 Diculously tired of the dating process. Well, I can totally relate to that because as a guy, I feel that way because let's get real for a moment. The dating process is a mess right now. It's just an absolute mess. We are in historic times on so many different levels at least here in the United States from a political, social level and more importantly at a level of connecting with another human being. And that's because these days we're meeting total strangers. And we're meeting total strangers in many cases we're lacking the confidence to actually lean into something deeper. And sadly, these devices now have literally bastardized the process of getting to know someone because swipe dating has created this false sense of connection with another human being. And because of all the swiping, swiping, swiping it's made humans incredibly less confident than ever before. And there's this, as I said, false sense of opportunities out there that didn't exist before. So I mentioned a moment ago about confidence and certainly confidence is what causes this not to be needy or chase someone in a relationship. I'm gonna repeat that confidence it was causes us to not feel needy or chase someone in the dating process. And yet these days were almost set up whether man or woman to lack confidence for a variety of different reasons. And it's interesting because earlier today I was flipping on YouTube videos and I came across a video hosted by a gentleman who had a room of about a hundred men in the room. These were all men who came to a workshop seminar because they lacked confidence in meeting women and they lacked confidence and even talking to women. Now I know many of you are saying, well, I wouldn't want those guys anyway. And yet I'm here just because I know you all you ladies want those confident men because all you women are so superiorly confident, which is a crock of shit quite frankly because the vast majority of humans are suffering from a I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable. I'm not likable. And what I found fascinating in this presentation which I'm gonna relate to in this story here or relate to the content today is like I said there was about a hundred men in the room and they put two men up on a hot seat literally putting them in crisis emotional crisis situations to have to be vulnerable to every man in the room. And these guys were absolutely terrified and scared. They weren't being, there weren't guns being pointed out them. There wasn't, well, there was the emotional gun of vulnerability, authenticity and transparency being pointed at these men. And through an exercise, I loved what the coach did because through this exercise he helped these two guys on the stage become a bit more vulnerable, authentic and transparent because this coach is teaching authentic confidence. But it made me think of how many people, men and women alike lack that confidence inside them, lack that confidence to walk up to a person and just say hello from an authentic place and not the mask we live in. In fact, that's what this coach did was to tear down the masks. So many men live in and well, if he was doing a woman's workshop, he'd do the same thing. So I thought to myself, and these were men tall, skinny, short, fat, the variety of different type of men in this room, like I said, there was about a hundred. And I was thinking to myself, what if there was a woman's workshop right next door where they were teaching women to take down the mask and actually lean into their authentic self? And then eventually when these, they went through this workshop, they all commingled with each other to connect with one another from that authentic, heart-centered place. Could you imagine what that would be like? Could you imagine the connections that could be made when we take down the mask, when we take down the fear, we take down the bravado and just actually show up as our authentic self. And so one of the challenges women face in dating today, which causes them to actually become needy because that's what we're really talking about when you're chasing for someone's attention, is you become a bit needy. So I want to read something to you all, but before I do, if this content is resonating with you right now, please hit that like button so I can be seen in the YouTube algorithms. If it's resonating with you, please hit the subscribe button, hit the bell. And lastly, really quickly, I might drop an F-bomb or two, so that isn't your cup of tea. I suggest logging off right now. And just one last thing, I'm a contrarian, so my advice goes contrary to public opinion and tradition. So I want to read something to you, I wrote, before I prepared for this. And I says, you might never intend to act needy, and yet the simple fact is, from a woman's perspective, it's biological in a woman's nature because on some level, on some level, women have been dependent upon men for survival, for thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years, and while it might not be the case today, it's almost bred into the mating process that women, on some level, naturally expect commitment from men, naturally expect men to be the leaders of the dating process because it's been bred into each one of us. Men tend to be the provider protectors and women tend to be the nurturers. And yet what's not contemplated in that narrative is our biological and our instinctive narrative, is our social and mental health. Is our social upbringing. Is our childhood wounds and traumas. Is our adult traumas. Is our social economic, just to name a few things that actually mixes into this cocktail of what we appear, that what we, excuse me, not what