 Hello, my YouTube family. Welcome to my channel. Another live video. This one speaking about how narcissists feel when you get rid of them. Because you had enough of being treated in this way. You had enough of being manipulated, of being deceived, of being abused, devalued, insulted and put down. You had enough of dealing with that with the narcissist. And you couldn't take it anymore. So now you've gotten to the point where you want to get rid of them or some of you may have gotten rid of them already. And I'm here to shed some light on how narcissists feel when you do that. While you were with the narcissist, you were their source of security and stability of emotional control and regulation. You were their source of supply. They viewed you as an extension of themselves. You regulated their emotions by them being able to have this power and control over you to where they would dictate your thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviors. You were like a puppet on a string. And they were the puppet master. But when they lose control of you, all hell breaks loose. Because then they no longer have that supply. They no longer have you as this external regulator. And they can't regulate their own emotions from within. So naturally, they're going to feel unstable. They're going to feel very insecure. Like they are out of control, unable to manage their own thoughts, feelings, actions, behaviors. Because they do think a lot. They overthink, they overanalyze the very paranoid and hypervigilant that always overthinking things. But they're not thinking too much about anything when you're there. When you're always there for them. When you are under their control. Then that relieves their anxiety. They don't have to worry too much because they can put all of that on to you and get you to worry about it. Yes, this is how they think. And when they view you as an extension of themselves. And that's how they're able to go out into public and act so calm, cool and collected. Because they know they've got you, whether you're waiting at home for them. You're sitting in the car. Or you're joining them at an occasional event. They know you're there to carry their weight. To carry their emotional baggage. So they can go out with you anywhere. And they can hold it inside for a certain amount of time. This emotional baggage, this emotional pain. Knowing that it's only a matter of time until they get you alone in the car. Or they've got you at home all alone. And then they can take it all out on you. Which helps them to manage their false image. It helps to keep that under control. To where they look good in front of other people. But then once you get rid of them and they lose you, they become very unstable. And it would otherwise reveal to everyone that they are the ones with the problem. But they managed to mask that by playing the victim. To where they then just look like this damsel in distress. People perceive them differently when they play the victim. Because then they have a reason for acting in the way that they do. And they can also use it to justify what they did to you. They play the victim to gain sympathy and attention. To garner support and build this network of flying monkeys. Which they will then use to punish you. And of course, everyone believes in them. Because they look at it like this person is a victim. Of course they're hysterical. Of course they're out of control. Because of you. Because you're the abuser. Because you've been doing these things to them. It acts as the perfect disguise. And most people never even see it coming. Unless they're experienced in seeing these types of things and witnessing these personalities. They're never going to see what is right in front of them. They're never going to know. Now the narcissist is fully aware of this. Narcissists believe that they are highly intelligent. And they already know that they're going to be able to pull the wall over people's eyes and manipulate and confuse them. And this is why they tend to begin the smear campaign very early on in the relationship. Before you even know it, they're already talking about you to people behind your back. Because they view the relationship as something temporary. They know that at some point you're going to begin to figure them out. You're going to realize that nothing you do is going to make a difference. It's not going to change their behavior in any way. And then by that point you're going to threaten to leave them. Or even to expose them. So they're already preparing for that from the very beginning. To prevent that from happening. And they may have done this many times before. Where they've pulled the wall over people's eyes. And that's how you as a victim, you just don't even understand how this could even happen. How when you get rid of them, people aren't running to you and giving you support. To you it just doesn't make any sense. Because you don't see it how they managed to gain power over people's perceptions by them playing the victim. So even though when they've lost you as a source of supply and they seem unstable, they seem out of control. They look like loose cannons. Like at any minute, any minute they could explode. But people don't even see it that way because they're playing the victim. They've already made up this narrative about you. So it's very easy for them to set this situation up and construct a false reality. It's very easy for them to do that. And then they turn everything on you and they make you look like the bad guy. Even though the entire time you may have been there for them, you may have given them everything you had. And yet they were the ones who are always dissatisfied with you, even though they did nothing for you in return. They know at some point they're going to completely drain you of everything you have. So they're already preparing for that. Because they want the situation to end in their favor, rather than you going off and exposing them and turning everyone against them. Even though most of you, you would never do that anyway. Do you not even thinking in that way as a victim of how you can get over on someone, even if it was someone who was doing all of these things to you? Do you not even thinking like that? Victims don't think that way. Victims are not going off thinking, how can I hunt this person down? How can I punish them? How can I make them pay? Victims aren't thinking like that. That's how predators think. That's exactly what the narcissist is going to try to do to you, what it's all said and done. You're not going to be the one who's doing that. You're going to be the one who, after all of the abuse for all of these years, you just want to be left alone in peace. Even if you never get revenge, even if you've lost everything, your house, your car, your business, all of your money, even then it's like you're left in a state where you just don't even care. Let it all go. As long as I can just be left alone. Let