 See if this he'll live or work Internet in here in the in the hotel room. I don't have internet But I want to pop on here Sunday Sunday I'm in the hotel old-school hotel little city in Iowa Come up here for a speaking engagement for one of my High school mentees who go to college up here? So we come up here you know just to Get out the house support Move around. I just posted a video not long ago Just kind of chatting on it So hopefully my service is decent. We are This uh, yeah, no light over my head I'm gonna do a live on I mean a Q&A on Instagram, but I want to come on here and I Was I posted some videos earlier wanted to chat about those I posted some videos earlier in the week That was talking about Will a man wait and I saw One young lady she posted, you know, I don't believe most men will wait I'm just not believe most men will wait and that's one of the the downfalls of humanity is Us not believing in humanity like us not believing in the good of each other So the same way women don't believe in the good in men men don't believe in the good in women and so when you have two Genders that don't believe in the good of the other It hinders the connection it breaks down the connection So you then you can't really build something secure on a firm foundation because neither party Believes in the humanity of the other So women believe men are liars and cheaters and dogs and can't be trusted and majority of men are You know Narcissists and that's what women believe and then men believe women are gold diggers and liars and deceivers and freeloaders and All of this stuff and this kind of goes across the board and so when you meet somebody And what we don't realize is that is not as common as we think it is and what we don't realize is now when you get together You can't really build because there's no trust and if there is no trust there is no Relationship and so We got to be able to get to a place to where so when I said that you know That's one thing that I found is that so many women do not believe That a man will wait if a woman want to wait And so that has a woman getting on her back Got a woman getting on her back and then If a woman willing to get on her back the man In most cases is not going to be like oh No, get up Get up. What you doing? You know getting on your back Then It's not it's not gonna click because the man is really Waiting on the woman to show what she wants and how she wants to be treated because Unfortunately, it's not in human nature to just give people What they deserve in the sense of we've seen so much savagery So we all from this mindset to where it's kind of like in business Like we went to a black owned business while we're here restaurant and We ordered our order for me and our order for Caleb I mean he ordered but I paid for it and The food was like Um I can't remember how much it cost Like 23 dollars or something like that 24 dollars And I think I gave what $10 till And The $10 tip was like over 30% and So then I ordered again Because it was soul food. I ordered again Just doing the most but really wanted support And then the guy was like, you know, I'm gonna give you this right here for free And I said no, don't worry about it. We're gonna we're gonna pay for it because you know, we want to support and We we are so used to being taken advantage of we're so used to people trying to get over Samantha Godfrey's that we don't know how to accept Or we'll take and so and we live in a we live in a country If you not in america, it's on a plot of you but we live in a country where it was a lot of taking Being done It was a lot of pillaging being done It and so that kind of create this savagery It kind of creates this take whatever you can get And what I tell women all the time is that just because a man accepts something doesn't mean y'all have to forgive me with this bad lighting in here because That light shining my eye came And I'm in this old school hotel And so just because a man accepts something It doesn't mean that's what he wants And A lot of time people don't believe that so so often Women say well, oh well a man should not a man shouldn't Take it he shouldn't sleep with a woman If just because she want to sleep with him if he know That she's not ready Or that's not what she wants But as adults we got to have our own set of standards and we can't expect somebody to look out for us So if if you go into an establishment of business And you say hey, I want to buy a car if you haven't looked up what that car is worth And you ain't compared on kelly blue book or different sites true value What have you kelly blue book true value similar tech if you haven't compared on those sites and you go in and They tell you this car worth 30,000 and really it's worth 15 You got to know the value for yourself like nobody's gonna say oh no, we're not gonna oh no We're not gonna take advantage. We're not gonna get over on you But when you know what you're worth and you know the value you know your value You know what you want then people have to meet you there And so the young lady says she just don't believe most men will wait The key is every man will wait Every man will wait, but the difference is every man will only wait for his wife If his wife wants to wait So That's what you have to understand. It's not that The man won't wait Is that he won't wait for you Because you're not his wife And so you can't be mad about that going about your business Going about your business somebody else husband But don't get on your back Trying to get a man to stay It's telling yourself that if I don't give it to him then somebody else will That is true But if that's your husband your husband wants what you want Your husband don't want you to do something That you don't want to do that ain't your husband So you have to realize that and you and you got to push that you got to push that narrative And you got to let your friends and your family and your cousins know Because the thing about it is the reason why grown boys get over Like the bible say My people perish due to a lack of knowledge And so in relationships lack of knowledge We perish and we perish and from dv We perish and from hiv You know, we perish and from Sadness and sickness we perish and from all these things and it's due to a lack of knowledge So so what the adversary wants to happen is the adversary want people to be tricked Out out of their peace the adversary want people to be tricked out of their abstinence The adversary want us to be fooled and want us to believe that we can't have this or we can't have that And that we got to give up everything and we got to You know That a woman got to sleep with a man just to keep a man and then end up sleeping with the man And still get cheated on Sleeping with the man cooking for the man doing all this and that All that and still get cheated on and the reason why because That's not your man That's somebody else man So you have to be able to know your standards and to stand on your standards And don't get to a place to where you're just doing something willy-nilly and you can't be afraid to lose somebody Like you always got to be able to get up and walk away from the table It's just like at a car dealer again the car dealer wanted the car dealership Is one of the shadiest places in the world? And it's it's dominated by men And the way men do sales is the same way men do relationships And so it's just like when you go to the car dealership They're not gonna give you a good deal They're gonna drive a hard bargain But when you're willing to walk away They'll could be calling you the next day Uh, yeah, we're gonna be able to um, you know, just thought about it. We're gonna be able to do That number that you had So, yeah, um, what you mind coming on back in the day and then they're gonna do What you wanted to do originally and that's what you got to realize Gabriel god bless you now god bless lord god bless you So when you stand on your standards, you've got to be willing to walk away You got to be willing to do without and today Women so desperate Men are not desperate Because it's so many women And the truth of the matter is it is more ready women than there are ready men That's the truth of the matter And but the reason why it appears that way Is also because a lot of the men that are good Get overlooked A lot of the men that are good are called Lane They boring Want to say women say they don't feel a spark Women say they don't feel chemistry And not realizing that in chemistry Stuff could blow up in your face in chemistry In chemistry you put two wrong chemicals together And you finna have a long day You it's finna it's finna Not go pretty And so so many women just looking for chemistry Looking for a spark and not realizing that the thing was sparking is His Jezebel spirit Is his narcissistic ways His manipulation that's what's sparking But when you get to a place to where you start to understand Healthy relationships what you what you realize is in healthy relationships. They're there aren't really sparks It's it's not sparks. It's because A spark come from Hot grease That's what a spark come from It come from hot grease So lust burns Love warms So love is like the microwave So you could put foil In the microwave I mean the oven the oven love is like the oven You could put foil in the oven Lust is like the microwave You can't put foil in the microwave. I just heat up some in the microwave Some of the good peach cobbler got the real peach cobbler the real peach cobbler and so I put that in the microwave now if I put some foil in the microwave guess what's gonna happen but If I put foil in the oven You see what I'm saying? So a lot of women saying oh, I want to spark. I want to spark And really don't realize that a healthy man Is boring Like and when I say boring Is he don't have a he doesn't have drama going on It ain't no yelling and cursing and going back and forth. It ain't all of that With a healthy man. It's going to be mild and not spicy It's gonna be mild and It's gonna