 for this is sensory defensiveness. Kind of the analogy that I like to use with this is, okay, you have someone who really likes cold showers. They can prep themselves, they get ready, they can ease themselves into that cold shower and enjoy it. It's not a very relatable one because I don't know many people who enjoy them, but contrast that with being pushed into icy water. So it's a lot different. People who are sensory defensive might, as Tune Ruin says, they might really actually enjoy hugging people. They might have a need for that, but only if it's initiated by them or only if it's something that people ask them for. Or they're very close to that person and it's kind of like a regular thing that you do with that person.