 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. So many have requested a video about how to act more feminine When you're out and about or when you're dating someone Okay, I've done a video like this before so I'll just do kind of a continuation of What I think are feminine attributes as far as how females act because I've been out and I have seen some Women that act certain ways that repellent Okay Now it all depends if you're out looking for men Then you're acting a certain way if you're not if you're just out with your girls being crazy having fun not caring Then do you and be wild and free? Okay, but if you're one of those single women who are always trying to Be in a position where you're approachable at any time. You're gonna want to refrain from some actions. Okay for example Like when I'm walking around in the mall or Somewhere and I hear a loud group of women just Yapping and just talking all out and just you know Sloppily dressed it it's a turnoff for me And I'm not even a man, but when I see that I'm like, uh, you know why and Then I'll be walking in I'll see another group of girls and they'll be all nicely dressed Casual not screaming at the top of their lungs and just walking around You know nice cute clothes that are not too tight that actually fit because let's let's just face it Let's just call it what it is. There's some women that are Classy and there's some women that are not classy Which category do you fit in? Okay? You're gonna want to fit more in the classy department because if you're trying to find you know a Person to spend your life with and you want them to be you know polite financially responsible Extending father figure you're not gonna attract that type of man Looking a certain way. Okay, or acting a certain way Or dressing a certain way, you're gonna have to tone it down pull it back dial it back Redo yourself over. Okay. We can all improve. Okay. I know a lot of people get mad when I say you need to change You need to change you need to do this you need to do that in order to get This type of person Interested in you, but it's true. You can't just land the type of man you want Being unclassy loud and you know Kind of offensive, you know a lot of women that use curse words You know every other word is very unattractive to very successful men Okay, so if you find yourself cursing a lot work on that stop Find a different word, you know broaden your vocabulary It also shows intelligence, you know when you curse too much it shows that The type of environment you are raised in the type of people you hang around it shows, you know That you have no respect for other people. There could be children around so it kind of shows a level of your lifestyle so unless you're like a comedian on Stage and cursing is In your job description cut it out because it's very un-lady like first of all Wearing clothes that are too tight. Okay. Now if you have the perfect body that yes, fine We're what you need to wear, but if your body is not in the best shape Then you shouldn't be wearing certain types of clothes That are too form-fitting If you want to stay in the classy category, okay Now if you're a daredevil and you will wear anything and don't care and you're you know a fashion blogger that blogs and Where's whatever they want? That's fine But remember no well-respected man It's gonna take you out to dinner if your clothes are suffocating you. Okay, and I'm just saying okay Now y'all have always y'all have seen some women who know that they shouldn't be wearing certain things and we'll still put it on And I'm gonna say this for all women if it comes in your size. It still doesn't mean you should wear it There are body types. There are different types of clothing that we can wear to make ourselves look good Okay, confidence is great if you have the confidence to wear a certain thing. That's fine But remember we're trying to stay classy. Okay, so if you want to stay classy You need to also dress for your body type Okay, you can't dress like the size two over here if you're a size 12 14 15, you know You can't dress like that. You have to tone it down Okay, or you have to cover it up or you have to get your right size It's because I know a lot of people still trying to squeeze into that size 10 When they know they are 14 or 12. Oh, I know you get your right size, okay People can't tell what size it is if it fits on your body. It looks good. If it doesn't fit. It looks bad. Okay there so Yes, so talking loud a lot of people especially You know when you get in a group of people and people are talking and you are over talking And you gotta scream to let this other person hear you and You know That's not classy either We need to be Having a conversation not a screaming match If you're with a bunch of girls and you're out and about and people are watching you They're they're gonna like back away from like that loud crowd Of girls that are just walking through the mile screaming and like, you know, it's it's very Unf flattering so keep your voice to a minimum, you know, especially when you're around kids Don't let you don't be yelling out curse words. That's just disrespectful Also Depending on where where you hang out like there's some places If you go they won't allow that type of like Screaming and cussing in public the security girl will actually come over and ask you ma'am, could you please Quiet a little bit, you know, there's children around Depending on where you are and a lot of people will um say, oh, you know A lot of black women talk loud and that's true But in if you're in a certain environment and that's not the norm You know, people