 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. So this video is going to be about those women who you see on Facebook on social media Who talk about you know, oh Well, what do I bring to the table? What as Women do we bring the table to the table for men? And how can we be better women for men and blah blah blah blah blah blah? That's a gimmick, okay? I'm gonna tell y'all straight up men. I know y'all watch That's a gimmick women that write stuff like that are looking for attention from so-called good men, okay? This is kind of like bait and this is kind of like oh, I'm really a good woman I'm gonna do all the things that You know a good man would want I'm putting myself out there and agreeing with these guys who are Looking for something more and women And I'm trying to attract this kind of guy because it's never those kind of women who are married It's never those women who are in long-term relationships. It's always those single women who are looking for those kind of guys that you know Want women to bring stuff to the table to me this you might as well just Say free room and board You might as well tell them hey, I will take care of you you might as well tell them Hey, I will go out. I will work. I will pay all the bills. You just I just need a man You might as well go tell them that because that's exactly the type of man that you are Attracting when you post silly stuff like that and argue with women who have high standards or standards period, okay? now There's been plenty of times where people have you know post it stuff up that I have said and will You know trash me for it and these are women But then at the same time two weeks later on their Facebook account They're talking about how they've been screwed over by men by this by that so It don't bother me. I'm just saying Those type of women are fishing for good men But they're also lowering their standards to do it Because they think that's what men want to hear and as soon as that man gets in that relationship all of a sudden she wants to develop standards in The middle of the relationship and then then she wonders why the relationship doesn't work out Then she comes to me. Well, how can I get my man to be more about motivated? How can I get him to get up and go get a job? How can I get him to want to do more? How can I get him to want to have? better things in life Well, when you put out statements on Facebook that women need to bring more to the table and we need to support our men and we need to Help them when they're down and you put that kind of stuff out on Facebook And then you come to me asking me two weeks later how to get your man motivated and wanting to do stuff The problem is not your man The problem is you and what you're attracting and what you're saying is okay and what you are fishing for Okay, when you put those kind of statements out Men automatically say oh she has low standards. She doesn't care. She's gonna do for me I don't need to do as much as I would have to do for another woman with her She she's gonna be understanding when I tell her I can't do this. This isn't that because she believes In those values, so I'm gonna go I'm gonna you know date her for a while until she realizes I'm not changing at all Sorry y'all had a phone call so Yes, so when it gets to the middle of the relationship now she wants more now She wants him to have a good job. She wants him to career to have a career She wants him to go to school. She wants him to marry her. She wants him to be the provider She wants him to you know, take care of this and take care of that But when she advertised herself for a man on Facebook to get attention She was calling out to all men who weren't about nothing. Okay, so you can't have it both ways Lowering your standards on social media to attract a man. It's not gonna attract the man You really want it's gonna attract the man that you can take care of it's gonna attract the man that you can Provide for it's gonna attract the man who is looking for you to bring things to the table Probably most of the things okay, so never put that stupid type of add-out and then come back six months later Wondering why your man ain't doing nothing. Okay, because that's what you sit for. That's what you advertise for, okay? Now y'all can drag my name through the mud or whatever. I don't care But I don't have those problems. Why because I set my standards high. I leave them high and I don't bring them down for nobody Why because I have to live with myself. Okay, I have to live with myself in the end and I choose to keep them high and It's paid off. It has paid off It and ask any woman who keeps their standards high. It will eventually pay off. Okay? If you're just in a rush if you just lonely and you just sad, you know, and you just will take any type of man That's fine. But you know a lot of people say, you know, it's worth the wait to find a good one, okay? And another thing ladies when you get into a relationship Tell them what you want in the beginning. Don't wait to the middle Don't wait to almost the end where he's about to leave you Tell him upfront what you want. Okay, don't say, oh, well, we're just gonna see where this goes Or this is a friendship or we're just having fun You tell him exactly what you want before you even sleep with him the first time you say look I am in this relationship to see where it goes. I'm looking for a serious future with someone. I want to build I want marriage. I want kids. I want home a house. I want, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah If you're not on the same page right now, please let me know because This is what I'm holding you to this is what you're committing to right now before we sleep together This is what you're gonna be committing to. Okay, we're gonna start making future plans together I'm gonna get my life going if you want to play around if you just want friends with benefits You need to tell me now so I can adjust my thought pattern And get on the same, you know wavelength as you and I know how to handle you, you know And they'll be like, whoa, I'm not ready for all that yet One would just back it up and be friends You know, if you need, you know, if you just want to hang out call me sometime That right there will let you know if he's gonna be serious or you know Just wants to play around if you put all that weight on his shoulders right in the beginning He has a choice to waste your time Or to back off, you know, and if you hold him to stuff that he agreed to in the beginning of the relationship Then you know when you start having problems you can go back look you already said you were gonna do this This isn't it if you're not about it. Let me go move on Let me move on tell him and say it loud for everybody can hear, you know You can't be afraid to embarrass people when they don't keep their word Because this will teach them a lesson for the next person look you'll you know If someone's not keeping their word and you feel like you've been tricked All you got to do is say well, thank you so much for being honest with you I have you know, it's been really nice knowing you but I need to move on and Don't ever get emotionally attached to somebody who does not have a ring on your finger. Okay. I'm just telling y'all Never get emotionally attached to anyone and tell your Mary