 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC survival live video, as you can see I just visited this waterfall over there, a really nice view of it, Geneva, hello, you can call me Christopher, that's how most people know me, but hello to you as well, and Blank Earth, can you make a video about when we worry about being a narcissist, yes I can definitely do that, and it really comes down to your reactivity, it's like they're pulling you outwards outside of yourself, they come across you or someone else, they're very arrogant and audacious, they're always trying to get your attention, they can never leave you alone, they're always pestering you, when they first meet you with a love bombing, and then when they turn against you they devalue you, and they're just suffocating you, they're always there, it's like they can never leave you alone, really nice butterfly here, beautiful colors, beautiful colors, big one as well, big one as well, but yes it's like they can never leave you alone, they're always on you, whether they're love bombing you or devaluing, and the reason why is exactly as it seems, there's no other meaning or interpretation to it, what you see that's exactly what it is, they want your attention, they want your validation, and if you found my videos the odds are they wanted it or they wanted it from you more than anyone else, they wanted that energy, which is how you should know that the one thing that hurts them more than anything else is in fact rejection, they can't stand it when you reject them, whether it's their proposals or ideas or you reject them as a person, you reject the false character, when you reject these things they can't stand it, they probably wouldn't care so much if you rejected who they actually were, because of course they don't care about that anyway, that's why they created a false character, but they're never going to let you see that anyway, that side of them is something you're not going to see, but yes nothing hurts them more than this, nothing hurts them more than rejection, when you turn them away, when you say no, when you tell them that something is not okay for you, they actually hate it, they can't stand it when you do that, because as I said all of these things provide them with a sense of self, a sense of inner value, so in their minds it's like you're taking value away from them, when you say no, when you don't consent to agree to something that they want you to participate in, then they feel rejected and you're denying them of that inner sense of value, of that sense of identity which is always based on their source of supply, that's where they get that from, whoever their source is that's where they get the energy and the attention from, which then validates their false self, so of course in the end if you try to get away they will enforce their flying monkeys and their smear campaign, they will do that and the reason why is to control you, because by controlling you they can then garner and harvest your emotional energy, which is what they really want, because a lot of you didn't want to give that away so easily, but the narcissist approached you didn't make it so easy for them, which of course is why they had to come across as your soulmates, the one, they couldn't just come across as a normal person, someone who is just trying to get to know you, it's like it's either all or nothing, because they know you're not going to be too trusting, as someone who does have their own separate identity and inner sense of value, so they've got to come strong, have your attention, so by knowing this you can already recognize your power and your value and of course that is why they start the spear campaign, to harvest this energy and share it amongst their flying monkeys, as you may not know it, but yes on a spiritual and energetic level, you are handing out parts of yourself to all of these people and they're indulging in it, they're sharing it, they're licking it up, they're consuming it, they're tasting it and trust and believe that they are enjoying it, they're enjoying sharing this amongst their flying monkeys, all of this energy that you have which they get from you and of course yes that is why they start the spear campaign, that is why they have to do that, they have to make you look bad as though you're crazy or something is wrong with you, because by doing that then they have a reason for controlling you, they can't do that without a reason or excuse even though yes the flying monkeys are narcissistic as well, they're no better than the narcissist, but yes this is what they have to do because they are terrified of rejection, that's why they set it up in a way where you can't just escape, where you can't move on and it's so that they can get the very things that they need from you because by that point they already know that you're not going to hand it over willingly, they know that you're not just going to give them what they want so they have to come around you to get that from you, whatever energy that you possess and it's typically very high vibrational, you must have something that is worth them controlling you because they're not going to control someone who isn't providing anything to them, yes it does all come back to them not having an identity of their own, they lack a sense of inner value, that's why they're so outwardly focused, they're not generating anything from within, they're getting it from other sources and of course yes that source is you if you're watching this, they're getting that energy and attention from you and yes it is making them feel good, it is making them feel alive but it doesn't do much for them when you are just doing what you want to do and you're being your authentic self, they don't want to see that, they want something more magical, they want this fantasy, they want you to either be perfect or pile of shit to where you feel like you're not good enough as you are because when that happens your real power, your true authentic energy is then being directed to them, that's how you've got to think when they are initially in the beginning they're pedestalizing you they're seeing