 So, you're still watching the Lydia's Pepper Show in this here town and in this here city and if you don't know, we will we will convince you. Snola badi di shamsa kwengea like it's like this and thank God it's raining. I hope it's raining. We're supposed to be raining also and I hope it continues for some more time. Our hashtag of the day is WCW or you can use why in the morning. Now we have just previously come off an interview with Rama Gukul and Sista Shub. You know Takumbo Kasi Sista Shub. It's a very interesting name. All about mental health and mental health spaces. Creating a space where it is safe to just vent apparently. Yeah, if you missed it please check it out on YouTube. So now pala sosomide tu kuna swali tu simple simple small smart. Uki sota huwone kango magani iku pehops. Azin uki sota huwone kaga. I would like to include also Kauna Scare Wo Ye, Kauna Scare Bi-associati kusota tu peke ake, but I gather kusha sota utans up skia wo ye, or they are telling me. So, the national team says ta futa kwanza ufalme wambinguni na zote uta ungezewa. You know what? We'll start to stop there and then we'll start again just as soon as my panelists have introduced themselves. Now please give them a warm welcome. Good morning. You look burrful. What have you been doing? You are glowing. It's the grace. The grace is sufficient. I like that. It's the glory. It's the glory. These are today's society of people. Okay, my name is Berlino Dedde. I'm a communication expert and a student of life. Thank you. My favorite part about introduction is always I am a student of life. There's no point to stop learning. None until we are six feet under. And Shari, what's your good name? My name is Anil. Yatsupke Moe. I'm a more complex student in the communication. Uh huh. Not Kimalize story. The last time you heard the panelist. Mule yonga na ule senje before because she was an actual actress. Have you been communicating? Imagine what do? Nipu chu na maskeo. This is where dreams come true, guys. Hashtag mind and mourning. All right. So basically social media na uleza. What kind of music people listen to when they are feeling a bit efi efi efi. However, I would really like to understand what makes you get out of bed. What gives you that kaho? But what is that? That just, okay. For example, and it's a very random, for example, we have just come off an election year that was August 9th elections. And there were a lot of things in and out of the whole process. You know, there was implications, allegations. People went to court. And there was a judgment that was made. So if, for example, you did not see the results that you hoped for, nini na kutu asbui kwa kitanda. Like, monohasul. Help me understand. Belina, are we in the same? You understand my position, my place of thinking. Now, I want to think of a story, but before I do that, help me understand. Have you ever felt a time that you have not had hope at all? Well, most of the time, there is no tandem. You can't avoid it. I'm talking about elections. It is something that I think it should be even banned in this country because it has no meaning. Yeah, you wake up early in the morning, you go to vote. Then your expectations are met. So why do you even want to vote? So I think the whole process should be banned. So that we just live, we just live. And I feel like Val should be the president. You just go, you don't vote. Yes. And if your expectations are not met, I think what keeps us going as Kenyans, now that we have to go to that election every five years, is after all, say another five years will come. Ata kama apu pata. Say another five years will come, we'll fail again. And it comes that we fail again. So failure has become part of our success. It's true. It's very true. Before I let Elliot speak, let me just read a couple of more comments from the social media we are starting with Facebook. So I have a nationalist who says, yes, tafuteni bwana kwanza, yang muga says blind Alfred Times and live. Asna orina says million dollar. Shinyabi Hilary says, nikiye kwa angomayote ya bogi geji. Firmino klemosa says forever by Mavadu. So depth says finess. Finess. But culture says yano, leta pombi. Okay. Kevin Aki says, for you naipenda sana. I see you Kelvin Munene says, make things work by Kabaka pyramid. Oh, I like Kabaka. Ali Hamza says, memories by Nasha Travis. Kilalo yajaba says, spot kwa streets ya big yasa. Matthew Sahas says, kuna zile hip-hop zaki tambo na gospel za SDA. Levine Abisas Juliani nikonja siwezi karanga. Why is your handle umbo ewe? Gosh. Get to the slope out by Wailing Souls. Here naipenda kama tisha kia siban alafka mi vastakwa. Acha minaku lombo. All right. So let me do this by leading by example. I give you a time in my life where I thought, weh? It was just very difficult, even just imagining the thought of waking up. So I lost my dad like five years ago and the way it happened was quite sudden and very violent. So imagine unongile sham to Tuesday by Thursday. Yo, for a while it took me it took me some time. In fact, this is when I was introduced to therapy for not really the first time, maybe the second or third and I had to keep it going for a while because so na kuna juna kuja kwa TV na na foku smile jamaneni and inside a lot of kwa