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They were here before I guess a couple of weeks But they are back again to take on this conversation. Good morning guys. Thank you for coming back Morning to any morning. Welcome back Last week the last time we were here we were talking about how to survive Yeah, but now They're back to hosting especially if you can place your Marafiquan accomplishing, you know standard. I love the fact that you are married. He was single. We left it at that So the chain is still continuing, but I want to start with you T He's produced a tea and he's John Audward. Let me start with you How long bro should a guest stay at your place, especially? Maybe tell us a little bit of story when you are newly married We're barred to co-freshly married into marriage. I would like him to interfere in a situation in the household And you need to be a copale. I'm numb to it. You know, I will it too Oh I'll take one sense in your son's son. What's up? I'll take a look at her. Okay. Yeah, I'll have fun I'm gonna gain it when you're home especially come to come home married especially While you're newly married out on a juicy juicy, too Relatives At least me So let me come back to you when you're single, of course Kunaka budget you always operate on a budget, but just in case there's somebody who is coming It'll be to know what just kiddo go, but we're talking to a car in Rafiki and I'm gonna stay a little bit longer I'm a kind of damn either way vice versa many other cool. Yeah, how do you tell them that bro? It's time to leave if it's time to go disappear without like offending them Sometimes it's very difficult but come a boy child. Let's mutes a key where I don't want to cut it Maybe you can keep a jet here. Oh, I'm a pangia. I just see my boy child. So I think that cool I'm gonna go home. Yeah, I don't want to survive to coin. Yeah, you know, look at the dog Then Sometimes we fake a call come on you to a make a for like two hours. You can fake a call pretend I Now from experience I'm so married Of course, I'm already destabilized kiddo gonna especially close relatives. How do you tell them bro to leave? Maybe you're gonna see that I'm only one of your bros or cousins I'm a cos I rent mahalia kafungiwakeja, but they're only place and as a part of hope I'm an as a part of Cusetto me quack what I can meet a medium host for three two days But constitution you're gonna height of a second. Maybe we should come and sit I'm a it's a one bedroom, but we're not really privacy You're marriage. Sometimes. I don't know What I find out is you cook a situation a close relative of a kuzha situation is a kubali So sir Hey You're gonna look at up One of the ones that's a corner shoulder And most of us to kick you to kill jam tani to the co-hosted peer Now to engage in a do engage in a serious relative spirit host, but so some quick as any Um I make them be layer a lot for maybe need you and I'm a flanny. I'm a corner Would you do? Let's not cause a discuss. I'm too much. I can't remember I'm not a kind of for how long Because I'm a sponsor I make you get to know me as a quiche. Yeah, he's a little shit. I It's a relationship. Yeah, come on. Come on. Okay. So you have to discuss now partner. Oh We are make up That's just a way to come in vol Some time you know time come on maybe I'll come and after cause he'll be after sometime I come up at a job come on I come up at a job But it after any fair After fair after come out a copper fair Copper back you kill panga. We'll use wish you don't you to cool down? I'm to fair I'm being too too late to leave to come Yeah, yeah Can I say I'm from two visits? It's a yeah Then all of a sudden a best friend Pop up to out of nowhere And crazy thing is it ability to a issue A best friend Okay Yes So, it depends on say, it depends on to on a visit. It's necessary to close relative. Anybody. Any one. As long as I stay at the temple, I can arrange it. I need to be there. I am a member. I don't want to be a member. I want to stay at home. I want to stay at home, I want to stay positive. I want to stay at home, I want to stay at home, I want to stay at home. I don't want to stay at home. Okay. I don't know. I can come in instantly too. I don't want to go down. I don't know if you know what they say about it but if you don't know what they say about it I don't know, this is the truth but this is the truth or this is the married perspective I don't know I don't know if you know what they say about it sometimes when you visit you and your wife have a relationship and you don't know on the other side when you get a hold of yourself Especially here at the stage people are very busy with their work. That's why I said I don't want to pull off any work so that I can manage my own business. If I manage my own business, my wife can manage her own business. I can do very well at home in the street. Whatever it takes, I will take care of it. Do you get tired? I'm feeling tired. I get tired. I have to go to school. Okay. That's all I need to do. I have to stay for how long? I need to get ready. No, no. I have to get ready. I don't need to go to school. Not necessarily the first day. I don't need to go to school. I don't need to go to school. I don't need to go anywhere. I'm sitting there, I'm sitting here. I'm sitting there. I'm sitting there. I