 Yusaha kwa hizi ya nga kusafu hisha petiau na gavu yung mweza yung mwa mwa uniging lady kwa nga bilsini yong mwaan yung mwa tuhusi k Wahana ya nga k Hyper-Wiut mwa nga kusafu sade heticu ni kua haqa We will discusi kwa genu nga genu nga yung mwa Ah, okay. Now you will say your names and contacts, people may follow you in social media. Msi wa sumbu e sana, atisiju eni, atisiju eni. Msi sumbu e wa tu by the way, I'll give you advice for free. So, you tell us about yourself starting with you, Glory. Okay, good morning guys. My name is Glory Kairi. I am an advocate trainee at the moment at the Kenya School of Law. Generally, I just love learning things on the internet. So, as long as I can learn anything, then I definitely will take my chance and my time to invest in it. Your social media handles, if you don't mind. You can find me as Glory Mwende on literally every platform. Oh, Glory Mwende? Yes. Wujama kazili zama doido za suji, that lady, butilisiya, sveera. No, no. My mind is not that, if I may say creative. Because lawyers are strict or something? No, it never really even had to do with my career. Your career, yes. It was just something, you know, looking forward into the future. Would I really like to have that name on my social media platform? So, I just decided to go with my usual names. Okay. If somebody is telling me from the audience, those who are watching, that you introduce yourself again, you tell them your names again. My name is Glory Kairi, and I am an advocate trainee at the Kenya School of Law. Oh, nice. Glory Kairi. Welcome to it for you. Thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure to be here. Karibu wakili. Thank you. Next, we have Liz. By the name, I'm called Lisa Koth. I just did my nursing. And on social media, I'm not a good fan of that, but I go by the name, Lisa Koth, L-I-E-T-Z, to be precise, not L-I-Z. So, that are my social media handles. You know one thing with you, both of you today, is that you're so real. Really, even with your names and... I don't know if I'm going to make up. I don't know anything about it. But I'm just going to make up too naturally beautiful. I don't know, Liz, why you didn't choose to be fake because we are talking about genuine things. Yeah, we are talking about love. We need to show ourselves. Love has to be the real part of us. Yes. Oh, I like it. Welcome, Liz. So, today as we talk about genuine love, can you start with you, Liz? Tell us what you think genuine love is. To me, as I said, my genuine love is about action. You can't tell somebody, I love you, yet the action speaks by svasa. So, for me, genuine love is what you do. What does your action speak about the genuine love? That will be my definition of genuine love. Okay, because you've defined it so well, so, Gloria will tell us what you think fake love is. Because I think the genuine love it's opposite is fake love. So, what do you think fake love is? So, for me, I would say that fake love is a love that just keeps on taking and never gives. Yes. So, because of that, if you ever see signs of that, then you can be sure that that is definitely fake love. Oh, how long can you take you to identify a fake love from a genuine one? There are some people who are very good at hiding. So, you won't know their intentions from the very beginning, but it will definitely show itself like there are things that you can't hide for long. Yes. So, I believe fake love will know it when you see it with them. Must it take so long to know fake love is? Because this now it seems like girls are gullible. Like you can be cheated for maybe three months, somebody gets what's your answer and move away. So, why can't you just spot it on the same day you meet your first day to somewhere, which a man in fake? I think I can spot fake love but the first time, it doesn't have to talk to me decades for me to identify fake love. So, uto onam to help somebody talks. Bili mtua nongia speaks a lot about who you are. Bili mtua meji presents, speaks a lot of what somebody is. Aki onge uta jwa the intention, no mtua kona intentions, gani. So, from there, in fact, this is fake. This person is just after something. So, it's not a real love. So, baya, love doubt identify, some things have happened. Like maybe you can have a ball, hey, already. Anafu na wujama kwa na nipenda ukweli. Can't we know, I think let's take this with glory. Can't you know ma pema enough before you delve in other things that people with real love do? Can't you identify it with ma pema? Anafu na wujama ma pema if you can. I think you can, kujwa kama you'll walk away or you'll stick around. But in this generation, people are so good at hiding. They are very, they are fake love, so to speak. So, it's still a bit hard for people to detect. So, you might, you might not. So, it depends on the circumstances and the person you're meeting. I was telling about some basics of real love and the one which was coming on top was respect. You can know when one is not respecting you and when