 Let us pray. Father in heaven, we bless your name for this moment. The Bible says where two or more are gathered in your name, you are in the amish. We are more than two, we are more than three. With the eye of faith we see you present here and online. Let your word come to us with clarity. There is hope for every family, hope for every family member, hope for every marriage, hope for every single person. May we sense the guiding hand of God. We pray today, any family, any individual, under any form of demonic manipulation, thinking of suicide, thinking of giving up. People have checked out in life. They are not living anymore. They are passing through life. Today, through the power of your word, bring hope, bring courage, bring clarity. Give us a reason to keep believing if there is anybody here or online who is sick in a family and trusting God for a miracle. We pray in the name of Jesus, let the power of God be dissipated even now. Touch the sick, touch those who are ill, chronic. We pray, let there be complete healing, healing of the mind, healing of the soul, healing of the body. In the name of Jesus, we pray today, visit every home, visit every life, visit every individual, visit every space. May somebody encounter Jesus today for we have asked. Ino mi name, but the name of all names. That name is Jesus. I also pray today, touch my lips. May I not be seen. May I not be heard. May I not be the centerpiece of this evening. May Jesus be the one. And that is the name through which I have prayed in his name, we say amen. Please be seated. Good evening. How was your day? Did you have a productive day? Great. Our subject for this evening, unfamiliar, family frustrations subheading, let's be attentive. Unfamiliar, family frustrations, let's be attentive. But as I always do, it was Jesus himself who said, if you continue in my words, then you are my disciples indeed and you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. If the sun sets you free, you will be free indeed. You can say an amen out there. That's a weak one. You can say an amen out there. I want to make to you four promises. Promise number one is the Bible is going to be the bedrock of our study. And the reason is the Bible means what it says and says just what it means. Promise number two, you are going to be enlightened irrespective of who you are. Promise number three, you are going to be challenged to make the most important decision of your life. And promise number four, our lives, your life and mine will never be the same. Our subject or theme for this week long project, hope for family subheading, build, establish and flourish. But for this moment, we are dealing with the subject unfamiliar, family frustrations subheading, let's be attentive, let's be attentive. That's a way of recap. Today is day number three, day one, we got two sessions, familiar, family failures subheading, it's about us. Then in the evening we dealt with familiar, family fatalities subheading, let's be real. And yesterday we dealt with unfamiliar family failures, let's rethink. Today we will deal with unfamiliar, family frustrations be attentive. In some this series is hope or we envision it, design it with the hope that it will lead families to be constructed or individuals to construct families. According to God's divine ideal, families will be convinced that it can work. Families will be commanded based on God's word to do what God wants them to do. Families will find a reason to correct the ills in their relationships and in their connections and bonding. Families will be complimented. What we know, God will bring his word to compliment what we already know through his word. We will connect, we will be converted and then we become the families with hope that would dispense hope to a hopeless world. Unfamiliar, family frustrations, let's be attentive. Allow me to state for the sake of time, when we talk about frustration, we are talking about the feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something. Anytime we use the noun frustration we are saying someone is upset, someone is annoyed, someone is restless on account that he or she is unable to mutate, change or reconstruct something or achieve a goal or an objective if you permit an aid. When we say frustration we are talking about the feeling of being annoyed or less confident because you cannot achieve what you want or something that makes you feel this way, frustrations. There are many reasons why families are frustrated. We have what we call familiar, family frustrations. The theme today is unfamiliar, family frustrations. There are elements, there are issues, there are variables if you permit that makes family frustrated, then known ones are very, very clear for people but today what are this unfamiliar, family frustration variables. Another word or other words for frustration, exasperation, annoyance, anger, vexation, irritation, bitterness, resentment, disappointment, disheartenment, dispiritedness, depression, dissatisfaction, discontentment, discontent, aggravation. When they say someone is frustrated in simple terms this picture on your screen is my best visual description of a frustrated individual and I dare say many families, many homes are frustrated like that. Those who appear to pretend are in this state, they are wounded, they are hurt and they shield it. So we dress on Sabbath or those of you go to church on Sunday or those who go to the mosque on Friday or those who are agnostics or those who do not believe anything by believing nothing. Every one of us is hurt, affected in a very serious way. In fact, for the sake of those online, I want you to do something those of you in the room, be upstanding, go to somebody and in one minute, 30 seconds, tell the person three things, I mentioned ten, ten common familiar family frustrations, just go to the next person and mention it and those online just drop it in the box. What are the ten, I'm sure the camera screen will pick it up so that they can see online, what are your top ten common familiar family frustrations, you can share them online, your ten top family frustrations, you can share them online and will be able to pick them up and you can be sure as you are speaking, I'm able to check those of you who are sharing online. I can see the post you are posting, your top ten