 So today we're going to talk about when a man is deeply turned by a womb turned on by a woman She's doing these four things now really quickly. This has nothing to do with sex in this content But sex is rather important. So for those that are in a what I call juicy delicious healthy happy Relationship. So yes, sex is part of it, but we are not going down that rabbit hole today That just a heads up. I got this title from one of my contemporaries Brian Knox I did not watch his content. So I have no idea if this Emulates his or not. This is my own version of this Actually, I got this content from the book chatting or cheating by Dr. Sherri Meyer someone I've talked to about this habitually and I think this will be very valuable for those of you to explore When you want to be in a relationship if you're single right now if you're currently in a relationship now Let me be clear about something this content is for those that are seeking a healthy happy relationship Let me repeat that a healthy happy relationship see sadly most people find themselves in Transaction type of relationships and what I'm talking about on my channel centers more about soul partnerships in the sense of a healthy happy relationship and I was reading a Meme today from Gillian Turekki She's someone I've interviewed my channel that I think illustrates this point a little bit about what I'm talking about She said in her meme much of dating culture today is shallow and avoid it People have never been more starred for meaningful connection while simultaneously settling for casual meaningless situations They crave to be seen yet are too too fearful to open up and be vulnerable So be different don't pretend to be cool with casual. Let me repeat that don't pretend to be cool with casual Refuse constant texting and get on the phone Don't give in to fear instead aim to make real connections with people if they're not Even if they're not for you be real honest because being real is what moves people and this Perfectly illustrates what I'm about to talk about today And there's a bit of irony because I did a post today on my Instagram by the way there's a link below to follow me on Instagram and The meme said and you're gonna get a kick out of this the meme said I know you believe you Understand what you think I said But I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant I have to repeat this really sit with this for a second if someone could write this down I know you believe you understand what you think I said But I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant see the problem in today's Dating environment is miscommunication habitually more importantly and misunderstanding of Context in other words what frame of mind are you? Expressing this from and your thought process and what's the other person how they're receiving this and what? fascinates me going back to Jillian's post about texting see texting ends up being the predominant form of Communication and our current dating environment and no wonder it's a cluster fuck out there I want you to think back, you know before these devices Which they're only they've only been around a decade or so, you know, I mean smartphones in particular They've been around just a little bit over a decade, but before cell phones You know it was a whole different environment dating But now because of texting that's changed everything and I want to read to you what? I wrote this morning because I think it might illustrate something That perfectly Applies to what we're talking about today okay Texting as a form of dialogue has inherent problems, especially in romantic relationships Due to the sparse nature of expressing thoughts and feelings It often has a blunt way of expressing oneself which leads to miscommunication or worse hurt feelings in addition timeliness in returning messages can cause emotional distress We're to have compared to true communication, which is face-to-face dialogue Including facial expressions Hormones pheromones all this other stuff that represents communication Versus a snail mail way of responding to one another Um, wait, where did I and let's not forget grammatical errors and sloppy speech texting which once again causes Mitch miscommunication What bothers me most about this form of communication is that it's response It's a response way of talking and not a listening and acknowledging way of interacting or intimacy Do you realize most everybody these days are finding themselves in casual relationships and Situationships and they're spending most of their time in texting and there's no wonder We are not really connecting with our hearts with another human being and when I said a man is deeply turned on by a woman Who does these four things? By the way, this is equally true a woman is deeply turned on by a man who does these four things And it's all centered from it's when we talk about turned on we're talking about Connecting desirous of another human being Repeat that connecting and being desirous of another human being that's what being turned on is and most couples find themselves in Transactional relationships and like the meme said women in particular sadly have duct tape over their mouth They're fearful of opening up because you're supposed to sit back in your feminine energy and let the man lead we have this traditional narrative about men leading relationships that is fucked up the whole concept of partnership Think of the word partnership to sovereign beings joining together Men leading women submit that's him here and you're here. Do you know what that space in between is called? drama I Mean it's it's no wonder We're not Feeling turned on by our partner because we're operating from such old programming It's interesting my coaching program is all designed to help women fix their broken picker, you know Particularly in the area of discernment and how to choose better and by the way if you need some support with that Check out the link below to schedule a discovery call with me to see if working with the coaches right for you, okay? But what I'm here to say is It's time you cannot waste. It's a moral imperative. You begin to date from a place of intentionality respect and Building trust with another human being can someone write that down intentionality