be a dry rub not Buffalo sauce And you're gonna It's gonna be a different feel and so What you have to realize is It just like the term that somebody made of gas lighting When you think about that when you light gas, it's a It's a spark And sometimes that gas is ready and you and you stick that flame in there It could blow up in your face. And that's why people say oh Gas lighting gas lighting me and and What a lot of women don't understand is that women are basically asking When a woman described what she wanted a man a lot of women basically asking to be gas lit Asking to be Narcissized Asking to be Misled Asking to be deceived mistreated dolled out A lot of women asking for that And because they want to spark and that's what you have to realize so The good men for one They're not wired to Chase women Like the good men today, they're more so focused on their business They focus on their mind their body their spirit And they focus on peace So the good men they're not really trying to be zaddies And all of that they got other focus So when you meet these good men Their hygiene may not be a one because that's a learned Lesson that's a learned behavior. They may shower and all of that brush their teeth But they may not do it to a level of perfection A lot of times that come from you know, the influence of their mother And so they may not dress like a pro athlete And be all you know Stylish and all of that it may be Some some loose jeans And a flannel shirt And so you got to understand that when he fall in love with you then You're able to introduce him to different types of fashion But you also got to make sure you're not dressing him Like your fetish Like your crush Like the man you want to have a one night stand with and you letting this man be who he is and so That's the thing today is that good men The single men who are good men have no pr They have no pr, but The bad men the toxic men They scream in front of the mountaintops In in the music in the movies the media And so that's what women being fed and then so many women want the same type of man and then women who Feel like they have it all together will look and see this other Will look and see this woman Who they think they're cuter than They think they're cuter than this woman They think they got a better body than this woman. They think that they you know doing more That this woman they'll see this woman go and get married and just have Her way And then be like well, how she got married and it's because she saw a good man for his heart And she didn't judge him based off of the music and the media and the movies and then women say Oh, well, that's not fair To us as women because men Don't do the same thing Nobody asking a man to settle Well, what you have to realize is nobody asking a woman to settle and What i'm saying to a woman is also said to the man And and men who get married Good men who get married have to do the same thing Because a good woman Is not a spark There's there's not sparks and flames with a good woman Because a good woman is not Going to sleep with a man every day A good woman is not going to cook Every day A good woman is not going to clean every day And you know why she's not Because she's a human And humans don't feel like doing everything every day Because humans have bad days So a good woman is an authentic woman She's an honest woman And so a good woman is not going to Sleep with her man When she has a headache Because she's going to communicate with her Because she's going to communicate to him I have a headache And I don't feel good And he has to respect that because she loves herself And if he doesn't respect that he's going to feel Her unhappiness With his disrespect And if he pushes the issue And she gives in and she allows him To lie down with her even though she has a headache And she's not feeling good eventually she's going to leave Because she's not respected and she's not appreciated So a good man We will go many many days In this year Without Sleeping with our woman Because in that year if she has A hundred headaches Or stomach aches or long days Then we're going to respect her as a human And understand that So even with men Good men are not Marrying Sparks and flames Good men are Taking the oven over the microwave Good men taking the long and slow road Over the shortened fast road And So when you see a good marriage it's the same thing It's two individuals Who see the Imperfections Meaning They're not really flaws They're imperfections based on Society standard of perfection So we call it imperfection But the imperfections make the person perfect And so when you see a good marriage It's to understanding people who are real It's two people who are going to miss some workouts It's two people who are going to have some bad days It's two people who are going to put on some marriage weight It's two people who are going to not be perfect And they're going to understand and respect each other Being human And they're going to grow and they're going to work But they're going to respect love and trust Meaning they're not intentionally hurting each other They're not cheating on each other They're not taking advantage of each other They're not doing that But they understand that they're human And that they're going to have mood swings They're going to be up and down They're going to have bad days And that's what a healthy relationship is going to look like And today we're looking for perfection We're looking for this fantasy, this fairy tale And we want something from a storybook And that's what's keeping a lot of people single Men and women is the storybook Is we're believing the hype We're believing the hype And men saying, oh I want somebody like Rihanna And understanding that You don't get to the place that Like Now I understand there's a lot that come with A human That come with a celebrity That come with what it takes The mindset it takes to be a global icon A lot come with that So a man will say he want Rihanna And don't understand what come with that mindset And really Doesn't realize that he Is not seeing Her quote unquote imperfections Because of her fame and her money Because If This celebrity Was a regular person We would see all of their imperfections We would see Their forehead We would see Their nose We would see Their love handles We would see their attitude problems We would see all of this If there was a regular person So women fall in love with celebrities Men fall in love With celebrities And then we going into the real world And we want to feel The same spark with a regular person That you will feel From lusting after a celebrity That you do not know And then we wonder why relationships Don't work And so Even when you look at these celebrity relationships You know I just saw the Bonnet lady And her guy divorce The past and actress divorcing Kanye and Kim Divorcing You see all these divorces You know all these divorces And The reason is the hype People fall in love With the fantasy With the idea Of this person and then get with them And can't handle the reality Of this person And so it just lasts in five years Eight years Somehow some kids And then it don't work out And so that's what's happening In the relationships today We rooted in reality And our problem is We're not rooted in reality And just like right now We have virtual reality That virtual reality is also Like Social media is another form of virtual Reality Because it's virtual And It's not reality Just like virtual reality is not real What you see online 99.9% of the time Is not real So what you see online Is a mirage Is something that you see And I just had lunch With a billionaire Who's a billionaire on paper But he don't have a billion dollars in the bank And he told me He said his business could be out of Business in five years But yet he's a billionaire on paper He says it's not out of the realm of possibilities That his business is out of business In five to six years And one would think Like how in the world can you be a billionaire And your business could be That it's not Out of the realm of possibility That your business could be out of business In five to six years And that's the thing is He told me this is all a mirage He said you chasing You want to be a billionaire He said you already arrived You already that guy Like you already Doing what you call to do And what you need to do Like don't worry about a title To get your message out People will listen to you even without a beat In front of your name or behind your name And that's what he was telling me And so what's happening Is we going to social media And we watching People highlight reels And so we looking at Their highlight reel And then we comparing it To our behind the scenes We comparing Somebody showroom To our mess hall We comparing Their Open window Living room Their sun room To our prayer Closet And that's where we getting lost at Because we believe in The hype And then when you go into reality And you like Oh well this woman over here Got this man But you don't see the dark side of that man You don't see The negative parts of that man And if you saw the negative of that man You will put your shoes on And run And men going and looking at this guy And say oh he got this woman But don't see All the fakeness Of the woman All the attitude And the craziness of that woman And don't realize that if he Got to experience that woman He will run And so we meet people That we could be with But because we comparing Because you compare The person that you talking to Because you comparing that person To The highlight reel of somebody online Or somebody else Relationship that you know nothing about You end up losing With the person you with The person that you Can build with You end up missing out on something Because you comparing a highlight reel To a behind the scenes And so you know You got to think about this And So this is what we coming to today And what we have to realize What you going to have to realize Is that anybody you meet You going to have to