common familiar family frustrations in context, whether in the family circle or in relationships, just name them. If you are done, you can have a seat. All right, ladies and gentlemen, so you have discussed it. All right, remember our subject this evening is unfamiliar family frustrations. Our scripture text says through wisdom a house is be healed and by understanding it is established by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches unfamiliar family frustration if I want to give it another caption I will have said our pathway to confusion why are there so many confusions in relationships in marriages between father and mother parents and children children and parents siblings between people preparing to be married this chicken and lizard and grass cutter relationship all are filled with a lot of what we call confusion the question is why including those with the Holy Spirit the relationships are confused and frustrated and people are depressed this evening we want to just get the subject love is not enough to keep a marriage or relationship good intentions are not enough so when we say we are just in love no the three common things we need for relationship to survive we need wisdom we need understanding and we need knowledge allow me to say the bible says by understanding a home is established this is the subject of discussion today what do we mean by established established is set up on a fem or a permanent basis to be fem be stable made secure made ready cost to stand in an upright position when they say through wisdom houses build many people are built homes but the homes are on shaky foundations how can you build a home and keep the home on a solid foundation this is the subject of this movement ladies and gentlemen the word used are established and understanding the English word for understanding simply means what's under you to stand on understand it means understand it means the the thing you are standing on what what is under that in other words many people are standing on shaky foundation shaky grounds I like the song which says my hope is built on nothing less but Jesus blood and righteous all other ground they are sinking sun we are asking what is your relationship standing on without understanding you cannot know the level the health if you permit of your relationship through wisdom you built the health we dealt with it yesterday yes for it to be fem for it to stand the test of time it must be on understanding understanding threatens your foundation and gives you substance so you can stand flat footed with confidence and certainty a young man and a young lady are dating yet she is not sure where all these are headed towards no something is wrong someone is stupid you need understanding then you can be sure you see a wife and she's unstable in the relationship no somebody is not giving you a reason to believe this is worth investing without understanding there is no confidence there is no certainty you see people are double dating people are something is not right there is a confusion somewhere understanding means doing things with a sense or a death of meaning this is opposed to the shallowness understanding gives you the reason or the justification or the why it is this way or it is that way understanding it brings clarity but you see understanding is shallow it must be deep when you gain the understanding of a concept it will be very difficult for you to be swayed of such belief system people backslide people give up people give in for lack of understanding in the old testament a lot of words have been used for understanding allow me i'm not here to do a hebrew class i am just a student of the bible but one key word that describe understanding usually used in scripture as you can see on your screen literally means realization understanding mean examination understanding means discernment understanding called mean the details in between listen between the journey and the destination understanding calls for knowing what is the detail in between i will explain understanding could mean paying attention if you permit to details understanding take your bible deutronomy chapter one verse 13 choose wise understanding and knowledgeable man from among your tribe and i will make them heads over you in other words choose men with capacity to descend men with the capacity to realize to examine to pay attention to details or men who have capacity to know in between understanding deutronomy chapter four verse six understanding the bible says therefore be careful to observe them for this is your wisdom and your understanding in the sight of the people in other words this is your descendment this is your capacity to realize this is your period to pay attention to details in the sight of the people who hear all these statues and say surely this great nation is a wise and understanding people understanding first chronicles chapter 28 verse 9 ask for you my son Solomon the god of your father and serve him with all your loyal heart and with the will in mind for the Lord set his all heart and understands the Lord can descend all the intent the Lord can examine the Lord can pay attention to the details the Lord can know in between what really you meant to do understanding understanding again realization examination descendment the details in between paying attention understanding jo 28 verse 23 and building up a case follow me god understands it we used it yesterday concerning wisdom they say where is wisdom and job says god is the only one who understand its way in other words god is the only one who can realize who can discern who knows the details of what wisdom is all about understanding some 20 32 verse 9 do not be like the horse or like the mule which have no understanding which must be harnessed with beat and brittle else they will not come near you do not be like a horse without descendment without paying attention to detail without knowing in between ladies and gentlemen the greatest challenge or the second most important challenge facing the home or variable causing homes to be in this array is understanding some 92 verse 6 a senseless man does not know nor does a fool understand some 119 verse 27 verse 34 verse 73 says one make me understand the way of your precept verse 34 give me understanding and I shall keep your law in other