Respect and building trust with another human being Building trust, you know what trust is trust is Does this person have my best interest at heart? That's what trust is is knowing that this other person has my best interest Look, I wish look at sadly dating today. There are no consequences for bad behavior Little or no consequences for bad behavior. Look if I could be there for you on a first date I'd have my shotgun pointed at the guy's face. I'm your little I'm your big brother pointed at him saying What's your intentions with my little sister? See there was in the past there used to be consequences for bad behavior Intentionality respect Building trust Write this down. I want you to stamp it on your forehead ladies, and I don't want you to accept behavior that is anything less Okay, so what are these four things since that's the title of this? And I said men and women need to be equally doing this because doing this builds a deeper relationship with your partner So here's my trusty notes Let's dive into it. So this comes from the book of dr. Sherry She wrote the book called chatting or cheating she's a dear friend of mine Now I know it's about cheating, but it says how to detect infidelity rebuild trust and a fair proof your relationship What we're talking about is a fair proofing your relationship not that you need to do this But we're going to use the four a's someone write this down the four a's And the first a stands for attention And by the way, this is a daily vitamin. You give your relationship on every single day and when we talk about attention We're talking about presence we're talking about um We're talking about setting higher standards for yourself and establishing your boundaries and not chasing a man See when you are in your in your sovereignty and your self love your self worth your self esteem You have a capacity to be present to another human being and when you're present you give them your attention Do you know in the book? um The five love languages By the way, there's a link below to get a copy of all the books. I recommend and the book five love languages Okay, the five love languages are words of affirmation now if you're a leo like me It's words of adoration. We like to be complimented as leos, okay And I say that a little tongue in chief Number two physical touch. Yep. We like physical touch most everybody likes physical touch number three quality time acts of service And gifts so when I talk about quality time, I'm talking about giving your Undivided attention to another human being this is critically important to turn each other on For a healthy happy relationship giving your attention And again, it has nothing to do and by the way ladies this conversation is only regarding Those high quality men those emotionally grown-up men. This is for emotionally grown-up men We're and this is only for emotionally grown-up women for those that are seeking transactional relationships For those that have poor relationship skills for those who have weak emotional maturity You're not familiar with my emotional maturity chart and relationship skills chart Okay, this is not a fact. It's merely an opinion. I say 20 percent of the population has clinical Issues when it comes to their emotional maturity and relationship skills. And then I I say that 20 percent is healthy I'm being rather generous when I say 20 percent. Most everybody is dysfunctional Today, I'm talking about this category. Everybody thinks they're here, but 80 percent eight out of 10 of you watching are in this category Okay Okay, and I'm in the dysfunctional category. So I'll own it. Okay Attention presence your self-worth your self-esteem your standard your boundaries Number two Affection we just talked about physical touch Do you know how important physical touch is but Jonathan? I'm in a long distance relationship We don't get to be with each other. We spend all day texting one another. How's your day going? Did you have a good day? I hope you had a good day Oh, you're so sexy. You're so hot. Can we get on can we have phone sex later with our text messaging with one another? Folks if you are not experiencing a day in day out relationship Where you're spending on average three or four days and nights a week together doing shared activities hobbies mutual interest Spending time with family and friends traveling together teamwork building skills both in your personal and your professional life Intimacy both physical and emotional intimacy Then you're not really building a relationship with someone but Jonathan three or four days is way too much. Well, what the fuck do you want? Do you want to be okay? You're 55 years old right now Do you want to be 75 and still seeing someone twice a week? You have to be thinking downstream because what it is what is it that you want downstream? With Jonathan, I don't have time to be in that kind of relationship Well, then you're going to find yourself in a part-time relationship a casual relationship or a situation ship And you will accept bad behavior from someone Because you're not be either listen folks The minute the penis starts going inside the vagina You become attached to this human being The minute we start fucking each other. We become attached. We men too by the way not to the same degree women Jonathan you used a dirty word Folks, I just say this for levity. Okay, so don't get all bent out of shape for those that do okay, so The minute you start having sex with someone. This is time to Okay, establish the rules of engagement Folks, many of you know my dating vows. Here's a copy of it right here There's a link below to get a copy of my dating vows. This is so important The dating vows is agreements you make the minute you start having physical intimacy with someone You mutually agree to explore the depths of a serious relationship with another human being and declare Something serious within three to six months You agree to be monogamous sexually while we while you're having regular sex together you agree to not actively be dating and trying to meet others You agree to speak up if this isn't working for you versus ghosting Pulling away or disappearing and you agree to invest regular time in the process of getting to know one other folks Look at for those of us in midlife. We don't