 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm your host Jonathan as they have Jonathan as they comment I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you the second time because this is the first time I did it though audio wasn't on our topic the six Signs the six signs a guy genuinely cares about you the six signs Before we get started really quickly. I'm so embarrassed. I just found out that the video I just recorded the previous one was without audio and I did a really good job. I'm bummed out. Anyway, well, let's see if we can do it better Really quickly if you're in a relationship with a guy and you're frustrated. You're pulling your hair out You need some Perspective and you want some male perspective then check out the link below to schedule a one-on-one call with me to see If working with a coach can help you with this relationship. Alright, let's get back to those six signs a guy genuinely cares about you Listen ladies, I know it's incredibly frustrating to be with men Just in general not in general but because men have often been Men have been literally conditioned to repress their feelings since we're young boys We were told to stuff it in be a man don't express our feelings So it's oftentimes very difficult to know if a man cares about you because for many men They don't use their words. They don't use their words to express their feelings But certainly men do through their actions. So I'm going to cover those six actions. Let's do it this way six and To give you a sense of a man who is generally moving towards really wanting to be in a fully committed relationship with you So the number one is he uses your name frequently He uses your name in a sentence. He uses your name. He he expresses your name on a regular basis Now, let me clarify something here because we've been so conditioned that any time we hear our name It's like, ah, am I in trouble? Did I do something wrong? Jonathan? But a man who genuinely cares about you is going to use your name in the sense of poetry It's a it's a it's literally your name identifies to who you are It's a level of intimacy when we use a person's name regularly when we're communicating with them and While men don't consciously think of this We certainly when we genuinely care about someone we identify with a person's name So we're going to use it more frequently and what usually happens is sometimes we substitute the name with a pet name Sweetheart babe, honey, that sort of thing that shows a devil another layer of Care when we actually start using pet names guys who genuinely don't care try to avoid any intimacy And our name can be one of the most intimate things on a planet because it's such a reflection of who we are It's on our driver's license. It's on our bird certificates on every document we have Sometimes we use a name like for Stephanie. We say Steph sometimes we you know Um Tamara might be Tammy. I mean I can't think of a bunch of Kathleen might be Kathy that sort of thing But it's stepping into using a name and a guy who genuinely cares about you will use your name Okay, number two He introduces you to his family and friends. He introduces you to his family and friends when a guy Genuinely cares about you. He wants to show you off to those he cares about and He wants to get their approval as well Now sometimes guys rush in in this particular case with introductions really quickly because they Are oftentimes a little overexcited, but they actually introduce you into their life It's not just family and friends, but they begin Introducing you into his life And the more a guy does that the more roots are being established those roots of building trust Those roots that lead to commitment Okay, the third Is he's curious about your life. He's curious about what you do. He's curious about how you think He's curious about the things that you're curious about Now, I don't mean things like do you like sushi? Me too. Do you like stand-up paddle board? All my favorite sport Do you like joe jackson? Oh my god, my favorite band have seen them 10 times I've actually only seen them six times and for those that Watched my video. I I shared my favorite band is joe jackson late 70s early 80s New wave band Anyway, I digress, but they're curious about your life. They're they're saying, oh, you're a yoga instructor What inspired you to do that? What kind of yoga moves can you show me? How do you help people with yoga? We're drilling down beyond the surface A lot of people are just dancing here at the surface level and I'm here to suggest. Let's go deeper You know, like that iceberg, you know, there's a lot more to it below the surface And that's what curiosity does it gets to know you at a deeper level Okay, number four. I'm looking at my notes to bear with me. Um, oh Oh, by the way, don't forget to wait for the sixth one because that's the critical one of all of these But the fourth one is he wants to introduce you to his activities the things he loves to do You know, whether it's hiking whether it's that stand-up paddle board whether it's going to joe jackson He wants to introduce you to social activities hobbies and mutual interest I'm a big fan of playing gin rummy and I know for any future partner in my life I'm gonna say let's get a deck and go to a bar and sit and play gin rummy for a couple hours while having a cocktail Whenever we get to go out But um, and it doesn't have to be gin rummy. It could be backgammon or it could be something else But a man who genuinely cares about you wants to introduce you to his activities the things he loves to do And he's gonna want to do the things you love to do Man who genuinely cares about you wants to step into the things you love to do The fifth one He compliments you he compliments you now I don't mean he compliments your looks or compliments your dress He compliments your life. He wants to be an active participant to compliment your life He wants to do the things in your life that you're doing And he's gonna often do the same Um, let me pause for a second Everything I've shared with you most dysfunctional men aren't going to be doing any of these I'm talking about those emotionally immature men aren't going to be doing all of these things This is really for that emotionally mature that high quality guy that you're all looking for He's going to want to compliment your life I was in a relationship with a woman. Um, my most significant significant relationship after my divorce and I would stay at her house, uh, three or four nights a week and um, and she had two dogs And we'd be working during the day and I had a break, you know for several hours I didn't have any coaching clients and the dogs needed dog food when she was in the midst of work I went over to the pet store bought those 50 pound bags of dog food for her dogs Because a I could be her hero by buying those heavy bags, but also I was complimenting her life It was we became teammates with one another we complimented each other not just you look fantastic But we wanted to add value enhanced in the life Okay, the sixth that's sixth the sixth thing This is really important Because a man who genuinely cares about you Not only cares about your feelings But his your feelings become his feelings Your feelings become his feelings And let me give you an example of this so, um I was that woman. I was in relationship. I mean that was a significant relationship I learned so much about myself. I healed so many of my childhood wounds Thankfully she healed so many wounds together and while we're not in relationship anymore We went through such an individual growth. We were meant to come into each other's lives for that reason But one of the things that she did when we Um, one of the things that was important to her is if we went to a restaurant She wanted to check the Yelp reviews and she would read the five star and the one star Now for her Doing that was getting a sense of the restaurant Especially if it was a new restaurant a place she hadn't been before But that helped create a level of safety for her to be able to read the reviews that made her feel safer And at first I balked at it. I'll be candid with you. I'm like who cares about the reviews I don't care about the reviews. Let's just go to the restaurant. You know, it's going to be a great restaurant This happened over and over and again for her and I recognized that this was important for her because it It told me she didn't have to say the words, but I recognized that for her. That's how she felt safe By just reading the reviews to know, you know what this is a safe place to go And eventually in our relationship, I'd say, hey, it's Friday night Let's go and if it was a new restaurant, I'd you know, I'd go on open table check out the restaurant And then I'd go on Yelp and read the reviews Because her feelings eventually became my feelings Her feelings became my feelings. It mattered to me and this isn't about every feeling. We're not here to feel every feeling But those things that matter to her matter to me And that genuinely showed I cared about her and I cared about the relationship. I cared about the we Ah Wow, that was a mouthful Hey, I'm just curious By the way, I covered six, but I might have missed some So if you've got one there that a guy has done, please write a comment below share something that I might have missed And this one how a guy shows you he cares outside of the words Please write down and also if you have a question of me, I do my best to read all of the comments I try to even respond to some of the questions. So if you have a question post it below because that might create fodder for new videos as well Also, if you need help understanding guys, uh, check out the link below to schedule a discovery call or maybe Maybe, um, you're interested in my book. What the heck is self love anyway? And there's a link below to get my book All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do giving myself giving myself a big gigantic hug of love I'm gonna invite you to give yourself a big gigantic hug of love I want you to look to see if there's anyone around you to give them a big gigantic hug of love because guess what? Hugs are the one of the best ways to show love and we can all use a lot of hugs, especially now Ah, well, thank you so much and I want to wish you a super duper wonderful fantastic day. Bye. Bye now