mbe kaka kaba kaka can you see anything to smile about? It was a very, very tough time for me. Yeah, so I hope, hope, hope. Siji nili toa hope wapi but after talking about it for some time, I think, I think I found the will kwa mka and eh, atatukas tumanu kusho wu at 254FB, Y254Channel on a Twitter hashtag is why in the morning. Ali, talk to me. And it wasn't really something huge but like the previous day it was such a bad day. Let's set off the fact that I was going somewhere, I was in sandals, started raining and then slipped, fell into mud yani that day was just completely bad and then when I was going I got there like really, really late and yeah, I kind of got into trouble so like the next day waking up it was like so hard because it was like ah what if like this day was also going to be like bad like the other day yeah, so that was bad. So kwa kwa ule toa jai as in what made you feel that okay, you know what it the other day sucked it just was a bad day there's not sugar coating it ili kwa tumpa'a na nena tumeskuri meisha but here's a brand new one so what gave you that ka energy for you know at where 22? 22 22 to come late so I was like ah let me wake up kwa kwa gwa tua ulale uku Belian talked to me have you ever come across maybe someone who has a situation where they feel and then the worst part about my thoughts are like this but the worst part about not having hope is somehow your mind convinces you you're the only one who's ever experienced this you're the only one who knows exactly how you feel you're the only you're all alone it's just very ridiculous But we also know that there's nothing new under the sun. Sokunam to me piti-ii koo, feelle to me piti-ia. Say exact, but I'm a piti-ia. Nali Shii too. Talk to me. Or the way you see yourself. That's the first formation is in your mind. I'm going through these, and then something tells you that. It is only you. But if you open your mind a bit. We can't even have a number if you have gone through it. You are not even one of them. So you convince yourself that yes I'm going through this. Sometimes you are running for an interview. You think you are the best. And then somebody calls you and tells you that you know what. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. You don't. So, no, I'm going for it. Then why do we have such high rates of… in kula' foretted it. It's home side turned into suicide. People are wondering what else they have been. This is something that is happening in here, right? It's a mental health policy. So, what is happening? I'm able to talk. It is high expectations. Let's just live within our means. Whatever you cannot handle, please let that thing go. It was not meant for you. If there is a situation that is too hard for you to handle, then I think you are not supposed to do it. So let it go. In fact, In fact, I always say that whatever God cannot do in my life, let that thing remain undone. It doesn't have to be done. So I have expectations in life. I want to be like that. I want to be what? I want to be what? But do you know what power has gone through to be who she is? I preach it, sister. So once you, I want to be so and so, I want to rap like so and so, I want to sing like so and so. Who told you that God created you to be like that person? Let's just cut our expectations. Let's just live within our means. If I can only afford mboga today, let me be happy with that mboga. Let me be happy with that mboga, but let me be happy with that mboga. Yes, yes. Let me be happy with that mboga. So it is our expectation. We expect a lot. Alright. So before we get to Aliya to who is by the way, very, very ready to give her opinion on this. And I'm quite excited. Remember, we are still interact, or we want you to still interact with us on our socials. That's why. Five phone Facebook, Y254 channel on Twitter, hashtag of a day is WCW, or Y in the morning. And Rascads, chiches, na muka na magina. We, gospel manzim, mimi apu tukona, we are same. Kwewanso ni DJ Rascads, I feel you understand. I understand. Mtu tu pedi, wow. Mtu tu pedi, auda zeka, Uwana eka Maisha, ni yango. Ya ex, eh nanakama ni, ex rei, na trio meal. Ah Maisha ni yango. Okay, nishugulike na yango. Somelo Yugi says wakadinali. All right, all right. I like the diversity in what we are listening to. We have Maurice Uwe Rengai Nyonges and says wak mushanda kabras. It's looked and tuning. And we check you with Selfie Selfie and we appreciate you. Ms. Brenda, good morning. Mkona Uwabuana by Zablon Singers. And here with, ako kakani ni kana kwangana kamauslani bana. Resh Brown says ni kubad by major. Ila na wa pato fiyema ni kwa LTA, 3-year champion, Spital of Child. Eki eki jana yamaina. Sesi pangwingwi maisha ni yango. Okay, I like the take kind of charge attitude. Remember this is our Twitter page. You can still slide over there on our Facebook page. Or if you have feelings, you can also go on to our Instagram page. Talk to us, Anita. Okay, so you mentioned me into sweets and drinks. And I feel like one of the reasons is like not having someone to talk to. If you make personal and you're going through something, I'd rather have someone to talk to, someone I take charge and be like, eh man, if you can make a buyer, like family advice me, like I remember