 so most of the videos that you see are about the topic of not failing or basically the principles of success but one thing that you don't hear often for me is knowledge about how to not fuck up and this is video meant for people who have become successful or started becoming successful in one or more areas of your life and the point is to teach you how to avoid massive massive failure so the biggest thing that will make you fail when you grow is what i call the special snowflake syndrome it's when you start getting success and then you believe that this success is your making so you know when i look back at everything i've done today to this day all i can see are regurgitations of things that i learned from my mentors as well as a lot of things that i learned through failure but i owe nothing to myself it's either luck something i learned from somebody else or again failures which forced knowledge on me what i mean by that is when you start growing when you start you know moving up in the world you're going to tend to believe that you created that success that now you're the reason that you're successful and that's going to create a massive massive blind spot where you think you can fix everything you think you shouldn't listen to other people or even if you just started becoming successful or maybe even you're just at the very beginning you believe that you're smarter than other people more capable now it might be true that you are more capable because everyone around you are idiots but that doesn't mean you're smarter than other people because there's massive communities of people who are just as motivated as you so if you go to la or pretty much anywhere where there's a lot of entrepreneurs you're not smarter than them you're just smarter than the rest of the group that you're in which is not very smart anyway so you really have to realize that everything you're going to achieve in this life is going to be because of other people other people are going to help contribute to that success and um you really are dependent on what other people teach and show you so you have to really listen to legitimate warnings from other people if you have somebody in your life who's uh uh successful even somewhat successful and he tells you okay this is not a good idea then you might want to at least consider listening or somebody is who smart tells you this is a good idea you might want to listen what you never want to do is decide oh i'm smart i know everything uh whatever comes up i'm going to come up with the solution myself uh because basically you don't respect the where you came from which was nothing and everything you did learn was basically you know through other people so really avoid this phenomenon it took me so many failures and so many crashes in life to to learn to avoid this phenomena and nowadays i'm very humble um i still love myself i still appreciate myself and everything that i did and everything i'm doing but i aggressively learn from other people i aggressively want to hear other people's opinions again especially if i respect them um i don't have this sense of entitlement i realize that everything i get is because of my efforts and that without these efforts i'd lose what i have i realize that success is fragile and i have to treat it as a very fragile thing and take good care of it so i'm fairly well protected from the snowflake special snowflake phenomena but again if you haven't failed yet you haven't had that big failure you probably are very susceptible to that phenomena and it will likely end up in you spending a lot of money um you know just not taking proper care of your success letting it you know kind of letting it go and then losing it even if you're not successful you can have again the special snowflake phenomena because you have so many people who you're you know relatively more successful than even though you have nothing and and and that's going to prevent you from seeking help from other people um none of these work so the more you lower your own value and the more you seek help from other people and seek knowledge the more successful you will be so it's not a sign of weakness it's a sign of strength so whatever it is that you're currently um admin about you know this is me this is how i do it this is the way i'm entitled i'm better than anybody anything you can sort of spot where you're doing it right now let it go right now because if you don't then life is going to make you let go of it okay so i hope this lesson helps you um if you want more stories about what happened to me in life and how i came to these realizations the book i'm writing will be out in just about a week and um other than that feel free to ask me any questions seek help from me um and you know feel free to subscribe and let me know if you need help with coaching because it's my biggest passion yo thanks for watching i'm off to the gym