have time to fuck around There you said a dirty word again, jonathan folks either you Okay Make a stand for what you want Now I get it most of you have this Fantasy of what you want. You have a fairy tale of what you want. It's nebulous. It's in the clouds I I interview women hundreds of women a month for my private coaching They all say to me jonathan. I know what I want. I know what I want I know what I want in relationship and then they go through this proprietary coaching program I created and can you guess what they say every single time afterwards? They say things like why didn't my parents teach me this? Why didn't I learn this in school? Why didn't I learn this before I married the wrong guy? Folks when it comes to the dating vows Maybe up to 90 percent of men will bail on this because easy sex Listen Where's my phone? Do you realize that? match.com Bumble okay cupid Hange, you know the league just to name a few This are easy portals to have sex It's actually replace the need to go get a happy ending at a massage parlor because you can just swipe and probably get laid within a Few text messages with another human being ladies if you all started to wear chastity belts today for three months It'll change everything But jonathan I have free will I can do whatever I want of course you can you can do whatever you want you don't have to follow my Puritan, you know ultra fanatical religious perspective Which is none of those things but I'm here to say if you have a propensity to get attached to someone maybe be a little bit smart about who you choose number three Now we talked about affection physical touch, you know Oh affection I just want to tell you a quick story about I went out on a date I think this was four years ago. It was right after connor passed away And um, I'm sitting across from this woman at the bar We're having a drink and I I see her I didn't notice it at first, but she kept doing this to my arm She kept doing this to my arm and after about I think it was like for 20 minutes She probably did I didn't recognize it at first and then when I looked I go Wow, physical touch is really important to me and it was fucking turning me on See you can turn a guy on without having to have sex with them number three Do you know one of the number one complaints men and by the way everything I'm sharing is mutual for men and women But one of the number one complaints men have after going through a divorce is a lack of feeling appreciated in their marriage Particularly being appreciated for one's effort sadly today We do know we very human spend very little time Expressing the words appreciate see thank you are is rather Benign, okay If you really want to if you really want to change the narrative use the words. I appreciate you I appreciate your efforts. I'm so grateful for you I'm really I have so much gratitude for the effort you make Words matter folks words matter and I invite you to start Upping your vocabulary when it comes to men particularly and men should be doing this too Men should be giving you attention affection appreciation and the fourth one the fourth one acceptance You know, there's an old saying Men marry women hoping they don't change and women marry men hoping they do change acceptance Is probably the one factor every human so desperately wants to be Themselves in a relationship to be free to be themselves. Now. That's not too To invite bad behavior I think there's a quote from Marilyn Monroe. I don't know if it's true If you can't accept me at my worst, why do you deserve me at my best? I'm like, well now look at If you're having a bad day If you're sick, of course But that's not permission to be a jackass or a bitch to another human being I'm here to suggest is that acceptance is recognizing Look at folks Humans are going to have differences. They're going to have sometimes it's radical differences. Sometimes it's minor differences But the most important factor in accepting differences Is being fucking grateful that this person is in your life and sadly in this casual situational dating environment we in it is so lacking gratitude Right, it saddens me every time i'm communicating with a woman to hear she's in a relationship with a man who doesn't appreciate her This is sad It's easy to get laid it's by the way folks I want you to make it so hard for him to have sex with you He's got to jump through hoops and you've got to jump through fucking hoops too because ladies You're no picnic either you guys all say, you know You all have this belief that you're great communicators. Do you know what you guys are terrible communicators first off? You have duct tape on your mouth habitually and number two you Fucking expect us to be mind readers. You're not better at this than men. Okay Men are bad for their reasons women are bad for their reasons Okay, I mean generally speaking and if you want to improve i'm inviting you to do the inner work Read my book what the heck is self-love anyway a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work There's a link below to get a copy of my book Read all the books I recommend below because this is going to prepare you for that juicy delicious healthy happy relationship And the only reason why I would use the word juicy somebody goes. Oh my god. That's disgusting It was juicy passion to me Passion to me is like biting into Like a watermelon and having the juice just drip down your face with so much joy and and Happiness that's what a juicy delicious healthy happy relationship in is this sinking in is this resonating with you? Please let me know those four a's those four things men and women boats should equally be doing in relationship is every day giving attention affection And acceptance attention affection appreciation And acceptance if you agree with me can I get an amen? Hey, I'd like to hear your thoughts on this post to comment below Also, if you found value in what I've shared so far, please hit that like button Please share this video Please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell if you're not already following me hit that notification bell So you can be notified of new videos as well All right for those who have questions for me If you have a question Write the word question in the chat box and then post the