it's respecting you. Like, the things that if somebody tells you or does to you, you just rightly know that this person doesn't respect you because love comes with respect. Kama mtu aku respect, a kupendi, see for you. Mtu a kufanya nini, uta jua aku respect. It doesn't respect you, Liz. Aki kwa mbiya nini, a maki kufanya nini uta jua. It doesn't respect me. Talking about respect, respect to tawana because the way somebody talks to you will tell you more about this person. So, the more you can know if kama kuna respect, ata kwa like throwing words and it's not sorry. Na jelatu anongia, baya na I don't care anongia mba, but it doesn't care. So, I think apu uta aku jubu kwa like this person had done me wrong but he's not even willing to say I'm sorry. So, apu na pacha, there's no respect kama mtu sa. Una, aki kwa na fanya tuki tu ama kwa mbiya. Na he's not sorry about it. Aku tu, misa, mtu bilimtu anongia like bata tikuna tu bilimtu anongia zaa kwa na ume kwe tuku sama sorry so kuna bilimtu anongia zaa tu aku wana wana ya wei sorry. Kama kujangi na chicken home fanya kitu alafu iyo siku akumia bebi ni mekuna tia. Use kumcha kumeks conclusions. Una na fanya wana kama kumcha radifenda. Uju intensiyu zaa kwa uta kumga like amen baya kuku. Uruju last da, kuna kitu anongia So, we have to make conclusions. We have to make the decision. We have to make the decision. We have to make the decision. We have to make the decision. By the way, do you feel like he is sorry? But I will say, do you mean you are apologizing with this? No, I say, he can speak out. I will say, I am sorry baby. Yes, you can say sorry. Yes. But I will say sorry. Kuna somebody from Busea called Dan, kusema suriata onakama heyam, akuna umama or something. But surely, see that is the whole point. If you love someone, you'd be willing to do anything to keep them around and to let them know that. I want you to, I want us to do this together, singe up. Including umama. So, how is it umama apologizing for me? I am sorry. Ay, kusema too, I am sorry. But what do you have about respect? For me, I would say respect is in the daily actions of the daily actions in the relationship. Even in the friendship, because it's not just about a romantic, it's also about platonic love. So, you have to, of course, it's the daily actions that you take in terms of expressing how you love the person. If you make a mistake, own up to it, say ma pole. And then, misiku ele pole, you just want to move past it, you actually have to live through the story. It's not just about saying the words and then you live it at that, you have to act like it. So, if you make a mistake, own up to it and change. How many stories can you take? How many stories can you take? As many as possible, as long as you own up to the mistake and you actually change for the better, haina shida. If you make a mistake, own up to it, you actually change for the better, I say ma sorry. If you make a mistake, own up to it, you actually change for the better, I say ma sorry. The next day, I will say romantic, I say ma sorry. How many? How many? As many as possible. If you are willing to change, but then now, you see up over this very clear sequence that you are not willing to change. You see, so apo, there's only so much a human being can take and they'll definitely up and leave. So apos is a long womb to a kihenda. Luis, the second point was about patience and rudeness. Don't ask what you're rude kuako. You know what somebody rude kandu. It can slap you, it can insult you, it can insult your parents, it can insult everybody just before you. You can decide to be silent and all that. This shows that this person doesn't really love you. How much love do you have? People are different, but I think when it comes to love, it's all about communication. Atusha kwa nawewe kwa nyumba we don't communicate, atuna say ma it's your nature. I'm there's your companion, I'm there to talk to you, I'm there to listen to you. So kiniyamaza mi tano nesha another part of you, when I say people have to picture, kuna kwa nga na photocopi na original copy, kuna nyana tembe na photocopi zao, na kuna nyau original copy. So for me, I'll say like, ukiwa kwa nyumba, if you've chosen me as your friend, you have to talk to me, you have to make me your friend, kiniyamaza I'll take that as being rude, because you have to speak it out. What is the problem, kiniyamaza I'll take it in another way. Ya but now sasa kama rudu na stuya kukuwa metu nimud kuwa ko, metu wa kugong elis, hee gosia konyorom zuri ya metu wa, anguketuna slap ee. Nandjwa sasa shidae no madem, unaona nazima u gongo en diya upendwe. Ma iko presenter faith told me where she comes from, uki gongo en diuna pendwe atu, spa gongo en yashia upendwe and all that. I don't know if that still happens in this generation, ya in kugongo and yo, umegongo kiyom dogo, umegongo kiki gongo, tenu kujo gongo in a relationship, come on, it doesn't happen that way. Umu nimegongo kutusha siga kujo ni gongo. Sake, if you come alisa