Build With that person You going to have to build Nobody is going to come Male or female Nobody is going to come ready made Nobody is going to be Everything That you want them to be It's going to be some things You got to work through And it may be small things And some may be big things But the key is you have to ask yourself Can I trust this person And am I safe Do I feel safe If you feel safe And you feel like you could trust this person Then any other problems that you working through It's just personality stuff Personality differences Up bringing Things of that nature And the point of Relationship Is to make each other better So The man is going to make the woman Better The woman is going to make the man better The man going to teach the woman some things The woman going to teach the man some things And then you getting better together So and then you have an understanding And you have an understanding And you get to where you could build So if a man gets with a woman And this woman is loving She's caring She's kind She's supportive But she's not domesticated Meaning She wasn't raised And taught how to cook She wasn't taught how to cook So But because she's loving And kind and supportive Her encouragement Her motivation Her support Helps her man build his business So he builds his business To the place to where Now They can afford a cook So where this woman Cannot cook Because of her lifestyle The way she was raised Now Because of her other attributes What she brings to the table They can afford a cook They can afford a cleaner They can afford Whatever Area that needs to be Filled And the same with this man The man could be a great Person And have a lot of ambition Have a good heart Be faithful, be kind But he doesn't know How to work with his hands He wasn't raised Working with his hands He was a computer guy Or he was a sports guy So Remodeling the house himself Is not in his wheelhouse But because of his ambition And his faithfulness And his focus He's able to get to a place To where he can afford To hire the man And be a blessing to his business And yet still operating His strength And that's what a relationship is We're going into relationships And the problem why so many people single today Is people going Into a relationship And they're looking for someone to be A Renaissance man A Renaissance woman To be everything To be this whole package And they're looking for that And it's just not Realistic Everybody is going to have weaknesses Everybody is going to have some areas That they're not the strongest in But you have to ask yourself Is this do or die Like is this area Where my partner isn't The strongest in Is this make or break The only time it's make or break Is when it's their character flaws When it's their Attitude, the way they treat you That's when it's make or break When it's not based in that And it's just something that's You could learn along the way Then you got something to work with And so that's what we got to realize You know and get to that place And We got to have realistic standards You know you got to be able to Look yourself in the mirror And you got to know what your People looks like So we looking in the mirror And it's like mirror, mirror on the wall Who is the fairest of them all And We letting the mirror say Oh you are the fairest of them all You know you're the best thing Since sliced bread You God's gift to earth And you letting the mirror tell you that lie And then you meet somebody And you looking at them And you become their mirror And you judging them as their mirror And you see all of their flaws You got the convex lens And you see all of their flaws And your mirror You three X's There you magnifying His or her flaws But then you are Minimizing your flaws So I don't see I don't coach so many people Who say I'm a good catch They call themselves a good catch But they can't see themselves They done been led to believe that By their mama Because their mama love them They done been led to believe that By you know getting their head Pumped up from posting pictures On instagram But cannot really see themselves Through the eyes of somebody else And don't look like A good catch at all But then judging everybody That's approaching them When those people are Reflection of them And they don't even realize it So we got to get real About our flaws Not beating ourselves up But we got to really be real And be able to identify Our blind spots Our weak areas So that when you meet somebody You able to appreciate Their strengths And not just Because of their blind spots Or their weak areas And so the thing is It's a lot of good out there And it's a lot that's out there And That can be found But We're not finding it Because of the lenses You're looking through You missing the good because of the lenses You're looking through And you got to get to a place To where you can understand And you can realize You know You can realize Where you looking from So This really what I see From my viewpoint From where I'm at Is The reason why A lot of people Singles get stuck in that single season Is not being able You know Is not being able To see other people And not being able to appreciate Other people And looking through the wrong lenses And now we being judgmental And we waiting on perfection And So when you look at a finished product If you see a finished product And this finished product Is with somebody else But you don't know The finishing That had to be done How much sweat And tears that went into the finishing Of that person Then You want the product You want the prize But you don't want the process You don't want The pain, the work That it took For this person to get where And that's what you got to understand I was looking at the game Made a weird face on TV I don't know if she crying or laughing And so that's where you got That's where you got to get to And we really need Somebody to be honest with us Like you kind of need somebody Who Is A friend That you know is not a hater That can hurt your feelings And say okay look You know You got to This is what you need to work on You need to work on this, that and the third You know You ain't all the way there yet You ain't all the way arrive yet So You got to understand that And Get to that place So think about this And get to understand Where Be over And it's kind of like The gold digger Not the gold digger Like the money hungry person That we hear about But the person who digging for actual gold The person who digging for Actual gold They're not paying attention to the dirt They digging around The dirt, they getting around the dirt And they getting to the gold So when you meet somebody You can't just See them as dirt You got to see their gold So you got to be able to Chisel You know fine tune So you have to see a person Of who they can become And then you got to ask yourself Is this person willing to work Toward that Is this person moving toward that So a prime example Is when you see me today Do you see A womanizer Do you see a drug dealer Do you see A shady person A backstab or a liar Do you see A thief You don't see that today But that's what I was When my wife met me So when my wife met me I was I was The scum of the earth You know I was not a good person But I had a desire And a will To be a better person So when she met me I realized whoa okay This is a good person She's not perfect She got little things That she need to work on But I could see Her and her process And I can appreciate And respect The work that she's doing And then she could Look at me and say okay I could see who he can become If he willing to do the work And so Then you get To a place Where you don't look like What you've been through And that's what you got to understand Is nobody Will meet and will have arrived And if they have arrived They may not want you May not need you So that's going to be something That we got to understand That's going to be something That we got to process And be able to Do the work on Be able to get to that place I'll get one to say Y'all forgive me I was trying to calm He down in his room I was about to see if he could run the Starbucks Because I'm on my cell phone But I need one of them Starbucks teas Medicine ball Up here in this snow It's snowing up here So it just came from You know warmer weather into the snow That kind of shock your body So I'm up here trying to make sure I transition well So listen to me Just someone wants you to think about You know I want to pop in Share this message with you I know there's a lot of chatting going on So y'all ain't heard nothing I said So y'all have to watch back to this And Watch the video over Because you can't read the chat and listen At the same time Although you think you can Our brains just really can't really do that So you have to watch the Video over because I know how You know human nature we know this So we're going to read everything in the chat So y'all up here having a whole conversation So I'm going to take some questions probably about 15 minutes I see you and Andrea Put up a question in there Andrea you could have lost your money now Because this wasn't no Q&A And you just put in questions in there So don't do that again Because I don't want you flushing money down the toilet God bless you I saw it though God bless you Andrea Thoughts on a straight man Who's pursuing you Who follows a Uh-uh But it's adamant that he's straight But can't explain why he followed that person I haven't picked up on In an uh-uh Before but this made me Uneasy Well I can't tell you what Uh You know I can't speak for every man But I can't speak for every man And the analogy would be too harsh But I'm going to tell you Like this right here What I've been hearing lately And it ain't just It's been some years now I've been hearing It's a lot of Men Okay Andrea adding on to it Alright big bank Big baller Now you could become a member of the bless tribe Or you could just type in the chat Free of charge now Well Andrea But God bless you now God bless us see Let it turn a thousand fold I