 Whenever one person ends a relationship for whatever reason, the other person tends to look at themselves and ask, what did I do wrong? Why don't they see my value? And then they begin to bargain with the other person to change their mind. We feel crushed because most people look inward saying, I'm a failure. And then they crucify themselves on the cross. I mean, I'm not saying literally, but metaphorically speaking, they crucify themselves, which is why it's so painful. Not to mention the attachment we have towards another person and going from an us back to a me is uncomfortable. It feels like a hole has been ripped out of your chest. And the mistake we make is we take it personally.