question there after or you can hit that little dollar sign You can purchase a super sticker super chat all the monies from the super sticker super chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of My son Conor Asley. That's a picture of him right there That's salty. He passed away over five years ago in his honor We donate to causes like the Hoffman process insight institute and scholarships for coaching with me as well so Um, hey before we get started. I want to share with you all something many of you know I'm back out there dating And it's interesting because I don't think I've been you know because my relationship ended about six months ago And I was in a relationship for about 15 16 months And I realized I haven't dated in a couple years. It's been a while like I'm kind of rusty at it And I'm communicating with a few women via text messaging and I got to tell you I mean the miscommunication that happens with text is so frustrating um But we'll see we've got a couple people that I'm communicating with we'll see what happens um I did a mushroom journey this past weekend. Oh my gosh, Jonathan you did that. That's so disgusting So if you're not familiar with um, plant-based medicine journeys It it plant-based medicine allows you to access Portals of your consciousness portals. I believe it allows us to access divine places within us Um, actually, I believe it allows to connect with the spirit realm I've had many visitations with my son Connor who passed away But in my most recent journey, I really got Interested in exploring masculine and feminine energy masculine feminine energy And of course, many of you know, I do the joke sit back in your feminine energy and let a man lead I do this because I believe there are a lot of coaches out there selling women some fairy tale Prince charming narrative of the way it works out there. I'm the realist here giving it the way I view it But I wanted to look up what divine feminine is and I'm going to read it to you Divine feminine energy looks like intuition empathy nurturing creativity Interconnectedness these are just some of the words and divine masculine Says it's strength and logic and action and protection and assertiveness See my point in this is a well-rounded human being Is all of these things you want to be with a man who's nurturing you want to be with a man who can receive You want to be with a man who's empathetic And men want to be with women who can take action when needed They want to be women who have inner strength They want women to be logical So this whole separation of human beings dividing them up in the divine masculine or the divine feminine it you can't You're not a healthy human being if you're constantly in one energy or the other a balanced form of energy works best This is why I'm a big proponent of the book This is a book called personhood This is about the art of being fully human Someone write this down personhood The art of being fully human. Let's throw out the gender rhetoric And at once when it comes to dating I invite everybody to change The following. This is a brand new i'm making it up on the fly If you are meeting somebody for the first time I want you to intentionally call it a meeting and not a date and you could even express this Hey, is it okay if we just call this a meeting rather than a date and take all the pressure off of what this means? And just meet each other to see if we're attracted to each other meet each other just to see if See if we would like to you know, see each other more often. Let's take the pressure off Of dating and just start meeting human beings and it throw at the listen It's no more men making the choices men paying for the dates. It's no longer splitting It's about taking turns getting to know one another. This is my invitation for everyone But jonathan the divine masculine the divine feminine says I have to do this. No, you don't have to do anything Let's take the pressure off and get to know human beings the art of being human That's what i'm inviting everyone to become Okay By the way, if you'd like to join the hot seat tonight Click the link in there the shown or the chat Chat box if you want to join me live and I saw a question come in Ritz is written Have you watched millionaire match maker? She talks a lot about masculine and feminine energy So patty stanger and I have had disagreements over the years. She doesn't like me. I don't like her She thinks i'm a schmuck. I think she's an idiot. Okay, there. I said it Someone wants to cut and faceless and send it to her knock yourselves out. Okay You know all I I don't know. I mean I've watched the show Here's what I didn't like about millionaire matchmaker I went to her website about a decade and a half ago And it said the following if you're a man seeking a woman there are three categories you can pay for The $25,000 category the $50,000 category and the $100,000 category now my mind. What's the difference? Are you going to get a hotter chick or something like that? But here's the fascinating part about her website Do you know what it was if you wanted to be a woman to be interviewed for her you had to click this link? Send a bathing suit shot and you had to be under 30 years old I swear to god. This is the honest to god's truth. That's what I saw on her website about 10 years ago Women had to be under 30 and they had to send a bathing suit shot So tell me that isn't fucked up, especially if it was a 40 year old man, okay Or a 50 year old man that went to her or a 60 year old man that went to her Her whole database was you had to be under 30 and send a bathing suit shot that to me is fucked up All right magic entertainer. I'll get to you in a second. I saw another question come in. I want to answer that Curiosity writes, how do I stay? Transparent about my growth Elimitations with a how do I stay transparent about my growth a limitations without asking too much tolerance I don't want to exploit his kindness I don't understand what you mean by growth and limitations and and tolerance See, this is a perfect example of text communication doesn't fully Flush out what I think you're trying to say so now I've got to read between the lines and I don't know where you're going with this I'm so sorry, but thank you for posting your question. I