sasa una, you are raising a finger on me, being disrespectful, sound by that. If you come alone ni gongo, ya tatoe ishe, sila zima. Enough, I know where you come from. And somebody tells me, an audience, that in now it will be gana una gongo en na mimi. Kama una gongo na kiyama service. Ya ni romantic, kama una gongo na bunda lamanoti. Ya ni romantic. You touch your hand and say, kaya kiyama na. Glory, iku gongo. Ikuna madem una sema ati ni normal too, ati ni normal kugongo, ati ni normal. Where you as a lawyer, I will talk loss now here. Talk loss here, talk justice now here. Well, it's not just about that, because you know the law is all about realising whatever should happen in society. Whatever the law is, should also happen in the society ideally. Okay, the society should drive the law and the law should move the society. But in terms of such, that is violence, domestic violence. You are physical, you are psychological, you are verbal. So psychological is more manipulation. Yes. And it combines a lot with verbal abuse. Yes. So if you ever detect that kind of abuse in any way, it is better for you to run and don't look back. Run for your life. Run for your life. Ya, because anything can happen. Ya, and unfortunately what most people do not know, this is not in the law, but unfortunately what most people do not know is they keep the trauma and they carry the trauma with them and it permeates into so many aspects of their lives. So naji kuta, the verbal abuse you suffered a couple of years ago still affects the way you are living your life 10 years later. And unfortunately so many people don't realise like a lot of our people, a lot of Kenyans out here are walking around with so much trauma na hawa jui and in whichever relationship they are getting into, it always shows, it definitely manifests and it goes to hell. And so instead now not only are you hurt, but you've hurt your partner and your partner has hurt you and it's a never ending cycle. It's there, it's like permanently there. Ya, and if you work through it, you know for healing it's a long life journey. So till you breathe your last, you're always healing. So the best thing for people to learn is deal with your trauma and then now once you, because of course you can't like say, let me deal with my trauma, then go get friends and have romantic relationships and whatever. But even as you're in those relationships, be they friendships or romantic, then you can definitely work things through. Recognise where your triggers are and where your trauma lies and then now from there, you can definitely move ahead with your life and love people the way they are supposed to be loved. I wish all girls were thinking like you do, but unfortunately majority of you, I don't know maybe yet I'll work with you. It's true, it does happen. Of course, I don't know if it's because I'm not the one to deal with it. Especially when it's a man from where I come from, after I told it to you. Ya, if you don't see the rudeness in me. Ya, it's true actually. Just to give a little experience of where I work, I was in air clinic and the woman just a lady, I lived there and I was actually a male. A male? Yes, a male. And a male? A male, you can see the part of the teeth kwa maskiyo even. So the doctor kwa na moliza, the person who deals with the air clinic kaka moliza, what happened? And I was like, umzewa kwa mainu uma. So when I went to the hospital, uma kwa na chukwe maskiyo, like, umkwa na skia, I don't know what only has happened, but the lady na tibiyo, but still goes back to the home. I mean uma maskiyo, the following that, aku jama uma placing, ini who knows where. But I think people are just different. Siju ni kusama ama, ini itwa, they say ladies love too much, but tata kama yoni la bachai kai, kus ina fika extendu na uma maskiyo, what will happen next to you? On our social media handles, we have posted a question and we need your reaction to it. Because I want you to be part of this conversation, not only glory and list. So in our social media platform, especially on Facebook, kukuna iswali, tumebuleza, ni ini, umtu wa kikufa niya, utajua ana kupenda chia ukuelo. I love our social media people. Ukuelo, ukuelo niya. So ni ini umtu wa kikufa niya, utajua ana kupenda chia ukuelo. So what you do, go to Facebook, just using your account, then search white five four. We are the only white five four in the world. So kifika apu, utawana yukushu na apu, kus komenda apu. At the end of it all, kujapa na faith kusama everything, kusama everything in yuma. And because your moment of fame is glaring, just some minutes away, about 20 or 15 minutes away, you'll have the moment of fame. Back to you girls. Somebody was talking about competition. Like umpe nana na umtu, but muna compete, nani ana gada more wealth, nani ame suma kuliko kwingina. And somebody was saying that is fake love, that if you really genuinely love somebody, then you have to be supporting each other, not competing each other. You are tech, we