them have it. That's how it is. But unfortunately for you, most people are not going to see it that way because they don't understand the psychology of these disorders or even just of basic human behavior. So they're not going to be looking at it like that. Even though, as I've said before, the narcissist is the one who comes in with little or nothing and leaves with far more than what they came in with. And the victim comes into the relationship with practically everything and leaves with little or nothing. That's typically how it is nine times out of 10. But narcissists manage to twist this narrative by playing the victim. And they are experts at doing that. They've been manipulating people for a very long time. They know how to get people on their side. Whereas with you, you've got no skill, no experience in doing that. I'm not saying that to be me, I'm just telling you how it is. I'm sure many of you will look at yourself and you'll be like, yeah, you're right. Because we don't. And I know myself I have no skill at all in playing the victim. We just don't have that type of mentality. Our mindset is okay. This happened. They ruined my life. They destroyed everything. Got nothing left. I lost years of my life. Oh, well, it's done time to move on. Let's keep moving. But other people are observing your resilience. Your determination. And they are making these assumptions about you. They are identifying your character in a completely different way to how you actually are. Based on your resilience that is built up from your childhood throughout your entire life, all of those years with your family, your parents and all of your relationships, all of those times where you were attacked, you were abused, all of these things were done to you. And no one was there for you. No one gave you any support. So you learn just to keep it to yourself. Just get on with it. Don't even think about it. Don't confront anyone. Don't try to get revenge. They're looking at that with you as though you're hiding something. As though you're doing something wrong because you're not the one who's going to them crying about things and seeking attention and support. You're not the one who is doing that. That's what the narcissist is doing. And it's working very well for them because they've been doing that their entire lives. That's all that they've ever done. That's all that they've ever known how to do. So of course they're going to be very good at it. They are master manipulators. They know how to get people onto their side, even though they're not the real victims. So how do narcissists feel when you get rid of them? Well, they actually believe their own lies. Yes, many of them actually believe that they are victims. They believe that it's all your fault. Doesn't matter what you did for them. Doesn't matter what you didn't do all of those times that they controlled you. Doesn't matter what they did to you. Their minds are not connected to reality. It has nothing to do with what you've done or haven't done or with what they did or didn't do. It's got nothing to do with that. They create this false narrative in their minds. This is how their disorder functions, so that they can survive, so that they can get their needs met. It has very little to do with you or anything that you've done or haven't done. It's got nothing to do with that at all. And they live in this delusion. They believe their own lies. This is how they can abuse you for all of these years. And it's like when you finally react and you do one thing wrong, they can just forget about all of that and just focus on you. Yes. That's the disorder. That's the mental illness. And I've seen it myself so many times. What I've been attacked provoked repeatedly. And then when I finally snap, I finally react. They could just forget about all of that and then just pull out their phone and record my reaction as though I'm some crazy person. And they can do this to us when we could be the most disciplined person in the world. You see how they twist it around, how they spin these narratives. They are masters of manipulation. They've been doing this for a very long time. And a lot of them actually believe their own lies. They believe the lies that they're telling themselves. They've been gaslighting themselves their entire lives. And you've been gaslit your entire life as well by people in your childhood environment, relationships, your family. You've been led to believe that it's you. And you focus on trivial things. You're not looking at the grand scheme of things how you naturally are. You're looking at how you've reacted to repeated acts of abuse. And then you're identifying with that as your character. And then they're projecting that onto you. Which is why some of you, you don't even know who you are. It's like you've lost yourself. Some of you, you come on here and you question if you're the narcissist. Sometimes you've got to stop and look back at everything that was done to you. And how you reacted to that? Were you compensated for all of the things that were done to you? Was the narcissist? They got their alleged justice for whatever was meant to have been done to them. What about you? Again, that's how you know that you are the victim. Because of most situations, that's typically how it goes. The victim never gets compensated for what was done to them. In the real world, no one ever really cares. It doesn't matter because you're not the one who is shouting and screaming for attention. Narcissists are. So of course everyone notices them. Of course everyone thinks that they're the real victims. When you get rid of them, despite all of the great things you may have done for them and all of the abuse that you received in return, they're still arrogant and entitled. They're playing the victim. They're thinking that you need to pay. You need to be punished. You need to be taught a lesson for thinking that you can do that to them, for thinking that you can get rid of them. In their minds, it's like, how dare you? Are you crazy? Who do you think you are? And then they're ready to show you why you just made a big mistake by messing with them. Now they're really going to take you down and teach you a lesson. Because now they feel wronged. I understand. Many of you listening to this right now, you may feel sick to your stomach. After everything you've been through, all of the emotional abuse, psychological torture, physical violence, maybe they lie to you this entire time, stole from you, cheated on you, played you, messed with your mind, controlled you, isolated you, just completely ruined your life. And now you're watching this video. And I'm telling you, they're thinking you're crazy. You're bad. You're this evil psychopath for leaving them. After you gave your life away, you lost everything, and they did all of these things to you. You may feel sick to your stomach right now. To hear that, yes, they think you're the crazy one. They think you're