really appreciate it. Okay Okay Magic entertainer, I'll get to you in a second. I want to get Danielle's question Question I thought it was going to be a proposal at Christmas, but no He did get me a very beautiful necklace earrings and bracelet for Christmas He he throws throws off signs all the time Okay, so I don't know what your question is, but if you thought it was going to be a proposal Folks, why aren't women asking men to marry them? I'm just curious. Why women ask men why Why don't you ask him to marry you and see what happens? I'm just Throwing it out there. Like why is it that the man has to do it? I know that's tradition see It's tradition because traditionally men are supposed to financially take care of women But today it takes two incomes two incomes to make a relationship work So it's not about money anymore. It's about mutually taking care of one another So why Danielle? Why didn't you ask him on Christmas to marry you? I'm being a little tongue-in-cheek, but my point is is have a conversation with them And talk about marriage instead of this it should be a surprise And then we can talk about it with our friends and I can show off my ring and make it a big deal Fucking let go of the fantasy This is a grown-up thing that needs to be talked about well in advance to make sure you're on the same page Instead of the old version of such women were just so grateful to be asked to be married because they had a Greater chance of being a spinster. Okay. We don't live in that environment anymore. So Danielle, that's my point. Okay all right magic entertainers in the house right Oh The magic entertainer hey, how's it going? Yeah, all right, uh, so I have a question I was thinking do you think that I should just give up dating? Because I'm living in toronto and it's just so crazy and I'm going through A lot of pain and a lot of hassle and it's time consuming and everyone online From age 20 some to 50 some they all seem to want something casual They all seem to want to have what? casual relationship Okay, so is that every single man? Yes or no? Yes Every single man on dating sites only want casual every single man. I'm talking about every single man Everyone that I'm talking to since I started dating again in october um, even when they put relationship on their profile then when you Start typing to them then they start to admit that they just want something casual Okay, so first off It's not every single man roughly about 20 percent of the population of men and women are grower builders They want something more so this now has this is more about how you choose the men you're choosing from As opposed to the number of men. I get it. It's a high percentage of men Who want casual women made it easy through easy sex for men to get casual So you can clearly put in your first sentence your profile. I'm looking for a serious relationship That should eliminate some people Okay, the minute you text someone just say hey, I'd like to be very uh transparent with you I'm looking for a serious relationship. What are you looking for? And if they say casual you say thank you next so you start weeding out people sooner rather than later But there are 20 percent Huh Well, you're also rejecting keep in mind. You're probably rejecting 95 out of 100 men. In other words, they're you're not attracted to them, you know, so just keep in mind you're not If there's a hundred profiles, you're not Getting you're not having a hundred interactions What i'm saying is that I could just give up because Because it's so time consuming to do all this And it's so painful to talk to and meet all these people that are like this that i'm thinking Just to give up like sometimes in my life I take months and months or even a year and don't date at all not even one coffee date because of all this I get it. Well, obviously that's where your mindset is So if that is where your mindset is you have to follow where your mindset is I can't change your mind your mindset is already where it's at I invite you to shift your mindset shift your mindset to abundance shift your mindset to gratitude shift your mindset To love. I mean if you start shifting the energy inside of you, you might begin to see different results And I know you think well, I've been doing that for years, but honestly I mean I think you probably could be a bit more efficient Um, and I get I was in a relationship over 10 years so I haven't been all this time and You know, I could rewind from then well, it's been like 11 years and now dating seems like it's similar or even worse Well, I would agree that the way we Entered into relationship hundreds if not thousands of years ago was vastly different Up until about 20 years ago because of these devices. Okay. I will agree that we have seen a dramatic shift Due to technology another dramatic shift that has occurred since then is the advent of birth control In the 60s that changed everything that began the the shift of human pair bonding men and women You know Relationships began shifting right around the beginning of birth control because no longer Did you have to be married to have sex? For the most part that's how that when the shift began Women's uh freedom and liberation to make their own choices Certainly that changed a lot of things and now because of our devices that's changed things as well So I'm in full agreement. We are in a different dynamic. However, I can only speak from personal experience Uh in the last decade, I've gone to a dozen weddings of friends of mine who met online These are people I personally know I have clients who have met and married from people that they have met online My relationship over 10 and a half years. I met them online Okay, so it was so hard But it was so hard to find that personnel All the amount of time it took before him and all the pain and heartache That was years Let me ask you a question when somebody wants to be a professional athlete Did they just go I want to be a professional athlete and I'm going to do nothing to become it They're not gonna I'm not going to train. I'm not going to do exercises. I'm not going to break my fingers I'm not going to twist my ankles. I'm not going to fall down. I'm not going to lose races Is that the way an athlete operates? When they want to be a professional