words the summits is saying understanding is Lord let me realize if you permit let me realize let me give me realization give me discernment give me the capacity to examine give me what it takes to pay attention to the details of your law the reason why the families are on a shaky foundation or on shaky foundations is that people inmate are not paying attention to details our subject this evening unfamiliar unfamiliar family prostrations let's pay attention the second i'm going to box them together quickly the second form of understanding in scripture literally means cleverness skills ponda or consideration that is the meaning so when the bible use understanding in some other context it may mean cleverness it may mean skill it may means the capacity to ponda or to consider in other words for example in exodus chapter 31 verse 3 the bible says I have filled him with the spirit of God in wisdom in understanding it means in skills understanding exodus 35 verse 31 and he has filled him with the spirit of God in wisdom and understanding it means cleverness unusual precision of intelligence understanding proverbs chapter 18 verse 2 a full has no delight in cleverness in acquiring skills in the ability to ponda or in the capacity to give consideration a full has no delight in understanding aizaha 40 verse 20a have you not known have you not heard the everlasting god the lord the creator of the urns of the earth neither fains nor is wary his understanding in other words he is cleverness he is skills his ability to ponda his capacity to consider is unsechable understanding unfamiliar family frustrations let me pull it together so whilst understanding may mean realization examination descendment or the the details in between or to pay attention to details in some other instances it may mean cleverness skills ponda or consideration there are some 3 4 5 other ways to look at understanding but i'm going to box all of them together in some the last three areas of understanding means insight prudence or comprehension if you permit awareness understanding why are families going through unprecedented frustrations hasbugs do not have the capacity to realize what their wives are going through they don't have the skill to examine the face a woman is in there is no discernment that this man this is what is happening we marry and we are looking for the coming of jesus but in between nobody is paying attention to the details so she is drifting away she is emotionally now connected to somebody at work but nobody can decide nobody can realize nobody knows the details nobody pay attention to the details if you permit nobody has what we call the cleverness the skills the ponda the capacity to ponda or to consider nobody has the intelligence the prudence the insight the comprehension or is able to sense a difference in her mood to be aware i am losing my girlfriend or my wife so what why mean by understanding it is the ability so with us an error that brings together facts and make deep meaning out of saying this is a non shallow meaning understanding means you are not just looking at the surface i am attempting many marriages are shaky they are wobbling they are not same because the parties lack death you are talking to a husband and you are talking like a shallow senseless woman at your age the marriage collapse no amount of prayer will survive or cause the marriage to survive you need a certain threshold of death a certain threshold of knowledge if you permit of meaning insights to keep a relationship through wisdom you build but you want to keep a family you need a certain minimum of ability to examine capacity to descend and know that death we have lost the children when we were losing them we were not paying attention to the details we don't lose somebody in a day it takes time understanding mean ability to separate the observable knowledge from life or life distinguish descend or bring back together so for example genesis chapter 1 verse 4 when god separated the word use the means understanding is the capacity to separate truth from facts reality from disillusionment or seemingly same it's a skill it's a capacity understanding provides the capacity to respond with insight something happens and you have what it takes to respond to its insight based on a death of awareness of the situation so that an insightful response or cares rather than a surface or an instinctive respond many of us are instinctive something will respond something will respond but guess what you do not have the what it takes to use death to analyze to examine and to say this must be the conclusion for you to have wisdom you need two variables knowledge and understanding let me move from the technicality let me bring it home what the screen what is happening there tell the person close by let's go for one minute commercial break be upstanding those of you online we are asking the question what is happening on the screen just move to somebody just stand up come on just stand up don't worry just stand up or tell the person very close by you just whisper but be upstanding please be upstanding just be upstanding mm-hmm what do you think is happening there the experts are giving the analysis all right those of you on youtube on facebook please just tell us what is happening there i hope they can be able to see the screen good all right guess what the ability to descend examine and come to a real right conclusion is what we are attempting to say we are saying today is this the reason why families are always quarreling frustrated there is rage there is anger there seems to be no understanding no communication all this you know there is no communication he doesn't love me the money problem all they are fruits the real problem is somebody lax understanding i will explain when you see lives broken without understanding what caused such lives to be broken you cannot solve the problem when a spouse is reacting or behaving in a way and the other is reacting the issue is you need to understand the background when you see life is broken and by the time chet board is sitting sometimes chet board members we are only using our shallow experiences fake analysis shallow conceptualization of the problem but broken lives broken laugh broken hearts broken homes including broken hopes for it to get there what you first need