nuts. They think you've lost your mind. It's like, who do you think you are by getting rid of them? Because in their minds, they think they should be getting rid of you. They think you need to be taught a lesson. They think they're very kind and empathic to even being that patient with you, being with you all of that time. Even though they may have been living for free in your home and you were taking care of them for all of those years, they don't see it that way. Narcissists are highly delusional. They do not see it that way. They're never going to see it that way. It doesn't matter if you're six feet in the grounds. Doesn't matter what they do to you. They are never going to see it that way. They're never going to feel that way. They're never going to feel like, okay, yes, I did all of these hurtful things to this person. I treated them bad. I fucked them up. I mean, I completely changed the type of person that they are. I completely changed the course of their life just by getting involved with them. I distorted the entire reality that they were living in and the minds of everyone around them. And all the while I was leaching off them, their time, their life, their youth, their energy, their money, their resources. Yes, I was doing that for all of those years. And I never owned up to it. I never took accountability for it. So now it's time for me to stand up and be a man and do what I should have done all of those years ago. It's time for me to compensate for that. It's time for me to show you just how sorry I am. Time for me to make it right. Time for me to make amends. No narcissist is ever going to think that way. You're never going to get that type of response from a narcissist and that is how you know exactly what you are dealing with because a normal person, I mean, just consider you in this situation, everything you've been through, everything you gave, everything you received, or the abuse, gas lit into submission to the point where you're phoning and it's like you would do anything to get them to see sense, to get them to understand. It doesn't matter. It does not matter at all. You can do whatever you want. You can give everything you have. You can give your life. They're still going to be looking at it like how dare you. You need to be punished. You need to be taught a lesson. And why do they think this way? Why are they in such denial? Well, even when you're phoning and you're taking accountability for things that you haven't even done, you're trying to stand up and make things right when you never made things wrong to begin with. Even when you're doing that, it's like you're threatening their sense of denial. You're turning their focus inwards. And they don't want to do that because deep down they know that they are the problem. And that's why you're never going to get any compassion from them. They're never going to try to understand that only ever going to be outward focused. On this external false reality. Because yes, we are living in a false reality where this is happening all around the world. Just in the US alone, there are over 140 million victims of narcissistic abuse. So yes, it's a false reality because there's no truth. There's no justice. And this is just how it is when you're dealing with a full blown narcissist who has MPD or even someone with high narcissistic traits. This is how it's going to be because this is the result, the effect of being involved to the person who has these traits. This is just how it's going to be with them, which is why, as we always say, you are wasting your time trying to expose them, trying to get them to see sense. You've got better luck talking to a brick wall. You really have. As I said before, doesn't matter all of the things you've done for them. It does not matter. I don't care if you deposited a billion dollars in their bank account. If you bought them mansions around the world, super cars, super yachts, private jets. They did nothing for you. They were a bum and they've had a job their entire lives. Doesn't matter. Nothing in the physical reality makes any difference because they are not connected to that. Everything is just an object. We are objects. They are objects in their minds. The entire universe is an extension of their minds. That means they own everything. Everything in this universe belongs to the narcissist. So anything you do or give to them, that was already theirs. That was theirs to begin with. You already owed that to them. They were already entitled to it. So you haven't done anything. They'll tell you that at the end. It doesn't matter what you've done. They'll say you've done nothing and they will say that and you can look into the rise and you'll see it. They mean it. They really mean it. That is literally how they see it and they're never going to see it another way because that is just how the disorder functions. It's not going to function any other way. You're never going to get them to see sense. You're never going to get them to understand. You're never going to wake them up. They're never going to see the light. They're going to remain that way until the day they die and nothing you say or do is going to change that. They will forever remain asleep, paralyzed, mentally, mentally paralyzed. It's like a mental paralysis where they are imprisoned within a certain limited network of neural pathways. It's nearly impossible for them to create new pathways. They just now be able to do that because that requires introspection, self-reflection. Something that they're not willing to do. So much easier just to blame you to find a scapegoat. So yes, they will always be that way and there is nothing you can say or do to get them to see sense. Nothing. Nothing you can do. They are never going to change, as I've said many times before. And yes, I know there are self-aware narcissists. I don't deny that. I've done an interview with one myself, but they are extremely rare. There's actually no documented cases of a narcissist being cured or making a recovery, even when it may seem like a narcissist is self-aware. Who's to say that that isn't just more manipulation? Because remember, this tends to happen when they're in a crisis. What might happen if they got back on their feet? They might become more grandiose. They might just return to the way they were before. Because yes, they will go into this deflated state in order to get their needs met if they need to. Even these self-aware narcissists on YouTube, maybe they're just doing it for attention. Maybe that's their narcissistic supply. Who knows if any narcissist in this world can actually change? So yes, just to make you aware of that and this is how they feel when you get rid of them. If you found this video helpful, hit that thumbs up button down below. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section. Hit subscribe, click all notifications to be notified when I upload a new video. 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