just discovered this And decided to stop going on dates with him I'm following my spirit Yeah listen to your spirit Sister Listen to your spirit I'm going to tell you that now Because listen I'm a type of man That I got my mentee with me A lot of guys share rooms If I can afford it I don't even share a room with no man I don't even share a room with a man Even though we men And got the same You know parts and all that I don't even want no man in my clothes In my clothes space Just because I'm a man So I know this is a man So it's like Okay Alright So I'm going to tell you as a straight man It ain't nothing in the world Ever That'll make me follow A brand one And what that mean I don't know what that mean But really what it mean Oh what I've been hearing Is that a lot of men Is into that A lot of men doing that And I don't know if it's just I don't know if it's the music I don't know if it's just society Oh I know what it is I know what it is Lust is very strong And so today is so much lust Going on It's kind of like this right here It's like You start with vanilla ice cream Right Or you start with chocolate ice cream And after you get Used to that vanilla ice cream Now you want you some fuzz Drizzling on it And after you get used to that vanilla Ice cream with fuzz With the fuzz drizzle on it Now you want vanilla ice cream With fuzz drizzle With strawberries on it And then after you get used to the vanilla ice cream With the fuzz drizzling With the strawberries Now you want fuzz ice cream I mean vanilla ice cream Fuzz drizzle Strawberry And crush oreos on it Then after you get used to all That now you want vanilla ice cream Fuzz drizzling Strawberry Crush oreos Butterfing on it You see what I'm saying So what's happening is These men They going onto these websites And they watching A man with a woman They watching a man with a woman Then they go from Watching Black man Black woman To watching white man Black woman Then they go to watching Black man white woman Then they go to watching White man black woman Then they go to watching White woman white woman Then they go to watching Black woman black woman Then they go to watching White woman black woman You see what I'm saying So then they go to watching Three women men two women then they go to Asian Asian Asian white Asian black two men one woman so they keep going and going and going to the next thing you know now they got man who looked like woman but still got man thing with a woman okay like basically like Caitlyn Jenner now they watching somebody like Caitlyn Jenner who dressing look like a woman still got the man but wanna be with women now they go to seeing that so now they go to thinking they got the best of both worlds they got the woman and they got the man so now it's millions of men that's into that and all what it is is just a lust they lusts got out of control and I'm a senior and I didn't cope some guys that one thing I want to notice is like when a guy get to when a guy get to like a thousand women and so you got to realize of regular guy a regular guy on Genesis God bless you hopefully that only a regular guy cuz sleep with a hundred women a regular guy meaning no money no fame cuz sleep with a hundred women a regular guy cuz sleep with 200 300 500 women what I have learned is that men who get to around a thousand women mark I don't know in the light if it do the same for women cuz I'm a man so you got to ask a woman about that and I'm gonna tell you as a man I don't watch the stuff but I understand how the mind work I don't watch the stuff and I but I know what's hot there I know I don't live on the rock so now listen what I notice is men who then got what about a thousand women or they don't watch the thousand of them nasty movies they go to wanting more they go to want an exploration because it get bored that's why just like they say marijuana is a gateway drug cuz what they saying is they didn't they they they smoking that joint but then after a while it stopped to get them house they don't get them house or not any a second blunt third blunt fourth blunt fifth blunt after years of 5 to 12 blunts a day now they just want to sprinkle a little dust cross there sprinkle a little dust cross there then next thing you know they want something that they could tap that vein with and just get it in there intravenously and it's just a gateway it's just one thing to the other one thing to the other so that's what's happening with a lot of these men's is they able to get on the websites and Jekyll crazy with their hand with Angela they're going crazy with Angela that before you know it in the course of a year Angela and they mine they had a thousand women and so now they feeling like Don Juan Bishop magic and so now they want them some exploration now they want them some exploration and now it's other kind of stuff that they need to feed that lust demon and so that's all it is that's all it is to be honest with you and so when you sense a man is into all that right there that kinky you got to go on about your business you got to go about your business got to go on about your business thank you on a mama tish mama tish say please watch certain words on Tony's live certain words with month that and that can have him flag thank you into the light this ain't this yeah this is a this appetizer friendly network so y'all got to make sure you ain't using all the kind of words now they'd be what they be ready to knock a brother down they'll let Joe Rogan say what he want to say but me know they be ready to put that little yellow sign on me Genesis God bless I have my one and only by my three months he decided when given choice to remain a single dad when I come around I see he tries not to look at me in my face or when I do things like bend over and when the convos come up no response thoughts Genesis you know you gonna have to focus on yourself Genesis because the thing about it is you got to focus on yourself can't can't work cuz now listen what you just said you just said when you go to been over so here you will be in over to pick something up and he here you will you looking back at him here you will try to been over to pick something up and you got your boot all in the Al and you looking back to see if he look him you down there looking through your legs you bent over looking through your legs trying to see if he look him so he see that he know you so he so he looking at you by the head on the floor trying to look through a look through a lead like she bought a snapper ball in a football game to see if I'm looking so now he so now he gonna ignore you because a man who done slept with you a man who you had his child he know you like his shoe size he know you inside now so if he know you thirsty if he know you begging for attention he's going to use that the play on you because he know that's gonna keep you stuck he know that's gonna keep you trapped that's gonna keep you in a place to where you can't move on so if he know that he got your mind and he got you stuck then he know he can move on and do him he could move on and do him while you sit now trying to been over by the throw your bike out trying to get catch him looking trying to see if he gonna look and so he say okay as long as she doing that I'm good I can do me how soon should I wait for a guy to call just got my number two days ago only texting called once by accident so he said talk for about three minutes but that's it Makisha Makisha that right there is a taking man that's a taking man unfortunately that's taking man or fortunately that's taking man so you got to understand that you know one thing I want y'all understand about men is that a man know what he won't and a man go for what he won't so if a man get your number and he not calling you he just texting you he's in a relationship and so and I want you to understand that none of this none of this is rocket science none of it is rocket science so if it walk like a duck quack like a duck it's a duck like don't don't see son walking like a duck quacking like a duck looking like a duck and be like I wonder if that's a bald eagle that kind of you know what they say bald eagle do that sometimes and that's kind of what y'all be doing today is y'all be looking at a clear sign a clear red flag and be like well maybe that is pink cuz you know sometimes I might be colorblind and so you will take and make something that is not and take what it is and ignore it and so and then to you have to ask yourself you got to say okay sometimes you got to put a shoe on the other foot and you got to say okay if I was in the driver's seat somebody gave me their number and I'm really and I really like this person I think this person look good I think this person look like who I saw in my mind that I could be with would I only just text this person or what I call this person and so when you when you flip it and you put yourself in the driver's seat then it make it easier for you to understand like okay yeah this person trying to play me they're trying to play me trying to get me to drive the Charlotte the same day he got my number and he live in my same city he was there for business so he said SMH should I block him now yeah y'all are blocking cuz he could have seen you in the city that's another sign he in a relationship come on now y'all got yeah yeah but see the thing is this is I understand y'all be one you a man so you try to give them the benefit of doubt which I get it but you got to pay attention to the size now why am I getting by my ass because I don't want to be in here he full of it like he wants to be with me but he wasted my time but leave me alone you already know the answer to that and I seen a lady and I'm gonna tell you I seen a lady I was on the popular page on Instagram and you know how you click on one post and then you just could scroll the post so I scroll the post to get just a whole gambit of what's going on and now that I'm saying this you're gonna see the video I seen a lady she got on like a green dress and she