to go to find out is what are they standing on a man is bent on saying i'm done no don't just say oh maybe he has he's seen somebody no no no you first must find out what is under him what what is the basis of his decision we call it understanding another way to say it is since the journey the journey started from where they were they got married or they were dating they met each other to when they got to where they are now in between what has been happening what is happening you need to comprehend that at a certain threshold of death then you can tell what is the problem it's not every marita problem that's sex off that's cheap there are deeper issues but you see we always use this old tricks old tricks some of us because we are what we called old foxes so we said based on my experience this is happening this is the meaning please between today for the rest of your life when your boyfriend is acting in a way the first thing is not to quickly profile a solution you first must investigate what is his standing on is understanding let me say it differently hear me many people talk about this in marriage but nobody understands it the basis of marrying the woman i love her i love him the question is do you understand in other words do you know what love stands on even love we claim to be professing the third issue is the reason why marriages are collapsing relationships are not standing is because we do not under we we don't know what is under what we are professing i want to marry do you understand marriage tomorrow i'm going to deal with definition of terms no so for example you ask somebody what is love i know that's too difficult who is a man if i bring you microphone right now you the man you may be found wanting in your mind answer the Holy Spirit to mark you who is a woman chances are that you don't even understand who a man is who a woman is and a young woman wants to marry a young man as a husband and first doesn't even know what is the definition or what makes a man what must make marriage this concept or even love is misunderstood in other words your death of examination your death of comprehension your capacity to know in between even the concept is weak so how can you strike on such a shaky foundation ladies and gentlemen we go to school in Ghana before you get a degree plus or minus six plus three nine plus three twelve plus four sixteen years to get a first degree in some cases if you go to kg1 kg1 b kg1 c necessary one a you may be spending about 19 to 20 years but when it comes to marriage when it comes to family everybody feels they know especially the men we are ignorant but we have too much ego ladies and gentlemen allow me to say this evening let me use this as an example love is not a feeling love is not a feeling for the fact that blood is running through through your body and and and your whole system is agitated it doesn't mean that is love love is a decision love is a debt you owe love is a principle love is a choice love is an act of the wheel love is commitment let me give you a bible reference then you get it i repeat we don't understand the bible says marriages are not established because there is a lack of understanding look at look chapter six verse 27 to 36 but i'll just pick some of them you can go and read the rest home for the sake of time but to you who are listening i say love your enemies do good to those who hate you bless those who curse you pray for those who mistreat you pause what is love based on the text a threshold of death to know this let me go to another text we'll pull the two together Matthew chapter five verse 43 to verse 48 i read just some part the bible says you have heard that it was said love your enemy or your neighbor and hate your enemy but i tell you love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you that you may be children of your father in heaven he causes his son to rise on the evil and the good and sends rains on the righteous and the unrighteous and if you greet only your own people what are you doing more than others do not even pagans do that be perfect therefore ask your heavenly father is perfect question what is love according to Matthew chapter five what is love according to look chapter six let me read it again give it a thought the principle is you can love an enemy in fact it's a command you must love an enemy based on the text true or false kenyan speak to me true or false good it's love based on the text it's a word look at the way i define laa i started by saying love is not a feeling love is a decision love is a debt you owe love is a principle love is a choice love is an act of the wheel love is commitment simple terms if i can love my enemy and it's a command jesus says god says love an enemy love those who want to persecute you love those who curse you the meaning is this you choose to love you don't feel he hates me i don't feel like loving him no we don't feel it it's a choice this is the reason why you cannot hate your wife forever sometimes the way i can be vindictive but for this bible what i my wife knows this one has it the way it can punish me she would do something and i said this girl i'll punish her this one i'll punish her but when you are there the bible says love your enemies is she an enemy if you are to love an enemy out of the mother of your children so just imagine a young man enters a relationship the basis of his laa the understanding of his laa is the size of the breasts is the shape of the hips is the color of the body then the day after four children when the breast has bowed to bale there is no more laa let me say differently watch the way mathew says it or said it you have heard that it was said love your enemy and hate your neighbor no love your neighbor and hate your enemy but i tell you love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you in other words we love on the basis of principle is a decision is an act of the wheel if love is a feeling the day i don't feel the way i used to feel i look for somebody else that i feel like that towards then after staying with that person i feel that thing for in in the early 16th century there is a theory called romanticism rotshima and their scholars brought it up which says you know during the time of enlightenment we call it the moment the season of uh i forgot the technique where