 Welcome back. So ladies, let's chat whether we like it or not. We're all playing a role of sorts and CC You seem to think it might have caused some sort of identity crisis for women. Yes I've been as I was sharing with you guys in the green room I've been talking to a number of women and we have so many roles. I like my muse myself real quick I'm a wife. I'm a mother. I'm an executive. I'm a mentor. I'm a public servant Job super woman. I have a me daughter all those things and and talking to women Madison Just and what they're saying to me is I'm pissed off because I've been my identity is caught up in being a wife And mother and all those things and not Celebrating who I am as a woman and I think that happens We put that we get caught up in everything that we do and what we do does not define who we are and That's I think that you find yourself caught up in that Madison No, I don't sometimes I find comfort in in it I find comfort in knowing that I can identify myself with I am a mom Okay, and it makes me feel stronger and it helps me to guide me and helps helps me make choices based on that role But based on that identity but to your point for Madison, can you go see that a person may feel that I Am all these people these I'm these roles, but I'm not that's not who I am That's not mad. That's not mad at me. Could you be hiding in those roles? But I feel like I feel like all those roles are an extension of who I am The all of those roles make me who I am because I wouldn't be those roles if that's not who I wanted to be so where someone might start feeling resentful about the roles that they're playing well, they put they're playing those roles for a reason and They they put they don't have to continue to play that role They can let go of that role at any time Well, what's interesting though is I think that a lot of us are Assumed that we are a certain role, you know people look at me this tall blonde And then they you know, I have to play this role in their head. I'm tired of that I'm tired of people thinking that I'm you know, right less intelligent or Flaky or Hollywood or you're so a lay. No, I'm so chosen. Well, yeah, and there's a lot of more layers That's the main role I'm playing beyond being a daughter-sister friend Etc. I'm trying to play this role of what is my best self in fighting against what everybody else thinks about sounds like what you're fighting Against is a stereotype. Oh for sure. You have some you fight stereotypes But between your point and you're correct. You're right those roles that I identify with myself are extension of who I am But they are they don't define me because as we know roles change So mother that I am today is not the mother I was when my babies were toddlers and not the mother. I'm gonna be when I have grown Right, but you play those roles, but you also define what those roles mean. I Do but at the end of the day before I had all those titles I think what the women are saying to me stasis before I have all those titles. I am a Woman right big before they had all those titles. They were kids Where you're going with this, how do you maintain that role of I am Stacy? I am a woman or can you I just got it to be honest with you I just really got it and I'm throwing some people for a loop because they're like wow stays like I didn't know Right I didn't know it's to that point because I was hiding behind so many things I hid behind being a great wife I hid behind being a great mom Because to me those don't sound like things you hide behind Yes, you know most definitely you can what if you don't deal with something that's going on with you You will overcompensate and live vicariously through your children and your spouse or not those roles I don't have a problem saying you know what mama is not cooking tonight Everybody work for themselves. I'm going to sleep, but isn't that also being isn't that also being a great mom? Isn't it teaching them to go? Hey, sometimes you have to take care of yourself first and I'm doing it for me I'm being the example for you. I don't could be It's all no because if I medicine if I was very uncomfortable who I am and I was so Having my children, you know, know that I'm there pick them up from school Making sure that I cook making sure everything was alive was important to me because I was in chaos And that's something that I could control now what I'm telling our viewers is Your roles are going to change your life is going to expand and that's Control with yourself. It's okay for a parent to say, you know, I don't like my kid today I'm finally at a point in my life growing up, you know at Nearing the end of my 20s. I'm finally being okay with that. I am not who I was when I was 21 I don't want the same things I wanted when I was 23 and those roles are changing and I have to be okay with that. Yes, they they evolved. It's okay for me. I've been married almost 23 years and today I'm uncomfortable with telling my husband This is not working for me, right? I've evolved because I'm comfortable with me and I don't think that he's gonna leave me, right? Right, I wouldn't say things before because I was uncomfortable I shouldn't say that a wife doesn't say that no Amanda loves a woman a woman loves a man They're honest in their communication communication. That's what I'm talking about as the roles evolve Live your role