doing like a little seductive little wine little wine look like what you know the little snake doing the cartoon when he's trying to seduce you remember that cartoon it could have been from Aladdin or something and she just stuck there doing a little thing right here she got on a green dress and it's like a tick top and it say them aren't you the woman who allow her man to have other women and then it say me yes that's me and then it say also me but you have to understand his girlfriend slash wife is also my girlfriend slash wife and then there was like on a page that says something like Polly tips or something like that and the lady literally looked it the lady literally looked demon possessed like the lady literally looked like a seducing Jezebel spirit like in her eyes in the way she was doing the little dance but what I jungle book snake I'm from there too but what I seen was like when I looked out of what I could see is somebody who was violated at a young age somebody who was taking advantage of somebody who was mistreated in every sense of the word and then grew into an adult woman and no longer has her identity no longer has like her soul has been ripped out her mind has been turned over to a reprobate mind like I could see all of that in her eyes and it's heartbreaking to see and the same thing have to be with the man too because people who healthy and whole don't want no multi-relationship because we live with ourselves so we see it we smell ourselves on a bad day like we smell ourselves on a bad day like women have different things that happen for everyday women what is monestat monestat similar chat what is monestat what is monestat for you see what I'm saying what what is the honeypot for the the summer's Eve what is this stuff for it's for a body that go through stuff it's for a body that if you with your man and he he eat him some dry rub Louisiana dry world wings from wing stop from Rick Roth wing stop and then he come to you kissing on your neck and tell him I he wanna some peach cobbler he get that Louisiana dry rub down now you might wake up a little spicy the next day this is a normal thing this could happen so now you wake up spicy the next day so imagine your man going to this woman who you not spicy let's say you mild let's say you mild right now everything pH going good pH is good Phil Henderson and you good but your man he go over here to her and she a little spicy he get that on his mouth and now he come home to you people don't typically wash their lips no typical wash your lips so now he bring in her bacteria home to you so it's like we have to think about this and then just like these men who watching these nasty movies and they go from Caitlyn Johnson watching Caitlyn Johnson to watching Caitlyn Jenner just like those men do that the same thing happen in these relationships so now this man this man he going and he being with Caitlyn Jenner so now he down there getting him a mouthful of Caitlyn Jenner or getting him a bike in full or getting his you know he got the fudge stick so now he taking the fudge stick and he taking the fudge stick out and then he coming and letting you get you a taste of fudge come on now see this the thing is this this what these this what the polyamorous don't want to think about this what they're not thinking about oh well well that's not true Tony Gaskin it's because when we I'm in a polyamorous but I make him shower so does he come home me shut no you can't wash off all that everything can't be washed off some of the stuff is inside of him some of the stuff is inside of him so now you don't know what your little nasty man that got pumped into him and this brewing in his body now when you go to choking on kids now why are you choking on kids that's in you now now your throat burning now you were out here esophagus where in the world what's going on what my eyes are watering so now you are out here esophagus burning that's because the third leg that you just got done thinking you taking care of just came out of another man behind and that's why see and see this the thing and people don't think people on you they mine it's like we all have a mind that can write a fiction book your mind could write a fiction book how you think these TV shows exist from the human mind so you got to be able to think if you in a polyamorous you think that man just over there in that other relationship just missionary no no it's a whole lot of Sodom and Gomorrah going on over there and then he coming home and he's bringing that fudge stick and now you over there sucking on you a fudge sickle and then if you say well I don't do that but now you getting the fudge put in you so now think about this how do they tell you as a woman how do they teach you to wipe they tell you listen don't bring none from the bike though to the front though because you're gonna have a itch so what you think gonna happen when your man is over there even if he with another woman even if it ain't no man you got him cheating and you allow him with this other woman so now he with this other woman and he getting that fudge on him now he coming out her bike though and now he coming to go in your front though so he got her bike though in your front though and you hollering by polyamorous you hollering by open relationship you hollering you hollering by you see what I'm saying and so this what you have to realize we got to think about this and we got to understand that this stuff ain't innocent this stuff ain't innocent that folks nasty folks nasty and that a man who want multiple partners is nasty and that if that nastiness is not contain that nastiness gonna get out of control so now you got to think about if this man want him other women he gonna end up with a woman who got the part of a man and once he in there we don't know what's going on once he get it now we don't know what's going on and then he come from that woman who got them the man part and then coming back home and they all sitting there happy making tick talks about your polyamory but then the next thing you know you got all kind of complications and then then you get pregnant go to the doctor the doctor say well they ask you all these questions on that on that sheet so you put in there to do in a polyamory the doctor say unfortunately I hate to bring this to you but because of the strand of bacteria that was in you your child have one eye I hate to tell you your child one eye the other side it'll be closed but it won't be an eye in it and so now you like whoa what you say what doctor that's because your man was out there collecting bacteria like a scientist he just out there collecting petri dishes or bacteria and then we hauling about open relationships and swinging and polyamory and not thinking about the bacteria and everything that's getting passed around not thinking about the spiritual transmitted diseases we ain't thinking about that we ain't thinking about the harsh that's in there that we not thinking about how people struggling mentally and that the person you with the type of the type of people who the type of people that they got to be with that'll be cool with that you're not thinking about what those people have gone through he ain't thinking about that so this man who want to have multiple women gonna end up being with a man who looked like a woman and gonna end up doing some things and then bringing that home and then gonna end up dealing with some spirits that will take lives physically because they losing the battle spiritually we ain't thinking about that and we calling common sense old school we calling common sense you know outdated common sense ain't gonna know where common sense ain't outdated wisdom ain't outdated so listen you got to get in a situation of where you monogamous you with one person and y'all in love and y'all together and when y'all can't be together y'all okay being by yourself it just like I'm sitting in this hotel room I'm gonna be by myself in this hotel room I'm not finna be calling Tranquician uphill I'm gonna be in this hotel room by myself so I'm sitting I'm like okay the game on my team the one this other team this other game I really too worried about that I'm bored let me go to work let me serve my purpose you see I'm saying you get what this man that he ain't living right he calling Tranquician to his room on his business trip Tranquician hello oh I'm sorry I'm sorry I didn't know that was you he got Tranquician coming over and then from right to that right to you and see this the thing you got to think about this the thing you got to think about that we're not thinking about and we in this world where you got whole groups and organizations that's trying to normalize foolishness they trying to normalize it trying to make it look like oh ain't nothing wrong with dad ain't nothing wrong let people live they like let people do what they want to do no no no we ain't doing all that we need to be traditional we need to be relational we need to use common sense and we have to you know we got the we got to figure that out and you got to get to a place to where you could start to say okay what really make sense do this really make sense to be in a open bacteria relationship because some enough bacteria just between the two of us based on what's being ate you know just eating habits just different things it's it's enough going on so you got to think about that and so when you really get to that point then you start to realize you know what this this don't make sense what the world trying to push this stuff the world trying to push don't make sense that we need to have a traditional monogamous healthy faithful honest relationship and if we can't do that then we need to be single because all this stuff is just really to get your soul it's to get your mind it's to make you lose your mind that's all it is that's all it is it's to make you lose your mind and so you got to understand hey let me see I'm gonna do 13 more minutes when I go to do any lives I get but do get draining