 Welcome to every way woman so let's start with a little open dialogue should women who are the boss at work? Allow their men to be the boss at home Huh, well sounds like you've been in my house Say that cuz well my when I first got married I struggled with this because I was a manager of boss that I had a lot of people and then I came home And I started bossing my husband around and I was just really her and one day He told me he said you need to have a seat. He said what you do over at the city of blah blah blah is there But when you walk in this house, I'm the head of this house No, no, that's a lot of people but he got my attention turn it off. You don't run anything up in here We run it for you. You just step back and you like your man be the man of the house Yeah, you like that. Yes. He is the man of the house Yeah, I like a more traditional role but if if I were at Work every day and I was the boss and I was constantly having to stress out on Stress levels are high when you're making decisions. So if I came home and my man was like, hi honey, here's your dinner I got laundry done all the clothes are put away and we're gonna go upstairs and make magic in 30 I'd be like, yes So if I had the time and the energy which we don't we don't have the time and the energy to do all of those things and If he has the time and the energy if he's the one it that's at home It needs to be in charge then heck. Yeah, go ahead. I mean, I iron right and then do Well, you know, it's I find really interesting though is I think a lot of women Let their men think they're the man of the house kind of that the woman is the next that turns the That is correct. You will that is correct. We are the neck that turns the head That has no purpose without a head and a head has no purpose without a neck So you work in tandem, but I think what happens is is women sometimes and I know we're gonna get emails and text I'm sorry right now. We want chivalry, but then we want to wear the pants pick a mood Balance it right balance it. You can't be time. Oh, baby. Do this for me. Do this way and then I'll tell you Ourselves we're partnership. Well, how do you see it? How do you see your house? We know that you you have your eyes on having a career. Yes. I have well, okay again I want the best of both worlds. I am that classic. I want it all I do want the career I do want to be the boss at work And it is nice to be able to I would assume come home and let somebody else make some of those decisions But I can't imagine I would be able to turn it off and then just let somebody else step Let me add to that a little bit. Yeah, now you're out there dating right now And you're looking for men who have jobs who are successful are still in progressive careers where they are So what do you how do you see it if you're the boss and you're doing this and this and this and he's the boss And he's doing this and this and then he also wants to come home and take charge of the house. I Think you can let him take charge of the house Friday Girlfriend takes charge on Saturday and Sunday and let him have a little break and you can step it I mean it can't just share I think I left the wrong picture with you because I'm not saying that you just stop at the door And you become home and you come home with your docile. That's not what I'm saying. I'm an executive don't surrender No, I'm dog. I'm a manager at work, and I'm executive. I make very high-powered decisions, but in my home I'm he and I work together. I just don't come home and say this is what we're gonna do I will say that where I work. I don't have a time some time that this is what we're gonna do But I don't bring that same spirit and same energy in my home. It's counterproductive Do you think that's helped the success of your marriage? Absolutely, you know, I was speaking with a woman She's about 45 years old and she had just got out of relationship starting to date again And what she had said is you know, I have why can't I find a man who wants to take care of me? And but I she wants to be the strong independent person and then she said is and she juxtaposed that with I know women who are very Successful they date men that are very successful, but I'm not but her she like serves her man She goes to the buffet line or whatever the event and puts his plate together And make sure he has his drink and has all that just like what's wrong with that? Well, but see her point of view was is I I don't I'm a strong independent person And I don't need to do that and but yet here she is she's single and she can't find a man And jasmine to you that is the key. I can give you the secret about keep staying married listening My husband tells me all his friend men want three things. They want to know that they are valued in their home That they want peace they won't peace at all costs and that they want to know that you have their backs as their wife If you do that, you'll have their purse. You'll have their water With those three secrets, you're right CC because that's what she was missing. I think she was missing that Why do I have to serve him if I'm successful? He should serve me. That's right Why are you supposed to serve each other like I do to you as you do to me? It's what works in your home my husband rubs my feet I rub his head my husband likes hot dogs He doesn't want to wipe the necessary slaves over stowed. He wants me to talk to him my friend's husband She has to have her food on the table. It's what works in your home But as long as a man and you give him some He's got You will have a happy man Any words of the wise for Madison, I have to ditto Ladies I think I have a lot to learn Because I don't know what my household's gonna look like in the future, but I'm hoping it's a peaceful happy and give him some