we appear, what we consider is attraction. And while it's very attractive to men to lead the process, by virtue of doing that, you're setting yourself up on some level for failure because it's basically giving your power away to men. And it's no wonder when it's lopsided the power, if men are the retaining the power, the women are having to chase to get onto the same level as a guy. So can you wonder why we are in a dysfunctional dating realm because of literally biology and instinct? And I said, while it might be incredibly attractive to have the man lead the dating process, these days, I'm literally repeating myself, these days it's practically giving your power away by doing so because men hold more of the cards in the past than ever before. And I wanna lean into this because this is really gonna help you understand how to shift this narrative. I said, this is why women repeatedly, why you repeatedly see women chase men for their attention, which is a turnoff because to us men it feels needy and nobody likes to be with a needy person. You don't like to be with needy men and we don't like to be with needy women except for users and takers and players and love bombers. They love needy women because they immediately get their sexual needs met from those women and those guys disappear, disappear, disappear. You see, it used to be women, a woman would require a man to commit before sex, basically marriage. That's the way it used to be. Now the barrier to sex is ridiculously low and a man's desire to commit or take care of someone is less and less needed and therein lies the rub. While I'm not here to say that, I'm not here to say when to have sex, it does make a difference. So in the past, women used to be the gatekeepers of sex and men are still, as always, the gatekeepers of commitment. And it used to be if a man wanted to have sex, he had to make a commitment. He had to go first. He had to make the commitment. He had to marry you. That's the way it used to be up until about 50, 60 years ago and then birth control changed everything. Birth control changed everything. Now women, because in the past, if you had sex with a woman out of wedlock and you made a baby, you were practically obligated to marry that person. That's what was known as shotgun weddings, shotgun weddings. And now you can have sex without any consequences. So the barrier to sex dropped to almost nothing. Most ladies, a guy could love bomb you, throw in a couple of flattering words, say he wants a relationship. You two engage in a little bit of dating. You have sex together. And then you're wondering, why is he saying to me I'm not ready for a relationship? Because he had to make no effort in the process of actually getting to know you as a person. He just wanted to get to know you to get laid in many cases. Now this isn't always the case because when I think of this room of a hundred men, I just shared with you, these seem like genuine men who want to be in a relationship. And while I typically say most men are good guys, they're just bad daters. But what's more importantly as we age for those of us in midlife, the real challenge is as we age, our childhood wounds and traumas begin to surface, begin to surface, which makes us rather dysfunctional in relationship. If you're not familiar with my emotional maturities relationship skills chart, I'm going to show it to you right now. The vast, a 20% of the population has clinical issues. In other words, diagnosed issues, most likely that makes it difficult for them to, I'm not saying it's impossible, it makes it difficult for them to lean into a healthy, happy relationship. And while I say over here, 20% are healthy, I'm being ridiculously generous when I say 20%. The vast majority of human beings are dysfunctional in their relationship skills. And this is true for you ladies just as much as men. This is why I continually recommend the book, the Hoffman process, the Hoffman process to do a deep dive into healing childhood wounds and traumas and adult traumas that makes it diff, that oftentimes causes the need to chase someone else. Men and women are needy, oftentimes have negative patterns and limiting beliefs that cause them to need love to feel good about themselves. This is why I wrote my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway? By the way, there's a link below to Jonathan recommends books. This is a journey of personal development, self-help and spiritual work because what's happening today is many people are suckling on the nipple of I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. I need you to love me so I can feel good about myself. And hence why this chasing happens. So you're literally bred instinctually and biologically to chase men because of dependency. And then our emotional traumas chase people because oftentimes the number one emotional health issue is I'm not good enough, I'm not lovable and I'm not likable. So what's gonna change this for everybody? What's gonna be the antidote? What's the recipe for all of this? Well, I'm here to say it's gonna require a minimum of a hundred hours of face to face time in the early stage of dating just to build the first layer of trust with another human being. This idea that you can feel this love at first sight or by the third date, you actually feel safe with the person, that's these days you're meeting total strangers. And if you're not familiar with the book by Malcolm Gladwell talking to strangers, I highly recommend reading this so you understand that most of the time you're meeting a stranger, it takes longer to build trust. And did you know inherently we naturally trust people 80% of the time we believe what