strong again God bless you is it too much to want to be physically attracted to a man but not allowing that to be the only reason and for him to have a plan for his life no it's not too much to want to be physically attracted but even with physical attraction you got to look at it so you got to look at it like okay can this be worked on like some man just need a teeth cleaning need a good teeth cleaning some man need a good shave some man need to get the hair sprayed on on the hairline you know some men may just need to lose some weight so you got a can this be worked on and and if it can then you got to understand that now if it can't be worked on and he is handsome inside of the Lord he has him in the side of his mom then it's another woman that's attracted to his natural aesthetics and you have and in that case go about your business but you will see that right away and having a plan none of us have a plan the thing is is he taking steps I start 10 businesses a week and then stop the 10 businesses the next week nobody really have a plan everybody feeling in the dark everybody just putting one foot in front of the other don't nobody really have a real plan we think we got a plan but it's tough life don't work like that it don't go the way we so don't so don't you know get caught up in a man showing you a 12-page business plan and having his next 10 years planned out to a tee is he ambitious is he making moves is he taking steps is he trying to do something you know focus on that and I remember me the lady she married she was 280 pounds when she met her husband when I met her she was like 130 pounds and then she went to doing fitness competitions at around between 120 and 130 pounds but she came from 280 pounds so the man was a personal trainer and he was into working out so he didn't see her for where she was he saw her for where she could be and then when she got that weight off of her she looked totally different and so that's what you have to understand when you when you looking at people some people just need to learn how to dress strong again God bless you now they were born yeah you know what's the best way to start a business when you don't know what your gifts are I have a course on Tony gas of the Academy called entrepreneurship with purpose that was my attempt at that trying to help people with that but it's a little too hard to just address you know right here because a lot of questions that got to be asked to get there you said take a point off when rating on appearance for things society says isn't attractive if I'm dark skin with afro hair does that mean I have to rate myself automatically lower in date ugly men well the thing is what you have to understand is if you you can't call yourself ugly and you can't call a man ugly so if you and then you got to say well where does society say dark skin is unattractive and if society says dark skin is unattractive then you have to understand is are there people who think dark skin is attractive and the answer is yes and it's I've met a lot of black guys who they will not talk to a non-black woman to say their life and they want a black woman so you can't just get caught up in the media but what I'm saying by that is to be humble meaning we have to realize that we all have flaws so you see like this this wrinkle in my forehead it go right across the middle of my forehead now right now I got my hairline sprayed on so if I have if I watch this hairline I it's gonna be real light up there it's gonna be real thin so I can't go into and see I got bags under my eyes so I can't go into the world saying man whoo I'm good looking born the best looking thing since slight bread well whoo this wrinkle look good woody bags look good woody light hairline look good that's what I mean is we have to be realistic and we got to be humble and we can't take and put ourselves on this high pedestal but at the same time that don't mean to feel like you ugly that don't mean to call yourself ugly so what it what I mean is is just how you have flaws or you have things that may not be perfect the person you meet will have things that are not perfect and so if you got something which dark skin is perfect that's a preference so that don't fit in the same thing and afro that's a preference but they had the hair is perfect now see the thing is it's if your nose sit like this here now it's like okay that's a unique nose because most noses going to when I was growing up these call that nose drodamas and that you could smell what's cooking next Wednesday now most noses might sit by right here and here and here and here so now if your nose sit out here you got this you have to be realistic and say okay I do have a really heavy draft of wind coming in and I do understand that this that my nose is unique because I'm smelling a lot and so I have to understand that I can't just walk around with my nose sitting out here and just feel like every just it's it's a normal across the board and so sometimes you're going to see men and they forehead see my hairline probably supposed to be right there but you'll see me and like Stephen a Smith Stephen a Smith hairline is right there so he got from here to here that's all forehead so he can't walk around and just be like man it forehead amazing what look good he have to be realistic and have to be able to say okay the forehead is 567 okay so with this seven head I cannot okay with a seven head I cannot judge this woman for her edges being a little pushback that's what that mean so it's so it's some people who have things that are an acquired taste but then they want to judge other people based on perfection so that's what I mean so you have to realize that so it just like if you dark skin he might be light skin light skin in society a light skin man might be seen as stereotype that's soft stereotype does you know Metro this or that so if you dark skin then you can't judge him for being light skin if you got an afro he may have a bald head so you can't judge his bald head if you got an afro or if you got you know a tight ponytail or if you got you know split ends your hair coming to your butt but you got split ends six inches of it dead so you can't judge that's that's what that means so you know we can't what it what it says is don't be so sensitive you know don't don't be you got to be lighthearted with yourself and when you're going out here and you date you got to be realistic you know we can't come out here and feel like a 10 and then call everybody else a 5 he has everything together except the body part how to get past that beer belly just not appealing to me I like him though can't worry about that Sharon can't worry about that when you when you have a list you got to take the numbers off gotta take height off gotta take weight off and this go for male and female gotta take height off gotta take weight off gotta take income off and you got to judge the person by who they are at their heart first so it's like this right here if he got a beer belly all he needs a little more water and he just need a little he might need a keto challenge two weeks get that right there gone that body go to eat nothing on that he might need a little vegan go vegan for a little bit you get some amazing vegan recipes next thing you know he eating that vegan like it's soul food which really it is soul food but he eating like it fried chicken and collard greens like what I had today and next thing you know that's something falling off so that's what I mean you can't you can't judge off stuff like that because the same thing is a woman could have you know a little stomach on a lot of stomach on but guess what that's way way could come off so she amazing person with a beautiful spirit and she a great person in that man could look and see like wow she's been overlooked and she's been unloved just because of the things that have happened to her in her life and the way things have turned out a smart man he gonna take and he gonna he gonna see beyond that and even in my marriage people look at my wife and they said oh she beautiful she beautiful and my wife feels beautiful but at the same time she still it was it still was stuff we had to overlook I'm fine 10 she five eight so she won a six foot two six foot four man really you know and I could have been like oh a booty not big enough her stomach not flat enough you know her hair not this enough or her skin not dark enough you know I could have looked and been judgmental over stuff that really don't matter but she looked past the stuff that didn't really matter and I look past the stuff that didn't really matter and then we got together and we hit it all so that's what we got to understand and so and this and this asking a lot you know it's asking a lot because we live in a superficial society and I know women always say well oh men not being asked it is men not being and men are being asked of that it's just who you listening to you know and you got to understand that what if he ain't even interested in being a God man who thinks he doesn't need that to get with me that is a major criteria I'm guessing you saying godly man or good man you can't compromise on that that's a that's a standard faith that's a standard so you can't compromise on that what's your thoughts on plastic surgery for women that want to glow up I'm getting my eyebrows microbladed soon but I wanted to know what's going too far and we'll be seen as unattractive well hope for one you got to realize when you go dealing with that plastic surgery you could lay down and might not get back up so that's what that's first and foremost what you got to realize and so you got to really understand where your budget at because that's how Kanye West lost his mama plastic surgery God rest her soul I lost my cousin I had a cousin who she was outside of the beauty constructs of America and based on what America says is beautiful it started to weigh her down she went to Columbia or somewhere like that got on the table and didn't get up so I say that