 Kwevo una mongele shadi aski, sii lazimu umchape. Smaikariya had sheka baksit for me to raise my children. Two sound check, alright. Welcome back. This is SPM Bars Kenya's number one online station. My good name is Seva Kilova. I'm being joined by a lovely mom, a lovely lady, amazing parent in 254. One of the leading, by the way, among the best couples we have in 254, Ivy. Welcome to SPM Bars. You're speaking to us for the first time. Yes, I am. Thank you. It's an honor. I'm so humbled to meet you for the first time. Me too, me too. Looking lovely. Thank you. What is the inspiration behind this outfit? I'm just trying to be sexy, bringing sexy back, but brand babu did this. Brand babu did that. Yes, he styled me. Yeah, so I'm happy. What is the definition of sexy by the way? Just being comfortable in your own body. Yes. Do you feel like you find yourself maybe wearing something like you need to consider maybe ask for suggestion, maybe more of an approval on how you dress, how you look? I don't think, when you say ask, who do you mean? You're talking to your husband about baby, what do you think about this? Definitely. It's my bestie. Ulazmanimu. Lizaelazmanimu onyeshe plan, but ana kuanga kwa fom. Ana kwa fom. Tuna kavizuri ku wa nibo. Ulazmanimu. Ulazmanimu. Ulazmanimu. Ulazmanimu. Ulazmanimu. But how's motherhood, how's journey, how's family? So far, so good. We are out of the newborn stage. Tukokuwa third last stage when you wanna draw, wanna draw. Si rahisi, but I'm glad that we're here. We have grown so much. I'm enjoying it, taking it, taking it a day at a time. How are you handling it? Nikosawa, support, some me time. That's going a long way in helping me point to my children. Support for my husband. And yeah, just being intentionally there for them. Trying to be better than how I was raised. Because I was raised well. What do you mean who was raised well? My mom, my dad, they did well. I feel like they supported me, they were there for me. So it's something that I want to pass down to my children. But also to konaizi, gentle, parenting, miskeizu, mamboa, takiku kuchapo wa toto. Mini aw, takiku kuchapo. Siku wanapenda kuchapo. Kwaivo mis takiku kuchapo. Kwaivo, I'm really learning. Since we don't have, we don't have somewhere to look at that from, we're starting it. So niku jifunzatu, pole pole, one day at a time. Now you don't take kuchapo, what is the option you have now? So you talk to them, you discipline them in other ways. But the violence, I didn't like. For me, I did not like it. So I'm really trying not to do it. Of course, kuna temu na skia. Oh, chapa, kuna takia kuchuna. But I really try. Because I've realized children are smarter than you think. Kuna ongele shawana skia. Kwaivo, nama ongele shadiya skia. Sila zimo umchapo. I feel like kidogo kuchapana is a bit lazy. Because when do me kasi rika. Namtato ezi kuchapo bak. Kwaivo na jaribu. Na jaribu. Na jaribu. Kuchchange. Kuchchange what I grew up with into what I want with my children. Kichapam totu na kufei, ina fekt ajem totu. Kuchaki grow up. Ata, mihata siyezi juwa. But I think it's just, it's a bit confusing. Because to them we are everything. So, ukimchapo e especially kwa hasira. Ana shanga. Kwa ni ni kifanyaviba unani chukiya. Ama unani pendatu sa zile ni kosawa. Sifaiku kosa. Ya even as we make mistakes na nana tu cha pasisi. Uki fanya makoso uchapo uski vizuri. Ata uki shauti wa uski vizuri. Kwaivo, I try to just mirror that to my children. Just because they are little doesn't mean they don't deserve respect. They are little people with big feelings. It's up to us to teach them how to regulate their emotions. How to behave. How to express themselves. So, yo kuchapa ni kama inakata. Una ruka steps minguna nda kwa violence. That's how I feel. It's a personal thing. Personal choice as well. Yes, personal choice as well. Nice to know that now you balance in content, you're balancing family, you're balancing your family time, your own time. How do you manage to balance all this? Let me say something. I watch Celestine Wanjugush. Kuna skoil kwa nasema you'll never be. Ata i kwa perfectly balanced. Something has to, something has to suffer. So it's just... Ni kama una exchangeile kikombuna una mwaga. Where you pour yourself, you change. If I realize that I've been too focused on my work that have not been spending time with my kids, I reduce work, I spend time with my kids. If I realize that I've been focusing too much on my kids and not on my relationship, I reduce that and spend focus on my relationship. So it's almost like a juggling thing. I don't think it's a balance. Ni kua exchange, kila kitu na waka tiwake. And whatever you do, be intentional. You're being intentional. Are you planning maybe giving chance to sacrifice one just for the rise to work? I don't know about sacrifice. Let's say kwe eka kwa baksit. Siku sacrifice kwa zia all important. They all make me me. When my children are happy, when my husband is happy, when I am happy, we are all happy. Akuna eni na pita mwingine. It's just, we learn, we live and learn. You're having a second baby coming up. Has it slowed down maybe your career, the way you see things, the way you do things? I can say as women, giving birth is not a small thing. I do recognize that there's women who work and give birth and go back to work. Salute to them. It's not easy. But yes, it definitely had to take a back seat. My career had to take a back seat for me to raise my children. And now is when I'm feeling like na kuja po sasa, no na, na kuja kwa kariya sasa, me kwa me kachatweevi sasa no na nina ruidi. But yes, it definitely had to take a back seat. My career was not my priority this past three years. And I think my husband, because he made our conducive environment for me to be a good mum and a present mum without any other worries. Can he count your husband's blessing support making it easy for you? Yes, definitely. He's such a good man, a good husband, a good father. It's even amazing to watch him do it because he's so gracious. So I wish that on every woman and I wish a woman like me on every month. You've said it. I kid, naturally I joke, I joke. But just being supportive in each other's because as a man and woman it's hard to say that you're struggling and that you're