that someone at him was going through something really, really bad. Like I called one of my friends at nine crying. And then he was like, wah, I'm going to buy this and this is going on. And then after I talked to him, she like advice me about better after I take it front, really remain and I have a hope. So if you like, I know that you're going to at least find someone to talk to, although like opening up can be hard. Yeah, that's a get, but maybe we could like get someone to charge and someone will be able to judge us well or like use that against you because the people who do that is the buyer. I really like that you said crying because I think that's one of the ways to kind of release and well into your agreement. Me, me, wajata siyati kitambosana, kudamali iwi kendi menifika, I told myself I'm going to be more spontaneous and adventurous from now on. So I don't know how the universe or my good Lord translated this. So alini patia wikendingina ya ajabu. So elifika tumali mi kwa. Yes, me and my big age. But after that, we did what was supposed to be done. Belin, do you cry? Yes, I do. But yes, I do. And most of the time I do because it relieves me. When you are pressed or you're depressed, and then you want to pretend that you are so, you are tough. Jesus himself was not tough. He cried. So who are you not to cry? Nawa he wept. Ah, he wept. In fact, he actually kwa ni too much. He's not even crying. He was weeping. But one thing I think my sister is saying here that you need a friend to call. Let's get at the personal therapy because what if there's no friend? I fear that when I talk to Val or I talk to my sister here, I feel like I'm going to be busy in London. Bana. He's a shi, I don't know. So I think if you work on yourself, I think when you just work on yourself, it's better. Because what if I call Val and Val is also crying. So I join him, I join her and I cry. So we cry. And then at the end of it, there's no solution. So I think you need to work on yourself. Before you run into a friend, telling a friend you have problems, ask yourself, am I able to handle this? Because these are simple things. In some things that your friend is going to tell you, the very thing you knew. But you just closed your mind that I think it is only Valakini and Pia. Especially in relationships. No, no. Unakimbi niya Val na Val piya liya chwa jana. No, no. So ataku saidi aje. So you need to work on your own therapy. You need to. I don't really think running into a friend because nowadays to get a trusted friend. Seriously. Ah, you need disaster. You need disaster. And we can't even now start calling on family because family is even worse. So what's happening? We can't even call on family because we don't have a family. So we just need to call on family because we don't have a family. Ah, yeah. But we don't need a family because we don't have a family. It is the common example we can use. But there are other things like sicknesses and diseases. You see. There are some sicknesses that are even shameful. You know some things you don't have. You don't have a family. So I want to tell you what you know, I will tell you. So ataku mwembi aje. No, no. I want to tell you that I am a doctor. I want to tell you that I am a chemist. I want to tell you that I am a chemist. Next. And then I took one. Because he is a chemist. So if you can't tell it to a stranger how about a friend? You can't tell it to a stranger. You can't tell it to a stranger. We are laughing but it's serious. Talk to me Elid. How do you feel about it? Because it's true. Sometimes you can't tell it to a stranger. He was talking about he was about to introduce his guest for Strength of a Woman, Sista Shu. Who has a forum where people can actually go and event. But for me, at your time, me lelewa, we didn't really, we were not big on going online to talk about our personal things. Online nili kwa tuku visit. Nika, nika maju, ama ngoza Christmas. It's not something you do every day, every day. So the idea of the concept of me going somewhere online and just writing things down. Atafadali ni jende kiemunye on a somewhere on the general. But it is okay. Misise mi ni kitumbaya because clearly it is doing magic for a lot of people. But what happens if you just perhaps you have trust issues ama ta kungi aiyo kungi ni ngumu jayongelesh amtutasa kungelesh hajiwa tuku internet. Like how do you do that? I get thinking what works for you. You know like how they say one man one man gets a woman and a man gets a girl. So to me like you go online and then events of it works for you. How can it be for you? If you need to cry, cry. Do it short, short. Do all that to get it out. So I don't really trust a lot of people. It's just maybe like people who are able to like call and talk to but you know, do you? I like that. So maybe this conversation should be about giving people ideas on how to let it go. Kus hopa ezi kuja mahalu mechkili ama kasiri ko ama mechkili anxiety. Hope it needs you to first remove all those things, let them go and then hope comes. But hope also should not just be hope but you are sitting there hoping for things. No, hope is also quite active. It means now you will stand up or you wake up or do whatever is necessary to achieve the desire