 The narcissist has to see you and this is probably one of the most creepiest things about the narcissist. They just always have to see you. They always have to know what you're up to, what you're doing. They just can't leave things alone. They need to know what's going on when they're not there. Or if the relationship is over, they still need to know what's happening. So they will stalk you on social media. They'll be looking at your Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, whatever it is that you're using. They will be on there and it may irritate you You may block them but of course they will make fake accounts. Sometimes they will discard you. They will be the ones to leave and then you accept it, you move on. And maybe they blocked you and then a few days or weeks later they unblock you and then you can see they are stalking your social media. Or maybe they said it's over and you block them and then they go and create fake accounts. So no matter what you do they will be on there. There's no way around that. And I've even heard some things with them putting these hidden cameras in your home trying to see what you're doing when they're not there. And that's something that's coming up more often now. So yeah it's important to be aware of that. I mean you never really know how far it can go but one thing's for sure they will try to find some way to see you, to know what you're doing, what your activities are for the day and here's a big one how you're feeling. The emotions what's going on in your mind. What have you been thinking about? How are you feeling now that they're gone? They've got to know these things. That's why it's so important to be aware of it. So then you can check it and make the necessary adjustments, stealth mode because you just never know when they're checking up on you. I mean one of the big things is the stalking. Just when you think you've gotten away. There they are showing up at your house, at your work. Another thing they might do is use someone else. It may be a friend or family member. They might call you up on the phone or they might want to see you at your house. There's many different ways that they go about it but one thing's for sure they will find some way. Druidvw says hi Dave. Oh wait no you're not talking to me. I was confused then. I thought who's Dave? But yeah they will always find a way to just see what you're doing and they may have different ways of doing it. They might not all do it the same way. They might be on social media. They might be in person. They may do it themselves or they may get their flying monkeys. They can be unpredictable. So it does depend on the individual but in most situations they do have to see you. It's an obsession and they're paranoid. They just think maybe you're going to expose them. You're out to get them because deep down they know they did wrong. And also another trait that these narcissists have is that they always feel like they're missing out on something. They're always worried that the grass might be greener on the other side. You've just got to think back and remember how they were with you. Remember how they were always comparing with other people's situations. They were always looking at what other people were doing. Most of the time they didn't even talk to you. They were just on their phones on social media looking at other people's lives or if you went out to the mall or restaurants they were always looking at other people's relationships, looking at what other people were driving, their cars, their clothes and just because they've left you or you left them and they're meant to have moved on doesn't mean that they're going to stop doing that. And now they're actually going to be comparing their new situation with what you're doing. They have to make sure that what they're doing is better than what you've got going on. So they're still going to be on their phones even if they're with someone new. They're still going to be doing that. Whether you're there or not that doesn't mean that it stops. So yeah they will. They will be on Facebook. They will be on Instagram just as they were when they were with you. The only difference is that now they'll be looking at your account. They'll be looking at your status updates, your pictures, your videos whatever it is you put on there. They will be looking at that. They'll want to see what you're doing and when they do that you just got to make sure that they're going to see something that makes them sick. Don't let them see what they want to see. Don't let them see if they have affected you or if you're in a worse position afterwards. Don't let them see that. Let them think that you've moved on and you're doing better and you're happier without them. Let them think that. Don't give these people the satisfaction because that's what they're looking for. When they leave you or when you leave them and they didn't even try to correct anything they're just hoping that you're going to be miserable. That you're going to be in a really shitty situation after that. Don't let them have that. But yeah be aware that they will they have to see you. They do. But you shouldn't worry too much about it. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your life. And just get back to doing the things that you like to do. Remember all those things they said you couldn't do. They're not there to tell you you can't do that now. You have everything you need inside of you. You are already whole and complete. Every morning when you wake up tell yourself that. Write it down a few times. I am already whole and complete. You may desire to have relationships, friendships that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. But you shouldn't need them. It should be enough just that you yourself you feel complete. You have the confidence from within. Your happiness comes from within. The reason why we need so much outside of ourselves. It's because we feel like we're not enough. So you need to work on that. Work on feeling enough for yourself. Your greatest defense against the narcissist is your self-love. It defends you against them and it also repels