renaissance during the time of renaissance they brought up a theory called romanticism the philosophy says so romanticism is the basis on which people say that we were at the beach and he just grabbed me and kissed me oh it was romantic it was in public no he didn't use his brain he was stupid but because media has said it over and over again it looks normal so a group of people will say that you know what we were just at the beach and then we made out they had sex at the beach then they said they made out you know how they did how he's so romantic he made love to me foolishness love is not sporadic you think you agree you act so when you act on love the outcome of the decision you are responsible love is not like a reflex action they take an ion they bend you it's not a reflex action the bible says love your enemies it means you think through you know it's not easy but i choose to love this person let me give you a feather biblical example love it's not emotion i'm making the point watch this value is what you are ready to pay for that which you cherish or love jesus's death did not add value to me is because of my value jesus died let me say differently calvary did not add value to humanity the value of humanity caused jesus to go to calvary and die on the cross if that is because somebody say an amen in other words love is premeditated it's costly it's expensive so if somebody says or claims they love you ask the question what are they willing to give up for you when jesus claim he laughed us what did he give up for us all of heaven so which kind of love is this that is not ready to give up anything is only professing in the mouth i love you ladies and gentlemen there is a deception out there and it's because people do not understand they don't know what people are standing on when they are speaking let me say differently what are you willing to give up for me the people say you love me but you cannot give up other women for me no that cannot be love you need to understand hear me it's not emotion for the fact that he is 30 feet tall and he has six million packs and he is from the descendant of the horse you don't get it you are Kenyans so listen i love him but i cannot give up my boss for him that cannot be love tell the person next by you ask the person do you love me now people are careful to use the word now please i say ask the person close by you or tell somebody those online just type and mention somebody's name if you have a boyfriend or husband or wife just ask them do you love me when they finish the answer bang then ask them the next question what are you willing to give up for me somebody just send a message and says i will give up you for myself let me say it differently our topic is unfamiliar family prostrations when you see a home in agitation they don't need prayer you first needs to understand before you pray the bible say we sing with understanding and we also pray with our understanding some of the prayers we are praying for married couples is like those speaking unintelligible esthetic tang because we do not even understand the variables what is at play then we are just praying prayer is the easiest thing to do when there is frustration and problem ladies and gentlemen we need to understand allow me to say wisdom is the principle thing therefore get wisdom where the bible says and in all you're getting after getting everything you can get but for this one you need to get understanding trust in the lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledging and he will direct your past allow me to share with you seven benefits why you need to prioritize love because there are some understanding because there are some benefits that come with understanding first chronicles chapter 12 verse 32 to verse verse 32 and when we read it i want you to give me an answer from from isaka men who understood the times and they knew what israel should do question what is the benefit of understanding based on this text it's not rhetorical i need an answer i will verbalize it look at it again think don't use emotions think from isaka men who understood the times when people understand what is the ripple the text is when they understood what do they now do they know what must be done in other words understanding office guidance and direction write it down any family without direction their problem is understanding deficiency any organization any group many people that do not know what to do they lack understanding do you know the season now life is created in burial season if i wait to have time maybe sabato talk about it ladies and gentlemen marriage has seasons life has seasons the season you are in if you know the season you need to also know what must be done understanding gives homes or give homes leadership the reason why there is no strong leadership homes is that men women do not understand the sons of isaka they understood the time based on the death of their examination their assessment their analysis their cleverness their skills they can't able to say during the David must be king over israel many homes cannot the reason is that there is a deficit of understanding benefit number two why is understanding so critical look at provost 14 verse 28 29 the bible says whoever is patient has understanding but one who is quick tempered displays holy hey tiki menza lord have mercy whoever is patient has understanding based on this test what is the benefit of understanding think come again come again come again understanding produces patient the reason why he is not patient is he doesn't understand her actions the reason why she's saying the thing she's saying she doesn't understand i had a disagreement serious disagreement with samola last time when i travel i said okay she doesn't understand any time a woman tells you i am tired i am tired i am tired i am tired or a man is saying i can't take it anymore i can't take it anymore i can't take it anymore the only reason is so what what what is happening there there is all the subject matter the person has known her a death of it a lack of understanding when when kenyans are saying we are dying of the tax and they don't want to pay the government must know they don't understand whatever you have said president ruto and cabinet kenyans don't understand so they will be impatient the opposition