 Welcome to another Narc Survivor live video, as you can see I'm just walking around here by this lake, and yes in this one we're going to be talking about how the Narcissus family members are actually just as bad, because I know a lot of you you've dealt with the Narcissus tactics, how they always deny their actions, they project, they blame shift, they gas like you to the point where you start to feel like you're going crazy, you start to feel like something is wrong with you and you're just trying to reach out to someone, someone who you're hoping that you can trust, you can confide in, you're hoping that they'll be able to help you, you'll be lost if you're stuck, you just want someone to talk to, you want to be around someone who understands, because you feel alone, many of you you feel lonely, and of course it's not so much fun with the Narcissus to gas lights you all the time, and they make you feel like you're always wrong, you're always bad, you're always crazy, you're always all of these things, and yeah it just doesn't make any sense to you, it confuses you, because you're just hoping that they would be on the same page that they would understand where you're coming from, but they're not going to understand, Narcissus will never understand you, because it doesn't benefit them, they would only understand whatever works in their favor, anything else they're just going to ignore it, forget about it, but many of you you see the Narcissus family members, they may seem okay, from a distance it might not seem like there's anything wrong with them, and you think maybe you can go and confide in this person, you think that maybe you can tell them what's going on with the Narcissus, how they've been doing all these things to you, they've been hurting you, lying to you, cheating you, maybe even stealing from you, you think you can go to their family members and tell them that, but in most situations I'm sorry to say that it's not going to work out for you, I'm sorry to say that but it is the truth, because what will happen is they're just going to play along right with the Narcissus, they will deny, they will project blameshift, gaslight, but they may do it in a more subtle way, it may not be as obvious as the Narcissus does it, they may not just come out and expose themselves right in front of you and rip off their masks, because they will still want to keep you under their control, they want to keep you locked in, so as long as it's just the Narcissus who you think is the bad person, they can still try to maintain their false image by acting as though they are acting in your best interest, as though they care about you, as though they're just trying to do what's right, as though they want you to stay together, because that is the best thing to do, as though there was just a misunderstanding, and you need to be more cooperative with them, you need to understand them more, so that's typically what the family members will do, what they will not do is confront the Narcissus or hold them accountable, in most situations they're never going to do that, and you could be sure of that because Narcissus, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, so if you see that the Narcissus is a Narcissus, they are dysfunctional, you can expect the family members to be the same way, sometimes they may be just the one individual who's not like them, and typically that one person is going to be doing everything in their power to get away from them, that will be the scapegoat child, they're not going to want anything to do with the Narcissus unless they are dependent on them financially or whatever it may be, but they're not going to want to be around them typically, so even if there was at one point a good person in that family, you're not going to see them, you're not going to hear from them, and again of course because that would be unfavorable for them, so yeah I don't recommend confiding in the Narcissus family members, and the reason why is because anything you tell them they're just going to give that information to the Narcissus, which will help the Narcissus to always be two steps ahead of you, and it's just going to put you at a disadvantage, so you're better off keeping that to yourself, or confiding in someone that you trust such as myself, or another coach, a therapist, maybe a close friend, maybe one of your own family members if you can trust them, but not the Narcissus family members, I mean it's most likely that they already know exactly what is going on, and they don't even care, so there's no point you going to them, because that's not going to change anything, it's not going to make them suddenly want to be good people, they're just going to want to cover it up even more, and they're going to push it on to you, eventually all of their masks will come out, come off, and they will all begin to blame you, they'll all tune against you, and that's after they've already got you to waste all of your time, energy, black sheep, who was this bad evil person who wasn't good enough for them for whatever reason, as crazy as it may sound and you may look back at everything you did for them, it does not matter, I can tell you it does not matter what or how much you do for them, it makes no difference, I've heard of some, they will focus on the bare minimum that they did for you, so manage your expectations around these people, they will always disappoint you, but they can only do that if you let them, if you allow yourself to be disappointed, because you were expecting something more, you were wanting more from them, so expect less from them and expect more from yourself, that is the secret that is what you have to do, expect less from them and expect more from yourself, and you don't have to get revenge, you don't even have to worry about karma, that is their karma, because the more that you begin to, that they begin to manage down your expectations, they're only digging themselves a hole anyway, and it's very difficult for themselves to get out of that, well what you're doing is you're taking accountability and you're holding higher expectations for yourself than they are as well, which naturally can only lead you to a better place when you think about it, and they're just going to be digging themselves a hole, they're making themselves worse while you're making yourself better, I guess that's exactly what you want anyway, so just continue, just let them keep doing what they're doing and you keep doing what you're doing, and if it gets too much you can always go into contact, you can always move on somewhere else, so yeah that's all you have to do, I mean their actions are not going to lead them anywhere good, your actions will if you increase your expectations of yourself and you take accountability for where you find yourself, that will only lead you to a healthier place, and it's only going to lead them into more toxicity and dysfunction, so yeah that's all I have to say for this video, I hope you enjoyed it just as much as I enjoyed recording it, I'm putting this message out there, thank you all please give it a thumbs up if you enjoyed it, and I will talk to you in another one very soon