athlete Like this is the biggest decision in your life And it should be the hardest thing it actually should be the hardest thing But jonathan all the fairy tales make it seem like it should be easy No, the reason why it's hard is we appreciate it more Hopefully because we we dragged ourselves through the mud to get there So the choice is you can have a mindset where it's it's it's tough. It's hard It's it's worthless. You can have that kind of mindset or you you could be your woe is me The sky is falling. It's not gonna work or you can be tigger Bouncity bouncy bounce bounce, you know, you can shift that mindset of yours You can okay All right, that's all the questions I have Okay, magic enter the magic entertainer. Can I reach into the camera and give you a big gigantic joth and bear hug Yeah, thank you All right. Thank you so much Okay So folks, you know, I appreciate how she feels, okay It it you know, it it can feel daunting. It can feel Frustrating. I mean believe me. I've been ghosted before by women. I've had plenty of Circumstances where I could be bitter or jaded. Okay. I could even be jaded to the fact that I'm I put everything Into my last relationship and it didn't work out. I could have a jaded mindset To the extent I'm calling I'm not calling the the magic entertainer jaded I'm just saying we can have a mindset of feeling hopeless And and defeated it is absolutely true. We can have that or We can shift our thoughts We can go in with a beginner's mind We can try new things. This is where my coaching comes into play You can try different things because listen the odds are against you. I get it The odds are against you. It sucks fucking sucks You me everybody it sucks the odds are against us It's why I started my coaching practice to put the odds in your favor just like from uh, the hunger games May the odds forever be your favor and if you need some support Check out the link to a discovery call with me and see if working with a coach is right for you Because my job is put the odds in your favor All right. Thanks again magic entertainer. All right. We have some questions that came in Um power of cheese in the house What do you think about matthew hussey's advice about attracting love and dating fyi he just got married Um, I think matthew hussey gives fantastic advice. I do believe he is more His advice is more geared to a younger population. People are in their 20s and 30s Um, okay, so matthew. I believe is 36 years old. I've got 20 years on him. I've been through Divorce. I've been through alimony child support visitation rights Um, I've been I lost my high end corporate job. I was depressed I was in the tunnel. I was I was selfish. I was there. I was very selfish for a long time I was a player a serial dater So my life experience I was hooked on drugs and alcohol my life experience Is kind of predicated on what it feels like to go through the emotional effects of divorce and given that 75% of the population over 45 years old is divorce Something different between matthew and I and again, I have a great deal of respect for his work is I know the emotional it's like the difference between The the cancer doctor who's never had cancer and the person who's been through cancer and had to you know suffer through it And I've been through the current dating environment matthew never had to swipe date He probably he had a long list of women coming up to him And he found a woman 10 years younger than him. That's probably going to make babies with him completely different category when you're dealing with erectile dysfunction menopausal women Elderly parents and assisted living facilities. So Again, I think he provides great advice for a younger demographic. I'm here to talk a slightly older demographic So power chief. Thank you for your question. I appreciate it Um Let's see what we've got here. Aurora is in the house How do I get on the hot seat? I have a quick question. Okay, aurora. I just posted the link there. You can join the hot seat Uh Cecilia says when interested in reconciliation and radical honesty, but two different towns What is a good cue to move nearby the avoidant? What is a good cue? Well, I think if you have to have a radical honest conversation, it's best to do those face to face I'm a big proponent of being in relationship with people that you can physically see On average three or four days and nights a week together So you can do shared activities hobbies mutual interests that sort of thing So being his physical presence is if you're going to have a radically honest conversation with someone That's my invitation for you. All right Linda's in the house I have a question. So if a woman Proposes to a man is she supposed to buy him an engagement ring? Is she supposed to ask him on one knee like We did when when they did it. You're suggesting we reverse. Okay I said it tongue-in-cheek But the point is When you ask a man to marry him. Yeah, let's say you do the whole thing you buy a ring get on one knee Okay, you did it. Okay How he responds Gives you an indication of his true feelings for you. You're putting him on the spot. Okay Now Men don't like to be put on the spot, but you know why they need to be put on the spot just like I'm your big brother with that shotgun pointed remember when the father had a shotgun You know the term shotgun wedding putting someone on the spot He's he's taken up your time for quite some time It's time to put his money where his mouth is it's time to put first off if you've been dating for a couple years You got to put your money where your mouth is in this relationship at some point you have to decide what's the purpose of folks What's the purpose of dating? Just it's about having a good time. We should have a good time. It's all about having a good time That's not the fucking purpose of dating the purpose of dating is vetting someone to decide if you want to be in a relationship with them What's the purpose of relationship? It's about having a good time. It's all about having a good time. Did you have a good time? No, it's about deciding if we make good enough partners to do this long term. That's the purpose Anyway, that's my my thoughts rough thoughts there a roar is in the house Let's take off. I can hear you Okay, because you're coming