they go to concrete and people cannot listen anytime the bible says whenever there is impatience the reason is there is what a misunderstanding conflict is the problem of misunderstanding divorce is the problem of misunderstanding abuse is the problem of misunderstanding ladies and gentlemen these are the things that destroy the marriages but the real unfamiliar cause of the problem is what lack of understanding your wife is not bad she just doesn't understand you your husband is not a bad person you see when a man is cheating or a woman is cheating the reason is he doesn't understand what it means to be married i'm not saying he doesn't have any fair idea remember i took time to explain what it means to understand is a death of one it's a skill he doesn't understand understanding benefit number three for the sake of time second Timothy this one is a little long allow me to read it but think think second Timothy chapter three verse one to seventeen but i'm not going to use all of them the bible the bible says but understand this that in the last days there will come times of difficulty pause any body marine in the last days what is the bible's assumption first warning to be for one is to be for am but understand this that in the last days there will come war times of difficulty now it goes on for people will be lovers of self so what is going to produce the difficulty including the economic difficulty in Kenya in Ghana in Africa no it's not just by accident it's not because we are black people ladies and gentlemen for people will be lovers of self greed lovers of money proud arrogant abusive disobedient to the apparent and grateful and holy heartless unappeasable slumdross without self control brutal not loving good treacherous reckless swollen with concede lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of god having the appearance of godliness churchgoers but denying its power thereof avoid such people pause it start with war but understand this what's the benefit of understanding based on this text i don't have time understanding gods you is your shock absorber i said the reason why there is confusion in the homes on sabat is because of what it's a hot problem it's a simple i can't have that attack that my wife has cheated on me i have prepared the bible says but if i catch that man if me i catch that man but understand this the reason why you are going to be shocked is you i don't understand why he's behaving like this i don't understand what's wrong with this woman what kind of woman is he what kind of man are you you are so wicked you are so brutal i was on the phone today five hours and i was listening but i so wicked i hate him i say mm-hmm i'm listening the problem she was shocked when she saw the husband's paycheck he has deceived him for 18 years and she found out this week past weekend she can't take it but she has forgotten second Timothy 3 says if you are marrying during this phase of earth history please be prepared there will be shocks why the human beings during this time you cannot be trusted you are marrying at your own period so budget that i will be i can be disappointed hope for the best but budget also for all the worst so what does understanding do understanding gets you from shock people have died from shock the problem why there is frustration is lack of hope benefit number four some 119 verse 34 for the sake of time it says give up give me understanding that i may keep your law and observe it with my whole heart why do people not keep or observe God's law there's something says look let's have a deal just aid me let me have the between feelings let me know the death of what you are requiring give me understanding that i may keep your law and observe it sometimes parents are demanding something from their children and the children cannot avoid the issue is they don't understand in other words understanding and powers two words willing to be putting it differently understanding empowers us to do right because this right why is god saying don't have sex before marriage don't just tell the young people doubts are not funigate they know break it down why the church is not able to teach the why is it god says it you must do it they don't understand one young lady come is a pastor how can i be feeling horny from 13 years till 33 and the bible says don't sex god should take this hornyness out i say mm-hmm i pretended i was no shock i was not prepared for that question can i talk to you urgently isness is important yes and this was boom i nearly collapse i said okay okay the bible is saying when people don't understand they can't keep they can't observe is there any agreement between you and your boyfriend you and your spouse you and your children and it appears you are the only one running around it take time explain it explain it explain it demonstrate it demonstrate it demonstrate it because understanding empowers us to do right because it is right my daughter when she was born she's called susan she has never eaten fish or meats or beef no susan before she was born i sat the mother down and we agreed the child will not eat fish and meat at least until she decides when she's old she wants to do that so when susan was born based on the level she is at every face in time i tried to explain somebody gave my daughter food and she asked is there meat the person said no and she started eating and discovered it nobody can console her she cried to death you know the reason why she understood i was not there the mother was not there they need to call that we should apologize to her on the abihar when people understand they are there is a higher propensity for them to keep in other words understanding empowers families to obey god so the question is which aspect of god's law god's will is your family not able to keep the question is boiling down to understanding let me say differently mathew chapter 13 verse 23 he says ask for what was shown on good soil this is the one who hears the word and understands it he indeed bears fruit and yields in one case a hundred fold in another 60 in another 30 so now you tell me now but this time i've done enough what is the benefit of understanding ask for what was shown on good soil it is the one who hears the word and also what understand in other words there are people who hear the word but