 It's one thing to be fake, it's another to be fake nice. Some people are just not true to themselves, these are fake people. According to Lifehack, fake nice people are worse than those who are openly unpleasant. Fake nice people are people who pretend to be nice when in reality, they are not. They are with you for what they can get, there is always an agenda behind every move. They are quick to switch allegiance once being with you no longer favor their agenda. Being ambitious is a beautiful thing, no doubt, but using people just to get ahead is purely evil. I understand that we want it all sometimes, I mean, who doesn't? We just have to be careful not to cross the team line between ambition and self-absorption. People are people and not tools for advancement. How can you tell when you've fallen victim to a fake nice person? Or have you become one yourself? Watch this video to identify 10 signs of fake nice people. If you're new here, consider subscribing to our channel for more awesome videos just like this one. 1. Their words and actions don't match. People who are like this are very talkative, they talk so much you may actually believe some of the things they say, but if you are observant, you will see how different their actions are. A fake nice person may, for example, ask you about your passion for making conversation and then become visibly bored. Even people who want to make conversations actually try to understand the other person even if it's not their passion. They can say a lot of nice things too. Innocent people fall into their traps all the time, but there are always things that give them away in their interaction with people. They make a lot of promises but seldom fulfill them. This is natural because the purpose of the promise was merely to give them a false good reputation as being helpful in front of people. When they keep breaching their promises, people eventually find them out. After all, bad news tends to spread faster than good news. When they find out, they would tag him or her as a fake friend and they will eventually get what they deserve. 2. Their people please us. Fake nice people want people to like them. They usually have agendas when they do this and unfortunately, people can tell. When people notice this, they will naturally withdraw from the person. Whatever his friend with such a person will indeed be very unfortunate. A fake nice person will literally caught you. They will compliment you daily, smile and shake your hands in a bead to get you to like them. You may actually think that they are genuinely nice until they ask for what they really want. Sometimes it may be a small favor like a person's contact and then they are gone. They may even ask you to support them for an elected position. A lot of politicians are like this. Fake nice people show care and kindness and are open about how they feel about issues. They don't try to make people like them but at themselves all the time. 3. They crave attention. Fake nice people like the glamour of people's attention. They can make jokes at other people's expense just for a laugh. They try to put down other people while mentioning their achievement. Public approval means everything to them. This is actually a dysfunctional system of viewing things because people's opinion matter very little in how things eventually turn out. Most successful people ignore public opinion. People will seldom support what they don't understand. It is your duty to fulfill your goals, not make other people understand you. Attention is good. If you have attention, you can also have influence but the motive is very important. If your motive is simply attention, you will have it and then lose it. But if you are interested in getting attention for a purpose, you will stay focused on those goals and sustain the attention. Fake nice people can do a lot of things to get attention. They are desperate for crowd validation. People who do these are actually less confident than people who stay on their own. You shouldn't mix up with such people. You are better off on your own. 4. They lack consistency. Because fake nice people are not themselves, they will tend to lack the consistency of action and behavior. It is all an act for them. Eventually, the act starts to wear off over time. They may not remember the personality they are trying to project and may start to portray different ones. This can make people spot them for who they really are and not be used anymore. People who are this way are afraid a lot, the fear rejection from others and a few pressured to be who they think people would prefer to see instead of just themselves. They are often wrong. Hanging out with such a person is bad for your mental health. They can get close to you and make you form an alliance with them while working towards their agenda. If you have been friends for a while and they just leave after they have accomplished their agenda, you will be hot. It is best you don't get involved in the first place. But then, how can you tell they are fake nice people in order not to be friends with them? It is actually quite simple. Tell them things that are important when they are pretending to be paying close attention and then ask them things that will make them give you back the information. If they can't remember, this is one of the signs. A friend is unlikely to forget that his best friend just lost his mom a week ago for example. 5. They are manipulative and judgmental. Manipulation is one of the two fake nice people deployed to carry out their agenda. They understand how to make people feel secure, which is why many of them carry on for a long time before they are eventually discovered. Anyone who manipulates others is not a good person. Always do things you really want to do and not things you are convinced you want to do. This way, you reduce the chances that you can successfully be manipulated. 6. They only respect people with power. Have you met anyone who is so gracious and yet seemed very rude and disrespectful to waiters, receptionists and janitors? Run away from such people. They are fake nice people. Fake nice people are nice to people they have to be nice to. It's all an agenda for them. When they feel you are completely irrelevant to their plan, then they treat you how they really treat people with a suspect. People who are confident in themselves don't need to talk down on people they are higher than or feel important. Generally nice people are nice to everyone. If your friend is nice to you but not to other people in your category, he is likely to be a fake nice person. If you want to know the true character of a man, check how he treats his servants or even his dog. Fake nice people can conform their behavior to please influential people. Smart influential people can seldom tell from just their smiles and their good gestures, but some of them have a gut feeling about such people. 7. They are show-offs and pathological liars. Fake nice people can tell lies to cover up. They are not ashamed because they were never real to start with. They show off what little they have to attract attention and then lie about the things that they don't have. Appearances are very important for such people. They therefore work very hard to maintain them even through lies when necessary. You may believe or disbelieve their lies but it is best to stay clear from such people. Whoever they are friendly with is usually for an agenda. 8. They are only nice when they want something from you. People like this work very hard to please you when you have something they want. They will seldom tell you upfront. It can take months of plotting to get to their goals though. You may actually get emotionally attached to them in some way. When this happens, even if you didn't want to give them what they want, they can capitalize on your emotional attachments to make you do what they want. The typical example is when a guy gets close to a girl for the sole purpose of sleeping with her. It can take months before he comes out openly about what he wants. The fact that they are fake is not written on your faces. Avoid such people. 9. They give lavishly. Fake nice people can't scare you with the way they give. Because they are given is technically not free. They are very generous. They can loan you a thousand dollars and not ask back for it. But be ready for the time of collection. Every fake nice person will eventually execute their agenda. It is only a matter of time. The more they give to you, the more you will feel obligated to do what they ask when they eventually ask. It is actually best if you don't. 10. They don't always appreciate others. They can actually criticize others when they do well just so that they can appear superior. It is a key to maintaining dominance for fake nice people. When they do this, it shifts people's attention away from the person to themselves. They are after all attention lovers. When they do this, it can also make other people believe they are better and thus more desirable to be with us friends. This is always an agenda. Genuine people appreciate others when they do things even when it is not perfect. They understand that the first try is not always perfect but that success only happens when you have the courage to start. Even if you fail, you are the first one.