across double, but that's okay. I could deal with that. That's because you have me on on a different device Oh, okay great Hey, what's up? What's up? All right, so um, I met someone wonderful Actually on bumble, which is funny because I didn't even want to go on these sites And we've been talking in video chatting and went on two dates since um, December like December 14th. We started chatting Going on two dates the last week of December Okay, everything's great. I showed him your contract. I laid everything. I thought he's all for it. He's all Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait You showed him the dating vows and he was cool with it. Yes. Tell everybody How that was how scared you were to do this and how nervous you were to do this and how did he legitimately I wasn't scared Do you agree with the dating vows? Absolutely You know what in fact But he said But those are the vows that people should be doing in a relationship anymore I'm sorry. Can you say that louder for everybody to Here's all for it. So I know I've got somebody special All right, and what's the problem The problem is that it is an army national garden who might be deployed for 10 months on the 25th of this month Well, might be isn't so, uh, you know, so we don't know yet. Um, he has to do everything to get through and Is it possible? Did you guys have sex already? No, actually, okay. Okay. No, I'm holding off because I want to make sure that he's not leaving What's that we're planning on seeing each other twice this week also, okay so we've got plans and um I just what he wants is he still wants to talk to me even though even if he goes and he understands this is very new But I guess the question is if he goes or this is one question. Yeah, if he goes um You know If he goes Um, by the way folks Really quick. I put the link for the dating vows for those that are looking for it right there. Okay So if he goes Do you wait? You know what I have no problem with waiting. It's just that I don't know even if he's the right one You know, yeah, you know what I wouldn't put my eggs in that basket But wait, wait, wait if he doesn't go on the 25th, then when will he go? Oh, it's not for another five years that comes up every five years Okay, so we're talking that's okay. Today's the eighth. That's 17 days from now Please don't have sex with them. Okay I'm giving you permission to have sex on the 26th. Okay Okay, you can have sex with them on the 26th He hasn't No, I get that but you know what I mean It's just I mean, you can do whatever you want. I mean, I'm not telling you It just that's a tough one, you know Yeah Because you know you haven't built a real I think it takes a good 90 days of dating to build the first layer of It takes a hundred hours of face to face time to build the first layer of trust But you're talking about something so big waiting I think you need to have 200 to 300 hours of regular time together to build that layer of trust and Listen I think the most important. Okay, so let's take okay. Let's do this I want you to put together a list Of all of the feelings you've experienced with this man so far Okay And she put together a list of all the feelings Did you watch my video from a couple days ago? I told you about a six hour telephone date I had No, I missed it. Okay. Well, I wrote down all the it was a great telephone call It's it's it's a impractical situation because she lives 400 miles away But I wrote down all of the feelings I experienced Um first off she called me handsome. So I knew she was attracted to me She recognized me professionally. She was easy to talk to talked with me not add me seemed to have similar values She had a connection with the divine of source. She we talked about sex. I could tell she liked sex She was very attracted. She was my type. She was flirty. She was cute. She was silly. Oh my god She was so silly when she laughed she snorted. It was so cute She seemed to have emotional maturity. She was financially stable. She had a normal and average childhood She was open to commitment. We shared the same political and religious views. She was open to Spiritual based plant-based medicine journeys. She had a laid-back lifestyle. She was oh She respected our communication. She did something during the course of the communication Where she paused and she said am I talking too much? I thought what level of awareness. So I wrote down all of these feelings And I'm like I'm I now put I got myself into the vortex of what I want to experience. He might be preparing you For the guy that's actually your guy And the fact that he agreed to the dating vows Is it another indication that men exist? So coming back to our previous Caller, you know the magic entertainer, you know, I'm here to see you would agree There are good men out there that agreed to the dating vows. He's been respectful to you. He's being kind to you He's being he's being considerate. He's being intentional. He's he's building trust with you These men exist. Yeah, he's been very open and very vulnerable. Yeah, and It's all going great if you just When he leaves but I don't want to get into a cyber relationship, you know what I mean You know god universe spirit. We invite Aurora for this gentleman this amazing gentleman to Not or I don't want to say not be deployed for this gentleman to to sit put We are setting a prayer to the angel out there that's guy that is uh Aurora's guardian angel and this gentleman's guardian angel to keep him put So they can build their juicy delicious healthy happy relationship god universe spirit. We invite that in Thank you And he's been praying too. Thank you. Can I give you a big gigantic jotham bear hug? Absolutely Thank you. Bye. Thank you. I know you're welcome Folks, I just love what we just experienced. This is an example Of having a mindset That's tigger. She this she her energy was tigger. I'm sorry, but the previous person we add on She's already defeated This person is already excited about the possibility of whether it's him or somebody else Either him or someone even better will come into our life when we operate from a place of You know him or someone better We have a greater chance for success. Are you with me? Can I get an amen? All right, let's see what kind of questions we had come up