they do not understand this is the reason why there should be more teaching in the church than preaching people must understand when they understand so they will hear hearing is not enough zibalizing it is not enough they need to understand when they understand they will observe when they observe they will bear fruits in other words understanding empowers towards godly fruit buried put it differently families live rightiously when they understand so the reason why there is confusion over a subject ladies and gentlemen there is no understanding i don't want to deliver the point proverbs 3 verse 13 happy is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains war understanding pause why is there misery in the parish why is that tear why are the children unhappy why is she dating this young man and she knows no peace he knows no peace ladies and gentlemen the crisis is not just no it's not his temperament you don't understand the temperaments you saw him you love his body shape you love her no you do not understand happy is the man who finds wisdom anybody who gains understanding what is the result happiness understanding gives you happiness what why mean by happiness pleasure it gives you johoi it gives you a sense of emotional condition a wholeness wellness understanding whenever you see people are married and they are not happy there is a lack of all understanding anybody worshiping the lord and he's not happy doesn't understand the lord why so much suffering we don't understand god why failure we don't understand god why delays we don't understand god why do people walk away from the lord they don't understand god ladies and gentlemen relationship without a mutual understanding will bring about pain no happiness stop consulting malice stop going for too many prayer meetings invest in understanding i cook he doesn't eat so you are telling Jesus changes her no sign out why he's not eating the food what kind of lazy christians are this she says i would not give you sex i'm the husband why why why won't you give me sex why i'm the husband foolish man foolish man you lack understanding why is she not giving you sex the solution is not a psychic that's a lazy approach the solution is why will the woman agree to be my wife and not give me sex could it be i am underperforming could it be she's emotionally detached could it be i'm hurting her whilst we are being intimate could it be my reaction towards a there should be a reason why will a full grown man that is not important refusing to sleep with the wife do you have math order do you have body order are you putting him off are you unclean there are variety of issues the problem is lack of lastly understanding is a well spring of life to him who has it but the correction of full is fully anybody who has understanding what do they have abandoned life not just eternal life in this life also if you have understanding you have abandoned life you may not have all the things you need but you'll be happy the bible says understanding is a well spring of life so which face am i in now i'm in my sunny states i am in my morning states i am not late yet i'll keep pushing i'll keep hustling i'll keep working ladies and gentlemen understanding gives abandoned life ascript attacks through wisdom house is built but after you build a house for the house to be established many businesses were set up in kenya after two three years the collapse building is easy but having an established business functional you need understanding in the next five minutes just pardon me how do i get understanding three texts proverbs three verse five trust in the lord with all your haha and do not lean on your own understanding if you indeed want an understanding rule number one distrust yourself distrusts yourself any philosophical underpeding any methodolika framework you are deploying to get a death of what the problem is if it is contrary to god's will you will not find what you are looking for holy wood cannot make you happy no holy wood no listen the entertainment industry they are not the originators of love relationship they can't make you happy do not trust in your own understanding this is the way i want to rule my home no the bible says be guided by this it's a sign of humility if you don't understand that a car you are driving when it has a problem the originator the manufacturer must be contacted you can go ahead and marry and deal with your marriage the way you feel because you are coming from a kisi land do it like the way the kisi men do it who's if you be happy you will never be happy till you die you can marry one two three four five six seven hey people have been polygamus they said foolishness is foolishness all is foolishness don't trust yourself second to multi two verse seven think over what i say for the lord will give you understanding where can you get understanding including what we are studying today who will give you the understanding to the subject matter today is the lord where will he speak first from his word hebrews 4 verse 12 for the word of god is living and powerful is a descendant of the thought and intent of the ha god is able to know assess where you are and come bring you understanding provoked after two verses for the lord give wisdom from his mouth come knowledge and what understanding the word of god gives understanding i love the bible today people have phd they run this book down it's a simple book it to guide you listen when i dated my wife we never had sex till we married two years she came to gana she stayed for two months she went back to the mother clean virgin when i'm going to visit her because i am not god i am a man of god a man before god so i'll go with my friends i won't stay in the room with her alone probably after seven when i see samwala even if you put a quick bible it will not stand so i refuse to meet her alone how do i know the bible has caution probe seven if you put a quick bible it will fall down so i go with my friends and go and visit her samwama nine that's 130 the unfolding of your words the opening of your word the revelation of your word gives light it gives understanding to quit people simple anytime you read the bible they say simple it means the stupid are you stupid yes where can you get understanding through the unfolding of god's word my prayer today and i