to say I tell people if doctor if the dentist and the gym or Jesus can't fix it I pretty much leave the way it is I leave the way it is I would leave it the way it is because be honest with you when we see people who get plastic surgery 10 out of 10 of them we say they looked better before the plastic surgery 10 out of 10 of we we never really see anybody get plastic surgery and think the post plastic surgery looked better all the reality Tracey and Jackson been following me on here for a while she's in the doctor gym not doctor gym doctor GYM not doctor J I am a hundred percent so listen don't let the world beat up on you don't let the world tell you less damn so you could get you know micro blade that's not surgery you know that's your micro blade plastic surgery though that's a whole another ball game coach green you're right there's a lot of the women and and it's some men out there get plastic surgery too and they come cuz ain't nobody can't nobody could design you like God so somebody could have a cleft palate and still be attractive that cuz I thought it was born now if they got that fix because it was costing a life for what have you okay that's understandable you know I remember on Keisha Cole with the with the gaps in our teeth Keisha Cole with the gaps in our teeth smile was cuter than the perfect straight teeth that's why TD J's and Michael Stray hand keeping a gap because that's how God made a gum set so they gum just in how no tooth right there in the middle the tooth come out on the side and and got it right down if they go to get that teeth fixed they have a full smile but it just a look weird it'll be like oh yo your gun one made to have a number right there so you know you just have them and then when we see the celebrities go get old teeth put in their gums nine out of ten oh look like them chicklets that we used to eat them chicklets that used to have little white chicklets nine out ten on look like they just got a box of chicklets and yet your party your part them chicklets on top of their teeth just let the teeth right through the checkmate and and they but they can't see they sell so they just be out and you be like man you know Mr. Ed like you know you know what Mr. Ed like what you went in there hey yeah you see Mr. Ed's the horse Mr. Ed smile that's what I want and so that's the thing when I start seeing all I needed to see is I just need to see that because I had crooked teeth but you know what I did I went and got braces now you see a teeth I went and got braces as a grown man 32 and a half years old I got braces and I had braces for about three years as a grown man and at one point the braces split my teeth apart so I had a field goal down here on the bottom for those y'all in Tony Gaston's Academy I shot some courses with that field goal down there on the bottom that I need to reshoot but I went through it I went through it because I say I'm not finna go in there and let them people put somebody else teeth in my mouth something didn't happen to me they can't even identify me because I ain't got my teeth in they ain't got my own teeth don't fit my bone structure so just the thing I ain't knocking nobody who went cuz something if you watching this and you got veneers yours look good yours look good if you watching this and you got veneers yours look amazing but for everybody else they keep they keep somebody else teeth keep your own teeth love yourself we got to get to the place where we love our self we love ourselves it's some stuff you could go and get that's natural you know stuff that's already in your body like some type of certain filler is your body already produced that stuff so that's why it dissolves that's why now some people go get the wrong kind and they have allergic reaction okay now they know okay that ain't that ain't for you all right just get you you know just get you some cream you know do you something else to take care your crows feet if that that filler or Botox give you a reaction it's not for you the way the Lord made you it's gonna it's gonna work out for you so we got to love ourselves and that's that's one of the things I used to blog for the Huffington Post and I tried and I tried to write a blog trying to encourage women not to let the world put so much pressure on y'all to where y'all going and just maligning your body because of what the world saying and the Huff Post wouldn't publish it because it's you know your body your right so they didn't want a man encouraging women to love themselves and not let the world put so much pressure on you and and I you know I get it and I don't get it you know I get it and I don't get it so at the end of the day if that's what you want to do go get a surgery that's your choice and I totally get it you know women I know and love have had surgeries because they body was one way had kids the body was no longer that way so at the end of the day it's your choice but you just got to be able to live with it because I know women who went and got them an augmentation and because that's an augmentation the body don't receive it it capsulize crystallize in there some hard form and now they got to go get slit open again to have it taken out and have it replaced or have it taken out so now instead of just one set of scarring they got two set of scar or three set of scar or four set of scar because they'll go get a augmentation and one arm sitting up here and one arm sitting down there and they lay down on the on the beach chill and they keep switching places and they trying to get a selfie and one arm off keep driving over to the side and one on keep coming up here and they keep trying to get it in there but the little silicon that's in there it keep moving around I remember I was shooting the documentary and one of the ladies we interviewed was talking about her budding plans and we was really curious we've like so now can you kind of show us what you're talking about and she stood up and she grabbed the booty cheat and she was able to flip and toss the little thing around in there and so the booty went to kind of break dancing and she was able to flip the thing around and just flip it around and it was inside her booty and she said it cost her 10,000 and I said man and so we seen celebrities who got money go and get that put in there and and you see them walking and one cheek down here one cheek down here one cheek up here and this million now one one cheek down here one cheek up here and then the cheeks go to smiling so not a cheek does not a cheek smiling they just spread out and just walk around just air just air just in not cuz it's it's object a foreign object put it now so the woman sit down too long the foreign object go to move the woman stand up booties out here and just all is just a gap just out and so you have to think about that and cuz you got to realize the dog that you going to is not is not God and some some of these doctors is like Dr. Delf you seen Dr. Delf on Netflix or American greed I think it's on American greed the man for nest his way through doctor school and just went to doing back surgery on people doing back surgery on his close friends and was paralyzing his friends there's a lot of doctors out there like that that was handsome or that was pretty and they was able to sleep with the professor and get through get through school and they got the don't bit more know what they doing than the man on the moon and that's why we see so many celebrities got to go get second third or if I just read about a celebrity they say she don't went to three doctors she don't went to three doctors trying to get them to fix her botched BBL or whatever it was and she said the doctors told her they can't do it cuz they don't want that on their hand the doctor don't want that on a record the doctor like listen man look you're not coming in and down my table you better you better keep that flat booty and I'm gonna tell you you know when I met my wife being super official when she walked away she had she really had no hump on the bank but what happened after she had our first son she lost a lot of weight worked out lost a lot of weight but she joined this weightlifting this weightlifting team and when she joined that weightlifting team for those y'all in any y'all who see this who know about competing the fitness competitions it was a team out there they might still be out there called bombshell and it cost $99 a month and they send you a meal plan and they send you a workout plan with bombshell workout plan was a bunch of stairmaster a bunch of squats a bunch of lunges a bunch of stairmaster so my wife went from a flat booty to lifted glutes to lifted glutes gay her booty just from the gym Dr. G Y M and then when she put on weight it filled out them lifted glutes so then it was a booty so I say Lord I thank you now she wasn't happy about the weight you know from the second child but I was telling the Lord thank you I said Lord you knew you heard my prayers and you knew my needs and so we happened to bump into this lady who had this this competing team and she started doing a thousand squats a day now about the equivalent of a thousand squats a day and next thing you know baby never to came and that thing changed my life I remember my sister asking me sure you got a butt job sure he got her uh sure he got her butt done I said no she did not and because it was happening so much so many women getting a booty done I kind of started to change my stance on it I was like well maybe it's all right maybe it's all right I was starting to change my stance on it and I was like baby what you think about that think about the booty job he was doing I'm just curious I ain't I'm ain't saying get one I'm just want to know what you think about it and she said absolutely not she said you got to sit on that so I'm not getting nothing put in my booty I have to sit on that all day she's like that stuff be done spread through your body stuff just all kind of stuff could go wrong you sitting on that all day and she was a