start with you glory. Okay, so what I would say about that is, and if that is the case in whichever relationship, that is unfortunate. If you're competing, you know it seems like, kweni, are you billionaires competing on the Forbes list to know who exactly will be the richest in the world if that is the case in the relationship then? I think that is more of a competition than it is of a relationship. So because you're supposed to essentially compliment each other, not supplement so to speak. So if you of course support each other, if the other person is better than you at something, accept it, you won't always be the best at something in the world, you know. So accept it, learn to work with it, and whoever is being supported should also learn to be humble. Don't get so egotistical and be like, I'm better at this than you, I provide this, I do this, I do that. And then of course that will make the other person feel like they are invaluable and invisible. So because of that then, the relationship might tumble and crash and all of that. So best thing to really think through things and then after that then, I'm pretty sure the relationship will see through. This is not a case where somebody, married somebody and immediately ordered her to stop going to job. Achana na yo job eh, kwa penda kuleisha, because kwa kumesama kuna pesa uta nida raw, ama wengina na sayma, you drop out of school. Chana na yo masama, it won't help you, I'm here for you. And that, I think the real motive of this guy is that truly lazima kwa ichini, we are in tea. Tell me what you think about this. Kwa fosando sigiti uta sayma disrespect, come on, your parents have struggled with you, wama yu kufundisha mba kukafika, alafumwa na home anakwa mbiati, ukwe housewe, who does that. So according to me, tumenta kama, tumesema tuna fokusapotiana, I like tumesema marriage. We know when it comes to marriage, something different from a relationship. Kwa zapa you now have a home, you have to build this home pamaoja. So when you tell me, tumadresu kumemi na imbe aukesama, I want me to be a house help. I say we can maintain, I am going to get a home. And take the money from Tenganesa to get a salon. Come on, you'll get it for sure. And if you ask what we will do, can we get a house help, I say this idea, not to ask for her money, she'll show up. Kutaka say, it's a boy, you come into the houseup. No, I will not buy the idea, I say I want this house help. And I say, Basi lefi ya kwa zezwa kwa ngevno nwa ngao ngao mbe So according to you, you think if somebody does that to you, then it's not in your life Ya, it's not fair. Kono sasa we need girl child So that's why I do Do you take baby girl? On that, what I would say is this, if a man, ok, what I usually believe in life if for you to stand, someone else has to kneel then that is definitely a very huge red flag So if you have to be very careful with whatever it is you are expecting of the lady So even as women we'll still suffer in the workplace when we become mothers so of course our jobs might backtrack and all of that because you have other responsibilities not just your job now, you have a home to take care of but then requiring someone to completely withdraw from something they love and are passion I don't think you have to ask someone to sacrifice that you feel if a missa is secure in yourself then for me that is a huge It's a no for you I wish we had all the time to discuss that but we have a lot to discuss so let us move on insensitivity to feelings if a man is insensitive he will say that he is a man he is a man he is a man he is a man he is a man he is a man the person who is not sensitive to your feelings let's start with you if someone is insensitive no now this is a relationship there is two of us of course we won't agree on everything you will hurt me I most likely will hurt you but now if you are not sensitive to whatever it is I am telling you then how to takehip a more judge so if you are insensitive to my feelings then watcha to ikai because we will always be fighting and quarreling and it's a very toxic environment to be in so watcha to ikai but you need to identify this early enough I don't know what you can do to know this guy is not sensitive to my feelings and as Glory says it's a red flag to fake love you need to identify with your feelings if you are insensitive to my feelings then watcha to ikai in the initial time of relationship but if you are insensitive to your feelings then watcha to ikai then watcha to ikai so so if you are insensitive to your feelings then watcha to ikai so if you don't want to eat something just say it and you'll be able to identify but sometimes it will be a little difficult if you are insensitive to your feelings then watcha to ikai but it won't happen but watcha to ikai because I don't know why and like come on that is not Felix here they laugh kat Seal as ku hipoindubufu kwa kuhuya kwa kamam mamuaku ku spoilers aku spoiler kwa kupaka plaisir- ocho kwa kwa kwa kwa sa metha kwa