can relax. Relax. I can relax. I can relax. But there are only close relatives. I'm by, to say for example, your mom. I'm a same as I'd say to your baby. I'm a say to your girlfriend, whoever you are. I'm a say to your boyfriend, Vice Vasa. I'm a cook, I'm in the bedroom. And I'm like, hey, I don't even know where I'm from, where I'm from. I'm in the kitchen, I'm in the kitchen. And I'm like, hey, I don't know where I'm from, I'm in the kitchen. And then I'm like, I'm in the kitchen. I'm like, I'm in the kitchen. How do you tell them that, please, He's a boundary born. He's a cross. No, you are a音 down to the mother who is your daughter. I love him because he's my wife. There is no way that she's my mom. I'm a say to your mom to a friend, to say that you are with me. I'm like, I'm in the kitchen. I'm a say to a friend, who's in the kitchen. I'm in the kitchen. And sure that you and your wife, Come on, if you are with me, come on, if you are with me. I am in the kitchen, I am in the kitchen, Hey, you are a mother, They say they will be able to organize the village to make a living. There is no such thing as building the house like that in the middle of the city. But it's also in the country that they go to the same village. And they are also going to settle in the village. Do you think it's life time for them to start working in the village? In the evening, we go out, right at my house. Yes, we get to go there. Now from you, to say my message to you, come and pay for me a piece of money, and I'll pay you a cake, a dog, a pear, but then you feel like I'm not far to a hand, but deep down I'm a little something on the table. Now, I'm saying to you, the person who will go to work, pay for the money, and the person who will go to work will be called a pick a chai. The person who will go to work, will be called an area, but the person who will go to work will be called money. The person who will go to work will be called a lover, which is a tourist group, God will provide. But then you will have to work, I mean I'm a tour breakfast, a tour lunch. I'm not a farmer. Some people are not able to work. But some people have to pay their bills. Some people stay like two months or one month. They can't be able to work. But he's ready to facilitate the housework. True. How much? $1,000. $1,000 for a house? $1,000 for a house. If you're married, you can't have a relative. You can't have a family. You can't have a family. You can't have a job. If you're married, you can't have a job. If you're married, you can't have a house. True. This is a fast bone. It happens mostly to fast bones who make it because they're familiar. It may be a good job. You can't have a family. But at least you can sustain it. But you can't have a family. I'm a small sister. I'm a small brother. But it's easy for them to be together. You can't have a relationship with anyone. I think your bad eye is where my parents are No, I am not saying that I am telling you, I know you are a good person No, but I think I am sure that you are a good person I am sure that you are a good person I think the relationship is not all about my relationship with my baby The relationship has a first bond because the relationship I have with my baby is with my baby and my mother and my baby So, at the same time I am the last one, right? I am the first one I am in high school So, you have to have a mechanism to accommodate but when you accommodate you have to be alive So, you see First bonds are where you accommodate and in a certain way you can accommodate and you can accommodate the way you want I have a long life. I have a long life. I am involved in your relationships, your marriage, especially when you are married. You are raised differently. You raise your wife, you raise your wife. Your perception is different, you are different. So, when you are with your sister, your brother, you are married. You are married, what about you? What about me? You are raised differently. You are married, you are raised differently. So, how will you go about that? You are raised differently. You are raised differently. You are raised differently for how long? It depends. I am sure it depends. At first, I would say, but remember, when I was in a church, I would say, I would say, I am a pastor. I would say, I am a summarizer. If someone had a bad idea, it would have been very difficult to explain. But at what point, it would have been very difficult to explain. Especially in the economy. It would have been very difficult. Of course, they need help. They genuinely need help. They have a good idea. But they need to be at home. They need to be at home. I would say, I am a pastor. I am a refugee. Sometimes, I have a relationship with Nairobi. I am a pastor. I would say, I am a pastor. I would say, I am a pastor. Then I would say, I would say, to share the little we have. See, you have to block everybody. At the same time, you have to block everybody. Sometimes, you have to go to Nairobi for a weekend. You have to go to a restaurant. You have to eat lunch. Lunch, you have to eat 1 kg. You have to eat and pick a story. Also, you are born with your family. My younger sister went to school. I asked her where she was born. You said you were married. Yes, I was married. Sometimes, you have to go to a restaurant. You have to go to a restaurant. The bond