 the reason why the narcissist wants to destroy you, the reason why they want to end your existence by damaging or attacking you, the reason why they want to ruin you emotionally or spiritually, the reason why they want to defeat you, how someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. If someone treats you with disrespect, it's because they do not respect themselves. If someone treats you with contempt, it's because they feel worthless or beneath your consideration. However, someone treats you really has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and how they feel about themselves. So when the narcissist is trying to destroy you, it really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how they see themselves. They see themselves as someone who is worthless and insignificant, someone who deserves to be punished. So that is how they treat you. They are not going to treat themselves that way because they are narcissists. Narcissists only look out for themselves. They are not going to self-love unless they can get something out of it. They are only going to play the victim if they believe that it will get them supply. If they believe that it will get them attention and admiration, money or whatever else it is that they might want. Narcissists hate themselves. They see themselves as being defective. They see themselves as being more flawed than anyone else. They are deeply ashamed of what they become. They are shame-based individuals doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame. They have built these COVID-19 defense mechanisms to avoid any self-reflection. If you try to confront the narcissist and their behavior, they will only result in you being attacked or taking the blame. They have a bag of tricks that they use whenever someone tries to confront them, which usually involves denial, projection, blame-shifting, gaslighting or the double bind. But they will never acknowledge what they have done, regardless of how it has affected you because they really don't care. They don't care about how their actions have made you feel, or the effect that it has had on your life. All they care about is themselves. All they care about is what they are going through. And what they are going through is almost always based on them not getting their way or not getting what they want. They expect you to rearrange their lives to accommodate them. They expect you to help or save them. They expect you to neglect yourself and focus all of your time and attention on them, which is really an impossible expectation for anyone. But when you can't live up to their expectations, they see you as being against them. They see you as trying to make their lives difficult, trying to hurt them, which then makes them feel like they need to get revenge. Like they need to harm you in return for an injury or wrong that they believe they suffered at your hands. When someone wants to destroy you, there has to be a motive. There has to be a reason for them wanting to do that. There has to be something motivating them. And whatever these people do, it always comes back to the same thing. There is only one reason why they do anything. And it's because they believe that it will make them feel better about themselves. Narcissists hate themselves. They are constantly doing everything they can to avoid self-reflection, to escape from reality and focusing on destroying you helps them to do that. It helps them to forget about themselves. They are sadistic. They derive pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation onto you. It makes them happy for a moment. It satisfies them. Normal people feel guilt, remorse or other feelings of distress when they hurt someone. But narcissists enjoy it. They already feel like they're at the bottom of the barrel. So they spend their lives doing everything they can to put people beneath them. Everyone has experienced a situation in their life where they felt hurt or humiliated. Some people will learn from this experience and use it to empathize with others. While narcissists will take this experience and use it to hurt people, everything they do to you is something that someone once did to them. That's how they've learned it. That's how they know how it affects you. But rather than using it to help people or to prevent someone else's pain, they use it to cause pain because they're still suffering from the traumas of what people from their past did to them. They avoided self-reflection so they never healed. And that is why they spend all of their time trying to take it out on you, trying to destroy you. No matter what they do to you or anyone else, the trauma still resides within them. They still suffer with the pain and shame. They have developed this addiction of trying to make people feel the way that they do. The reason why the narcissist wants to destroy you is because at some point in their lives, they believe that someone destroyed them. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. Check out the new website, www.narcsurvivor.co.uk. If you were like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries, you can email me at coaching at narcsurvivor.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.