they're saying to us and yet which we're not taking into account is people lie to themselves. I lie to myself all the time. In other words, my own delusion. This is why I yell and scream so often because I'm yelling at you because I'm also upset with my own delusion in the dating, mating and relating process. So here's the thing. Most everybody has a little kid inside of them that's scared. I have it, you have it. That's why that group of men were there because their little kid is scared inside of them. Most of us are experiencing this. I know, listen, I know ladies, you want the top 20% of men, those confident, high value, high quality guys that are good looking and have their shit together and they have absolute confidence because they're the quintessential alpha male. Well, if you're actually attracting those guys, you don't need to be listening to my channel. You don't. If you're actively attracting those guys and having success, you don't need to watch my channel. If you're attracting those men and you keep choosing the dysfunctional ones, check out the link to a free discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you because what I teach you is how to determine which guys are emotionally healthy and which ones are not. And we do it through a formula of asking the right questions in the early stages based on your personality. So check out the link below. But I want to go deeper because I said in this context, never fight for his attention, do this instead. First, you have to look in the mirror and say there's a little kid inside of me is scared. Have to be able to willing to admit that there might be quite a bit of fear ruling your life. And by doing so, it's the first stage to empowerment is the awareness. And then second thing I'd like you to do, I highly recommend everybody purchasing this book. Why men love bitches? Why men love bitches? I just started reading it and I gotta tell you, I'm gonna share some things from this book because it is fascinating. So I'm gonna read for the next few minutes. Why men love bitches? The woman that describes a bitch and in my mind, the bitch is a babe in total control of herself, a babe in total control of herself. She has strength that is ever so subtle. She doesn't give up in her life and she won't chase a man and she'll stand up for herself when he steps over the line. She knows what she wants, but won't compromise herself to get it. But she's feminine like steel Magnolia, flowery on the outside, steel on the inside. And I wanna continue. Success in love isn't about looks, it's about attitude. I highlighted so many pages here. So attraction principle number two, the women who have men climbing the walls for them aren't always exceptional. Often they're the ones who don't appear to care that much. In my book, there's a chapter called, don't let anyone fuck with your cheat. It's not about caring, it's really more about, I'm not gonna let someone's opinion, their opinion of me to affect how I feel about myself. That is right from the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. By the way, again, check out all the books I recommend below. Okay, as we keep reading, bear with me, there's I'm not enough thinking versus I'm enough, take it or leave it. So the I'm not enough thinking is, she calls him often and says, please return my call. The I'm enough thinking says, she gets back to him when she's free. The I'm not enough thinking is, she is on a call with a rookie, she's on a call like a rookie, she's on call like a rookie flight attendant. And the I'm enough thinking is she sees him when it's convenient for her. These are just some examples laid out in the book. One is a doormat, the other is the dream girl. And I wanna keep reading, attraction principle number five. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can't have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get. And let me keep reading. If your attitude is about yourself, the man will adopt, adapt to you. Act like the prize, you'll turn him over into a believer. And what I mean by act like a prize, act like an empowered human being, not better than him, not more superior than him, just superior within yourself. And in her mind, she might be thinking, I'm going the extra mile. And in his mind, he's thinking she's desperate. In the I'm not enough mindset is, I don't wanna play games. In his mind, she talks too much. In her mind, I'm nurturing. In his mind, she's mothering. An attraction principle number eight, the biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who's too nice, the bitch shows that she's not afraid to be without him. These are just some of the things you should be doing instead. It's time to shift the narrative. And while I'm not saying this is the greatest book on the planet, it's a book about empowerment. Because the reason why you're literally bred, as I said before, to give your power away to men, you no longer need my men financially. So you have way more control. And remember, you control when sex happens and he controls when commitment happens. So how are you gonna shift this narrative by being more debauched, by being more effusive? And not in the feminine energy way where you just lean back and let him claim you. You can't do that because you don't know if he's one of these three types of guys. You don't wanna be feminine energy. You wanna lean into your sovereign energy because he could be one of these three types of guys. He could be a user. He could be a spender or he could be a grower. A user is the love bomber, the player. The spender is the man who wants companionship, connection and sex, but he has no direction. His life is in