 Charming, extremely handsome. I joke around and tell my daughters that he blew in one ear and my brains flew out the other. So, you know, I'm 15, he's 18. He has a car, he's just like working, you know, I just thought he was the whole package. We dated for two years and I, my mother said, you have to bring home a high school diploma. I graduated in January of 1977 and we got married in May of 1977. I did not marry who I dated and I found that out quickly. The temper came out right away. The abuse started pretty early, actually six months into the relationship. I was pregnant when I got hit for the first time. Cursed at, hit at, dinner wasn't right, it got thrown at me. I can't even tell you how many times I combed, you know, mashed potatoes out of my hair, rice, you name it. I hit it for years and he one time said that he hit me below the neck and above the knee so nobody would know. And you're so scared and so embarrassed that you just do not know what to do. And then you built this person up as Mr. Perfect and then to have to swallow, you know, your pride and say, you know, I lied. He's not so perfect. That was so hard to do. When I decided that it was time to get out, I decided that I was going to see a therapist. Every time I got good with a therapist, he changed our insurance. So then I had to go through the whole process of finding another one. And then finally Kaiser came to the valley. So then he says, okay, we're going to Kaiser. So he switched to Kaiser and little did he realize he walked me directly into the people and the doctor and the organization that was going to get me out of the grave that I had dug for myself. And it was Kaiser Permanente. I cannot stress enough the importance of counseling. Anybody can take a pill, but the pill is not what does the work. It's the not soaring that garbage in your mind. When you get it out, it can't fester in you. You can't build up anger. You can't be mad. It's such a freeing process. It was as if somebody took just a ton of bricks off of my shoulders. Valentina and Carla, loves of my life. You can even see when they're walking home from school that they're even happier. They were relieved. I mean, it was just the three of us. We were like the three musketeers. We did everything together. I want to just walk outside and hug this building. That's how passionate I am about Kaiser and especially their therapy department.