you as perfect, when they're doing that you're sharing this fantasy with them and instead of your energy being generated from within and then it's directing outwards and back to yourself, instead you're directing it to this fantasy, so then your energy has to go somewhere of your true authentic self and of course yes that is going to them and it's the same thing when they devalue you, either way you're not being yourself, you're sharing some form of fantasy, so your true authentic energy, innocence and purity is then going to an artist and yet we wonder why they never take accountability because in their minds they're you and you're either them or you're someone else but you're not yourself which is what makes it so easy for them to blame you but yes the last thing they want is for you to direct your energy from within to and from yourself, they'd rather you direct it to anything else and of course the reason why is because anything else including them is not real including the fantasies that they try to project onto you, none of these things have any value so of course they want you to look there, they're not going to give you anything of value anything that will reflect back to you who you actually are because that is real what you're generating from within is very real so of course they don't want you to do that because it's no good for them, they don't get any energy out of that because they're not real and like the tracks like, so that fake energy when you're sharing this fantasy then they can come in and consume that but if you're coming out as who you actually are no they're not going to like that and they will do everything in their power to try to shut back down as the iconic intuitive said in the live chat there, yes crabs in a bucket they do have this crabs in the bucket mentality but they see one crab climbing out and they've got to pull you back in because otherwise if you climb out of the bucket all you're going to do is reflect back their insecurities to them so of course they don't want you to do that they will try and pull you into it but as I said no none of that is real they're trying to direct your energy to something that is a fantasy it's a delusion which means that it can only last for a short period of time it cannot be consistent over long periods so yes they don't want that they don't want you to turn to yourself for your own validation and at the beginning they were validating you they were telling you everything that you are so that you're dependent on them you're seeking validation from them and then at the end they devalued you they tried to get everyone to see you in the same way but really what that is is invalidation and disempowerment they're just trying to take you away from you because I think in some ways it reminds them a long time ago they rejected and abandoned themselves so when they see you as you present your authentic self to them it triggers them and reminds them that they gave up on themselves a long time ago it tells them in their minds why can't I do that why can't I be real and of course then they feel triggered they feel shame because they simply can't do what you do if they did that it would expose them it would reveal that they have a lot of work to do and of course as we all know they're not going to do that as Geneva says in the comments there yes Misery once company that's really how it is but I'm just enjoying my time out here today as you can see got the upper part of the waterfall there and the distance behind the trees I'm out here in the jungle you know I do enjoy a hike and that's what I advise for you as well is to just get out in nature even if you don't have the jungle near you just go for a walk in the forest by the lake take some time to yourself of course the narcissist isn't going to like it if there's one thing they hate it's when you spend time by yourself for all of the reasons that I just mentioned they always have to be over your shoulder they're always suffocating you unless of course they have other sources of supply whether it's relationship partners family friends co-workers employees whoever it is if they have other sources of supply then they can leave you alone for a bit longer and then they may come back and they look like they're on top of the world of course it's only because they have other sources one thing they do not like is to be alone or to be out in nature because of course as we know this is something real even there other sources of supply they're not really real at all I don't know what that's like my own experience but I haven't been real myself because how can you be real when you are susceptible to someone's revelation you can't you can't be real then because in that moment you're only thinking about yourself your own desires and needs you're not really connected within you're just in some fantasy you're under a spell so of course in that moment you will like empathy you will like the ability to understand and share another person's feelings and experience because in that moment you're not even real yourself you're not really connected to you and that's why it's so painful when you're around narcissists when you're not validating the illusion and the flying monkeys as well it's because they haven't got any real authentic energy of their own they're under a spell they're susceptible to some form of manipulation even if they are just brainwashing themselves so it's not real it's not authentic it's not coming from within and of course as I've said before that's where the power is anyway I'm going to go for a little walk a little hike through here on this trail in the jungle not too sure where this goes could be unpredictable but I guess that is the fun of it that's what makes it so enjoyable it's not knowing what is going to come next so yes I'm going to continue along my journey here but I'd just like to thank you all for joining me on another NARC Survival Live video as you know I do appreciate you all and if you'd like to show your support you can do that down below by giving this video a thumbs up share and subscribe and as always I will talk to you in another video very soon