here. Rebecca was in the house Can you clarify a man's definition of saying I love you to a woman means for him I think you said question men say But don't know how to properly define it. Do we need to ask you know so I think Okay, folks. This is a great question Now I'm going to share with you my definition and then we're going to play with this for a moment So my definition of I love you I do not intend to say the words. I love you to someone And unless I truly believe they are a potential life partner. Okay. I I mean I I really I'm holding steadfast to that for myself. Okay, so I love you means Someone write this in the chat box I'm here You matter We are important I've got your back I'm not going anywhere and I only want you. I'm here means I'm present to this experience between us I'm present to this experience You matter This is saying you are on you you matter to the same level that I matter. Okay You matter We are important. That means the relationship is a separate entity. There is a you. There's a me and there's a collective we I've got your back That means if you need a ride to the airport at four in the morning I'm going to take you there if you've got a colonoski appointment, which I do next week I'm going to be there for you I've got your back. I'm not going anywhere. That means I'm fully committed to this relationship And I only want you Means there's no one else I want to fuck. I just want to have sex with you I'm here. You matter. We're important. I've got your back. I'm not going anywhere and I only want you It means I'm desirous of you Now most men don't view I love you that way I love you to most men Is You make me feel good in the moment and I'm going to express it you make me feel good in them I feel good being with you in the moment See most humans say the words. I love you in the moment. I love you now. I love you in the moment To me, I love you as a promise When I say I love you to my son I mean it for the rest of his life the rest of my life That's what I mean when I say it to my son. There's there's a picture of my son right there calling I got to do a zoom call with him today My last words my my son who passed away Two days before he passed away We went out to lunch and we always had a ritual Whenever we saw each other we gave each other a hug And I said I love you those were my last Words to him face to face I love you see a tomorrow kind of thing It's a promise for the future and yet people say I love you in the present tense To me, it's a commitment of the future So that's the way most men operate. I'm not suggesting all men, but I'm saying most humans treat it in the present tense Instead of a commitment for something deeper and greater I'm here. You matter. We're important. I've got your back. I'm not going anywhere and I only want you All right, uh magic entertainer was on a second ago. I saw that let me see what she wrote A woman thought has to date a thousand men to find a good one. No, you don't My friend Lorraine who got married Her her fiance. Okay, so this is a uh 63 year old woman who got married Um, she met robb when she was 60 She was engaged to be married and her fiance passed away When she was 57. So she was single for three years Um, actually for the first year didn't date when she put herself out there I believe she only dated 10 men before she met rob 10 men on a dating site. That's it 10 men You know what I think and for some people they might have to go out with a thousand I do believe that the energy and mindset we put out there is is one of the primary reasons Um, also our judgments by the way ladies There are great guys that you swipe left on all the time And a lot of the guys you swipe right on are the ones who are non-committal You know Some people believe you should just swipe, you know, and I I'm not suggesting you swipe Right on everyone But just remember you might be rejecting a lot of good men And there might be a reason why you're attracting the wrong guy I'm not saying I know the answer for you because I don't work with you, but I'm just suggesting Mindset Means everything mindset means everything. Okay. This is our last question of the night. Elizabeth's in the house What are your thoughts on trends? Ie ass eating is that attractive? Hey google What is ass eating? I just want to make sure we were I I just thought that maybe there was something I didn't know How do I feel about that? I'm I'm a I'm a pretty sexual deviant. So I'm into I I'm willing to try a lot of different things So is that attractive to some men? It's attractive to some women. It's attractive to some women It's gross and to some men. It's gross. Okay. I wouldn't use my thoughts on that because I'm a bit of a deviant So, uh, when I say deviant, I'm saying it tongue-in-cheek. Okay, so just have fun with me here Uh, just a reminder When a man is deeply turned on by a woman. She's doing these four things when a woman is deeply turned on by a man He's doing these four things just to remind you these four things are attention affection Appreciation and acceptance attention affection appreciation acceptance folks This has been a blast to be in your living rooms today If you're watching this right now from the bottom of my heart I'd like to hear your thoughts on this post a comment below I do my best to read all the comments in the first 24 hours if you like this video Please hit that like button. Please share this video. Please subscribe to my channel and hit that notification bell as well We're gonna wrap up this videos. I always do and yes handcuffs. No, I won't do handcuffs I'm gonna wrap up this videos. I always do first. I'll give myself a big gigantic johnth america self love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm asking you to turn to someone a pet a teddy bear pillow If enter them a hung up love because hugs are a great source of love and let's face it We could all use more love in our lives. I don't mind a whip though I am naughty, but nice. Okay. I want to thank melissa and hope and aurora and jay breezy the magic entertainer jiggalo or logo cecilia jane beach lover john in this in the house gg power of g weiner weiner wagon jesse nancy lighthouse mary ann linda Everybody big hugs. Hope you found value tonight Take care big hugs to you all. Thanks so much