chaos. He doesn't know if he wants commitment. And the grower and builder over here, this is the guy who clearly knows upfront he wants to be in a committed relationship. By the way, both of my diagrams are purely, are merely, they're not fact, they're merely my opinion. What's gonna change for you is to adopt that attitude, babe in total control of herself. We don't have to look at the word as derogatory. We could look at it as an empowerment word. And that's what I invite you all to do because the minute you stifle your voice, the minute you cover your voice up, you've given your power away to a man. And again, our little kid inside of us, that little kid inside of you is yearning for someone to look and see you for who you are. And it's only going to happen when you reach into your empowerment to be your vulnerable authentic self, not that scared little kid, but that empowered adult inside of you. And that's my invitation for you. So I leave you with this prayer. Dear God, universe spirit, I will do the work to find my inner strength, to find my inner bitch, that babe in total control of herself. Because I'm seeking that juicy, delicious, healthy relationship with a man where we have that mutual chemistry with one another, that we share the same values with one another, that our communication and banter can go on for hours and hours at a time where we have passion to wanna rip each other's clothes off and our lives are compatible with one another. And more importantly, and most importantly, we have the emotional maturity to lean into conflicts and differences with ease so we can actually build and nurture a healthy, happy relationships you through deep intimacy and trust. And intimacy is into me you see and trust is. No matter what God universe spirit, I know that you have my back. And I say this with gratitude. I say with this love because love, gratitude, amplifies my prayer to you. And to God universe and spirit, this is my invitation. Thank you so much. Did I live up to the title of this video? Please let me know in a comment below. Please say, Jonathan, you lived up to it. And my hope is you shift your narrative and you choose to begin to do the inner work to empower yourself because giving your power away to a man is never, ever, ever going to lead to a healthy, happy relationship. It will lead to dysfunctionality and eventually breakups. All right, that's my two cents. I hope it resonates with you. Brenda says, amen, bro. Just catching the end on my break. I'm gonna hear it. New says, you lived up to it. Thank you. Kimberly says, fantastic babe. Alex says, you lived up to it. Thank you so much. I love, I live to be being a bitch. Way to go. Carol says, thanks doc. All right, I'm glowing and learning. Thank you so much. All right, this will be the time that we are going to take questions. So if you have a question of me, post the right the word question then post the question there after or purchase a Super Sticker Super Chat. All the monies from the Super Sticker Super Chat goes to a scholarship fund in the name of my son Connor. I was like, that's him right there in the Obey shirt and that's him right there. He's my son who passed away almost four years ago now. And in his honor, I've started a scholarship fund to defray the cost of personal development for those seeking help as well as donating to causes like the Hoffman process and insight seminars. And I highly recommend checking them out. Coming up on Connor's birthday, I was feeling very melancholy this morning. That's why I posted something in the community page. And for those of you right now, do me a favor, my one request right now is at the end of this broadcast, at the end of watching this, please go to someone you love and give them a big hug because tomorrow is never promised. And I invite you to hug those that care for you. All right, let's see what we have in questions. Again, purchase this, by the way, to show me that this mat, this I've made a difference, please purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat, it's just the dollar sign below. All right. He says, just me says, thank you, Jonathan, you did it. All right, thank you so much. All right. And if you have a question, write the word question and then post the question there after or purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat. All right, let's go swim in here. I'll show you my coffee mug while I'm looking for it. This was made by Nurse Jenny, very sweet. This says, but Jonathan, I've been in my feminine energy waiting for a man to be claimed. And here's a little thing says, ladies, what do I always say? Tell you before the penis goes inside the vagina, purchase the book, Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. There's a little salty figure and there's my book, Self-Love. Oh. Hmm, looks like we have a bashful group today. No questions. Well, if we don't have questions, we're gonna end up rather quickly, which I don't mind doing tonight. I'm gonna give it another one minute. And if we have no questions, we're gonna be wrapping up for the evening. So let's stop being bashful. If you have questions about what I've talked about or anything you wanna talk about, let's get going, write the word question, post the question there after or purchase the Super Sticker Super Chat. Well, it looks like we have a bashful group tonight. So this might be a good place to wrap up for today. Oh, I wanna thank Janet for the $5 Super Sticker. Thank you so much. Looks like we have no questions, folks. I don't wanna just be sitting here looking handsome. That was a little arrogant on my part. Well, it looks like we have a bashful group tonight. So I