 So I'm here to say it is beautiful that you give love to another human being, but it starts by giving love to yourself. It starts by putting the oxygen mask on yourself first. And if you're not doing that, if you're giving to other people, I get that you have a lot of blessings, you're depleting yourself. And I suspect you're giving to your, you could be enabling people as well. And when you're enabling people, you're not giving them an opportunity to grow within themselves. And this says, this is why many of us have fallen for love bombing and future faking, because it seems to be the opposite of all this.