 Me and my mom actually used to watch Tommy Sotomayor. Oh, shit. Yeah. So he was in it. D, right? Listen. It's the message right here. Black boy, tell me how you really feel, because I just want to build with you. Black girl, tell me how you really feel. I want to keep it real with you. I want to live better, eat better. I want to love better, sleep better, yeah. Maybe it's more so what we kind of spoke about with internalizing your trauma. So maybe for those of us that do know better, you don't really want to do better, because you don't really know how to do better. And I think that more so might be what it is. Like, you don't want to give up on, like it's hard when you've only known one thing and then to just kind of like get on the straight and narrow, you know, it's kind of difficult. And I guess I kind of have a testimony to that because I had like a really, really good guy in my life. Steve. Yeah. I had a really, really, really good guy in my life, but because I knew better, I didn't want to do better. Because I wanted to internalize that trauma, I just didn't want to give up on it. I lost him and he just got married last year. So I brought this up to you yesterday when we were talking. Do you think Gen Z, more specifically, I would say younger millennial Gen Z, do you think they actually aspire to long-term, monogamous relationships? Do you think marriage is still like something worth striving for? Or do you think it's just the aesthetic of, I got my engagement ring, look at this beautiful day that, you know, put us on Bella Knight Jazz Instagram page. Like, do you think your generation still wants that? They want this, that they want the wedding and to shit on their, I'm sorry, gonna cut. And to shit on their friends and be like, yeah, I got the ring and, you know, the big, the ceremony and the jest, but they don't want the longevity. They don't want the why. They don't want the decades. They don't want the pain. They don't want to forgive your husband for cheating. They don't want the, they don't want the hardships of it, but they do want love. And so, I think maybe they get conflated just in the idea of being a bride and it just kind of like, for myself personally, maybe that's why I'm kind of missing up. Like, I don't want to really speak for everybody, if I can speak for what I want personally. I never wanted to be married, but that was only because I never saw marriage, like I never saw relationships. I didn't, other than, you know, on TV, I never saw it in real life. Everybody that I ever knew was a single mother. So I just kind of like silently accepted the fact that that was probably gonna be my life. But then this whole men's fear thing happened and you had creators like Kevin Samuels coming out and he was spitting like, he kind of made sense. Like, oh, we kind of, we, like, you can't be, it's like, we felt like we could just be city girls forever and just be hot girls forever and just use guys forever. But I don't think that's how life is supposed to work. As a matter of fact, I know that's not how life is supposed to work. And I think where a lot of us are with Gen Z, especially myself, I think a lot of us just don't know how to get there. So, like, it's difficult. I don't, I wouldn't even know where to begin on how to be a wife. Like, outside of the, you know, the basics bedroom, okay, basic cook and clean basic, these are basic human skills, but like the nurturing part, the motherhood part, dear God, you know, that's, that's the part that we don't talk enough about. And that's the part that's not so glamorous. And that's the part that we just don't know how to commit to, because we didn't see it. You gotta be taught that stuff. Like, you gotta be shown how to communicate with somebody of a different gender. You have to be shown how to cater to somebody's needs and emotions and, you know, we don't get that. We just get used them for his money and be pretty. And that's what we're living up to. Damn. Okay, so talk about, you know, I found the Manisphere, Kevin Samuels, and what do you think that you have learned so far? Everybody found Kevin on that video, that video with the ladies. Yeah, everybody found him from that video. And it was weird because me and my mom actually used to watch Tommy Sotomayor. Oh, shit. Yeah. It was in a deep, right? That was, that was like when it was no rules. Yeah. So we kind of already, I already kind of had a little insight on the fact that men had grifes with women that we may not have been really very aware of. But when he came out, he just, I feel like he made it more digestible. And he made it. Kevin Samuels did? Kevin Samuels. I feel like he made it more, yeah, well, if you were a Tommy Watcher, then you, Kevin and Tommy was like night and day. Yeah. So I think he put it in, and it was still entertaining. Like he still has those videos that can get there. But this was, if you can handle constructive criticism, if you can handle honesty and the truth, then you can handle Kevin. So, and I was in a place where I just wasn't really happy. And sometimes, again, don't want to speak for women, but sometimes some women, we can be in a place where we don't feel happy, but we don't really know why. And that's where I was. And I didn't realize it was correlated to the weight. And it's like, okay, I'm not getting partners because I don't look good. And for the guys that I am getting every now and then, it's not sustainable. Maybe I'm choosing wrong or I don't know how to act. Because the woman that you see before you today is a changed woman. Because when I tell you, I just didn't know how to be like a girlfriend. Like I didn't know how to be a woman. Like I just didn't know how to actually be what a man needed me to be or what a guy needed me to be. And so, I think creators like Kevin and even Tommy and all the many other men of spirit content creators out there, I think they really do, even though the vast majority of women won't say it, I think they really do help kind of guide us or hurt us in the right direction. Especially for those of us who didn't have that guidance. Yeah. What do you think is the biggest thing you've learned from them? Hmm. Well, the first thing that comes to mind, like, oh, I used to think this, but it after listening to Kevin, I realized it was this, that sex could get you farther in somebody's life than it actually can. Talk about that. It don't matter how good you think that thing is between your legs. First of all, it don't take much for pussy to be good. You just got two things. Tight way, tight way, tight way. That's it. So I felt like since I was good in those areas, my attitude, I could say whatever I wanted to say. I could do whatever I wanted to do and what you're going to do about it. But I would say that probably, like you have to have those outside qualities, but you also have to work on the inside too. So maybe I'll just sum it up to that. I just learned to do the inner work because I didn't get that. And I didn't have anybody to kind of like push me in that direction like I didn't get. Your life isn't turning out how you want it to turn out because for lack of a better word, you hurt your bitch. Like you don't know how to, you know, carry yourself in certain situations. And I did have an issue with like alcohol and drinking in my youth. You're still in your youth. No, I mean like in my youth. Youth youth. Got you. Before 21, sorry. But like it was so bad sometimes that I would wake up at 8 o'clock in the morning and have a screwdriver. Like hard liquor, vodka, you know, it's just mixed together.