maumlak on Live kwa kwa kva kwa kenin pemukikid九 kwa kwa k Seg ni perupw racist b просто memu peeled kwa namu piga conduct kwa k gå lining Но maença kwa kwa sagu kusoo nikiye. So nikiye. Wei para wajie yuki kwa wajie kwa yuki arebukun matu nagdiamun ka na pisea ni maani. Namunik beach ni ayudan na kwa wajia. Okay let's go on how he relates to your people. To your mother, to your sisters and all that. Him too. Na kwa maestaki kuona wa to ya kuja pah. Ma ni nini wu na wunge hana mama. tomorrow we will see kwa for 30 minutes and all that. Somebody saying that is real love. You should love your people too. What do you think? One thing, I'll say blood is thicker than water. Yes. We are not even related to you. Mi nimi okupata uku, mi nipata uku. Alafuna ni kataza, my parents, wunye tukona odama moja hivi. Hei aji. Rajuwa weni mita gahi, aumjuwa. Nya takunak tiyote nawekapa moja. But the born you have with your parents, nikitwingine so strong. You've grown up knowing your parents. You've grown up, hours aswa miku natcha. Uyuki jana miku patakama yuwa, who you are, your time. So sana kustoprum, people who have nurtured you. By the way, the people who cut you off from, even your friends who found you with them. So from the day, staki wono kitambe na kina burial. Aoni was chana wabaya. Unadani tuni wiyo burial na yuwa randesuwa na chacha kidogo. Then it complains about your long phone calls to your sister and all that. So na kukat away from other people. So you come by in a manisha, jilas with those people, na kupenda sana adi yataki wengine watyu kuatenshunya kwa something. For me, if I see such a sign, you just know the person is a narcissist. Okay, let me not say narcissist. It's displaying narcissistic behaviors. And so they are just trying to close you in a box where they can control you and manipulate you and have you all to themselves. I don't know if I can reference a movie I watched like Surviving R. Kelly. For some of the ladies there you'd listen. He would literally seclude them from everyone they know, from their families too. Once if you don't have family support, if you don't have friends, your friends around, things can go down very quickly. So because of that, maintain your interactions with the people you love. If they can't agree, if Watashindo Akiklash, is busy all around each other, you don't have to be friends and complete in love with each other. Just find a balance. If kama niku salimiana salimiana nitu and then you go your different ways. Yeah, if they won't agree, if the families won't agree, that is your husband or your boyfriend and as well as your family and your friends, just agree on an amicable way to live and then from there it's okay. And speaking of family, he doesn't want you to know his people. Yeah, he doesn't want to know what he has been through when he was in Nairobi and he has no intro. He doesn't want to know what he has been through. He doesn't want to know and he won't be introduced anywhere. That is wrong because it's not the way we talk. I must understand your value systems. I must understand the ecosystem you grew up in. How you are nurtured, the nature around you. Because if I don't know that I can only see what you show me so far but I can learn more from the people that you surrounded yourself with. How they say show me your friends and I'll show you your future it's the same thing even when it comes to family. So let me let me get to know everyone around you. It's everyone. Okay, as many people as possible but everyone it's impossible for me to know everyone. Even if you want to know because I'm a boy I'll say hi. I want to know what you are doing. I want to know why you are in this house but you are not knowing if you are a boy you are not protecting yourself. I am not protecting anybody because I am a girl I'm not in that house kwaivo, arasi onika tutafika keshu, liba kwa taka keshu atufiki kwauz already there is a leverage flag actually mtu wakiku kwa mbiya, ak wintroduz tu, nobody yun kumanisha ni kama om e fichu wa onaskia yunga, you are married at night, tum chana wu juli kani yun kama mtu wakiku fichu somebody truly loves you, will introduce you to his friends, his family so that in case atakitu yun kufa nikia, niza kumuniketu zambodi second kumuniketu zambodi I can communicate with the other person the person I know about you but to kini fichu it will be like akuna wu neneza uksa idea nafiltu nimi me fichu wa when I come home again it's not drunk as it is to zenefichu e kwa chiniyama kimi yadarati kwa wadu atafil and it's not good kumanisha kuna mtu unu juwa I tend to believe when you are hit then kuna mtu anaku advertised ama kuna mtu anau nyeshu mtu aki nifichu nafil kuna mtu mingine basi anau nyeshu nivella bdwa unafichu wana fichu wana status and all that wekubana nenelewa kuna balance ya you want something to be a secret and you want something to be private you can definitely fight if someone is keeping you as a secret then that is definitely a problem but if the person just wants