struggling but it's hard to say that you're supportive. It's hard. The conversations are difficult because what you're saying is that you have hormones, you have feelings. But talking, communication is definitely one of the major things to keep going even when you don't feel like it. Because that's the only way you'll understand where someone else is coming. You know, but we always need to keep going to make it happen. I know, I know. To wish me on. What do you mean by communication is important? Are you guys have anywhere a means where you guys communicate? Do you prefer a move like a sit down, calls, chats? We talk all the time. We are very close friends. Between us I'm the one who gets angry and emotional. And I'm a skiza. Haji ni dismissa tiyo akuna mamboza mamana skiza. Because that's what humans want. Tuna takaku skiza. Nataya kiniambea mamboa kena skiza. And you try and make life easy for each other because you know each other. Akuna nyumbani kwepa liya vita pia, unona. So atatuki this. I'd like to say with my husband I learnt that you can have a relationship it's a disagreement. There's a difference between disagreement, misunderstanding and fighting, arguing. We don't do that. We have disagreements, misunderstandings and we talk until we we get to a common ground and that takes practice. I can't say that nili kuja kwae relationship neki kwaeivo. We've learnt together. We've grown together and shout out to him. What is that important thing so grateful for? On a personal level. Onda kanili ya. He's taught me the value of consistency, discipline and hard work because he's very driven. We want him to anafikire kitu kidogo kidogo na ione me kuja. Nona. So he's taught me the value of putting in work into what you want. That includes our children. For a while I was feeling not so comfortable being a stay-at-home mum but I realised why am I ashamed of spending time with my children, raising my children. Something that many people something that many people don't get to do. So, I mean, your different perspective and also just being a good man. Ako na ranzuri. Talking about Willis Raburo, a husband what is that we don't know Willis Raburo's husband that we wish Kenyans other husbands to learn from Willis Raburo. He is very I feel like people know this but I'll just repeat it. He's very involved with his children. There's a watcha Willis na watoto angu wa Willi. Where to? Wa Willi? Na ata kuatu sao. Ata wa alisha. Ata wa osha. Ata wa lalisha. Ata cheza nao. I don't have to be there. I don't worry when he's home. Ata sais, ako nao. Wako sao kabisa. I am not scared to live my children with my husband. So, that takes practice. You know, man, sometimes manadani wa mamatu meza liwa naiki tuwa pana kilam tuwa na jifunza. Kweivo, he's very intentional about his family, his children and I respect him for that. I know you wish it's your wish to see your family achieve goals, family goals. This year, you guys have family goals? Yes, we do. I'm just honoring ourselves being ourselves, being authentic cells, pushing our own things wabebe experience. Tafazali, tunin, wach. We just want to be ourselves. Go to what God has called us to do, find our purposes and just be that. Talking about wabebe experience, the other day we saw it was more of a break. Yes. What was happening? Because people were talking, people were discussing maybe he's considering maybe stepping. It's a break. What do you mean by a break? It's a financial break. No, but it's a new issue. It's a new issue. It's too juicy. Yes, but we've done about 30 episodes. It's a new issue. There's nothing about finance, there's nothing about maybe team restructuring. Zandani. No, I'm asking. Zandani. We're just re-strategizing for how we come back. Big gun. Yes. So what do we expect now, you guys coming back of that experience? Exactly that, an experience. A creative heaven. Good vibes, you know. Different sort of creatives being represented. Kenyan vibe, kenyan style, all of that. That's what I can say. Alright, let me put you in a position. Imagine this, one day you work up to see, you know, a media station, a media house. Only the media house with the husband. Will that be your dream? Maybe that's the way you guys are thinking. One day will that be your goal? We see Willis Raburu starting a media house. He is an expert in the media field. He's been in the media for 13 years. Of course, that would be a nice full circle moment. We're working towards it. That's your dream? Definitely. That's Willis dream? Our dream. Yes. You guys are looking forward to start your own because we've seen Tanzanians having their own media houses. Eventually, definitely. I can't be like, no, I don't want that. No, we want that. We would love that and we would make it do what it does. What's your name? Badotuko. Kwanye Mikakati. Financivi. Yatuna Jipanga. Jinaiko Redina Jua. Siniwa Bebe. Siya Bazu FM? Shadua. Alright, thank you so much for speaking to us, maybe a message to your lovely husband. To my husband. Yes, look at the camera. Oh, I love you so much. I love you so much, babe. Thank you so much for your support. Thank you for being who you are to me, to us and to everyone. I love you very much. We need to talk about the Bebe Kwanye Mikakati. Bebe, Belazima. Bebo Angu. Bazu Angu. What is Bazu? Bazu Angu. What is the sweetest name you used to call your Bebe? Hi. Hi. Give me five. Five. He's my Aries King. I have one. He's my Bazu. Bazu and me. He has Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Bazu, Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Bazu. Lazarismakwebeb, Lazarismakweb, my boo-fang. Okay. Aniwe. Yes, have nicknames, maybe? Ya na nita na Muthama. No nita ma. So, when you get mad, you call him by his official names? Hey, badda siga me ta Willis. Ata na Metawin. I'm so happy honored, so at least I've proved you wrong. Yes. Guys, we don't know how we struggle to get interviews. I feel so afraid to talk to me because Alikoana Phil, Nikona Zandani, come on. Nime kuhana. I respect you. I'm very professional. I'm very professional. Say hi to Willis. I'm a good friend of yours. Miya sana piwa wa sa alimi wa buti tia, ali piti ya wa bebe experience. Namere respect sana. Yes. Thank you so much. God bless you. You too. It's time. Thank you. I need your number one.