give them a song they are going to play it for me Lord give me grace to make pursuing understanding a topmost priority all i need i want to pursue understanding you are going to play for us a song i gave them have thy own way Lord i want you to spend the next three minutes and tell the Lord i need understanding you can't fix your marriage you need God you can't fix your relationship alone you need direction from God in the next three minutes speak to God where you are lacking in your relationship or in your marriage have thy own way Lord those joining online lift up your voice and begin to pray search me try me dear Lord as in that presence humbly i bow your wife is hurting because she doesn't understand you your husband is in pain i'm wounded Lord i am tired i've tried many times i've failed today i converse i need help have thy own way Lord have thy own way i want God to hold me see the way your children are so angry some of you your children would have had anything to do with you they don't understand some of you you are angry with your husband is because you do not understand why he did what he did some of you your boyfriends your girlfriend you are roaming you are searching for answers today God says frustrations in relationship is caused by lack of understanding ask God for this grace when the sun ends they play the game and i'll pray have thy own way Lord have thy own way hold all my beings sway me Lord absolutely fill me with your Holy Spirit till everybody who knew me to be a womanizer a cantangorous woman and this united family they should see that there is a change in our family we want to pray give us that song again if you are here this evening you need understanding i just want you to stand on your feet as we pray together and those of you joining online all heads bow all eyes close have thy own way Lord as the players sung very quietly we want to pray i feel i descend somebody is here today you are tired with the way you yourself you are behaving either in the marriage in a relationship you want to say dear Lord help me as i pray just be telling the Lord change me to me equip me to be a birta person father in heaven for far too long this unfamiliar variable misunderstanding is what is killing the families the anger the greed the washing our dirty linen in public husband and wife they just do not understand themselves children do not understand the appearance siblings is understanding people are preparing to be married and there is just confusion everywhere we have cast the devil many times but still our relationships are not changing we need the tool of understanding some of us we are lazy Lord when issues happen we don't dig deep our wives are in their fifties yet we don't want to investigate what women go through when they are 50 we lack understanding our children are in their teenage years parents lack understanding how they can raise them up and they have gone into the far country there is pandemonium in the house of God Africa is in crisis Kenya is in crisis Nigeria Ghana South Africa Lord name it Europe the whole world relationships are in agitation Lord what we lack is we lack understanding today let there be lights let there be lights there is too much shallowness may we dig deep husbands are cheating what may be the reason they may be unconverted people have issues when they were growing up they have not reconciled broken man are becoming husband and fathers lack of mentorship unconverted men and women Lord the house of God 10 people get married five the devils today thank you for the revelation we lack understanding we wonder why we can't communicate as couples someone is saying something the other party is not getting it lack of understanding let there be silence in the homes Lord the distractions are too much we are distracted by social media distracted by work space distracted by ambitions we can't listen to each other and one another today in this place in this place we pray for every family we pray for every relationship we pray for every individual in the name of Jesus may we embrace understanding may we embrace understanding let there be investment to understand may we invest to understand may we invest time may we invest resources may we dig deep through your word may we buy material may we go to saminess may we crave for understanding the days of ignorance must be over Lord let there be light here at Nairobi Central we pray for every marriage we pray for every single person we pray for every relationship the days of blind folded relationship they will be over we will throw lights into the relationship we want to see the darkness no more eating in the dark we want to see what we are eating may we understand why our children are the way they are why our spouses are the way they are why our friends are the way they are why our loved ones are the way they are today mighty god anybody in search of understanding when they lift their voices when they search through study may you make it possible let there be enlightenment let there be elimination and may the frustrations and the tears of our wives our sisters our mothers our husbands and fathers and brothers and spouses and our children may it end let a new culture emerge in this church when we do not get it we ask we don't understand take away the pride if there is somebody right now watching online her relationship is crumbling down at the point of divorce may you help and hold somebody and bring forth lights and save a marriage save a friendship save a relationship save a contract save a partnership and may this understanding transcends the walls of the church until we meet again tomorrow the same time may the lord bless you may the lord keep you may the god of understanding bless you with this and alloy it simple yes very difficult principle of life and may our relationships get better in jesus name amen we see this i want to say something before i go tomorrow 8 am in the morning wherever you are listening to me we'll be having a prayer session online 8 am is 30 minutes as many as can we share the link those of you who are part you can share the link with your friends who post it on social media i was the communication group anybody we're going to have a prayer session 8 am to 8 30 in the morning i encourage all of you to join see you god bless you have a good night