to be private it's understandable some people don't even go advertising their whole relationship to their friends there are some people who we have no idea who their boyfriends are but we do know they are in relationship so if you want to keep it private that's okay that is definitely understandable u nasata kwa kipiwa private personally that's my preference and much rather it be private rather than don't keep me as a secret for then it's too silly let it just be between the both of us I think a lot of people are very excited when a famous actress Isari out of the blue when she took her to Instagram and posted her she was like hi ya you want dating actually so you see she kept it private but it wasn't really a secret so it's about it means there is a difference between privacy and secret even a lot of celebrities in Kenya right now they keep their families secret not secret, sorry private they keep their children, their wives you definitely know they are married whether they are wearing a ring or not but it's important for you to learn that it's not really a secret but I think that's good because if somebody maybe something happens to you something negative it's upon you it don't hit back up to your relatives you hear the story of Samido are they still married or you don't know the local celebrities oh yes I do know him there is a lot of love between him and the wives maybe she kept this lady in privacy we were having a backlash but that is story for another day kunaawa very small disagreement very small he just said you are not going to miss you have to go back to your roots come on to your roots come on come on come on you have two loves you can do it go to your own God knows God knows we'll give you another one the love is not genuine Yes, but if someone keeps dangling here, I think it's a matter of time, it's not a matter of if it's when it's going to happen, so you see now that's the other problem, that's the issue. If you see someone doing your partner doing something you don't like, of course the best thing is to say, okay so you have done this, I feel this way, explain it, don't just because otherwise you'll be taking time bomb. Takuwa just a matter of time, we lean it, takuja and then we, something happens and then out of the blue the relationship is over, you see and it will leave a lot of heart behind, so the best thing is if it's an insecurity or a fear, communicate it and then we learn how to work through it, you see. Yeah, couples therapy is there, marriage therapy I think, yeah all of those things, just go for therapy and get all these things addressed because it's trauma, just trauma underneath that's trying to come to the surface. Listen, asakuja in another package, kutu story vizuri, come on yo na pendana, alafuana let us tell ya, if it tooke hachana, utanda kwa mbe watu, let's say to you. Hachana kwa hachana. You are not fighting, this story too alafuana, so yo ina toke atu, if it tooke hachana, when I said it, my best friend tooke hachana, kujetu evu, heu piya dirad flang? According to heu, akinuliza evu, kwa na taka kuni hachana, mene zamuliza, untaka kuni hachana and maybe if the friend is better, why not? No, no, no, no, no no. Okay, laaki yo una jo, haqo somebody eku lize, tooke hachana. Laba kuni ramaa ta kuku hachaaaa, amana feel this, something you're not doing it right or it feels like I have to want to walk out. Onelewa. So eki fika palento, yo I think manga, you accept it with my imperfection.roprio eno huu mequpu ptichu ya k reachesa ptichu Poland KDavid, mitu ki nmatu. Anaza kufasa mini niye kweachana. Kumaisha there is something that is not going right. Kumi niya kuna beliwa wanda blikuna planu, kuna iya kwa niya kwen planu kwen uweachana. What is the problem? Let that take us to the argument thing. Kama in every small difference una agu. Kita kidogo tu inu ako sanisha anaza kuku agu. kwa agu, ke dogo tuj na zaa, yarnia taa, semem na temberata alafu biaxidentu gongana namu tuj Nili juwa tuj ama kuna vele, ama hoongali we na temberata hoongali niyuma para kutritivu like, your communication is not smooth na zaa ke dogo tuj miyansa ku, kuenda awful Ezi ma liza dei ekabla mugongana in communication� ya, grill pa iindustaa kwa huli z Tonga, ito daya hili ngumya Stiyo tuva maangana muna Giha, musik turning up matika senyongi compromised, kakoka m為試un niya I think it's wrong, it's you nyan, this and this is what you've done. Ukiri kasi riki ya ta mi naja kukasi rika. Pi amut afanya, tu iwananda kasi rika. So the best way, me, you guys bukai mu, hando-lua things right. Tell me this and this is what you've done and is not right. I'll tell you this and this is what I've done and it's not right. We come together to make a correct. It wouldn't repeat itself. Bili tukuli sayba ma watuki kwa kwa kusame han. Yes, this is me, I'm 200 times. Kusasu kufanu ya kusasu wa na k開心 osuigi hindi ka surreal tra� su kwa 20 dwi hivu When you deal with these, you may deploy it and it will be flakida So, it is going too far We have