think we're gonna wrap up today. I hope you did. Oh, here we go. Mary Ann has a personal question. Do you have a favorite cocktail or are you more of a wine drinker? I am a Grey Goose martini with a twist. That is probably my favorite drink. So there we go. Oh, it looks like we have another personal question. Bailey asked, wait, where did they go? Burley asked question, what kind of car do you drive? I drive a BMW 430, 2021 430i. Convertible, black convertible with red interior. Thank you so much for that question. Heather just purchased the $5 Super Sticker. Thank you so much for that. All right. Oh, it's happy 420 day. Woo-hoo! Do you smoke or do edibles? Yes, I do, but I'm a big time mushroom person, psilocybin person. That's what gets me, gets my goat. I'm gonna be doing one. I'm gonna be doing it a journey again at the end of this month. I'm going to a retreat center in June to do it. So I'm really excited about that. Janet says gorgeous car. Thank you so much. Don't you guys have questions for me? Oh, here we go. Finally, Kimberly says, what do you plan on experiencing at your mushroom convention? Great question. So I think it's hard to say what my intention will be at that experience. Usually I set an intention. What I typically work on is how can I remove the layers of judgment when I'm judging someone? What I usually ask my higher self to help me remove the blocks to love and judgment. So that's usually what I work on. I always ask the medicine to help me connect with my divine self. And usually in those journeys, I am able to connect with Connor on the other side, which I'm always happy. I connected with my mom on the last time on the other side. So that's some of the things I lean into when I do psilocybin journeys. It is an amazing way to break down the egoic barriers that cause us to wear a mask in our life. And that's one of the things I love about the medicine. So thank you so much for that question. I really appreciate it. All right, Celia writes, I met a great guy, but he's leaving for a job. Does this mean he's not into me as I'm into him? He said he'd come for three days and gone for three weeks. No, he's just leaving for a job. He's just, that's all he is, he's leaving for a job. Now, if you gave me, if he's starting to pull away or some other things, I would say that's the case. But he's just leaving for a job. You can't, don't read into things unless there are other clues to tell you. How often do you see each other would be a question I ask. How often do you have sex together? Have you met your family and friends? Do you socialize together? Do you used to do social activities, hobbies, mutual interests? Have you traveled together? These are all the building blocks to a healthy, successful, happy relationship. And then you can decide if his job is in the way of your relationship. So thank you so much. Aska says, what country is your favorite to travel? All of them. When I get a chance to see them all, I can make a choice. I don't travel to one place. I usually travel to one place and go, that's great. And I wanna find another place and another place. So there's not one favorite place. Rita says, question, have you ever met anyone yet that sticks out in your mind? Yeah, I have a few women who I've met in my life that stick out in my mind. They weren't the right relationship for me, but what stuck out most, I think of the first woman I met after my divorce, Diana, you know what I appreciated about her? She was incredibly attracted to me. And yet she had this ability to be soft and kind and generous. And at the same time, strong and besides the word strong, I mean, she was smart. She had confidence in her. She was at the time a senior vice president of a pharmaceutical company. Now she is the president of a pharmaceutical company. And I love both her inner strength. And yet she was like this beautiful angel with me. And we weren't meant to go the distance because I was a fucking trainwreck when I met her. I was such a mess 15 years ago and she knew it going in. But she saw, we're still friends these days. She got married, but she always says, Jonathan, I knew you would amount to something back then. And I saw the potential in you. But when we ended it, when the relationship ended, she knew that it wasn't the right relationship. And she eventually met someone who got married. So she definitely sticks. You know, the women that stick out of my mind are the ones that had this delicate balance between their strength and their softness. Neither one of them acted needy. That's the thing. They didn't act needy. They had that bitch quality. That's what they had. Babe in total control of themselves. That's what stands out the most. And then my most significant relationship did, I'm thinking of the ones that were short-lived because my most significant relationship stands out but for a lot of other reasons. So anyway, thanks for that question. I appreciate it. All right, let's keep going. Let's see, bump, bump, bump. Dawn writes, question. Is it worth it to wait for someone to resolve mental health issues? I try not to take it personally. It's just that it's so hot and cold. Yes, then no, in and out. Well, it sounds like he's not in a space to, he doesn't have the foundation to build a healthy, happy relationship. So if he's not in a good place in his life, then it's not your job to wait for them to be in a good place unless you're married. So, and then you have to ask yourself, what is it about this dynamic that keeps you in? And I know you can say, well, but Jonathan, I love him, but Jonathan, I love him, but Jonathan, I love him. Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. If a person doesn't have a foundation underneath them, you're building a house on quicksand. So, let him work on himself. It depends on how long the two have you been together, okay? And it depends on what work he's doing. And maybe you should do couples therapy together. How about that? My recommendation is you do couples therapy together while he works on himself and do it twice a week for the next year. Believe me, I mean, I'm telling you, stop being so fucking naive. Ladies, if you want to have a healthy, happy relationship, it's gonna require both of you doing work together to get there. And that's my invitation for you. So, Don, thank you so much for that question. Catherine says, what do you think are some great methods or recommendations to become more empowered as a woman? Read the book, Eight Dates by, excuse me, read the book, I Men Love Bitches. Read the book, Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. By the way, spend an hour a day watching empowerment videos, not the feminine energy videos. It's not about being in your feminine energy. Watch, watch, okay. Start watching the John Gottman's work. Start watching Marshall Rosenberg's work. Start watching Greg Brayden. Start watching Esther Hick. Start watching, God, the list goes on and on. Gary Zukoff, start watching Harvelle Hendricks. Just to name a few, do the work, spend an hour a day, read the book, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, that's what's gonna help shift it, is you're gonna have to dig and do work for a couple of years before you're actually in a great place to sustain a healthy, happy relationship with someone. Because just because you are bred to want to commit doesn't mean you're good at relationships. So do the work, that's my invitation for you. All right, Michelle. Oh, Amber says, do you have a crush? I have a little crush on someone. Well, I have a lot of, my biggest crush is probably is Jacqueline Smith from Charlie's Angels in 1977. I posted a picture of her. I mean, I wanna show you something, folks. This blows me away. Here is Jacqueline Smith at age 76. Look at that, age 76. I still have a crush on her. Wow, so yes, I do have a crush. All right, great question, Amber. Michelle writes, question. I'm an INFJ who's in love with an NSTJ alpha male. We're in high school and are in our 60s. He has always dated younger women. He told me he is not interested in a relationship as I did. Any hope? Folks, please respond to her. Please respond to Michelle because if he's clearly told you he wants younger women and there's no hope, you're living in fantasy land because you have what's known as unrequited love, unrequited love. Google unrequited love and start watching videos on unrequited love because it's time to stop giving your power away to someone who doesn't wanna be with you. By the way, my pants was writing up my crotch, so please forgive me. So everybody, will you please write Michelle and tell her to stop it? Okay, Leah says, question. Do you have a good relationship with your ex-wife? It's as good as I think it could be, yes. And I'm going to her stepfather's funeral this weekend with my son and my sister and our family because we are family to each other. So to the extent, believe me, I have a brother and sister and we can't stand each other and I love them. So I think she's just family to me. She's like a sister now. All right. Muamak says, what do you think about twin flame relationships? I talked about this last week. I think they're insanity-based relationships. If it's so fucking intense, it's like a twin flame, it's so intense, it will crash and burn. You know what, you have a choice. You can put a frog in boiling hot water and have it jump out or you can put a frog in water and just turn up the heat so gently that's the way a relationship should be in that same type of venue. Jennifer says, are you mad at women? No, I'm not mad at women, I'm mad at human beings. I'm mad at delusional. Here's the thing I'm mad about, myself included. Delusional thinking, hypocrisy and victim consciousness. I can't stand that. I hate it, whether it's a man or woman. So my audience is women, so it might look like, I hate you women, but it's not. I just can't stand delusional thinking. I can't stand hypocrisy and I can't stand victim consciousness and it's because I'm looking in the mirror and I'm my own anger over that. So why do I yell? It's because just like in the movie, it's Moonstruck, when Cher slapped Nicholas Cage and said snap out of it, I'm yelling sometimes because I want you to snap out of delusional thinking, out of hypocrisy and out of victim consciousness. And while look, I understand we all have a little child inside of us that needs to be nurtured and loved. Sometimes we need a slap in the butt. Sometimes we need a slap in the butt and that's the way my coaching style is. Heart centered radical honesty. It's direct, a little tough love and hopefully a lot of heart. And occasionally I said I use expletives. So I hope that answers everyone's question if you think I hate women, I love women. I love men. I love human beings. I just can't stand the delusional ones. The ones are hypocrites and they're a hypocrite. They don't even know that they're a hypocrite because they're delusional and they have no idea that they're a victim because they're delusional. And by the way, I have clientele that call me all the time thanking me for the way I coach. So I think I'm doing a good job. All right, let's go swim in. Mary Ann has another, lots of personal questions here. How much time per day do you spend watching different YouTube videos? I probably average studying every day about an hour to two