumors about me and saying lies about me I could give zero efforts all right I'm trying to censor myself like I do not care I do not care what people think and like the people in live stream were like asking me like how do you do that right it's because I'm constantly true to myself I am true to myself as long as I am doing the right thing over and over and over and over again I don't care and I know as I grow as as this happens like if if rumors start about me or whatever like that like I'm gonna lose subscribers and I don't care like if somebody doesn't um doesn't fully understand who I am as a person like I'll be blunt with you I don't need him in my life I don't need somebody in my life I have some subscribers on this channel who are still subscribed and have been subscribed for months who still question my values and my morals and my personality and guess what I'm letting you all know right now I sleep like a baby every night and it's nice it's nice because I just don't care I don't care what this person's opinion is of me because I know who I am I cannot value other people's opinion more than I value my own and I wish that Jeffrey would learn that I wish that people like Shane Dawson would learn that and trust me some days it's easier to do than others but this is something that we constantly need to work on all right so anyways that's all I got for this video I want to hear from all of you down in the comments below do you feel that you attract drama and do you think maybe it's because you keep hanging out with the same type of person or you can answer this question where are you like me where I like to date the bad girl maybe you like to date the bad girl or maybe you like to date the bad boy do you think that maybe that's why your relationships keep not working out because you have a type that is prone to have a relationship that doesn't work out let's talk in the comments down below all right anyways that's all I got for you if you like this video please give it a thumbs up and if you are new I'm always making videos to help you out of your mental and emotional well-being make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you all are helping me do what I love which is helping others with their mental health so if you want to sign up and be a patron click the top on that link you can do it for as little as the dollar a month all right thanks so much for watching I'll see you next time