them. When you start developing your self-love they're not going to want anything to do with you. They don't want to be around people who know their worth. They hate that. And that's how you know something's not right. Because normally when you start building yourself back up you're recovering and you're feeling better. You're loving yourself more. That's meant to be attractive. It is attractive to normal people. But to a narcissist it's like sunlight to a vampire. It shuts them down. It scares them away. I mean that's really when you know that you're dealing with someone who is relatively healthy. It's when you're practicing self-love and you realize your worth and instead of resisting that they complement it. They add to it. That is the difference. People who feel like they're enough. People who do have some level of self-love. They've got something to give to you. If you have love for yourself you already have it. You can give it. But you've got to have it to give it. You can't love anyone if you don't love yourself. But when you are around someone who isn't just faking and acting like they do love themselves when they don't. But they do have actual genuine self-love. That type of person is going to build you up. They're going to give you some of their love and that's going to be better for you. That's what this all comes down to. People who love themselves and know that they're enough will have something to give to you. They will build you up and you will feel good being around them. People who secretly hate themselves and feel like no matter what they do and no matter what they have it's never enough. Those types of people will only take things away from you and then you will be left feeling depleted. You will be left feeling like you're not enough when you are around people who love themselves and they feel like they're enough. That's going to rub off on you. It will make you love yourself more. It will make you feel like you're enough. It's only when you're around people who are insecure and they lack self-love they feel like they're not good enough. You start feeling the same way. Be aware of that. So when you're around someone and you feel like less of a person you feel like your self-esteem is going down. When that happens that is a good sign you're dealing with a toxic narcissistic person someone who is feeding off you taking something away. I mean that that is really it. Like to summarize everything that I've ever said in my videos it really comes down to that in the simplest words. That's how you know the difference and when you come across someone like that maybe you haven't yet but when you do that's when you will really know the difference because a person like that they will make you realize that there's nothing wrong with you. You're okay. If there's anything wrong it's just that you don't value yourself enough. You don't realize your worth and these types of people they come in and take advantage of that they're feeding off your self-esteem because they don't have any. What people don't have they try to take from you but if you've got enough you can share it. You can give it out to people. You can compliment people. You can praise them. You can congratulate them on their achievements. You can do all of these things because that doesn't take anything away from you. Why would it take anything away from you when you have an abundance of that? You've got plenty of it to go around but these narcissists are in scarcity. They have no love for themselves so they have nothing to give to you and yet we keep looking at them like why can't you give me some love? Why can't you compliment me? Why can't you congratulate me for my achievements? And we're looking at it as though they actually have something to give when they don't have something to give. They haven't even got anything to give to themselves. That's why they're constantly seeking attention and admiration. They're constantly looking for supply because they ain't got shit. They've got nothing. That's why they're constantly looking at it from other people and yet we're looking at it like why? Am I not good enough? It's got nothing to do with you. Sometimes we just got to wake up and see it for what it is. You can't get blood from a stone but then you've got to look at it like why were they always around you? Because you may not know it but you do have some love for yourself. You do have self-esteem but it wasn't too much to push them away. It was just enough where they could get in and feed off it while still keeping you down and controlling you. But if your self-esteem and your self-love ever did become a threat to the narcissist they would be quick to tear it down because that really is what it is. Your self-worth, your self-esteem. These things are a threat to the narcissist because what you have is real. What they have is fake and your realness reflects on how fake they are. It reveals what they're trying to conceal. So yeah I don't want to go too deep into it. I think you get the idea. People can only give you what they have. They cannot give you something they don't have and just because you have something to give it doesn't mean that the other person is going to appreciate it. It doesn't mean that they're going to see it because you have to have something of value to recognize it and they don't have what you have and that's why they can't see it. If they had love in their hearts I'm sure they would recognize your love but they can't because they don't have anything. I hope that this video has been helpful for you. I'm just on the sky deck looking out at this amazing view. I don't know why but I feel like when I'm on a higher floor it's like I'm channeling these messages from somewhere. Sometimes I find things that I haven't talked about before or I haven't gone that deep before and then it just comes through. I'm just out here enjoying my life. Life is meant to be enjoyed not endured. Remember that. Write it down. Read it every day. That's what I tell myself every day. 180 live viewers please give this video a thumbs up if you found it helpful. It helps the YouTube algorithm supports our community.