 It's a challenging experience to have a guru because the guru's work is to point out the ego to you, not to be nice to you and give you a fuzzy feeling of well-being. That is not the work of a guru or a spiritual guide or master. Those who want fuzzy feelings, they are not in guru-vada. Guru-vada is where the guru points out when you are being harmed by your ego and wakes you up to the truth. That is the relationship. It's a powerful and very ancient system of transmission of knowledge and it's moving into a renaissance.