will be there. We should not block our relatives. We have to go to a single place. We have to go to some extent. Maybe, we have to go to a temple. The source of blessings to our lives. Okay, Mr. Tli. We don't have to go to the temple when we're already 40. In some places, we can come out to work. We can even come out to work on the street. But we do not have the complaints. Therefore, we block others. We have to buy food elsewhere for example. We have to retain the knowledge. prick 농 injured. Somebody has to give in. Because even if someone is ill, If you want to go back to your old home, you can go back to your old home. Let me switch it back. For example, if you go back to your old home, you can go back to your old home. I was designed to go back to my old home on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. But on Saturday, there are signs. Sunday, there are signs. Monday, you go back to work. But you have to have plans to get the symptoms and signs you have. Thursday, Wednesday, you go back to your old home. At what point, and then to even make it more worse, do you plan to go back to your old home? Sometimes we apply the maturity part of it. We just think that we can go back to our old home. Out of love. Out of love. Out of love is in line. No. Sometimes we go back to our old home. And then we meet and say, we were planning these. But I think to this extent, it's enough. For some reason, it's not easy to say, oh, I went back to my old home, and I'm still there. So that means I'm going back to my old home. That makes sense. It's not easy to say that you went back to your old home. You're going back to your old home for a long time. You had to go back to the old home. So you went back to your old home. Maybe you went back to your old home. So from Monday to Monday, you go back to your old home. How will you handle it? I think you know what I'm talking about. You're going back to your old home. But there is a situation where during COVID, there is a situation where you can visit your relatives. And you can stay for like two days. So you can lock down and kill your kids. You can stay there for three months. But the life changes. You can spend the rest of your life. So you are COVID and everything should be reduced to our expenditure. But while you survive. So to some extent also you can listen to her. But sometimes you have to listen to her without giving her fair hearing. Because by you apply sometimes fair hearing. Some wisdom means that. Yes. So you have to listen to her. You can say this and this. You can listen to her. You can say maybe. And then you decide to find. You have to spend it. If you are not comfortable with this. You have to spend it. If you are okay with that. Life will be okay. Speaking of that. Cost sharing. Yes. If you are comfortable, you have to live somewhere. If you are in a situation. And then if you spend your budget. If you spend only around twenty seconds. You can do it. Yes. But you can extend. You can be like, Bro, what are you seeing next week? You have to go shopping and shop. I am going to bring a coffee. What if I ask you. Will you say that? I will say that. If I ask you. You can say it. It is my wish to have a brother. It is my wish to have a brother. It is my wish to have a brother. It is my wish to have a brother. I'm struggling. But sometimes it's open. You can chip in to us. We can chip in to you. We can team up on a ancients perspective. You can get into a bedroom. Find your bed. I'm out of bed. So you can buy a chair to sit through. And I can make sure it's good. What kind of pressing is this? I can't help but share it with you. I can share things with you. I can share things with you. I don't know your friend. I come to visit. Mostly, I don't expect anything will happen overnight. This is my perspective. I am the best friend, but I am an extra man. Do you have a friend? I'm not sure. When I came to Bangladesh, I didn't know anything about it. I don't know anything about it. I'm not sure if I'm an extra man. I don't know anything about it. I'm not sure. I'm 6 or 7 years old. I don't know anything about it. You're not being realistic. Sometimes, you don't know anything about it. You don't know anything about it. I don't know anything about it. I'm half of it. You don't know anything about it. you say honey you may phone call yes I press a handle in my sleep the person who says I know her he says where is the guy where is the guy the guy who says that's where I am when I'm a good boy or what say I know her if I have to go through it what's the problem first and that's when I get to maintain if I get to maintain if I go through it what's the problem if I die I will receive he will tell me what's the situation come on it's best I should not test come on it's best friend you can't get a bed seat where they're open up. They want you to sit and open up. I don't know how. You have to be careful because you have to have the power. You have to be careful when it's open up. You have to be careful because you have to have the power. But make sure that you can hear the sounds. The sounds of the music make sure that the people are happy. Everyone is happy. I'm not a slave. You're a slave. I'm not a slave. But mostly, there are instances where I say, I don't want to happen to you. Really, do you see vice versa? For you. That's