med student so I said okay yeah you got a point you got a point and it was around that time the lady the man who was like a lady will start putting fixer flat start putting fixer flat in the women booty and women started dying from that fixer flat and now this I think it was a man but dressed like a lady she had fixer flat in her too but her body could handle it so it just had you know looked different look look different but lived but some people lost a life from that fixer flat and it was really from social media just making people feel insecure about their body and so it just we have to think about that and that and my thing is to the ladies like love yourself love yourself go to the doctor if you want some braces go to the gym if you want to lose weight get some cocoa or the cocoa butter cocoa stick rub that on your stomach you know if you need the lightning cream because it got really really dark from having a child and it and it's like this that's the healing you know get you some little stuff just to get it even with the rest of your skin tone like do the natural stuff that you could do before you trust man playing God on your body because that's dangerous and you just do not want to be the one who lay down and don't get up and it's happening thousands of women a day but they're not gonna put that on the news cuz they don't really care cuz a lot of the women that's going in there is minority a lot of the women going in there minority because minority women have been made to feel unattractive and really downright ugly have been made to feel ugly and that's all it's producing money though because of these surgeons making millions they paying millions in taxes to the government so if insecure insecurity sales that's how people say ex sales people say at sales se sales insecurity sale insecurity sale so the world gonna make you feel unattractive so that you go get all of this stuff and it just driving up the economy it just running up the economy because the people you buy from they got to pay so if this are billions billions of dollars being spent from people in security that mean billions of tax dollars being paid and so you got to think about that and and sometimes you got to realize everybody is an acquired taste everybody got their own unique look you know for me I'm a grown man right now but if you see how big my head is so yeah in my face a woman could have said oh Tony you know you don't look bad oh you look cute but when I turn my head I have a long head when I was seven years old I went to play city league football and they had roles they had like 12 rows of helmets and helmets go all the way around then people had me try on every helmet in now not us I was seven years old not a single not a single helmet fit my head I was seven years old then people look at my dad and say sir we don't have a helmet that fit your son we're gonna have to special order a helmet out of Texas we live in Florida so it's like you everybody gonna have something y'all got to forgive and y'all got to give me got good lighting here everybody gonna have something and so this the thing is we got to be able to laugh at our cell so that people had to order me a helmet from Texas and here go to him he'll go to him come from Texas and and then when I got the helmet because I got a hook on my head the helmet one fit right so all of my chin was out cuz the face mask stopped right here face map was coming here but the hook had the helmet back down so then I had the I had to helmet up so I could see if I put it down right here to where everybody else's was then the whole back of this is I so I said Lord and then I had a cousin my first cousin because mad a car I said what what hey man don't look over here without putting on the turn signal maybe I put a turn signal on for you look left or right with the head a car what boy you don't have dreams you have movies a car if you look at the ground you gonna fall over and just every time I seen him he just gone and see this the thing you we got to get to the place where we could laugh at ourselves we live in the world to where women hating a stomach I got a family member she hate us stomach she hate us stomach cuz she don't have kids and I say listen don't know man care about that stomach yeah but sometimes it looked like hamburger meat I said keep a shirt just keep your shirt on when you about to sleep with the man he ain't got had a shirt on he kept what's between them lead yeah but I want to be able to go to the beach okay well go to the beach yeah but I don't like my stomach looking all dark like this and rank a look I say listen they got all kind of creams you just got to apply that cream three times a day you're gonna be slippery like a slipping slide but they got creams that are taking get you back to your natural color that are taking start the you know lighting up them scratch marks and you know but I say you got that you gave birth that natural that natural beauty you gave birth you can't know but I want to tell me to I say listen your face don't do good with pimples so if your face can barely handle a pimple hide your body gonna handle a surgery and then where your money at you can't afford the Kardashians dark down Beverly Hills you got to go over there to Bogota you go there to Bogota people don't care about you you know fluent now with COVID so they think you know late on their table you coming to get 20,000 work for $3,000 man finna put you under with the gun mm-hmm yeah I think I'm a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little Florida Florida mm-hmm yeah mm-hmm whoa I said a man don't care about you so now you go over there the Bogota and wake up dead why because you want to go to the beach I say listen Lord and bless you with thighs and booty where your cute t-shirt that stopped right at your bikini line and not just accentuate what the Lord again if you that shame or your scratch marks and the discoloration but don't let these people send you to an old doctor don't let these people send you to get on nobody table come on now we got to love ourself and listen I live with a woman my wife going on 15 years of marriage so I see the struggle I see the struggle and I had to stand beside my wife through tough times of just dealing with you know body image but what I start to do is what I start to do is every season on my wife body I just start to lusts and I'd be like whoa whoa I'll just be less and less and less and I had to work against the world I had to just praise her body praise her body to where she stopped worrying and thinking about what the world say about a woman body and you got to love yourself because guess what somebody love it somebody love it so if you love it somebody gonna love it and we got to get to that place so listen I really don't want to be on here no four five hour live you don't want to be able to call my wife what not I don't know what time it is right now and I can't stay in the hotel that the outlet be so listen you got to start to love yourself and when you love yourself you love yourself across the board love yourself across the board love your your mind love your body love your process love everything you growing through everything you going through and and love means look yourself in the mirror and say this what I need to work on here go to personality things I need to work on here go to mindset things I need to work on here's the habits I need to work on that's what self love is and then self love is setting standards for your life set standards for your life so that you say listen I ain't gonna let nobody treat me like this ain't gonna let nobody treat me like this ain't gonna let nobody treat me like this and when you set those standards now you start to get that and then when you start to do this so I look and say okay I don't love you know my stomach but that's what I could go do something about that now they got M sculpt which I heard about that wrap around your waist and it like a thousand abs it just squeeze squeeze squeeze but you be them passed out you that they be the gay your heart attack that's how Bruce Lee died from one of the machines that just was just like a it was like doing a thousand push-ups in a minute exploded his heart you get on that M sculpt be them died be them when a car to rack arrest cardiac arrest trying to you know look a certain way for somebody else and so you got to understand that and so so what I say I say I'm finna walk I'm a walk air day do my little running I'm a they say they say when you work your legs you burn more calories so I'm gonna do me I'm gonna do me some squats I'm gonna do me some squats so yeah okay I'm burn more calories and so you have to do what you can do and get to that place and love yourself and you're gonna see the change happen so a this say a hundred and twenty minutes I think that's two hours so feel like we done we done did enough I appreciate you being on here thank you to the moderators we did moderators you know we had an open chat tonight so y'all see how they you know they just gonna be deleting y'all stuff just to be deleting it they do it when we doing a Q&A had an open chat tonight so they let y'all you know do y'all thing so appreciate the moderators and um tomorrow I don't know if I go on live tomorrow night I got speaking engagement tomorrow don't know what time be back to the hotel so I may or may not be on here I think I'm gonna try to get over to Instagram now do my Instagram Q&A and see this right here just what a faithful man do when he you know in the hotel room so listen to me you get you one of them polyamory men get you one of the men want two three women when he go on the road you don't know who he got in there Tranquisha right in there and this and that's your man and he'd be right in there with Tranquisha getting his back blowed out and coming back to you so listen stop listening to society start listening to your heart and what you know you want and need and deserve hey the tonic gas and God blessing will talk soon