will approach you and ask you to be quiet and I'm not playing because I've seen it so many times um, I believe there was these ladies that Were on this wine Um train or something like that and they got kicked off for being too loud But they sued and won that's fine and Andy because you know That was not right because they did pay their money But I'm just trying to tell you how certain people perceive you in public They say oh look at these loud ghetto, you know People It's a turnoff especially for people That are classy have money Even if they are, you know black or whatever some some women are just like no, this is not This is not uh housewives of atlanta. Okay um You know if you're at a nightclub and you're drinking and everybody's loud the music loud Yes, but in the middle of the day at 11 30 in the morning noon You shouldn't be all rowdy and screaming um because let me tell you why because People are watching you. You know, you're you're an example Now also for for women who who aren't like that Let's skip to y'all who are quiet and cute and demure and you know Not loud. I've seen some little shot groups walking around and they're just like And you know, they might be the little nerd types that cause play and stuff and They're so cute. I'm watching them in the mall but You can weird yourself out too much to attract the type of men you like if you have too much weird crap on Men are not going to approach you unless they're into the exact same thing. You know, and you're like She's a weirdo, but then it might work for your advantage because they might think you're freaky But don't be so weird that you're unapproachable Okay, especially if you're trying to attract the man now if you don't care about it And you just out having fun. Do you? But if you're out and about trying to attract a man, don't wear 80,000 nose rings and purple lipstick and Green hair dye unless that's the type of man you're trying to attract too, you know Don't be too weird and weird yourself out of the circle Of attracting, you know abundant men, you know Unless you're attracting a owner of a tattoo shop or something like that and you're in that environment. Yes But if you're trying to just get someone in general, you got it. You got to kind of tone your look down and also um You know a lot of things a lot of men look at stuff everything like like right now my nails are atrocious At least if they're not done have them cut and clean, you know Cut and clean or done, you know men look at men look at stuff like this toenails Um things like that, you know, um Perfume wear something nice that smells good all the time have something have a signature scent That way when you walk by they smell you as well and it smells good, you know um You know light colors attract like feminine light colors attract masculine men, you know because They see you oh as feminine woman. You got on like I said this in other videos. Y'all probably heard it But feminine colors, okay A lot of women ask me. Oh, well, how do I act? um, you know How do I approach a man online? Okay, you don't approach a man online Stop asking me how to approach men. You don't approach men Let them approach you if they're truly interested in you they will approach You know if you they don't know you're alive and you're trying to get their attention Put a couple selfies up, you know like some of their pictures And that's it if they come to your page and see what you're all about great But don't chase after a man online. That's just as pathetic too. Okay I have a lot of people that come to me and ask me how to get some guy's attention And they always get mad at me because I say If they're not chasing after you you don't need their attention Okay, because they're not they're not looking for you. Okay fine. It's look at the person that's looking for you You know a lot of women get confused on this when I say look at the person who's looking for you That means this person is going to treat you right this person is going to value You for you this person is going to treat you nice because they're checking you out and And they're giving you the attention and they're you know pursuing you They're going to value you more than someone who's not even noticing you caring about you Or looking for you or trying to contact you. Okay Now Never approach a man. Okay. I don't know how many times I have to tell women this And a lot of women will come and tell me well, I have to approach men because that's the only way I'm going to get a date But let me ask you a question If you didn't approach men Do you think that any of men would have approached you and that you might be in a relationship right now If you would have just waited and let the right one come along instead of Men watching you go up from men to man to man you know, that doesn't look right from A distance if I'm a man I'm in a club or wherever I am a bar and I'm watching this woman go up to to different men Or just one man women that approach a man. I'm like dang. She must be desperate And the next time I'm out and about and I see her alone. I'm not gonna approach her I mean like she probably She'll talk to anybody, you know, I'm not gonna approach women that approach men if I'm a man and I'm watching from a distance Say I'm a regular at this really nice bar that you go to and I see you Approaching him him him and him The next time I come and you're sitting there by yourself and you come up to me I'm gonna shoot you right down because you've approached everybody, you know And you're not a challenge You know to me it's like No, not interested Okay, I'm next, you know um No, so if if I if I'm a man and I