why Not a hundred percent anyway, let it go 50% or you can take them or leave them Okay, lots of women they go overboard. They be like He's the one he's my soul mate Never let anybody get you like that only go halfway of 50% until they put the ring on it and marry you That's other 50% okay, never go crazy over me. I always have Always let them know they are replaceable. Okay, and I always keep Your mental and your emotional At that same level that they are replaceable. Okay too many women Let their emotions rule and they get messed up. Okay I'm just telling y'all it's easy to fall into when you're young But after a couple times you're gonna be like, okay, I know what you're about. Let's move it along You know, you're not you're not right for me. Let's just have this Date and then I'll probably never call you again. Okay. No, no the kind of me in your dating Know that if he's a player know that if he's gonna take you seriously Don't listen to his words watch his actions if he's done more than he's talked about That's a good man. If he's talked about more than he's done. He's not about anything. Let him go. Okay. All right, so ladies When you give too much to a man in the beginning when you bring too much to the table when you have all these things that you're offering here Here here here Yep, you become a bargain You become buy one get one free you become 50% off coupon. You become a Sale, you know you become low in demand when you're full price Never going on sale couture like Kanye says You're the most sought after You know People want you because you're not a bargain people want you because they know the your status symbol People want you because you they know that your quality and you're not going to try to mark your price down just to get sold Because you feel like, you know, I've been on the shelf too long. No And I'm just using that as an example because a lot of women will bargain themselves cheap To a man who won't even have a lot of money They have to have the bargain chick because they don't have anything, you know, they can't they can't provide for a Woman with high standards, so they're gonna find the one with the lowest self-esteem The one bringing the most to the table The one who is Desperate and the one who cries for attention on social media. Those are their targets. Okay So I'm just let y'all know I know we live in the age of you know Social networking and there are certain rules and there are certain things that you need to abide by when you are trying to date Online or attract men's attention online. Don't attract those wrong men attention. That's just that's just a waste of your time and Six months later five months later, you're gonna be crying. Okay. I don't care how spiritually aligned or connected you are to somebody That's not as you know, all that is is knowledge anybody can read a book and get some spiritual knowledge. No, okay Watch their actions Okay, see what they have to offer you, you know, it's it's not supposed to be the other other way around You're not supposed to be offering them anything unless you're a waitress. Okay The only thing that you should be offering is yourself as a total package Okay, if they don't want that they want more if they want you to do a bc and D or you're not qualified then You know Find someone who wants you as you are You don't have to bring all the extra stuff. Okay, the right man won't need all that extra stuff They'll already have it taken care of on their side. Okay, they're not gonna be like well I'm gonna need you to do this this and that because I can't do it by myself They're gonna be like, you know, I got you, you know, I have worked hard. I've prepared I Know what I want my life. I Have all my priorities in the correct order. This is what I want You don't you don't have to do much because I've already done everything, you know So this is the type of man that a lot of women will attract who aren't bargaining themselves off cheap. Okay, and I'm not talking about like a price. I'm talking about standards. Okay You always see the woman with the highest standards with the best guy The lowest standards got the worst guy. It's common sense. Okay, so ladies a lot of people Ask me, how do you have your how do you have so much confidence? What is it about you? That gives you that confidence to speak that truth and do this this and that because I know what I want. Okay, you go up To a restaurant and you look on the menu. Are you gonna order something that you don't want? Something that you don't like if you have the money in your pocket to pay for anything on this menu Are you gonna order, you know, the cheapest thing on there? No, you can get what you want. Okay, if you're gonna play the game, you might as well play it to win what you want. Okay confidence is basically No fear of rejection. Okay, I don't have fear being rejected because I know right after that one is another one coming Right after that one is another one coming right after that one is another one coming Why because that's what men do. Okay fear if you should not fear rejection You should fear in and out with the wrong man. Okay You should fear in and out with a broke man who can't do another worry. That's what you should fear Rejection is nothing, you know, I don't care. I've rejected so many people Until I got to the one that met the qualifications, you know, you can't just settle for anything Just cuz somebody tells you you're cute. Oh, you're special. Oh this show me. I'm special. Okay Where's the gift that says I'm special What is the big grand thing that you have done to show me that I'm special words are nothing I need to see Okay, so when your man can show you something When you don't have to make excuses for him When he has prepared a way for you already You don't have to do much but just show up and be there That's good guy. Okay Don't go fishing for men on Facebook Lowering your standards pretending to be holier than now and then six months later telling him you want ABC and D Don't do that. Okay. That's why you always get played because you are false advertising yourself at a bargain rate And then just like those phone companies and those cable companies you want to raise the rate after a few months now Okay, you can't start off a bundle package with a free You know unlimited data and then two months later you got to pay for This much data if you use it up. No, you can't do that. You have to be One set mind one set figure, you know, you can't trick people You'll lose every time just like they have all those phone companies trying to steal other people's Customers, you know, if you bring your sprint phone AT&T will buy you out of your contract or a sprint will buy you our T mobile You know, there's always a wait. There's always somebody waiting to buy you out There's always some next guy who's waiting for you to break up with this guy. There's always that guy who's saying, okay Well Now you want this this and that but before you didn't want anything You just want to be a good woman and support your man and bring stuff to the table to him Now you want to get married now you want to, you know, have a joint savings account now You want to go on vacation and build a future? No, I'm now I'm going to spring. Hi, you know You can't start off like that. You got to come correct. Okay, ladies