too good acquire A mu♥ESSI playing a dedicated havej in terms of kampion view, depression, or whatever, So, I think that is a heavy point, but let's come to things body. It is very hard to differentiate between love and infatuation. If somebody really loves you and if somebody just wants you for Lysha and all that, I don't know how you come to know, starting with you Gloria, that this person is just interested in having me, having my flesh and all that. I don't know how you know that this person genuinely loves me or this person wants me for other things. I think you'll have to look at what exactly they want to pursue when it comes to you. So, I think there's a way you can tell that this person is borderline obsessed. Yes. Or whatever it is I can offer. Yes. And then when other things come, because no human is perfect and then when my, because of course you'll meet the person and then utavutuwa na wumbama zuri. Then when the other, when now I start showing you more of me, then you start retracting. Yes. I think that is when you can definitely pinpoint that this is, this person does not love me for who I am. Yes. Just for what I can offer and what I have. Yes. And so because of that it would be best if I just... It would be you a man or a woman, that is definitely a sign and a pointer for you. Yes. In terms of knowing if the person is obsessed with you or if the person actually loves you. Elise, what do you think about that? It will take time. Ula jua wanumakona tactics. I don't know jua nasimanga wime na puff, but me saine nasimama men, because a guy will come to you, nasimana elefoto kufi. Obviously I want to tell you the bad part of me. I want to tell you that I'm good, I'll treat you nice and you'll be like, I ask ladies to know, I want to tell you the bad part of me. I want to tell you that I want to treat you poor. How many of you are here, so you don't see the intention, you don't want to know the good part. Say na kwa a bit hard for you to realize, what is this guy after? Because I want to treat you poor and you're like, I want you to give me a chance. But sometimes it's too late when you come to realize this guy was after something. Because when you want something, you go for it. If you want to be a nurse, you want to be a lawyer, you want to work hard for it. So that guy wants that lady, to do anything, men will do anything. So it's hard for you to do anything? It's hard, but I think from me as a jua, through conversation, amma temu memvisit, moves zenya na me, can you onge about something sensitive? Amma it doesn't have time for you guys to talk. Uke tu anashu gule katu ni kusihi kandili. Mind yaku onuna tu. Hey, su se metu kichu ona ata aka. So you don't know what you're doing? But when it comes, you are like, na u taju a kutu tafi like, it doesn't talk about something that is beneficial to both of you. Amma it doesn't talk. When somebody aka maku, aana, it's a fake love, first that person even doesn't talk about the future. Amma water or plants, yata kwa tunu. Ata kuleza ata zile me sing Maxa ko. No, they don't care about that actually. I don't do that to Liza. We shared the case when we were coming here. I want life beyond just the bodily thing and what. Liza, our time is fully spent. So look at this camera here. Yes. Teach your fellow girls on how, just tips in 30 seconds. Or how to identify if a man really loves her. I think look about the action. What does this guy tells you? How does this guy act when you guys are around and it will give you a clue on how this guy can treat you. If you identify a red flag, don't stay. Just quit. That is the best thing you can do. Um, hi guys. So what I would tell you to do is, please remember that love is not just a name. We have to advise legally Legal advice here Hi guys What I would tell you to do is Please remember that love is not just an emotion It's also a choice And remember it's not Love is not a fight For me I believe that love is not a fight It's something definitely worth fighting for And in order for you to learn What exactly works for you Learn to enjoy your single phase Revolve in it Before you can get into Your relationship And value both your platonic And romantic relationships But remember that if I may say this In legal terms The duty of care you give to each is different So don't neglect either of those Make sure you have a perfect balance in your life And I believe everything will work out for you In terms of love I'll do a research Why people kiss with their eyes closed I don't know I don't know because Love is blind But what I can advise Sankara Is that as you close your eyes to kiss Please open your inner eyes So that you know whether you are getting into A fake love Everything is fake in this world Including love So know when A person really loves you And this is the purpose of this show We teach you We teach you how depression is How law is bad This has been one in the morning My name is Sankara Kaisu And thank you guys for coming So here is to just say Bye