 Hey Psych2Goers, and welcome back to our channel. Thank you so much for all the love you've given us. Your ongoing support helps us make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. Now let's continue. When you think of finding the one, what type of person comes to mind? Do you think of your ideal partner, someone who truly understands you and accepts you just as you are? Modern media really pushes the idea of finding that perfect person. While indulging in the rom-com fantasy can be fun and exciting, being in a relationship is not a requirement for happiness. Relationships are a personal choice, and the one you hold with yourself is the most important one of all. With that being said, do you wonder why you haven't met your other half yet? Here are 6 reasons why you haven't found the one yet. 1. You lack self-love What does self-love actually mean? In its simplest form, it means to value yourself and to make you and your needs a priority. It means acknowledging that you aren't perfect and being able to see each personal shortfall as an opportunity to become a better you. You might have heard that you can't love someone else if you don't love yourself first, and there is some truth to this. Expecting all the love from your person to come from someone else can create dependency and it isn't healthy. 2. You are not ready to date Do you find that maybe you're not ready to seriously start dating yet? Do you want to focus on your education, your career, or your family right now? Making this decision is a personal one, and it's not a bad thing. If your instincts are to prioritize your personal goals for the time being, that's okay. For one, a relationship does come along, you'll be better equipped to put all your effort into that other person. 3. You've been pursuing the wrong people Are you struggling to find any luck in your dating life? Before you start blaming yourself, consider why the relationship with those people didn't work out. Remember that the point of dating is to judge compatibility between two people, and there's no shame in stopping a relationship there. When you love and value yourself, you'll learn to say no to relationships that might not be healthy for you, so that the right one will come along. When one door closes, another always opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been open for us. 4. You haven't put yourself out there While there's nothing wrong with having a reserved or shy personality, it could be a factor in why you haven't met the one yet. Finding your perfect partner starts with social connection. If you've been holding out on going to social events with friends in exchange for more private affairs, this might be something to consider. Who knows what might happen when you step out of your comfort zone? 5. You're stuck in the past It's hard to date someone new when you're still thinking about your past relationships. It's natural to compare a new relationship to your previous one, but you might compromise your current relationship in doing so. This prevents you from getting to know your new partner and might be holding you back from them. 6. You have unrealistic expectations What is your outlook on other people? Do you have high expectations for your future partner? Maybe your vision for an ideal partner leaves little room for error. Every one of us is flawed and prone to mistakes. Just because they don't check all your boxes doesn't mean they won't be a wonderful person. Wherever you are in your romantic life, we hope you find someone who honors you for all that you are. Your special someone will come along eventually. Did you relate to any of the reasons mentioned in this video? If so, what do you plan to do differently? Tell us in the comments below. If you find this video helpful, please like and share this video with someone who might benefit from it too. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and notification bell icon for more Psych2Go videos. Thank you for watching. We'll see you next time.