that you want. Sindiya, ama nongia. The science. Talk to me very well. Yes, I think what people should really learn too because it is easy to tell a friend that please let go. Forget about that. It shall be well. Life goes on. It will end up with life gone. It is not simple as it is. Yes. Muna na kwa mbiya. It shall be well. But yuki tu na kuhuma. So when it tells you it is well you should also go ahead and tell me how well. How do I approach it so that it become well because as the time we are talking it is not well. So when you are able to tell me when and how. So the first thing that I think people should do is have a meeting with yourself. Yes, am I the only one going through this? And is it something I cannot handle? And if I can handle... What are the people that I should use? Sometimes what you are looking for in maybe a friend in Kaka Menda it is within you. It is only that you have not discovered yourself. So self-discovery is the mother of all discoveries. So you really need to see, okay, this is the thing. I am so thick in class. I can't pass this exam. But why is somebody else doing it? What does she have that I don't have? The moment you start discussing yourself there is a ray of hope. It turns it is divine. God, but when you start looking at your friends, the Bible says that I take a man, maybe I don't know him anymore. You are just cast already. And things will just have to go north, south or wherever. So have a meeting with yourself. Ask yourself, okay, I am going to do this. And just like you were saying, nothing is new under the sun. There is nothing you are going through that has people never experienced. You are just maybe the unread one. You don't even have the number. People have gone through it. So if it has been done, why don't you? Yes, if it is about relationship, please cut off the expectations. The problem is over expectations. You have a woman in your life. Then you have to make a two-budget joke. If you think that your dad is lazy and you expect somebody to say, run, then what is the point? If he says, imagine that you are going to get a cold. See what I am saying? I think if it is in here, we can... If it is in here, we can do it. We can do the sort. Yes. See must to outsource. The moment you run out to... You want to sort it out somewhere. God is like... You are a disappointing God. Because everything you need is with you. Just discover it. So self-discovery is the first step. Can I handle this? And if I can, how? And how long? So when you should tell me, when you are telling me, Belin it is well, tell me how well and when. Yes. Alright, this is one of my favorite things about Belin. She is a never-ending source of wisdom. Now, self-love is very important. But even as important is also self-awareness. You've got to know what's going on shorty. And I can see my very, very able team has displayed a couple of more comments from your end, which I will read in a bit. But before we go on, now we've realized the very many things that can take hope away from you. So maybe we break it down a little bit. So I started with grief, a personal story with grief. But grief is not just losing someone. Grief can be losing a job. Grief can be dropping out of school. Grief can be losing a friendship. Grief can be a couple of things. So, niki summa, tojtarodi kwa panelists. I love when we discuss grief and maybe the steps on how to let it go or just, I don't know, grief piya inakwa na disrespectful. I don't know if you could ever let it go. But anyway, hashtag is why the morning bad culture says, Ia no leta pomba. And the question, chnoli za ni misonganiwa una skia, mani ngo manganiwa skia, when you're feeling life is a bit left, right. Kevin Akeri says, for you na ipenda sana, Kelvin Munena says, make things work by Kabaka Pyramid. Ali Hamza says, memories by Nasha Travis. Kila lo iya yaba. Nyaha, aha. I see you, smart kwa street by Big Yasa. Asnath Orina says, million dala. Shinyabi Hilary Kays says, niki e kewa ngo mayote na pungigeze. Femino klemo forever by Mavado. So deep says, finess. Ifa no e, ifa broke. Anaba business e, baby, easy lyrics. Pata me soa kinae jere hili nishi inda, it's fine. Amola, Amola says, open doors by Calligraph Jones. Young Muga says, na yubi 40. Oh, how can a poor man send such times and live? Nashun Simia says, tofu ta kwanza ufao, me I see you a minguni na zote utongisa. Young Muga says, blind outfit, times and live. Phoenix Dax Ian says, wa, wa, wa, me I do listen to someone called Dax. Una diskes ama. He's got the motivation I need, na si, niki sota tu, but about crying people think that men shouldn't cry. We will discuss that shortly. Thank you for bringing it up. We end up depressed and thinking we are weak. There's nothing weak about you. Nelson Karani says, ja no his people by Clinton Farron. Angela, oh, I see you says, courage says by Celine Dion and high, high hopes for a living. Eric Otzi, you know, busy signal, brighter days. Na muna, muna playlist, so now let me just take maybe something from Phoenix Dax. He says, about this thing man, I think people thinking man shouldn't cry. We end up depressed and thinking we are weak. What do you think? Let me start with you. How do you feel about that? No, no kumbuke, kuna moutu, na nimkubuani.