hours of like lately I've been watching this gamer named Destiny, Destiny. He's got a brilliant mind. I mean, I'm watching his political views. He's a political commentary and debater. I watched Jordan Peterson. I find him to be fascinating. I like watching Sam Harris. I was watching a video about young men recently that were at a workshop building confidence. I spent about, today I spent about 45 minutes reading the book, Why Men Love Bitches. So I invest a good couple hours a day in my personal development. So I hope that helps. Ross says, do you have a Patreon? Not yet. My son Colin keeps bugging me to do a Patreon. So just purchase a super sticker super chat right this moment to say thank you for this. Kimberly says, I have an upcoming job interview coming up with the director of psychiatry. Psychiatry. Would love a tip from you. Can I have a job interview tip, please? Job interview tip. You know what? Go in without any expectation of getting the job. In other words, go in from a premise of what can I give instead of what can I get? What can I give instead of what can I get? What can I give instead of what can I get? I operate in my business of how much can I give is the way I operate. And I get so much back in abundance. I really do, I'm very blessed. Thank you God, universe spirit. So operate from a place of what can I give instead of what can I get? That's the emphasis, that's what love would do and that's how love would respond. That's my invitation for you. Kimberly, let me know how that works. All right, Catherine says, wow, she's a babe. She kind of looks like my mom around that age. I was talking, that's Jacqueline Smith, I got it. Is Jenny on here? Oh, there's Jenny. Jenny's this beautiful nurse who gave me this cup or made this cup for me. What a sweetheart. Everyone, Jenny isn't a man. Everybody, if you wanna have one of your handmade cups, I think she charges a hundred bucks for these. It's worth every penny. Maybe she charges that much. Eat, reach out to nurse Jenny. She is an absolute sweetheart. Hope you're feeling better, by the way. Jonathan, could you please put together a list of people to watch videos of you like you do? Okay, so in the back of my book, okay, I'm gonna read everybody. If you haven't purchased my book, what the heck is self love anyway? Read there. It says, recommended reading studies and teachers and workshops. So look there, look there. You can heal your life by Louise Hay, create a visualization by Shakti Gwani, the movie The Secret, the movie What the Bleep, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, Unleash the Power by Tony Robbins, Untethered Soul by Michael Singer, Wayne Dyer videos. You can look up any of those. And then here, page two. How about it? Okay, page two. Oops, wait, how do we do that? Oops, we do this way. Abraham Hicks, The Mankind Project, Reverend Michael Beckwith, The Hoffman Process, Insights Seminars, and A Course in Miracles. Those are just a few you may wanna check out. So I hope that helped. Go back and rewind this video. Pause there so you can read them all. I love that you don't sugarcoat it. I try not to. Leap says, I love you, Jonathan. Thank you so much. Catherine says, do you ever just take a break from trying? I'm trying and I know I'm enough. I like myself more than I'd like. You know what? Okay, folks, I have a confession to make. So I should have started the conversation with this. So I wanna openly admit to you all that I have come to the awareness that I was addicted to the swipe way of dating. I was addicted to the hamster getting the palette. Now it originally started with Facebook notifications when I first joined social media and those notifications would pop up and I go, oh, somebody liked me and I'd read what they wrote and somebody liked me and I read what they wrote and somebody liked me and I read what they wrote. And that transferred over when swipe dating began and someone swiped me. I swiped someone and they swiped me. All of a sudden I was chasing the swipe. I was chasing the swipe. I was chasing the swipe. I was chasing the swipe. I was chasing the swipe. And this went on for years. Years I've been chasing the swipe because it meant somebody liked me. Somebody liked me. Somebody liked me. And then during COVID I was so feeling lonely by myself that I would just engage in conversations with people. I would just get on the phone and talk to a variety of different people just so I could feel some connection with another human being. And I came to the awareness recently that I've been living a rather dysfunctional dating life because I got addicted to the swipe. So I made a conscious choice. What I did was rather than abandon all the dating apps altogether, what I did was I paid for the premium service. So now if I go to Bumble, it looks like let's see what happened today on Bumble, premium. 