see a woman In a bar sitting by herself drinking a nice glass of wine and just looking classy and cute and feminine and smelling good I'm gonna approach that. Okay. I'm gonna approach someone who's Got it together confident Not desperate and trying to highlight everything in the bar. Okay No So that's another way to act feminine stop approaching men Okay I know a lot of girls grew up and where it was cute To approach men, but it's un-ladylike Okay, it's not very feminine. Okay. It's not just Totally undo that what you learn And don't approach men anymore let them come to you because men always want what they can't have and if you're offering It to them. Hey, how you doing? You're so cute. My name is da da da. What's your name? That's like, uh, you know They're trying to look behind you at that girl who's just sitting there. You know Waiting to be approached so Please ladies don't do this anymore If that's the one piece of advice I could give anyone is do not approach men I don't know a lot of women are gonna write in the comments. Well, I approach my man and we got Well, you know a lot of those marriages Are one way Okay, if you want your man chasing after you All throughout the marriage You know Then he needs to be the one to pursue you and come up to you, you know um Now everybody's case is different. I know that but I'm just saying um, well Basically, you know, I don't know any other things to kind of tell you but Make sure You know, you keep it classy Keep it classy. Okay. I can't stress that enough Um I I can't stress that enough Classy is feminine Unclassy is trashy. Okay. And I don't know um A lot of people will act and fake You know being classy and then when they get behind closed doors, they're loud crazy routed and that's fine Because we all have that side of us, you know, I know I do But you know remember You don't want to be like this ratchet people on world star, you know, and expecting to find Your partner who's gonna, you know Be your press charming or whatever or just your future husband. They're not attracted to that. Okay They're not unless they're playing on leave hitting it and quitting it You know So give someone An idea of what you would be like if you were married a wife or something like that They when you walk by someone you say, oh, he makes good husband material and they say, oh If they're marriage minded, oh, she would make a good wifey. That's a wifey right there Now, oh, I bet you I could have sex with her Um In a less than a day and then never call her back. Okay, you don't want to be that girl You want to be like, oh my god, that's wifey right there. Oh my god. Yes You know, that's wifey right there. It's classy pretty You know shy, that's my wifey You know not loud obnoxious ratchet It's not wifey And also like you don't even have to be ratchet. You could just look ratchet if you're dressing bad Toes hanging over your sandals like claws That's ratchet too. Okay, you need to Clean it up. Okay, and I'm not I'm not it's getting ready to be spring. I know these toes are ready to come out I don't want to see this. Okay. I don't want to see claws over the sandals ladies. Get your size Don't put baby oil on your feet before you put your slides on because your feet gonna slide right out Put some powder under them's feet then put your shoes on. Okay. Make sure they're polished Make sure your toenails are clipped And make sure your shoes fit. They don't have your size. Go find your size or skip them Okay, I'm tired of seeing these feet claws. Okay I'll see a nice pretty lady She have all the nice clothes nice hair nice makeup. Then I see her feet and I'm like Oh, you should have wore some boots And stop getting those long toenails put on your um toenails Okay, why do you have to have pressed on toenails? I don't understand. Why do you have to have acrylic toenails? Did you lose your toenails? Do they have fungus on them? You guys if you don't have like medical foot problems, stop putting that stuff on your toenails. Okay It looks bad Um, especially to Certain types of men. It looks really bad. Uh, like the nails are all the rage do whatever you need to do to your nails But don't Go crazy on those feet. You know those feet gotta look sexy not scary. Okay All right. I'm gonna see y'all later. I know it was like rambling, but um, I really didn't have Any structured things to say I just kind of Um went off the top of my head on this one. So I hoped that this is helpful to you I hope if you're You know Young and you could take some of this advice You will Because I have heard men talk about women from a distance and I'll be walking behind them and I'm listening and watching them Talk about the women walking in front of them because y'all know I eavesdrop They're like, oh my god. Look at her. Ooh Um, look at those. Oh her feet are ashy. Oh look at her. Oh, um Oh my god, you know She looked like you know She does this this and that. Oh my god, you know It's just crazy what you hear walking behind men If y'all want to know the truth go walk behind some men Okay, and go to the mall on a busy day and walk behind a group of guys That are walking in front of women. They're like, oh look at that You know and look Listen to what they're looking at and referencing. They'll be laughing at some women. Oh my god. Look at her hair. You know, um like if you're If you're wearing like some orange hair You know and It doesn't match your skin tone people They're gonna talk about you behind your back, you know, you might think you're looking like Beyonce But to them you're looking like an orangutan so Okay Keep it Keep it classy. All right. See y'all later. Bye