what I'm saying. How long should you stay? Before I answer you, let me go back to tea because I'm not a good guy. Mr. T, before you finally got married, I don't know if you're going to date or not. Did she ever make visits to you? I'm a military official. I'm going to be an alter. I'm going to be a ring. I'm going to be a pastor. Now you can kiss the bride. And the rest is history. I'm going to have some interchanges. It's simple. It's simple. I'm going to date, I'm going to have a visit. But I'm not going to date. Oh, daytime visits. I'm not going to date you. I'm not going to date you. I'm not going to date you. So in short, I'm going to engage in the final day. Wow, that's beautiful. This is my sleepover. And what is your sleepover in between? I'm a good boy. I'm not going to sample Marlis. You're a good boy. I'm a good boy. Ha ha ha. Now, I'll tell you what I do here, I've had a lot of friends. I've been jealous. Would you say it's the church in the Iwo-Fanyam caste? Because a lot of people say it's a decision. You need to have a pure mind. That's a decision. It's a decision. A pastor might be drawing a pure mind, but I've decided to draw a pure mind because there's a purity. You have to ask for that. How do you make a decision to come back to the home? Or do you have a problem? But you feel comfortable with her. Why? Did you like to visit her? I didn't. I didn't have a date with her. I was dating with her. I was dating with my wife. How long have you been dating? It's been a month. I have been dating with my wife. How old were you when I was... I was 20, 15. 20, 16. 17. 20, 16. I was married. almost like now clocking five years almost the same so that is after make ring so let's come back to your question I am not sure you can't even rent a house maybe you can sell it maybe you can't even rent a house you can't even rent a house What if you follow someone and say, I have tipsy, I am coming to figure out what is the best place for me to go? There is no place for me to go, bro. You are alive first. There is a place for me to go. Sometimes I ask myself, when is the number one? When is the number two? B. What is the number one? I ask myself, when is the number one? When is the number ten? E? Z? I ask myself, when is the number three? Nice. So when I fail, you are among the top three. Never. So if you fail, you are among the top three. Okay. Let's talk about hygiene. For example, when you are a host, you sit down, you wash your hands, you go to the toilet, and there is no toilet, when people are out here, they have things. There is no toilet. But if you ask yourself, you are too old, but your wife has a toilet. She has a toilet. And either way, you attract each other. So when you attract each other, you have the same qualities. When guests come, people may feel like, if you are here, you will be very famous. You are a chef. Imagine if you are human, you are not a genius. So they don't know you, you are a baby. So you are a baby, you touch a dog, you survive the guilt, you will die from guilt. At what point do you declare the boundaries? Tell me, I am a man, and I tell you, tell me, please, go. Where do I go? I am sure. I think, I think, I think, stores will be in order. There will be orders, we'll be selling there. People will be selling there on October, we will sell there, we will sell there on October, because we have money in exchange of money. Can you also fall Swedish issues? Yeah, I do not know, come on, I will see, I will tell you, are you kidding with me? I am already busy I am busy managing out, So I come on a two-knead flag. But you know what to pay for, it's okay. We are going to be rich. But you know what you have to pay for, it's okay. It's okay, dad. The second door, and it's not right. The second door, and it's not right. He's not going to point out. He's going to be in bed, he's going to show me. And he's already inside. He's going to be in bed, he's going to be in bed after me. No, I want to go to the bedroom and ask the sisters. Yes. One of my sister's husband, Zako Zandani, because he's a sibling of his own who is an elder brother. You don't want to help her do housekeeping? What I will be as she pretends is my assistant, Even the husbands in Africa. I have a sister called Moja and my home assistant. She tells me everything, like when I go out there, she tells me she's not in bed. That's in vain. She tells me she's not in bed. She's not. I expect her to tell me she can't sit at my door, she can't control everything. I'm okay with that. So, between me and Tapa Tawifeh, I'm like, this is my seeds and she's the only one. So, my mother and I are the same. So, you're a discipline. You see. When I'm with my parents, they ask me, I'm not like this, I'm not like this. So, there are some who are in front of me. I'm single. When I'm with my parents, they ask me, I'm not like this. But once you're married, you have set boundaries. You're with your mother and your wife. The moment you're married, you have to have a wife. To say, bro, in this situation, we're job as early as five. We're doing it the last time, seven. So, vitusotos are happening during the day. Yes. We're doing it the last time. And then, we're in the bedroom and we're going to the bathroom. And the woman is like, hey, where are you going? And then, we're going to the room. You see. You