13 women's swipe me. Now I'll probably look a little later today and I'll see which one, and if there's someone that strikes my fancy and unless they really, really, really, really strike my fancy, I'm not gonna engage if I feel like there's compatibility, there's blendable lifestyles and I think there's mutual chemistry, then I will swipe and see how she reaches out to me. If it's just, hi, I'm done, because I lose interest. I'm bored with conversations that don't engage me. Folks, if you follow me enough, you know I'm gonna read you up a meme here. It says, I hate small talk. I wanna talk about Adam's death, alien sex, magic intellect, the meaning of life, far away galaxies, music that makes you feel different, memories, the lies you've told, your flaws, your favorite scent, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurity and fears. I like people with depth who speak with emotion from a twisted mind. I don't wanna know what's up. I lose interest very quickly when someone isn't engaging with me. I just do. So I will own that I've taken a break from the dating apps, only in the sense is God, universe, spirit, I trust that you are going to invite in that juicy, delicious relationship into my life because I've been doing that work on myself to let go of the need to go chase someone and I invite you, God, universe, spirit to come to me and I will fully engage, I will make a significant amount of effort, commensurate to their effort. So we engage in that relationship where we're walking hand, holding hands together, driving down the street and two lanes, two lane street together. And I invite that in and I'm open and receptive to love. So instead of chasing it, I'm allowing it to come to me. I hope that answers your question, Kathleen. Thank you so much. What is my favorite thing to do on a date? Fuck. I mean, I like to have sex if I can. No, my favorite thing to do is I'm a sapiosexual. I love to talk philosophy. My passion is studying human behavior. I think humans are ridiculously dysfunctional, hypocritical and victim and I just love just exploring how to get out of my own way. So I love talking about personal development, self-help and spiritual work. That would, that turns me on the most. Rihanna says, you're doing a great, good job. Doing a, you're doing a job, Jonathan. Okay. I'm assuming you meant good or great job. If that is the case, please let me know Rihanna or however you pronounce your name. Zeta says, you're doing a great job. Thank you so much. Stormy says, such a cute cup. Yay, Jenny. Alexandra says, you rock. Way to go. All right, here are some of the names Leif wrote down. Jordan Peterson, Robert Green, Wayne Dyer, Nathaniel Braden, Jay Shady, Lewis Howe, Esther Perrell, I don't know this couple. I don't know that one. Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins, Jack Butler. Those are just a few. I don't follow all of those. I'm really lately fascinated with Jordan Peterson. I love the way he communicates. I love how he talks to himself. In fact, I do my best to model to some degree his ability to communicate. So he's one of my favorite intellects to follow these days. All right, Leah asks, were you born in California? Why do you live in that area? Don't you find women to be very superficial, high maintenance? Northeaster people tend to be more down to earth. That is a judgment. That is a limiting belief. I know some beautiful, amazing women here. I have a circle of friends here that are absolutely amazing men and women alike. Yes, certain parts of Los Angeles can be superficial, but I can tell you jackasses live everywhere. Just because they're in the Northwest doesn't make them every better down to earth. You have jackasses everywhere. You have delusional people, dysfunctional people everywhere. It might be a little more superficial here, but I'm telling you, by the way, if it's so great, why isn't everybody living in the Northwest and why aren't they all happily in love with each other? Because emotional maturity relationship skills, I don't care, sucks everywhere. That's just my two cents anyway. All right, thank you for that. Oh, I want to thank Little Miss for the $2 Super Sticker, the three lira, I think, our pound Super Sticker. Thank you so much. Ross says, I'm 42 and I'm thinking this guy is 39 and now he's talking about some chicks in his 70s. I just have a crush on her. She was my crush when I was 15. And anyway, I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or not. All right, folks, I think we covered a lot today. Did I live up to the commitment of this topic, of never fight for his attention, do this instead? Read the book, Why Men Love Bitches, if you want to become empowered in your life, because my invitation for you is to lean into your babe in total control of yourself and never give your power away to a man. Can you do that? Say you lived up to it, Jonathan, and I will take on the challenge of retaining my power. Say I retain my power. Say it, I want to hear it. And if I'm making a difference in your life, please let me know by saying, Jonathan, you're making a difference. All right, I think this will be a good place to wrap up our podcast or our live stream today. Again, if you'd like to follow me, check out the link to a discovery call with me to see if working with a coach is right for you. Check out my podcast, The What Would Love Do podcast. Check out my membership group called Midlife Love Mastery. This is a group where you can have direct access to me on a regular basis. And based on the questions you write in the book or the group I shoot personalized videos just for you, follow me on Instagram and check out all the books I recommend. All right, it looks like a lot of people are gonna retain their power and that I'm making a difference in their life. And I'm gonna wrap up this broadcast like I always do. First off, give myself a big gigantic Jonathan Barrack of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone, a pet, teddy bear pillow and give it a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love. And let's face it, we could all use more love in our lives. I wanna thank Alexandra and Christina and Ava and Arlene and Ra and Joan and master and Patricia and Crystal or Crystal and Merit, Mistoria, Juliet. Renee, if Jenny's still on and Heather's still on, I wanna thank you all and Little Miss Sunshine and all of those of you that gave a super sticker, super chat. Listen, wishing you a fabulous evening. Take care, bye now.