know, in your relationship, you need to have a friend. That's different now. You need a friend. Compared to when you're with your family, you have to have a friend. Yes. When I'm with my family, my wife is like this, I'm not like this. I'm like this, I'm not like this. But, you know, when I'm with my family, I'm like this. And the woman is like this, she's like this. So, you're a wife. I'm like this, she's like this. I'm like this, yes. So, when someone tells you to armour to achieve some weakness, and you do something that you shouldn't do, some kind of a Arctic and some kind of a pirates car, wear a mask and I'm like this. With you. So, I can point out that I'm feeling that my sister can't date my sister. So, my sister can't date her. She's my blood sister. So, I'm feeling that my sister is comfortable. Yes, but I can't date my sister. My brother is married to a friend of mine. His sister is from Sindio? Yes, my brother is also a woman. That was my father. My father is from Sinuab. So, my sister is a woman. My brother's wife's name is Peter. She's the one who makes me feel better. She's my wife. It's not all about competition, it's about it's about it's about how will you check that? So anything you want to say, I think I also know this is my wife, she's also need my attention, she's also need my attention, she's also need like how do you think about that? Speaking of that, it's not all about competition, it's about how do you think about that? I think how did it go? I was just having this budget, do you have anything we cost share? I don't have any budget, I don't have any money Yes I have, I have to pay for it, I have to pay for it, You were genuinely in half and honest with Aftu, actually. I was born in 2000, bro. I was born in Nafa. I was in the form of a scene. I worked at the same company as I was in Suna Mahali. So, I was involved. Formal to your budget. Yeah, I worked. I was born in 2000. I worked at the same time as I was. I was complaining. I was in the Mazer after I was born. I worked solo. I worked at the same company as you at Wawili. I worked in the same community. That's what community is. Sometimes we strain because of frames, we spend because of frames, sometimes just be genuine because we don't have bills. After we are fresh or clean, we don't have any burden. So sometimes we can't host them anymore. So in short, you can't host them anymore. But at what point do you say, enough is enough? Maybe day one, maybe some people say I'm the best friend of your wife and I'm young at the same time. And if I'm in a place where I'm 20, my wife and I spend a lot of time with my husband. My wife and I spend a lot of time with her. And when you're in a conversation, like when you're in a hostel, you know there's a lot of vibe to spend. At what point do you say, ah, ah, ah, ah? As long as I'm comfortable with her. I have to be comfortable with her. Because my wife and I spend a lot of time with her. If I'm not comfortable with her, my wife and I spend a lot of time with her. So I'm sure my wife and I spend a lot of time with her. But when I'm comfortable with her, I spend a lot of time with her. Let me share with you a certain story. Let me share with you a certain story, just a simple story. We used to stay with one of our uncles just immediately after high school. My wife and I spend a lot of time with her. So this uncle of mine, he tweeted about it. He tweeted about it. He said, ah, yes, I'm your sister. So he says he's your cousin. But when I'm comfortable with my wife and I spend a lot of time with her. So what I want you to do, guys, is to know how. Every month, I spend 14,000. I spend it all with my own money, in my budget, and I go home. I go home. I feel like I'm going to get a job. But I'm going to get a job and I'll tell my wife. I want to have a job, but I'm not going to have a job. So I'm going to get a job. I'm going to tell my wife. By then, I'm going to tell my wife. I'm going to have a job and I can go to campus. I'm going to have a company and I can start a company. But what I mean is that sometimes you are in a position to pay your money, but it's not in a very positive way. But after four months, we'll pick it up again on this conversation in the next episode of MCM. But on our socials, to go to Mekulisa, he excuses, come again, you know, to me, I come out, he guests. That was the question we had asked then. Let me just sample two, three. Since who received my present, okay, okay, watching live from Musoho Bungoma County, excuse me, I mean, as a to me, I'm going to go to the hospital. So you know, find a 20 it of a 20. Oh, that is a Mesjak, Musami HSE. And then Eliza Gishiran, said, watching from Kirinyaga, out of my massive brand bonding. And I said, my little demo may be dull, and if you're in a pandemic, hey, okay, Dedeux Victor, I say, my cousin, hope you like, okay, okay, okay, you need. Alright, so keep your feedback coming. We'll be really get as we proceed with the show and show that you continue chatting with us on the hashtag why in the morning segment is MCM on behalf of drum and Stephanie and thank you so much to John Edward Mr. T the producer I'm sure we'll carry this conversation in the next episode once again thank you so much for watching why in the morning have a blessed Monday as we wait for the swearing in for the president